No offence as one alredy sed bt d guy is very sincere in his words dat ur nt a wife material. U may sey bt sm girls do all dat n change after marriage n I tell dat at least got dem into d marriage. Agn u didn't also consider dat if u didn't do al dos tins d guy hs sed n he still marries u it a p cox in marriage u will still nt do dem n den tel d guy afterall he knew u dnt do dem bfor he married u. Hu is d man n hu is d woman? Hw d home go b sef? O girl ur not a wifey material n u beta learn frm it n chnge. I am not sayn dat u must slip wit d guy or turn to his machin bt u cn assist him in doing dos tins.

eleko1:
God created woman as Our helper NOT AS UR MAID to be TOAST around cus u pay her bride price/provide for d family upkeep.Why complaining over petty household work U'll do without eye twitching.U dnt sit down and watch TV while she cook,wash,clean,bath the kids without concern.My own parent teach me moral but NEVER ALLOW UR WIFE SUFFER cos U ARE the bread WinnerWatch MR/MRS

you just shot yourself on the foot.

Helper abi, why is she not helping with laying the bed she slept on, or prepare the meal. If you call all these little things suffering a woman, you have a dead brain laying in your skull and it needs resuscitation. Keep living your life around movies, I just pity your future.

zizibabe1:


CAN YOU IMAGINE?. ".....ONE OF MY EX-GIRLFRIENDS" SO SHE IS ONE OF THE MANY GIRLS ABITHEN YOU EXPECT HER TO BE CLEANING HOUSE AND TIDYING BED FOR ANOTHER BABE? I'M SURE SHE KNOWS THAT SHE'S ONE OF THE MANY CHECK YOURSELF BEFORE COMPLAINING,BABES DON'T KILL YOURSELF FOR ANY MAN.WHAT WILL BE WILL BE.ASK THE GUYS,THEY KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THEY WANT WHEN THEY ARE READY TO SETTLE DOWN AND IT'S NOT NECESSARILY THE MOST DOMESTICATED OF THEIR GIRLFRIENDS.GBAM!
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I can't lie because friendship ....she knew that I have a girlfriend before she walked in

Str8twistedme:
Baba has said his mind.. didn't say it to hurt...
Telling you how he feels..
Change is one permanent thing..
Even Nigeria now be looking for change seriously..
Abeg try Change... and I don't like the fact you defensive.. you really don't see it as an issue

#Team Change

make election quick come n go ,these ppl won't let hear word...change this ,transformation that I don tire

texybaby:
Kk ooo...but at least laying a bed u slept on shdnt b a wife duty..u slept on that bed plsss...even if u dont do any other thing

courtesy demands you atleast do that to show you had proper home training and youre intelligible

Boyfriend?

The type of bondage you lot enjoy putting yourself into, only God can intervene.

You have at least tried to do the first three though

Story... Story...

classicB:
He said this after a prolong chat that am not a wife material. He said I dnt display the attribute of one, what I.dnt understand is that must a gf act as a wife even when she isn't? Just to prove she's a wife material

texybaby:
Dear op ....its not just a wife duty Its in u...thats one thing my ex misses me....if I reach his house at nyt cs of d distance I travel..I wont even wiwi in d toilet...till I wash it in d morning...I wont bath till I clean d bath...even d kitchen always un organised...if u cam stand like staying in dat room untidy...then tufiakwa....abeg its just hygienic u stay somewhere clean bikoo...no b say I like work ooo...but I wont look at d place like that....plsss x guy is right adjust n stop giving excuses for been filty

If he misses you so much, why aren't you guys back together?

You did all of those things, yet you guys still broke up.

You can cook and clean and wash and nurse and....all of that, yet a man will marry who he wants to marry.

I'm not saying women shouldn't do any of those things if they really want to do them (I don't allow any woman do my laundry...no way; I do it myself), but I'm against doing those things because you think it will make you more acceptable to a man!

mirexxx:
nope

Gosh...I pity Danny boy

I bet the op is still in her teens. Probably early twenties.


By the time she hit mid thirties still single, she go get sense. I mean.... Plenty sense.


@ d boyfriend too, d guy sef shld switch to default. Afterall, he isn't married to her yet. He shld stop whatever husband virtue he has been exhibiting till marriage. Whats sauce for goose should afterall be sauce for the gander

ShirelleBaby:
u mean u get up from a bed and u don't straighten it,u don't sweep the floor or arrange the room a bit?


MEHN,YOU ARE DIRTY.
Cus wife or no wife--these are what any organised neat person(male or female)should do.
He even pointed it out for u.
SMH.I can only imagine how ur room looks like.
To me--i do that as a reflex action.my brain is already programmed to wake up,tidy my bed!sweep and arrange then leave--wherever the place may be!

