Karlman:
I need some sound advice from sound minds. My girlfriend is three weeks pregnant as I am typing to you. From the depth of my heart and soul I want to keep the pregnancy but I am unemployed and really broke. And when I think of my financial status and what would be required to nurse and deliver a babe, I am tempted to think of doing the unthinkable. But I am so drawn to this pregnancy and the baby in it. The way it came to me and the time it came to me and how I can already feel its presence even when its only a three week old cluster of blood, left me in perpetual amazement. This is not the first time a girlfriend would be pregnant for me, but never at any of the times have I felt as connected with them as I feel with this particular one. In the past cases I have always done the otherwise and moved on without blinking an eye but now I can't even lift a finger against this child. But how will I weather the storm of unemployment+pregnant babe+baby on the way? Already I can't sleep no more, staying up all night and day thinking on how to get all the miles covered.

Thanks for your time!

Don't mind all those self righteous and over careful peeps blaming u 4 hitting it raw. Shii happens.

But u and ur babe sef; condoms, morning after pills even this safe and unsafe period issh d work sef.

No blames !

U guys are not ready !
Abort the baby, lyk u said, tis just a cluster of blood and just 3wks.
Ur gf will hate u, her fam will hate u wen the tym comes to provide funds and u cnt.

rokiatu:
If you was dumb enough to have unprotected sex when you are not ready for a child yet then your stupidity is beyond measure. My only advice is to stop wasting time thinking so much and go look for any kind of work for that matter even if you have to clean shoes. You are going to be a father congrats in advance. When you was hitting it raw and enjoying yourself, you didn't think about this day abi? When you was c..umming in her, you had no idea there was a thing call,pregnancy right? And the morning after you and your dumb gf couldn't think of a thing call "the morning after pill" ni? Well you see God give us a brain for a reason, if you can't think and make logical decisions you will be left to face the consequences.

Welcome to the real world.

medicine after death, shoved down the throat of a dead man, yet a good advice for likely victims. True but demeaning. It can be counterproductive i must tell you.

Smh

swaggzo:



This is what we get when all the boys on nairaland keep making some of these females feel like they're goddesses
allow her rock her boat my dear.

careful your advice makes you to get a share in the curse of killing an innocent baby, if that baby is killed, his or her blood stains your own hand, and you will surely get a fair portion in the terrible suffering..so bewarned.

ronald4lif:


Depending on the income of her job and if she intends resuming her studies in the next 0-3years, in which time she'll be required to nurse a baby. That's if she isn't a graduate already though.

You're unemployed, with uncertainties on when you could secure a job. I really don't know the exact circumstance you are and your plans in the next few years, especially the plans of your girlfriend. However, if the odds are strongly against keeping the pregnancy and with difficulties of putting up with the outcome of it, I will advise you consider the D&C option. But this is me, follow your convictions.

runzlord:
seriously there are more kind words to use and still pass your message.

She just said it bluntly which is what it is. Besides the OP has been in this mess before and refuse to learn

Karlman:
I need some sound advice from sound minds. My girlfriend is three weeks pregnant as I am typing to you. From the depth of my heart and soul I want to keep the pregnancy but I am unemployed and really broke. And when I think of my financial status and what would be required to nurse and deliver a babe, I am tempted to think of doing the unthinkable. But I am so drawn to this pregnancy and the baby in it. The way it came to me and the time it came to me and how I can already feel its presence even when its only a three week old cluster of blood, left me in perpetual amazement. This is not the first time a girlfriend would be pregnant for me, but never at any of the times have I felt as connected with them as I feel with this particular one. In the past cases I have always done the otherwise and moved on without blinking an eye but now I can't even lift a finger against this child. But how will I weather the storm of unemployment+pregnant babe+baby on the way? Already I can't sleep no more, staying up all night and day thinking on how to get all the miles covered.

Thanks for your time!

I like the fact that you want to keep the baby. Shows you are responsible.

My advice is, stop waiting for employment. Employ yourself. There are countless opportunities on the internet, even here on Nairaland. Make friends, connect with people. Opportunities would come eventually. But you have to make it come.

If u are interested in farming you can get a loan from the Bank of Agric with little or no collateral. Look for the bank in your state.

The deed as being done already....The bible says children are a blessing from God, if you i.e both of u have parents(understanding), they would support u guys, there are lot of people in worse situations than you..

And besides alot of people are looking for children, and someone is trying to terminate , life is a dilenma.

Allwility:
You have to keep the baby not because you're feeling connected or whatsoever but because it's the right thing to do.

You can pick odd jobs- teaching in a high school, security, etc to enable you foot the bills. Please whatever you do, don't snuff out a life.

