aisha2:


All men are not beasts. I say this respectfully ; speak for yourself. If you consider yourself one please don't make out other men to be like you. Its something you should work on personally and not attempt to draw other men into this road with you..

My father is not a beast
My brothers and cousins are no beast
My husband is no beast
My sisters are not married to beasts
So from these men I know,met and respect daily I stand to say No all men are not beasts and Pickabeau you chose to speak for will certainly agree that men are no beast. At least I have interacted with him and he is no beast, he is a kind hard working charitable man not a beast

ILIDEFI:


I'm sure you won't have issues when somebody stabs another to death just because the name of Mohammed is mentioned. Hypocrite!

mainman7:
Indeed, this is the height of cowardice, igbos are the most senseless cowards ever known to Man. Immediately, I saw the title, I knew 99.99% of them would be igbos. They have the highest wife killing rate in the world; It is official!
A truely strong and matured man would never hit let alone kill his wife. Being a true Yoruba man, instead of displaying his ability to kill by killing a weaker sex, Benjamin Adekunle joined the army and got the title of killing and slaughtering the largest Number of opponent soldiers in the civil war. We still hold the title, ask to verify how Col Obasanjo (OBJ's Son) and other Yoruba Soldiers are slaughtering Bokoharams in large numbers. I'm so proud to be Yoruba!

coogar:


your trolling attempt has failed, just like the condom that shoulda kept you away from the waiting ovüm.

cococandy:
Yea women are supposed to be a bane of support for each other especially in this patriarchal world. One would think we would be more sympathetic to another woman who got killed by her husband instead of making it her fault. Knowing full well that we would probably have done the same thing she did if we were in her shoes.
Aren't we our own worst enemies?
A married woman who's just coming back from an illegal shenanigan with her lover will be among the first to slutt-shame another woman caught in the same act screaming how she's a disgrace to womanhood.
If only we stopped to think before throwing others (who are just as human and flawed as us) under the bus all in the bid to appear virtuous maybe there would be more support when we need it.
Not condemning others when they are in bad situations and expecting support when we are in the same situation.
The world doesn't work that way.

aisha2:


I refuse to believe that myth. Men just say it to knock our heads together with that statement. We differ and that is expected we react differently. I don't think she is throwing others under the bus I just think she doesn't empathise with others in the shoes she once walked.

How many of you ladies came around and understood my point and defended me yet some differed so if you could understand despite the thousand others calling me names how then are we enemies to ourselves? Sometimes we agree sometimes we differ based on experiences and convictions but we are not enemies.
Women support each other in the worst situations

satura:
Only reinforces what I've known for a long time. 99.9% of Nigerian men CANNOT live happily with a confident woman.

pickabeau1:
Mutter

continue being yourself and continue to advise on family values
Those who hear will hear

Dont let the family section quest to malign every post and person counter to their mainstream views affect you

Digging up personal history to discredit is really something.... These ladies

You are not the first and will not be the last

aisha2:


Okay, now I must admit you need mental help. This is sick, so its okay to kill her because she is rude. Mutter with all due respect you are not sane. Your own ex husband didn't kill you, but because you are alive and living you can spew this for other abused women justifying their murder. This is sick

mutter:


Thank you

Many women remain in an abused marriage so long because they are afraid and ashamed to speak up.
Not just because they are ashamed of the experiences they made but because people write them off as screwed up , weak and so on.

Initially you might get a little bit of sympathy but those that sympathize with you quickly turn round and throw it at you.
We are all human and all guilty of the same, things like this make us aware of our short comings and give us reason to think again.

Aisha is a wonderful lady and has done so much here, helping so many people in need. She is passionate about what she does and caring for the less privileged.
She wrote what she did not to hurt me but she was expressing her hurt for the victims, I respect that !

I hold her in high esteem and I hope you all do so too.

neoapocalypse:


I have always said it , this Mutter is a nutter.

Nothing , and I repeat , NOTHING! can justify murder , for heaven sakes there are a lot of options for the man , killing a person isn't one of the options. Another thing I find wrong is bringing a woman to the US to slave for you , a man who is financially responsible for his family will get all the respect he deserves

mutter:


Thank you

Many women remain in an abused marriage so long because they are afraid and ashamed to speak up.
Not just because they are ashamed of the experiences they made but because people write them off as screwed up , weak and so on.

