shadowgwalker:
I no you are homo, don't worry I won't kill you. don't be guilty, just switch back to your human nature.

I am not homosexual, but I hate when little girls talk rubbish!
I won't even go into any form of explanation because I would just be wasting my words....

Eziokwu,otolo ga gbagbu gi enwero part 2

Raymie:
@OP, are yhu Catholic, if yes, become a priest. If no, become one and become a priest. Then yhu [b][/b]wouldn't need to marry. Marriage will not guarantee a change in yhur sexuality. And if yhur wife finds out, we will certainly then know who yhu are offline. Inasmuch as I'm not a gay advocate, its foolishness to hate them either. Afterall, their maker hates the Sin and not the sinner. As long as yhu don't try molesting young boys, or are caught with a man, yhu may as well keep yhur secret till yhu die. I'm only being realistic in a country where homosexuality is more criminal than armed robbery or murder.

Don't be depressed. Take yhur mind off yhur sexuality and focus those energies into more positive ends like hanging out more, or playing a sport. If it is God's will, the lady who will win yhur heart and activate yhur loins will come. And all others will be automatic. Stay positive.

Klinee:
Devilish i.diot! How can u compare your mind-set with human nature? slowpoke,dumb,deaf, they are not abnormal people but they find themselves in abnormal body condition. They do not have feeling or attracted to be slowpoke,deaf or dumb. You should classify yourself with succide-bomber, who feel or attracted to blow himself or a peadophile who is attracted sexual to young age of even 4 months old. Gays,succiders, arm-rubber,canibalist, peadophile,bestials are practical act which they think of(feeling or attracted to) before going to do. Human was never divided into two sexuality(straight and gay),if its so what of those who feel attract sexual to things that is neither man or woman? That you feel attracted is what you thought in mind. Now the reason why a gay should be kill is by considering the barbaric nature of gayism just like a canibalist. Even God almight say that we should kill any gay person around us. God can never create u gay and still ask us to kill u. Or are trying to tell us that God is acting stupid? No its you who have devilize your mind-set. Therefore you deserve death by hanging.

You are a complete slowpoke

missclasssy:


I am not homosexual, but I hate when little girls talk rubbish!
I won't even go into any form of explanation because I would just be wasting my words....

ok! please sound straight!stop trying to toast me.

Peppyluv:
Eziokwu,otolo ga gbagbu gi enwero part 2

Madam I'm being real here. Or dju honestly believe that many of the Fathers that serve yhu do so because they made up their minds to become celibate? O girl, many Catholic priests are closet homosexuals who upon realizing their weakness, have converted their energies towards God's service. That way, by virtue of priestly tradition, their secret remains, and by calling and grace, they refrain from delving into homosexual sin. Since OP is conscious of his religious life, I recommend that. Being gay does not imply that he shags every gay man he comes across. Or do yhu sleep around because yhu're straight.

masonkz:




Yeaaaaaaa ma Sagamite is back


Great words.

can't believe those words from our dear ol' saga,people can really change!

he even earned a like from me,just wow!it gets better as u age i guess.

you are gay! your sexuality is not your problem, your religion is the problem. It is not compatible with your nature. My case is same with yours except that I don't wallow in self pity. If you must marry, let her know your real nature.

[quote author=Depressedguy post=32103544]Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide.

Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex.

This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change.

I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on.

To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed.

Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness.

I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.)

This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs.

Please help a brother...[/quo
Don't see it as a problem but as a challenge..... Can help... 08092304389.

Ekpenta gba gi there

Raymie:
Madam I'm being real here. Or dju honestly believe that many of the Fathers that serve yhu do so because they made up their minds to become celibate? O girl, many Catholic priests are closet homosexuals who upon realizing their weakness, have converted their energies towards God's service. That way, by virtue of priestly tradition, their secret remains, and by calling and grace, they refrain from delving into homosexual sin. Since OP is conscious of his religious life, I recommend that. Being gay does not imply that he shags every gay man he comes across. Or do yhu sleep around because yhu're straight.

