rokiatu:
If you was dumb enough to have unprotected sex when you are not ready for a child yet then your stupidity is beyond measure. My only advice is to stop wasting time thinking so much and go look for any kind of work for that matter even if you have to clean shoes. You are going to be a father congrats in advance. When you was hitting it raw and enjoying yourself, you didn't think about this day abi? When you was c..umming in her, you had no idea there was a thing call,pregnancy right? And the morning after you and your dumb gf couldn't think of a thing call "the morning after pill" ni? Well you see God give us a brain for a reason, if you can't think and make logical decisions you will be left to face the consequences.

Welcome to the real world.

hmmm..i pity this holier than thou attitude.. gal .shit happens..ppl mek mistakes.. somtyms avoidable..i pray dis ur over sense head will neva lead u to make any mistake.. coz we all sure.. ur entitled to ur opinion sha..though its quite harsh

Some advice for the guys, please if you are unemployed and broke, you are prohibited from having sxx.

Khabuqi:


Mami Ekiti!

Are you suggesting abortion?

Is that your conclusion?

rokiatu:
If you was dumb enough to have unprotected sex when you are not ready for a child yet then your stupidity is beyond measure. My only advice is to stop wasting time thinking so much and go look for any kind of work for that matter even if you have to clean shoes. You are going to be a father congrats in advance. When you was hitting it raw and enjoying yourself, you didn't think about this day abi? When you was c..umming in her, you had no idea there was a thing call,pregnancy right? And the morning after you and your dumb gf couldn't think of a thing call "the morning after pill" ni? Well you see God give us a brain for a reason, if you can't think and make logical decisions you will be left to face the consequences.

Welcome to the real world.

a guy called Mobuch has been telling everyone on nairaland that he slept with you, this is blackmailing or else he eventually did. I would have pm you but my pm iss not going anymore. This matter no concern but as per na rokiatu, the tin go pain me for body small

Some situation are just 'optionless' if u av 2b humane!

It depends on you job potential. Can you get a job? What kind of job are you eligible to get? Do you stay alone or with parents?

My dear pls relax dis child is not a mistake,why becos notin happends at d bak of GOD. What u have to do now is to start searching for a job and den ur parents pls get incontact wit dem to help u out till u get a job. Al will be well wish u good lck and lets know hw it goes. Pls let me know ur qualification if i can be of help.

Ilekeh:


Is that your conclusion?

Rara o.
I was just asking you noni.

...

Do not allow fear to overhelm you. Water the storm against all odds by following your heart.

Leave the pregnancy, no matter what, the child is a blessing and you will reap the benefits.

Emmaesty:
Abortion should be considered here. I don't like the idea of an abortion but it's better than giving birth to a child in a poverty. A child deserves the very best in life and should not be brought up in a situation where he or she would cry to bed hungry every other night. What guarantee do you have that you'll find a job before the baby is born? Please and please, don't bring a child into this world to suffer

Abortion & Keeping The Baby.
to decide between the both would be something really heavy for the op. if you read the main post well he talked about the times other girls have aborted for him, but this girl is an exception.

OP I think you should keep the baby, most especially if you have family members who can assist you with one or two things... unless you have nobody, you can consult a church (especially Catholic Church) they can assist in one way if you tell them you have no money and cannot find any reasonable job. (that's if you really wanna keep the baby)
if all this don't work and you really wanna abort finally.. well, the ball is in your court.

Karlman:
I need some sound advice from sound minds. My girlfriend is three weeks pregnant as I am typing to you. From the depth of my heart and soul I want to keep the pregnancy but I am unemployed and really broke. And when I think of my financial status and what would be required to nurse and deliver a babe, I am tempted to think of doing the unthinkable. But I am so drawn to this pregnancy and the baby in it. The way it came to me and the time it came to me and how I can already feel its presence even when its only a three week old cluster of blood, left me in perpetual amazement. This is not the first time a girlfriend would be pregnant for me, but never at any of the times have I felt as connected with them as I feel with this particular one. In the past cases I have always done the otherwise and moved on without blinking an eye but now I can't even lift a finger against this child. But how will I weather the storm of unemployment+pregnant babe+baby on the way? Already I can't sleep no more, staying up all night and day thinking on how to get all the miles covered.

Thanks for your time!

Nigerians are so quick to judge and condemn, who the f**k made you the judge of others? If you clearly havent got an advice for the OP shut it. You are no better than the guy and might have possible done worse mistakes.

As regards your situation; I admire your zeal in wanting to do needful and keep the baby, let that zeal spur you on into looking for a job and providing a good life for the mother and child. Be up and going immediately and forge forward with that determination, be positive and hopefully thins will shape up... Set a projection for yourself in the coming months before the baby's arrival and with perseverence something will give.