Goodluck, I'm sure you'll be needing it!!

so teaching in a high school is now and odd job

emmykk:
House of easy said than done.all nairalander saying keep it.

There is nothing like a baby planned for.since you know you are unemployed why did you not use prevention?
Now you want other people to bear your responsibility.

Well keep the child but be ready to work times2 to keep up or you have just succeeded in bring another society's nuacanse

MY DEAR, THEY MAY NOT HAVE PLANNED FOR THE BABY, BUT GOD HAS, AND HE IS THE ONE WHO MAKES EVERY PROVISION POSSIBLE. GOD HAS PLANNED IN ADVANCE FOR THE BABY AND WILL TAKE CARE OF THE BABY, HE KNOWS HOW TO MAKE PROVISIONS FOR MOTHER AND FATHER. WHETHER YOU PLANNED YOUR LIFE OR NOT, LIFE STILL HAPPENS, COS GOD IS ALWAYS UP THERE WATCHING OVER HIS OWN

The unfortunate child will grow up in a face me face you mosquito infested room and will be hawking as soon as he/she is old enough to carry heavy load on the head. Having a child is a privilege, not god's gift.

And what does your gal think?..guy please man up and be more responsible from now on..the deed has been done..learn...keep the baby and let it be your motivation to succeed..dont get her pregnant for a very long while again until u both stabilize..are u guys even enough in love to commit for marriage or its just cos of the pregnancy?..hustle well as it won't kill you but stay out of crime..please use protection next time,you need to stay healthy too..men love sex generally but try redirect the energy into more positives..keep the baby.

Op tell us your qualifications someone here might help you out with a job. D prob here is dat u need a job

My advice to is that to blieve in God, i lost my Job when i got married, since then i haven got any job till after 3 year which is august last year and as then i have one child and my wife was 7 month pregnant, today i have two children and a job of my dream, i Thank Allah for that remember even the children are blessing and nomatter the situation God is threfore you just pray hard my brother[/size][size=8pt][size=8pt][/size]

:PPlease don't even tink of aborting it,becos you knoW dat you are jobless b4 having Unprocted $ex.a guy stand up 2 Ur responsibitie$ nd go oUt 2 look 4 sumtin doing,don't think dat manner falls 4rm heaven. No food 4 lazy man oo.pl :PPlease don't even tink of aborting it,becos you knoW dat you are jobless b4 having Unprocted $ex.a guy stand up 2 Ur responsibitie$ nd go oUt 2 look 4 sumtin doing,don't think dat manner falls 4rm heaven. No food 4 lazy man oo


























:PPlease don't even tink of aborting it,becos you knoW dat you are jobless b4 having Unprocted $ex.a guy stand up 2 Ur responsibitie$ nd go oUt 2 look 4 sumtin doing,don't think dat manner falls 4rm heaven. No food 4 lazy man ooooooooooo

What does our future baby mama want? I mean it's really her decision to make, meanwhile start something, anything, baby or no baby.

Karlman:
I need some sound advice from sound minds. My girlfriend is three weeks pregnant as I am typing to you. From the depth of my heart and soul I want to keep the pregnancy but I am unemployed and really broke. And when I think of my financial status and what would be required to nurse and deliver a babe, I am tempted to think of doing the unthinkable. But I am so drawn to this pregnancy and the baby in it. The way it came to me and the time it came to me and how I can already feel its presence even when its only a three week old cluster of blood, left me in perpetual amazement. This is not the first time a girlfriend would be pregnant for me, but never at any of the times have I felt as connected with them as I feel with this particular one. In the past cases I have always done the otherwise and moved on without blinking an eye but now I can't even lift a finger against this child. But how will I weather the storm of unemployment+pregnant babe+baby on the way? Already I can't sleep no more, staying up all night and day thinking on how to get all the miles covered.

Thanks for your time!

I need to attack you hard so you stand on your feet as a man, u xes, its sweet yet only your babe is doing a small job, u stay by complaining no Job, am sure you are waiting for oil company job.
you are a lazy man, not everybody wait on govt or companies to employ them, so many avenues of making small small monies from the start especially if you are based in Lagos. Take up even a marketing job, start any small thing in fact do anything modest to end money no matter how small. Having troubles about aborting this pregnancy means there is something special that God wants to do in your life as you prepare to receive this baby and if you dare that abortion, you will not imagine the dangers that may come your way. God is warning you enough is enough.
prepare your cv go from company to company tell them you can work even as security guard, guy start looking for something. do something to beget something. I cant pamper you on this matter. my take.

