miredia:
If I am temporarily unable to provide, should I be disrespected? Judging from your logic, it would mean YES!

armyofone:
Stress is dangerous, talk to your personal physician and gym up yourself.
I wonder what naija pastors are preaching every Sunday and at prayer meetings. Instead of church, go to the gym and work that stress out.

Chillisauce:
Foolish women, they must have seen some abusive signs, but as a typical mgbeke slaves they are, they will go around as if everything is perfect. sisters and brothers in christ will sing the endure anthem for you. The moment a nicca raise his hand on you or threaten you, dial the fvcking police and kick their black arssee out in the cold.

Animals thinking they have the right to take another ones life.

The worst slavery one will undergo is being in a free country and still treated like a slave.
Na for women body dem dey show themselves. Yet the queue up at embassy to go to these organized countries while leaving the boko haram, ritualist country for who?

Yeye animals! Let them rot in jail!
As for the other ones wey the law dey pepper for body, pls carry your load back to the jungle where you reign as alpha fvcking king of baboon.

babyosisi:


I wish I could warn every girl from getting entangled with the psychos from the get go
Telling the women to leave these dead end marriages doesn't often save their lives
Many of these maladjusted characters become more aggressive and more violent when she leaves and often times she is forced to go Into hiding and even at that many are still hunted down and killed for leaving
The best thing is weeding them out from the onset

aisha2:
For those who spent all yesterday on my case una well done.
My stand is simple, if God let you pass through some bad situations its so you can use your experience to help others going through the same thing.

I too have shared my personal life and my bad dating experiences here off course anyone can use it against me but I put it out there things personal to me I don't share.
Anyway the day I come here and start telling girls to endure bad relationships and manage that the man will change after marriage then everyone reserves the right to call me out. You go through a bad patch yet you have zero empathy for those in the same shoes constantly blaming those in the same situation, constantly turning the tables against people in the same shoes you walked.
I can't understand It. Anyway each to their own.

I understand the thousand mentions and insults sha because what the poster preaches suits our thoughts hence we will conveniently not see anything wrong and attack anyone who calls it out

SirShymexx:


I cited imperfection cos that's what makes us human. However, what makes a man is his ability to accept his mistakes, take responsibility, and be eager to always apologise and make corrections whenever he's wrong. And apart from the deadbeat guys and beta males emasculated by women - most men are naturally like that. It comes with the territory.

But women on the other hand are never wrong in their fish brains. You've to keep pandering to them and eulogising their faux perfection like kids. Ever wondered why the easiest way to get a chic is dependent on how well you can sell her a dream? Also, these days, they're just utterly confused about their sexuality, and who they actually want to be. On one hand they want to be like men - but the other hand they also want to enjoy all the privileges that come with being women and the victim-hood. Like seriously, who are you lot? - Hermaphrodites or aliens?

I'm not a relationship expert cos I deal with everything based on my own unique way.

However, whenever there's a problem in a relationship/marriage that doesn't involve the man cheating or being a deadbeat - 8 out of 10 times it's always the woman's fault. But they're so manipulative that they'll turn it against you like the biblical Eve messed Adam's life up.

Too many lives have been destroyed by women out here

and I'm not even going to lie, if not puss.y, kids, and the natural sexual urge, dealing with women is basically pointless cos the overwhelming majority of them have absolutely nothing to contribute to your life - apart from illogical tripe induced by emotional impulses.

P.S: I know you're a woman - but I just like saying it as it's. The truth is bitter but you can't run from it and too many lives are getting destroyed daily cos of this madness.

Sophyrocks:


Buhahhahahahahaha. Dem dey this forum dey beat chest. Let them try their barbaric antics! The almighty U.S will put them in their place. Shior!! Na only to come nairaland come whine for us dem sabi. Too much talk no action!! U.S LAWS ARE THIS U.S LAWS ARE THAT, U.S LAWS ARE UNFAIR, BLA BLA BLA!! Obama dey hear all those one? Leave that place and stop ranting!

andromida:


But why did the men marry such women? and if the women are so evil why not divorce them?

Seeing as a woman can break a man he should do his due diligence to marry a woman who is good for him and become the kind of man who can command respect from his wife so that the children can learn how to respect themselves and others.

Chillisauce:


Most don't even know the history of some of these countries. How much they have sacrificed to get their countries to this. Then, one yeye alpha baboon immigrant will think they can take the laws in their hands.

You treat your partner like a slave but turn to cry when given a taste of your medicine.

Sophyrocks:




Let keep rottening in jail. They only know how to destroy but not to build. Reasons why the whites will always be ahead.

Fhemmmy:


Yes oh, i have stayed away from family section for a while, but topics like this makes me wanna cry . . . but it is all well sha.

Amhappy:
Fatal attraction comes to mind. No wonder most of the crimes shown on it are committed by humans in black skin and i do wonder if white skin doesnt kill their partners. There is no justification for a premeditated cool blood murder of any other human being whether you are provoked or not. Dont these men provoke their wives? So why where they not killed first. Wives in Nigeria provoke their husbands and vice versa yet we dont see a killing spree. Abeg all this argumentative essay should park well. When this evil befall your sisters or daughters in future please dont even call for the man's arrest,shake his hand,bless him and let him go. This shows no regard or santity for human life. Thou shall not kill says the Lord. He who take a life must answer for it. Why take what you cannot give?

bukatyne:


LOL

Please don't

Chillisauce:


Everything is all about money to these folks. See them shouting my money, my money. Some of them the wives dont even know their bank or property details in and out of the country.
when they die sudden death, the bank takes all, extended family takes the rest.
Fish brains, they only think of the immediate, not the future.