Ndyoo:



Somehow I think you are the dumb one. Tell me, what single message you have passed with this your words. Just typing to impress dem modafuckas that liked your senseless post. Talking as if you have not had unprotected sex. With much of you in this world...people will see reason to commit suicide. OP don't listen to this one....she's just a child. I am a fellow guy and I know what it feels like, just gather some courage and do what you think is best for you at this period. Since you feel the bond here, let the child live. Who knows he might be a blessing that solves this joblessness and being broke.

Pardon Her, Brother.

Please, please, please, abortion or D&C should never be an option except if the life of the mother is at risk. My dear I encourage you to try and get something doing no matter how small the income. Let her register at a government hospital or primary healthcare centre close to her, that way you will save cost on medicals. We pray there will be no complications, so that she can have a normal delivery. I know raising a child is not easy, but if at the time the baby is born you both feel you are still not financially capable to raise the child, please take the baby to an orphanage. There are many people crying day and night to be given the opportunity to even raise another person's child as their own. It is not just a cluster of blood, IT IS HUMAN LIFE. Wait till you hear the heart beat of that foetus right in the womb and then you will know how awesome God is and that only Him has the right to give and take life. Wish you all the best and join you in prayers for God to open up a way for you.

Why is no-one speaking of Adoption? It's much more humane and you will be blessing a couple with their own child. Contact Motherless Babies Surulere or the Catholic church (any big diocese).

And dude, you've gone around impregnating girls and letting them Do abortions without caring... you don't deserve this child. Please don't keep it, Give to a more responsible person.

Everyone be honest if your sister showed up with this guy as the father, would you encourage her to let him stay in her life??

This guy isn't responsible, he's suffering from an emotional high that's why he's feeling an "attachment" to the baby. We all know it won't last. And he'll be disappearing once reality sets in. Abeg let the girl go to St. Dominic's Yaba or Church of Assumption Falomo and tell them she wants to give up the baby to a loving couple for a closed adoption. All will be taken care of and she can try and get her life onto a new smarter track (minus this guy in it)

OP you no try at all at all...u don't have a job and you where having unprotected sex..I even wonder how u comfortably have sex knowing fully well ur unemployed..what where you thinking ? that she won't get preggo... Some guyz just know how to mess themselves up..
And you have been aborting and getting girls pregnant in the past meaning u are unrepentant and still haven't learnt ur lesson..dude u need deliverance ooh... I even wonder why some girls will be opening there legs for men who do not have a brand..dude u are wicked for forcing a child into this world when u know u have no means of catering for the child and if care is not taking u will be welcomed into the world of POVERTY...look here if u try abortion this time ehh..Devil himself will use u to sew agbada..when u where firing at full gear u didn't know..anu manu like U.

However, ur a man like me and also a bro though I don't know U..first knee down and ask God for forgiveness then stand up and face the consequences of what you have brought upon urself that's what makes u a man..u get ur woman pregnant and be there for her and the child for any man that can't provide for his family is worse than an infidel..U can still make out something good from this situation..Go out there and get a job even if u have to stand on the road side or bus park to beg for a job..that child and the mum must be taken care off.

Lastly, I know God will open doors for u because of that child and when he does please marry that girl officially, don't go around getting other women pregnant and getting another wife simple becos the present gurl isn't "good enough" for u again.

rokiatu:
If you was dumb enough to have unprotected sex when you are not ready for a child yet then your stupidity is beyond measure. My only advice is to stop wasting time thinking so much and go look for any kind of work for that matter even if you have to clean shoes. You are going to be a father congrats in advance. When you was hitting it raw and enjoying yourself, you didn't think about this day abi? When you was c..umming in her, you had no idea there was a thing call,pregnancy right? And the morning after you and your dumb gf couldn't think of a thing call "the morning after pill" ni? Well you see God give us a brain for a reason, if you can't think and make logical decisions you will be left to face the consequences.

Welcome to the real world.

harsh..you jst bitter

baye2023:
When will you people growup nd Advice people without attacking them verbally? You ShuttingUp is better of ur Shallow Advice *spits*

This is what we get when all the boys on nairaland keep making some of these females feel like they're goddesses
allow her rock her boat my dear.

karlman, you should keep the baby. abortion is a sin. do a registry wedding and things will take shape. many get married without a farthing but in time things work out well even spectacularly well. here is wishing you happy wedded life in advance.

You and your babe should take the decision because only you knows were it pinches but have it in mind that baby comes with blessing.

rokiatu:
If you was dumb enough to have unprotected sex when you are not ready for a child yet then your stupidity is beyond measure. My only advice is to stop wasting time thinking so much and go look for any kind of work for that matter even if you have to clean shoes. You are going to be a father congrats in advance. When you was hitting it raw and enjoying yourself, you didn't think about this day abi? When you was c..umming in her, you had no idea there was a thing call,pregnancy right? And the morning after you and your dumb gf couldn't think of a thing call "the morning after pill" ni? Well you see God give us a brain for a reason, if you can't think and make logical decisions you will be left to face the consequences.