Peppyluv:
Ekpenta gba gi there

No Madam Holier than thee, self serving, confession going, Rev. Father worshipping hypocrite. Yhur soul is already leprous. What remains is its manifestation on yhur already skank ass body.

better dont stop ranting like the cursed fool you are

Raymie:
No Madam Holier than thee, self serving, confession going, Rev. Father worshipping hypocrite. Yhur soul is already leprous. What remains is its manifestation on yhur already skank ass body.

Peppyluv:
better dont stop ranting like the cursed fool you are

Nne, hapu m aka bikonu. Face yhur frustrations and don't release them on me.

shadowgwalker:
ok! please sound straight!stop trying to toast me.

See dis one.... Forming straight yet 90% of the people u follow on nairaland are females.

B.itch! Lesbian!

i honestly thought the homophobes in nigeria are the older generation. i never knew even our generation has this many set of homophobes.........

wow......

KevinBrown:


See dis one.... Forming straight yet 90% of the people u follow on nairaland are females.

Bitch! Lesbian!

nah man I wan follow before?why you dey support gayshit?

guy,I luv CUNTinental districts only. I got no business with any long thing.

KevinBrown:


See dis one.... Forming straight yet 90% of the people u follow on nairaland are females.

Bitch! Lesbian!

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!

It has always been said that most homophobes are closeted homosexuals!!!

shadowgwalker:
nah man I wan follow before?why you dey support gayshit?

guy,I luv CUNTinental districts only. I got no business with any long thing.

Lesbian!!!

beryl04:


can't believe those words from our dear ol' saga,people can really change!

he even earned a like from me,just wow!it gets better as u age i guess.

You need to get your head checked?

Change what?

I rarely change my opinion except unexpectedly new information is provided.

Before I form my opinion on any issue, I go through a thorough process that includes:

- Studying the prevailing and existing information available.
- Develop a best logic scenario/position from what I have read.
- Evaluate and filter which parts of the prevailing and existing information available fits into my obviously perfect and superior logic.
- Detail the gaps in logic and then decide what kind of information can cover the gaps that is not yet available.
- Then I formulate my opinion.

I am a Logical God!

I don't follow rubbish because majority of people are following it or some "White Gods" have said that is what it should be.

The world should learn from me, not the other way round.

Your Peter Tatchell-like opinion of "we must force homosexuality on everyone and society" is what makes me give you an intellectual flogging.

I have not changed nada. This has been my opinion for at least a decade.

this isn't something that you can cure or something that anybody can, homosexuality isnt a choice.
If you believe in miracles pray to God.

you are a phucking slowpoke! pull your head out of your arse and read a book!

KevinBrown:


Lesbian!!!

I swear, nah toto sure pass... I'm straight bro.

balakbalam:
Accept who you are and be happy. Don't let the society opinion of you and your sexuality define you. You are gay and that's it. Nothing can change that, except you want to keep living in deceit and in a depressed state of mind. That's my advise.
Be who you are those nonsense advice can't help you orelse you will just be deceiving yourself; I know within yourself you are happy but could get depressed sometime it's normal; use your brain, as gay you can still get your children if you know how to do it. Do not be fooled.[color=#990000][/color]

Well said!! OP - listen to this one well.

There is nothing wrong with you but lots wrong with those who judge you, mock you, make jokes of you, and tell you all the ridiculous comments. If you want to even look from biblical perspective, God loves all his children. Jesus would not condemn you either. We all are creations of God. So, hmmmmm, think about that one moment. Long story short, love yourself and enjoy your life.

I delayed my comment so it'd have an impact, no matter how little or big. It's a real pity how our very many 'Christians' are replying here. What a good way of evangelizing bros and sisz. I'm sure you're making God proud.
Those that are telling him to get laid should reason thus: Does buying a dog make a lover of cats begin to like dogs? I doubt that. (Forgive the animal analogy if you may, I'm kinda an animal person myself). Please go and borrow some common sense.