Goodluck

The cooking part is optional but he is ur lover--u should try and join him.

And whether u like it or not--these things count-except u are planing to stay single for a long time.
He is getting tired of u and so will the next person and the next person-----until u put ur self together and quit being lazy and dirty

like you are any better ,all girls are the same jare.....







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Lol ....no mind me ooo ,just looking for trouble

ShirelleBaby:
u mean u get up from a bed and u don't straighten it,u don't sweep the floor or arrange the room a bit?


MEHN,YOU ARE DIRTY.
Cus wife or no wife--these are what any organised neat person(male or female)should do.
He even pointed it out for u.
SMH.I can only imagine how ur room looks like.
To me--i do that as a reflex action.my brain is already programmed to wake up,tidy my bed!sweep and arrange then leave--wherever the place may be!

Goodluck

The cooking part is optional but he is ur lover--u should try and join him.

And whether u like it or not--these things count-except u are planing to stay single for a long time.
He is getting tired of u and so will the next person and the next person-----until u put ur self together and quit being lazy and dirty

like you are any better ,all girls are the same jare.....







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Lol ....no mind me ooo ,just looking for trouble

Pamcrest:
Op, don't mind d guy....he's just lookg for excuses n subtly lettg u know yr stand ......he won't marry u.....period!
Any man keen on marrying u will be happy pampering u, not complaining abt everything!
My humble submission

I'm sorry but what you wrote up there is absolute rubbish, why should you be pampered when you don't deserve it? Or you think it's your right to be pampered by a guy when you can't even pamper him?

How can you lay on a bed and just leave it scattered in someone's house? Where are your manners? You are dating someone you hope to marry, yet you can't help with little things but expect to be pampered? git outta here puleeze.

CoCoLav:


Why would she wash his clothes?? Has she finished washing her own??

Washing a man's cloth is not a duty, if I am washing mine and I ask him to bring his own out of the kindness of my heart...that's better but not for him to insist I wash his clothes. What the hell is that?

OP you should cook for him though and try to keep his house neat. Most men are bad at housekeeping and you should try to help out.

The reason why I am not comfortable with my gf washing my clothes is because she has offered to do it without me pestering her. Since she could ordinarily show the willingness to do it, I know iam not going to have any problem with her in that area when I marry her. However, in ur own case, proving to me that you cannot wash my clothe, giving reason as to why you cannot do it, we will not fight, but am recording ur actions for final verdict - whether I can marry u or not. To me, I feel it is a natural thing for a woman to keep the home in good shape, which includes her bf/hubby clothes.

mirexxx:
wife material indeed
u all keep shouting wife material
mtchewwwww!

wats ur pee? Ma fwend go and read ur books,u 2 young 4 dis. .

U lack home training and u still have the guts to bring up the topic here, useless girl

most gal tink a relationship is all abt love making. "If we go down into ourselves, we find that we possess exactly what we desire."

moreeni:
Aunty, you need not go all wifely with him but pretend it's your place and you have a friend who uses your space without helping to clean up after...it is annoying.

Be your clean and responsible self...no pretense.

The OP has stated the kinda gurl she is,bother no more,cos she gat no atom of working in her.

pbs4real:
wats ur pee? Ma fwend go and read ur books,u 2 young 4 dis. .

and who r u??

dagbenga:

like you are any better ,all girls are the same jare.....









Lol ....no mind me ooo ,just looking for trouble

Hahahahahaha-
Trouble maker

ClassicB here is what I think:
1). You are seeking attention on Nairaland, you want your post to trend and generate many comment. Because someone whose mind is excellent wouldn't even upload those pictures and even take time to edit it to hide some details. If you have enough discretion and wisdom to hide those details I believe you should also have enough to submit and humble yourself to do house chores.

2). You are one spoiled and lazy girl who doesn't know how to do any house chores. You don't do it at home and so you don't see any need to ever do it anywhere. Charity begins at home. Maybe you have people who do it for you so you never bothered. That isn't much of your fault but since you are an adult you should learn.

3). Your mindset is very deluded. Doing house chores for your fiance NEVER relegates you to a housewife or housemaid. Everywhere in the world, ladies do some house chores and men also. A wife is a help-meet, you ought to help him do some work at home.

4). You should be very grateful to God your boyfriend told you now. Some men won't even tell you, you will be told when you receive his wedding invitation. Then you would brand him a 'beast' for leaving you. Your boyfriend is a very nice man, he is matured.