Welcome to the real world.

End of discussion. GBAM!!!

Pls, leave the baby.
Babies comes 2d world with dia own Blessing, It's blessings wl combine wt yurs andd wl surely open ways forr yu. Huslte more, find smtins tto do, dnt wait ffor dt big job.
All da best, baba baby indvance

Karlman:
I need some sound advice from sound minds. My girlfriend is three weeks pregnant as I am typing to you. From the depth of my heart and soul I want to keep the pregnancy but I am unemployed and really broke. And when I think of my financial status and what would be required to nurse and deliver a babe, I am tempted to think of doing the unthinkable. But I am so drawn to this pregnancy and the baby in it. The way it came to me and the time it came to me and how I can already feel its presence even when its only a three week old cluster of blood, left me in perpetual amazement. This is not the first time a girlfriend would be pregnant for me, but never at any of the times have I felt as connected with them as I feel with this particular one. In the past cases I have always done the otherwise and moved on without blinking an eye but now I can't even lift a finger against this child. But how will I weather the storm of unemployment+pregnant babe+baby on the way? Already I can't sleep no more, staying up all night and day thinking on how to get all the miles covered.

Thanks for your time!

Op. On no account should you take a life, and if you can't afford to take care of the child please give it up for adoption to people who do not have one of their own...on no account should you deprive a child of it's right to life

grad2012:
must be so stupid to say such pls dont listen to him people like dis shud just be ignored. Pls keep d child and dis is not a mistake trust me, get up and start looking for a job and stay positive. Good luck to u

What were you expecting me to say to him? I assumed someone who is old enough to impregnate a girl is also old enough to know the differences between good/right and bad/evil/wrong

Ollymurs:


Nigerians are so quick to judge and condemn, who the f**k made you the judge of others? If you clearly havent got an advice for the OP shut it. You are no better than the guy and might have possible done worse mistakes.

As regards your situation; I admire your zeal in wanting to do needful and keep the baby, let that zeal spur you on into looking for a job and providing a good life for the mother and child. Be up and going immediately and forge forward with that determination, be positive and hopefully thins will shape up... Set a projection for yourself in the coming months before the baby's arrival and with perseverence something will give.

wrong quote sir

My brother don't consider abortion/termination as an option, there are blessings dat comes wit children, accepting this responsibilities with faith can turn your situation for gud and for ur girlfriend/fiance go an officially introduce ur self to her family if you truly luv her. Good luck!

Karlman:
I need some sound advice from sound minds. My girlfriend is three weeks pregnant as I am typing to you. From the depth of my heart and soul I want to keep the pregnancy but I am unemployed and really broke. And when I think of my financial status and what would be required to nurse and deliver a babe, I am tempted to think of doing the unthinkable. But I am so drawn to this pregnancy and the baby in it. The way it came to me and the time it came to me and how I can already feel its presence even when its only a three week old cluster of blood, left me in perpetual amazement. This is not the first time a girlfriend would be pregnant for me, but never at any of the times have I felt as connected with them as I feel with this particular one. In the past cases I have always done the otherwise and moved on without blinking an eye but now I can't even lift a finger against this child. But how will I weather the storm of unemployment+pregnant babe+baby on the way? Already I can't sleep no more, staying up all night and day thinking on how to get all the miles covered.

Thanks for your time!

Commiting abortion will hinder you from Gods blessing. Pls keep the baby and use that pregnancy or baby as a point of contact to your God and u will see God bless. I ve done it before and I regretted doing it

Karlman:
I need some sound advice from sound minds. My girlfriend is three weeks pregnant as I am typing to you. From the depth of my heart and soul I want to keep the pregnancy but I am unemployed and really broke. And when I think of my financial status and what would be required to nurse and deliver a babe, I am tempted to think of doing the unthinkable. But I am so drawn to this pregnancy and the baby in it. The way it came to me and the time it came to me and how I can already feel its presence even when its only a three week old cluster of blood, left me in perpetual amazement. This is not the first time a girlfriend would be pregnant for me, but never at any of the times have I felt as connected with them as I feel with this particular one. In the past cases I have always done the otherwise and moved on without blinking an eye but now I can't even lift a finger against this child. But how will I weather the storm of unemployment+pregnant babe+baby on the way? Already I can't sleep no more, staying up all night and day thinking on how to get all the miles covered.

Thanks for your time!