Dear Depressed, I feel you. I really do. In more ways than you know. I admire your resolve to not let this bring you down. Ask yourself these questions tho: Does it really go? How straight is straight? Why do we keep shortening our lifespans with worry? LoL
What I do know is that no amount of praying, fasting, deliverance etc will suddenly clear it from one's system. It's a self work thing...along with the prayer etc.

I know for a fact that most homophobes have suffered homosexual abuse at one point. How I overcame this was to realize that not everyone is the same, ever. My friend says I've just been meeting the creeps. I feel we all can do something for one another, not implementing stupid laws and lynching people who need our help. I sent a request to be able to send you e-mails. Please do accept, I'd like to talk.
In the event you do find some magic drug that immediately turns one 'straight', please do alert my attention.
XOXO minus the kisses

Ellimist:
I delayed my comment so it'd have an impact, no matter how little or big. It's a real pity how our very many 'Christians' are replying here. What a good way of evangelizing bros and sisz. I'm sure you're making God proud.
Those that are telling him to get laid should reason thus: Does buying a dog make a lover of cats begin to like dogs? I doubt that. (Forgive the animal analogy if you may, I'm kinda an animal person myself). Please go and borrow some common sense.

Dear Depressed, I feel you. I really do. In more ways than you know. I admire your resolve to not let this bring you down. Ask yourself these questions tho: Does it really go? How straight is straight? Why do we keep shortening our lifespans with worry? LoL
What I do know is that no amount of praying, fasting, deliverance etc will suddenly clear it from one's system. It's a self work thing...along with the prayer etc.

I know for a fact that most homophobes have suffered homosexual abuse at one point. How I overcame this was to realize that not everyone is the same, ever. My friend says I've just been meeting the creeps. I feel we all can do something for one another, not implementing stupid laws and lynching people who need our help. I sent a request to be able to send you e-mails. Please do accept, I'd like to talk.
[b]In the event you do find some magic drug that immediately turns one 'straight', please do alert my attention.
[/b]XOXO minus the kisses

@bold...unfortunately...that magic drug does not exist. Sorry.

iamord:
my dear. Prayer works but is not the needed answer to everything. It's just like people that have been affected by genocide. There need to be rehabilitation. To help change their frame of mind and bring them back to the society. . Am not downplaying the power of prayer. Cos I believe in it. But I can also tell u that the place he may be going to may worsen issues. Cos alot of the so called pastorshave little understanding of the matter. Before embarking on a fast or whatsoever. There is need for direction. To hear from God. Else he will fast and come back a dry lanky sex starved gay . Sometimes the things we seek are closer than we think. I'll use moses as example. The power to divide the red Sea was in his hands. But he kept knocking on the door of heaven for a answer. Until God told him to use what's in his hand.. Understanding of situations is key.

Although, i can't agure with your analogy. I just never ruled out him seeking help from either a physiologist or a counselor.
Thing is the power of prayers works wonders than any human or man powered help. He could pray and fast; Also seek delivarance from the sickness,( good pastors and minsters).whilst suplementing it with a human behavioral specialist.

bigfrancis21:


@bold...unfortunately...that magic drug does not exist. Sorry.

Lol...we all know that

@depressedguy

Man, your post brought me to tears.

I wanted to tell you something, from one believer to another. I encourage you to seek the love of Christ fully in your life. Christ did not call us to be depressed, but to have joy. That you have a something you are struggling with doesn't exempt you from his love, grace and forgiveness.

You know, am not gay, but I struggle with fornication. It's hard because I know it's not right, but I constantly find myself engaging in relations outside of marriage. My sin isn't worse than yours. Our God is greater than both. Forget marriage for now, you need to focus on getting your self-esteem to the right level. What benefits a man if he has a house, good car, great job if his soul is burdened? What you need is a true experience with the savior. You need to experience the unfailing love of someone who is willing to ransom the world, give his life for you. What you struggle with, give it to him, ask him to have control in this area. You are still thinking that you are in control, but in reality maybe you should leave it at his feet. The enemy of your soul will let you to believe that you aren't ever going to gain salvation, but the devil is a lie. I wish I can tell you more, but remember that when we become Christians, we die to the old ways, and become new. Sometimes, we stand at the old dead self, and mourn and get stuck. We forget to nurture our new selves, by edifying ourselves in the word and by the encouragement of the saints.