5). Lastly, your ability to organize his house and life better than him gives him a good indication that you could make a good family. My advice to you, gradually start doing some of the chores that you can, because if you don't do it he will surely find someone else who will. Nature abhors vacuum. There are many girls who will gladly "spend the night" with him just like you do and clean the house like one 'Ekaette'. Be guided!

olumzz:

Gosh...I pity Danny boy

ok

classicB:
Thank you all. Am not a lazy girl I just dnt want him to see everything he listed as my duty

Dont be silly, you cant cook for your b/f, you cant lay the bed you guys slept on together, you cant wash his stuffs once in a while?? You are lazy! Simples.

mirexxx:
wife material indeed
u all keep shouting wife material
mtchewwwww!

No mind them Jo. Its okay not to be a wife material. Why don't they go to a textile market to look for one. Definitely, they will not find you there cos you are a lady not a wife material. Imagine this people.

anthoniaz:

My dear, forget that thing, there is nothing there.
Nothing is wrong with you tidying his houseeonce in while just like you see nothing wrong with him helping you once in a while.Abi you want make him leave you go meet the chick wey dey come clean the house from morning till evening?

If he is the working class type that goes to work even during the weekends, he won't have the time to do the house chores, you can help him if you truly love him and want to be with him.If you can sleep over at his place then what is there in arranging the house?

guy 4get dt tin,d gal lazy,she jez dey try cover up. .bliv me,doz tinz cum natural. . .

classicB:
Thank you all. Am not a lazy girl I just dnt want him to see everything he listed as my duty

don't mind everybody ...I support u



Mo wa lehin ee ,bi abuke.


I dey your back no shaking.

Its not your duty,are u his sister ..NO !!! Go to his house n enjoy ursef

justi4jesu:



No ohhh, no need for dubai visa, she can search for Dangote and the likes, then be their 50th wifey

Those guys you just mention can't have such liability naa.
They want assets.

zizibabe1:
ALL THIS PLENTY TALK ABOUT 'WIFE MATERIAL',HAS ANYBODY BOTHERED TO FIND OUT UF THE MAN IN QUESTION IS 'HUSBAND MATERIAL'?. HAS HE BEEN LIVING UP TO EXPECTATIONS AS A BOYFRIEND?ABEG,FREE THIS BABE JOOR!!

Imagine, B.O.T.S.F

You wonder why marriages don't last and people keep complaining about how their spouses changed after marriage. Everybody playing lip service so they can be seen as a wife material. This op will go on a cooking and cleaning spree so she can be wifed. Only for her to go back to her true behaviour after marriage. Isn't it obvious she should marry her kind. There are many non challant men out there or men who take delight in doing house chores. Look for one and don't deceive that poor guy into marrying you o.

zizibabe1:
ALL THIS PLENTY TALK ABOUT 'WIFE MATERIAL',HAS ANYBODY BOTHERED TO FIND OUT UF THE MAN IN QUESTION IS 'HUSBAND MATERIAL'?. HAS HE BEEN LIVING UP TO EXPECTATIONS AS A BOYFRIEND?ABEG,FREE THIS BABE JOOR!!

The home is in the hands of a woman. She brought the matter here to be schooled so it's not like someone pushed her here. Am sure she's learning right now.

zizibabe1:
ALL THIS PLENTY TALK ABOUT 'WIFE MATERIAL',HAS ANYBODY BOTHERED TO FIND OUT UF THE MAN IN QUESTION IS 'HUSBAND MATERIAL'?. HAS HE BEEN LIVING UP TO EXPECTATIONS AS A BOYFRIEND?ABEG,FREE THIS BABE JOOR!!

4get dt tin joor,weda or nt d husby is a wife material or nt,it shldnt stp u 4rm doing ur part as a lady.

U are an unequivocally decadent vermin and a belligerent odiosly suffocating lamentable mistake.U reason from the cesspool u call brain.What stp a man from laying the bed they both slept on?What is the big deal in giving helping hands?Must u complain over a little thing.I dnt argue with a cretin[quote author=igbsam post=31029267

you just shot yourself on the foot.

Helper abi, why is she not helping with laying the bed she slept on, or prepare the meal. If you call all these little things suffering a woman, you have a dead brain laying in your skull and it needs resuscitation. Keep living your life around movies, I just pity your future.[/quote]U expect her to clean ur booty too?Goat

classicB:
He said this after a prolong chat that am not a wife material. He said I dnt display the attribute of one, what I.dnt understand is that must a gf act as a wife even when she isn't? Just to prove she's a wife material

Bt u s3x him abiiiiii