You are an irresponsible he-goat. This is not the first time you impregnate a girl and yet you have come for advice.
The annoying this is that these girls will keep forming when responsible guys try to chat them up yet they always end up with a broke ass bloke with no plan for the future.
Are you allergic to using condom? Is it that your cannon is so big that you can't find an okpu nna m eyni that can contain help prevent the preventable(s)?
There is no remorse whatsoever in your post and if you want a genuine advice, let the baby be. Dust your CV and tripple your effort to get a job.
Better still think of any business you can do...buying and selling to start with.....just get something going.
This is not the last girl you will buff and trust me you are a bellend!

Dont Abort the pregnancy! Dont!! Its just 3weeks..Good..Take full responsibility of the pregnancy nd Start working towards getting a job.. Nine months is a long period of time fam..You can make it!!..If u abort it u will feel relax towards getting a job nd probably regret aborting the child if u later get one...Let the pregnancy be a Goal for you in getting a job to take care of ursef nd your babymama and be Successful!! GoodLuck Fam!!

I am unemployed and can't take care of My one year old child. Should I sell the boy. O.P. What will you say to someone who says this

Your statement is selfish for even considering ABORTION . It is not the child's fault that you both without considering the implications decide to bring him into the world.

You should rather ask people to help you get a job, or show you what you can do to support yourself and the child you are expecting instead of thinking of how to kill it.

Karlman:
I need some sound advice from sound minds. My girlfriend is three weeks pregnant as I am typing to you. From the depth of my heart and soul I want to keep the pregnancy but I am unemployed and really broke. And when I think of my financial status and what would be required to nurse and deliver a babe, I am tempted to think of doing the unthinkable. But I am so drawn to this pregnancy and the baby in it. The way it came to me and the time it came to me and how I can already feel its presence even when its only a three week old cluster of blood, left me in perpetual amazement. This is not the first time a girlfriend would be pregnant for me, but never at any of the times have I felt as connected with them as I feel with this particular one. In the past cases I have always done the otherwise and moved on without blinking an eye but now I can't even lift a finger against this child. But how will I weather the storm of unemployment+pregnant babe+baby on the way? Already I can't sleep no more, staying up all night and day thinking on how to get all the miles covered.

Thanks for your time!

You didn't remember your financial status when you were sleeping with her. If I hear abort.... Congratulations father!Since you can't abstain , be ready to retain. Godless children!

rokiatu:
If you was dumb enough to have unprotected sex when you are not ready for a child yet then your stupidity is beyond measure. My only advice is to stop wasting time thinking so much and go look for any kind of work for that matter even if you have to clean shoes. You are going to be a father congrats in advance. When you was hitting it raw and enjoying yourself, you didn't think about this day abi? When you was c..umming in her, you had no idea there was a thing call,pregnancy right? And the morning after you and your dumb gf couldn't think of a thing call "the morning after pill" ni? Well you see God give us a brain for a reason, if you can't think and make logical decisions you will be left to face the consequences.

Welcome to the real world.

I don't even know you and yet I don't like your smart ass. It's true people are sometimes just dumb, but calling them out doesn't make you smart.

rokiatu:
If you was dumb enough to have unprotected sex when you are not ready for a child yet then your stupidity is beyond measure. My only advice is to stop wasting time thinking so much and go look for any kind of work for that matter even if you have to clean shoes. You are going to be a father congrats in advance. When you was hitting it raw and enjoying yourself, you didn't think about this day abi? When you was c..umming in her, you had no idea there was a thing call,pregnancy right? And the morning after you and your dumb gf couldn't think of a thing call "the morning after pill" ni? Well you see God give us a brain for a reason, if you can't think and make logical decisions you will be left to face the consequences.

Welcome to the real world.

[color=#990000][/color]All I see in this Write up is WAS. Lolz, babe ur case serious pass mama peace own.

faithy2123:
:PPlease don't even tink of aborting it,becos you knoW dat you are jobless b4 having Unprocted $ex.a guy stand up 2 Ur responsibitie$ nd go oUt 2 look 4 sumtin doing,don't think dat manner falls 4rm heaven. No food 4 lazy man oo.pl :PPlease don't even tink of aborting it,becos you knoW dat you are jobless b4 having Unprocted $ex.a guy stand up 2 Ur responsibitie$ nd go oUt 2 look 4 sumtin doing,don't think dat manner falls 4rm heaven. No food 4 lazy man oo


























:PPlease don't even tink of aborting it,becos you knoW dat you are jobless b4 having Unprocted $ex.a guy stand up 2 Ur responsibitie$ nd go oUt 2 look 4 sumtin doing,don't think dat manner falls 4rm heaven. No food 4 lazy man ooooooooooo

na u be the chic in this pix?