Initially you might get a little bit of sympathy but those that sympathize with you quickly turn round and throw it at you.
We are all human and all guilty of the same, things like this make us aware of our short comings and give us reason to think again.

Aisha is a wonderful lady and has done so much here, helping so many people in need. She is passionate about what she does and caring for the less privileged.
She wrote what she did not to hurt me but she was expressing her hurt for the victims, I respect that !

I hold her in high esteem and I hope you all do so too.

Fhemmmy:


[b]It is very interesting that you have said all these, but lemme ask you a question:
1. While the "man" was busy working so hard to make money and all that, He was not dating no one or doing any lady while there alone?
2. What happened to that lady, how come, he all of a sudden think the lady aint good enough and have to go home and marry "innocent" lady?
I see all these as a man with hidden agenda, that i will be able to control her when she is here, and guess what, the ladies back home are more wild than the ladies out of Nigeria.

Now on the topic, it is pathetic for a man to kill a woman for ANY reason, if you guys are no mpre getting along, go your separate ways, and i again, obodo oyinbo is not for everyone, a man that want a woman to worship him and kneel while serving you food is better to remain in the village in Nigeria, when a woman goes to work all day and back with money, and the man has done same, nothing stops both of them to enter the kitchen together and make things happen.

When you stress the woman after work, she is in kitchen and same madam will run to the room to change diaper and at night, you wanna climb her like a horse and you expect such woman to worship the ground you walk on, get real..... she is human like the man, and when Bible said, woman obey your husband, it is not saying slave for him..... if the man loves the woman, he will help her to have a good and stress free day.[/b]

raumdeuter:


My chairman,

How do you think a woman would act if all she worked for was taken, Her child was taken from her, And she has to pay the man who took the child from her for the next 17yrs

I know a man who went through a similar thing, His life savings, His highbrow neighbohood house, his range rover his daughter was taken away and the wife brought her new lover into his house.

WHen he goes for his once a month visit, she wont even allow him into their gated community rather he would wait at the gate for up to 2hrs before she rides with her new boyfriend in the husbands range to drop the daughter. The man contemplated ending it all and going to jail until his mom prevailed on hm and told him to leave town for them

miredia:
If I am temporarily unable to provide, should I be disrespected? Judging from your logic, it would mean YES!

Fhemmmy:


And the woman not losing all she has worked for?

cococandy:
oga what's up na? What did Igbo people do to you?

neoapocalypse:


You have said it all , "temporarily" , no woman would fault a man who is down but fighting to get up , we all have highs and lows in our career but when a man's sole career is to sit back and wait for a woman to bring the bacon home then he doesn't deserve a meal , even physically challenged individuals are providing for their families.

soulglo:


You know this is all lies right. If he had a right to get into the gated community and she refused him entry then he could even use that as leverage to get custody of that child. Breaking the terms of visitation would hold her in contempt of court. Furthermore no court would give the woman everything and leave the man homeless. It's this sort of posts that mislead people to think that a man always gets the short end of the stick. What does her boyfriend have to do with anything by the way. The marriage is over. Is she not allowed to have a relationship? People pick up their kids at designated locations all the time. The law will not change because of your friend. The only thing I would advice him to do is to document all those "hours" he has to wait. If it is found to be true she could get a warning from the court. There's a reason he probably does not have access to the house. Someone who contemplates killing another is unstable. I would bring a male friend too if I knew the person I'm going to meet has violent tendencies.

Timbuktou:
my man, I honestly cannot fathom how you guys do it over there. I'm good in this bloody jungle.

Fhemmmy:


She married you.
Cooks for you
Warm your bed
Made your house
Make your house be a home
Yet, she has not worked?
Bro, i hail you oh

You cant never pay a woman her true worth, never, pay her for carrying your child in her womb for 9 months and disfiguring her own cute body to make YOU a father, pay her for those sleepless nights that she is in pain in that labor room, pay her for those days she burns herself to cook your favorite meal and tell you if you have what it takes to pay her. . . . We as MEN dont have what it takes to pay them, so let us show them love and appreciate them.

edwife:
Wow,very disappointed
SMH