Butcher your wife and end up picking soap in jail. Children end up in welfare. Penny wise, pound foolish and you think these are the people answering "head of the family". With these kind of reasoning.
Twah!!!

pickabeau1:



The judge made an unprecedented move doing that
That's the news

Others will force you to pay at market interest rates


There are multiple stories like that

RaptorX:
These dude is a simp and a big time mangina.

2sExy1:
Mutter nailed it. The brother to my mother's friend is a cop in the US. He went there in the 80s and built himself from scratch. When it was time to marry, he came back to Nigeria to marry and took the woman there... the snake changed her skin. they divorced and she took more than half of his wealth. Dude had to start from scratch again and he had to rent an hotel and carried his mother along. From what I head, he took one car, his clothes, and mother from the house.

Several months later going to a year, he got another apartment and started all over again. I guess he has bought a new home now. He has even renovated the house in Nigeria.

My own uncle suffered same fate from when he married a woman and took her to the US. She got him into trouble which eventually led to her own deportation and my uncle fled to Canada. dude lost a lot and last time I saw him, he wasnt the same handsome tall wide chested dude I used to run to as kid with open arms....

miredia:
I Hv closely observed money is the revolving factor for an unruly behavior or respect among the Nigerian stock. I'd rather she keeps her money abeg. I'll even pay her salary equivalent if that will zip her lips.

miredia:
What is she loosing exactly?

Fhemmmy:


Now is that the norm? nope BUT is it too much to ask for the woman to be treated right and if things fall apart, she walk away with half of what you jointly posses?

Fhemmmy:


I am glad u said men that kill wife are unbalanced

ferdimako:

fear no let am marry..shey him dey see them for maple land.

Sophyrocks:


Heheheheehe. No be because of money them run go U.S? Exactly what is said earlier na. a man killing his wife is acting on his emotions and these ones wey dey brag here go talk say na only woman dey emotional, na only woman dey take irrational decisions. Infact i now understand why they rant so much in this section. The laws for that side dey frustrate them die!! I trust the prisoners for that side. Dem go use their rods devour their anus tire. Hehehe. Now im convinced we have a lot of miscreants and potential murderers in this forum. A lot of mentable unstable peeps.

pickabeau1:


Ok

So you build your auto empire then u marry a chic and things don't work out after a while

So Your ex is entitled to half of what u had built pre marriage because what she was your ex


What happened to her own skills

Are both parties not equal anymore

Why should one party use marriage as a means of enrichment

SirShymexx:



Just messing about with ya, bredrin. Old heads always have the tutoring effects. The only thing I've ever done that's close to co-habilitation was probably with my ex, from final year in Uni. She used to travel down from Brunel to Brum for weekends - and she did stay for a few weeks, a few times as well. And I did go to Brunel a few times for the weekend. But all these other chics are just one night sleepovers - maybe a few spent the weekend at my yard.

Even with that one, the first year was so nice that I couldn't even wait to get married straight after Uni. The pseudo-marriage experience was super-nice, especially for someone like me who gets bored of people easily. I never got bored of someone being in my space for the first time since I moved out of my parent's house. However, after the first year, the honeymoon period - it became a darn nightmare.

Anyway, what's the purpose of getting married if ya partner can't complete you, and she turns into ya source of anguish? - there's basically no point, hence these folks who have been pushed to the limit due to cumulative effects over a period of time always end killing their spouses. Not condoning murder, but it's difficult to control built-up anger. Also, you know black men in general hate divorce cos of ego, so most would always prefer to ride it out, despite not being happy in the marriage. The only other option is to go ghost - but the dead-beat stigma has been attached to that one with the black men as the face of it.

Marriage should be a partnership based on understanding, effective communication, complementing each other, mutual respect, and working within the confines of a well-defined structure - according to what the institution is about, with the man as the head/authority. However, with these women, they want to challenge the authority, get disrespectful, and have a slave they can boss around - yet they also want the same man to be the provider and protector. Talk about a piss-take and trying to eat ya cake and have it. They know the system will always protect them cos it's a zero-sum game.

pickabeau1:


I been reading u wella..Big bro

Statements like I gave u a kid, my body etc are manifestations of such

Is the sex pleasurable to one person only?

Is the child the responsibility of one person only?

Fhemmmy:


Chairman, I think we all have wrong impression of how this things are done, they look at your income and debt and expenses and check that of the woman but alimony is awarded but on child support, my brother, no matter how much it will take care of my kids to be provided for. I am fine with it...

bukatyne:


Who owns the child in standard Nigerian culture?

pickabeau1:


Ok

So you build your auto empire then u marry a chic and things don't work out after a while

So Your ex is entitled to half of what u had built pre marriage because what she was your ex


What happened to her own skills

Are both parties not equal anymore

Why should one party use marriage as a means of enrichment

rman:


Stop trying to convince Fhemmy.

Women want equality with men, but they always approach all issues with men from a position of weakness.

They wait for the men to approach,they prefer older men, richer men, stronger men. They also want to profit by dating or marrying men. Even the biological role of mothers that they all crave, men must be made to pay.

I still do not understand the twisted logic!

Make your own damn money and do not see your relationship/marriage as a get away ticket away from poverty and everyone will be happy.

You can imagine some listing sex and taking care of the baby as things they should be compensated for in marriage. So these things do not bring joy anymore the moment the male figure is out of it?