omotalkie:
Why not ma dear? I am an example. I and ma huby actually started our lives in a self contain. I gave birth to our first child in a self contain. Life was not rily rosy for us then after our wedding, after one yr huby got a well paid job and we saved to purchase a land. I managed his money for him (since he's a heavy spender) and still does dat till now, after d purchase of land we still continue saving to bulid, and today we are proud owners of a four bedroom flat in Ph. We moved from dat "self contain" to our own house dis yr. In lyf u do not look at where u are, but look at where u will be, only if u remain focused without pursuing unnecessary things and trust in God. Spend wisely and above all, marry who u love & who loves u cos she can stay whereva u are as long as u are there with her also

Viciyus:


Na you be the poorest guy I don ever come across for nairaland.

Ask me how I take know?

MojAyo:
I need to knw a mans plans,aims and ambition before settling down with him,I can't settle down with a man dat dnt ve any plans for d future,so if. He got married with having money,how will there be love in d marraige,d marraige won't last o,seriously,I detest poverty

Toks2008:


And wat if he has no money at the moment to move to a self contain yet interested in settling down with you?

Would u insist he gets money at all cost to move out or you manage with him?

help3852:

Where I live a self-con is 350k per annually


God bless you

toluleke:
where if she can't i would let her go..so if i suddenly get POOR which i reject that means the home go scatter..some girls sha like say their punnay be self contain. I NOW SEE WHY SOME MEN STEAL AND DO RITUALS. PRESSURE FROM WOMEN ALONE FIT KILL

Toks2008:


The point is about availability of funds.

If the guy has money for a duplex n can sustain the rent fine n good but not that the lady must insist on getting a bigger apartmnt at all cost expecially when the children have not started coming in.

life is about planning and yes i agree that a lady who will not mind staying in even a room face me i face you is a potential home maker.

malonephill:
so because their parent are poor they should also engage themself with poor people, oga emusmith lot people don't really get the point here, I support where some babes says I will marry looking at the way he's planning for the future, some are even advocating for hardship.

pbs4real:
guy so u sef dn join the leagues of people wey dy insult others cos nah faceless forum?ma guy sit up. .

If I give u blow

Edusouls:
must u end up in a duplex,did ur mum and dad end up in a duplex? What is this madness of materialism with u girls of nowadays...

malonephill:
because have been coming to your house for stuff......?

Mind your business

zinachidi:
lol, so which country is ur lovely wife from'

2dice:

hmnn
wat of a guy with a salary btw of 70-100k.. Any hope for the dude?

Edusouls:
ok u wont,fine, please snap a picture of ur wretched fathers house lets see? Dont go and snap another fine house around u area ooo, ur type of poverty spirited girl usualy end up in face me i face u public yards...pooor girl.

emusmith:


Babies everywhere

samsonbazy:
u won't but u are presently living in face me and slap u

emusmith:


Y

InZA:



Thank you for sharing this.... Not just the bolded but the whole piece. A four bedroom flat in PH is not beans. God will continue to bless your marriage and keep it blooming

pbs4real:
sowie 2 say dis,i tink u stil gat a lot 2 learn abt life*no offence*

mulattoclaro:
Brazil.

driand:
very honest, I like that! But beware.

Blackfire:


garri soaker forming posh* yimu*

benileo007:
its hard for a girl to live with a guy in his BQ, Girls are after money and not love

Nnemuka:
No I won't.
I started from grass and I live very comfortable now, if he can't afford it then I have to pay for a bigger apartment.
Can't go back to grass days when God's grace is sufficient aalready.

Adaeze003:


Nope! It's just room kitchen and toilet...


Mehn... I aint asking for too much but self contain we can as well join resources n get a proper apartment...

Some people just wishing hardship on themselves just to look good on nl... and telling fairy tales up and down. yes, I know people who rose from grass to grace but some didn't too! It's life, that you're poor today doesn't give you license to be rich tomorrow... lets tell ourselves the truth sometimes...

If you go into such with the mindset of "self con today, duplex tomorrow" and the duplex doesn't come you will get frustrated! #fact so before you go ahead to wish yourself hardship, you better tell yourself that it may stay that way forever then if duplex comes, fine.

Lemme not forget to say that women now work(for those still living in 1914). Work and try to get the things you want biko. And if his ego is too huge that he won't let you contribute, he's adviced to use that huge ego and refuse to live in a self con as well.

mirexxx:
if i love a guy, i wont mind staying in a one room apartment with him so shut up!
you know nothing about life!

crowns2:

Well said. Its not everyone who is poor now that will be rich tomorrow. I know a relative who allowed a man to move into a single room in her father's house. This couple have been married for over 30 years and all through their years in marriage uptil this moment they are still living in that single room with grown children. Bottomline is accepting a guy who has clear visions, clear goals and he is on the path to achieving them.
For example a guy living in face me i slap you but he is writing ICAN, investing into professional courses and anything that will make him to achieve his clear set goals. Not some lazy chap wasting his youth with bad friends or in a drinking bar.

komzyb:
na work?