presence even when its only a three
week old cluster of blood..... please be more polite to him in his days of little beginning. that I sell pure water for a living doesn't mean i'm not into business, like the dangote's of this world.
you may choose to abort him if it is you that really put him there.

rokiatu:
If you was dumb enough to have unprotected sex when you are not ready for a child yet then your stupidity is beyond measure. My only advice is to stop wasting time thinking so much and go look for any kind of work for that matter even if you have to clean shoes. You are going to be a father congrats in advance. When you was hitting it raw and enjoying yourself, you didn't think about this day abi? When you was c..umming in her, you had no idea there was a thing call,pregnancy right? And the morning after you and your dumb gf couldn't think of a thing call "the morning after pill" ni? Well you see God give us a brain for a reason, if you can't think and make logical decisions you will be left to face the consequences.

Welcome to the real world.

pls if u don't have something nice to advice d op just read comment....

hisssss

UnimkeAk:


Don't mind all those self righteous and over careful peeps blaming u 4 hitting it raw. Shii happens.

But u and ur babe sef; condoms, morning after pills even this safe and unsafe period issh d work sef.

No blames !

U guys are not ready !
Abort the baby, lyk u said, tis just a cluster of blood and just 3wks.
Ur gf will hate u, her fam will hate u wen the tym comes to provide funds and u cnt.

TRASH, MY BROTHER NO BODY WILL HATE YOU, RATHER THEY RESPECT YOU EVEN MORE KNOWING YOU HAD THE PRIVILEDGE TO GET RID OF IT AND DIDNT, THEY WILL RATHER HATE YOU IF THEY LEARN YOU ABORTED THEIR GRAND CHILD, COS ITS A SIGN OF IRRESPONSIBLITY, A CLUSTER OF BLOOD THAT MOST LIKELY WILL BE BETTER THAN EVEN BOTH THE SITTING PRESIDENT AND INTENDED PRESIDENT OF THIS GREAT COUNTRY.

Y u put ur pic? u dey find husband kwa

faithy2123:
:PPlease don't even tink of aborting it,becos you knoW dat you are jobless b4 having Unprocted $ex.a guy stand up 2 Ur responsibitie$ nd go oUt 2 look 4 sumtin doing,don't think dat manner falls 4rm heaven. No food 4 lazy man oo.pl :PPlease don't even tink of aborting it,becos you knoW dat you are jobless b4 having Unprocted $ex.a guy stand up 2 Ur responsibitie$ nd go oUt 2 look 4 sumtin doing,don't think dat manner falls 4rm heaven. No food 4 lazy man oo


























:PPlease don't even tink of aborting it,becos you knoW dat you are jobless b4 having Unprocted $ex.a guy stand up 2 Ur responsibitie$ nd go oUt 2 look 4 sumtin doing,don't think dat manner falls 4rm heaven. No food 4 lazy man ooooooooooo

Karlman:
I need some sound advice from sound minds. My girlfriend is three weeks pregnant as I am typing to you. From the depth of my heart and soul I want to keep the pregnancy but I am unemployed and really broke. And when I think of my financial status and what would be required to nurse and deliver a babe, I am tempted to think of doing the unthinkable. But I am so drawn to this pregnancy and the baby in it. The way it came to me and the time it came to me and how I can already feel its presence even when its only a three week old cluster of blood, left me in perpetual amazement. This is not the first time a girlfriend would be pregnant for me, but never at any of the times have I felt as connected with them as I feel with this particular one. In the past cases I have always done the otherwise and moved on without blinking an eye but now I can't even lift a finger against this child. But how will I weather the storm of unemployment+pregnant babe+baby on the way? Already I can't sleep no more, staying up all night and day thinking on how to get all the miles covered.

Thanks for your time!

Shhh! You should have asked us this question before knacking her akpako. Bear it, It's your cross. Btw, abortion is still murder before God and man, so make your choice wisely.

ABORT MISSION

Do whatever you choose to do as it concerns the foetus. It is your call.
However, please use a condom henceforth.

rokiatu:
If you was dumb enough to have unprotected sex when you are not ready for a child yet then your stupidity is beyond measure. My only advice is to stop wasting time thinking so much and go look for any kind of work for that matter even if you have to clean shoes. You are going to be a father congrats in advance. When you was hitting it raw and enjoying yourself, you didn't think about this day abi? When you was c..umming in her, you had no idea there was a thing call,pregnancy right? And the morning after you and your dumb gf couldn't think of a thing call "the morning after pill" ni? Well you see God give us a brain for a reason, if you can't think and make logical decisions you will be left to face the consequences.

Welcome to the real world.

See the way u keep insulting dudes here is becoming something else. I know very well u live of postinor 2, N. B : for ur own good don't reply