I'll never tell you to sin, rather, I'll pray that God leads you to a body, a mentor who can hear your struggles, yet won't judge. Who will be there to pray with you and make you see that you are more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus. Regardless of the sin, Christ died for it, you were forgiven, if only you ask. You might need to ask everyday, but if you put your faith in God, he'll develop you to where you're more than that gay guy who hates himself. I believe you're more than that.

So, forget your sexuality for now. Honestly, just leave it alone. It may remain a thorn in your back forever, who knows? Seek Christ in all things, put his kingdom first and all things will be added unto you. Every desire of your heart, every purpose and design he has for you, everything that will truly make you a complete person. That's a promise, and God doesn't back away from his word. That's all.

Depressedguy:
Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide.

Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex.

This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change.

I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on.

To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed.

Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness.

I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.)

This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs.

Please help a brother...

Its a dance with the devil on your back I would say in summary.

I am gay and very religious too and celibate.

My own reason of celibacy is not because i am afraid of stds but the actual implication of sex

Everytime we sleep with another human whether male or female there is a connection that is made spiritually

Sex is a knowledge that should be shared with only one person you love. Theres a bond that forms 2

I would advise you that God loves you even the way you are. If you feel strong you should stay celibate or if you want to get married you can but I would guarantee you you will still be gay or teh last option seek to break boundaries find the guy you think you can love and would love you back unconditionally

Never language in random sexual encounters. Nothing Good would ever come from that.

Vyolet:
I do not believe anyone was born gay. You are what you feel you are.

The good thing is,you have a sense of guilt already,just try and mingle more with women. Pick one from the numerous around you,study her and get involved with her sexually if she is willing. You will get used to it with time.

dis is d problem with naija people. U don't believe people are born gay? How much of research have u done about gay people to come to dat ur hasty conclusion? I thank God am straight but sister, people are born gay.
Sorry if I sounded harsh.
.
Back to d OP,
Bro try to get help from people dat overcame being gay. And counseling too.

missclasssy:


I don't actually think the guy you quoted was wrong in using the introvert/ extrovert analogy.
I believe we heterosexuals see homosexuals the same way extroverts see introverts.

Being gay is not something you can just wake up one morning and decide to change.
It's something that has been wired into the core of your neuro-sexual construction and any form of sexual arousal or fantasy, will always be fully based on it.
You have zero attraction towards the opposite sex and no matter how hard you try to go against who you have grown up to become, you just find out that you can't change.

Heterosexuals don't just get it. We believe these people are wrong and therefore should decide to be "right" like us, not bearing in mind that it would be impossible for us to change or deviate from our sexuality if asked to.

No matter how hard a gay person tries to force himself into having a kind of sexual based attraction towards the opposite sex, that homosexuality or sexual attraction to the same sex will always remain a dominant part of the person.
I believe it's insensitive as well as wicked, for you to demand "change" from a gay person.

Its like having a fetish or a paraphilia for instance.
When you are suffering from a paraphilia or when you have a fetish, your whole sexuality is wired towards that fetish and you can't experience any form of sexual arousal except that particular fetish is involved. You might try other means to attain sexual gratification, but that fetish or paraphilia will ever remain a core part of your sexuality.
That's exactly how it is for homosexuals

Although I am not in support of homosexuality, I am definitely not of the school of thought that homosexuals need to "change"

u are right on ur own right.
U said it all, d guy dat talked about introverts and extroverts was perfectly right too. Natural homosexuality can't b changed by nurture.
Like u said, forcing dem to change is an act of cruelty but if they feel like changing then there is no stopping them.

Ekiseme:
you're the real bastard, you use to be gay and now you're bisexual, i should clap for you abi? Thunder fire you there

iraa nwoke iraa nwanyi...egbe igwe gbabgukwa gi there

am still better than u fool

Gramondhigh:

am still better than u fool

mr man,carry your vaseline move forward