FROM WHAT YOU HAVE TYPED, THOUGH I DO KNOW, BUT IF YOU WOULD TAKE MY ADVICE, KEEP THE BABY, IF YOU FEEL SUCH STRONG CONNECTION TO THIS ONE, HMMMMM, THERE'S SO MUCH U R MOST LIKELY TO LOOSE IF YOU LOOSE IT, AND SO MUCH MUCH MORE U COULD GAIN IF YOU KEEP IT, THIS PREGNANCY MIGHT BRING YOU GOODLUCK BEYOUND YOUR IMAGINATION, IT COULD BE THE BEST THING THAT WILL EVER HAPPEN TO YOU LIFE AND THAT OF YOUR GENERATION, BESIDES, NO MATTER HOW BROKE YOU ARE, YOU WILL ALL SURVIVE THIS, YOU THREE WILL NOT STARVE TO DEATH,AND WHEN YOU DO, YOU'LL LOOK BACK AND WONDER HOW YOU GOT THROUGH THAT PHASE AND YOU WILL BE GLAD YOU DIDNT MAKE A MISTTAKE BY REMOVING IT, THISE PHASE WILL ONLY MAKE YOU STRONGER AND MORE WISER. BELIVE ME TALKING FROM EXPERIENCE. ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE SUCH STRONG FEELING TOWARDS IT. I WISH YOU MAKE A WISE CHOICE.

Karlman:
I need some sound advice from sound minds. My girlfriend is three weeks pregnant as I am typing to you. From the depth of my heart and soul I want to keep the pregnancy but I am unemployed and really broke. And when I think of my financial status and what would be required to nurse and deliver a babe, I am tempted to think of doing the unthinkable. But I am so drawn to this pregnancy and the baby in it. The way it came to me and the time it came to me and how I can already feel its presence even when its only a three week old cluster of blood, left me in perpetual amazement. This is not the first time a girlfriend would be pregnant for me, but never at any of the times have I felt as connected with them as I feel with this particular one. In the past cases I have always done the otherwise and moved on without blinking an eye but now I can't even lift a finger against this child. But how will I weather the storm of unemployment+pregnant babe+baby on the way? Already I can't sleep no more, staying up all night and day thinking on how to get all the miles covered.

Thanks for your time!

listen very carefully, your life is already in double jeopardy, blood of the innocent kids you abort is fully on you and the worse thing about innocent blood is that they dont rest, when tormenting someones life, you have already soiled blood earlier, so dont come here and pretend that you have so much feelings not to abort this one, cos i know that eventually you will do what you always do ,carnal and cold blooded murder of innocent babies...this is just the beginning of your troubles, you live a careless life and nature will handle your life issues carelssly.you are compalining of not sleeping and a poor life, my brother you are in a hot soup, the spirit of these innocent young ones cry continously into Gods ears and they wont stop, so go on and seek more advice to help you make up your mind if to murder another baby or let this one live...you will suffer and suffer in this life and regret why you were born...

zeongeon:


OP you no try at all at all...u don't have a job and you where having unprotected sex..I even wonder how u comfortably have sex knowing fully well ur unemployed..what where you thinking ? that she won't get preggo... Some guyz just know how to mess themselves up..
And you have been aborting and getting girls pregnant in the past meaning u are unrepentant and still haven't learnt ur lesson..dude u need deliverance ooh... I even wonder why some girls will be opening there legs for men who do not have a brand..dude u are wicked for forcing a child into this world when u know u have no means of catering for the child and if care is not taking u will be welcomed into the world of POVERTY...look here if u try abortion this time ehh..Devil himself will use u to sew agbada..when u where firing at full gear u didn't know..anu manu like U.

However, ur a man like me and also a bro though I don't know U..first knee down and ask God for forgiveness then stand up and face the consequences of what you have brought upon urself that's what makes u a man..u get ur woman pregnant and be there for her and the child for any man that can't provide for his family is worse than an infidel..U can still make out something good from this situation..Go out there and get a job even if u have to stand on the road side or bus park to beg for a job..that child and the mum must be taken care off.

Lastly, I know God will open doors for u because of that child and when he does please marry that girl officially, don't go around getting other women pregnant and getting another wife simple becos the present gurl isn't "good enough" for u again.

As a coded guy, if you cum inside your girl, you get those emergency contraception pills for her the next morning.
I Wonder why this Guy just lose guard anyhow.
it's really a tough decision to make.

rokiatu:
If you was dumb enough to have unprotected sex when you are not ready for a child yet then your stupidity is beyond measure. My only advice is to stop wasting time thinking so much and go look for any kind of work for that matter even if you have to clean shoes. You are going to be a father congrats in advance. When you was hitting it raw and enjoying yourself, you didn't think about this day abi? When you was c..umming in her, you had no idea there was a thing call,pregnancy right? And the morning after you and your dumb gf couldn't think of a thing call "the morning after pill" ni? Well you see God give us a brain for a reason, if you can't think and make logical decisions you will be left to face the consequences.

Welcome to the real world.

why are you insulting him and his girlfriend? Are you mad?



If you can't give him a sensible advise you should keep your bull crap to yourself you idiot.