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Re: Dating Nigerian Men by TheSonOfMark(m): 5:57pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
cyprus000: She probably seeks effeminate men whom she'd have wrapped around her little finger By the time she's 40 she'll beg to be with us. ASK BIMBO AKINTOLA AND HALLE BERRY. WE NIGERIAN MEN DON'T TAKE POO. 1 Like |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Notyourb1tch(f): 5:58pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:I don't think she is hung up on Nigerian men. I think she is actually quite open to dating others. She clearly states in the video that it is about her personal experience with the Nigerian men she has interacted with. Truth be told her height and age is not helping matters. It can be hard trying to relate to a culture when you yourself are a product of other influences. As a 1st generation, I can relate to her wanting to date her culture but there being room for her to add other influences. Maybe she went wrong when she generalized, but there was a lot of truth in what she said. She didn't lie about the bending and the twisting that some women do just to get married either and how you are considered old after you pass 30 6 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by EfemenaXY: 6:01pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
edwife: Thank you! babyosisi: That isn't entirely true. It's unfair to categorize our men like that. Even my late father-in-law (God rest his soul) was an excellent cook and entertainer. Hubby cooks. My dad cooked. My youngest brother cooks so well, he's almost putting his sisters to "shame". Hubby cooks. All my boys cook and are well brought up (as per knowing how to treat a woman). Let's be honest here. We are what we attract. She should go search herself. 1 Like |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Notyourb1tch(f): 6:03pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:I don't believe that BS you are what you attract. If that was true, all good peeps would be together and all bad peeps will be together.Those men who cheat on their wifes. Did they ask their men to cheat on them? So they are what they attract yet they have not been cheating on their husbands. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 6:04pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: My sister virtually all my social circle is made up of Nigerians I know what I am saying There is a big difference between nigerian men married to Oyibo or AA and those married to Nigerians The ones married to Americans do a quick learning and adjustment and you wonder if na the same nigerian man I am talking huge adjustment Things we don't bother about,they will Holding doors and opening car doors etc I am yet to see a nigerian man married to a nigerian that does this on a regular basis 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Subom1(f): 6:05pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
babyosisi:As in. 1000 likes 4 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by EfemenaXY: 6:08pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
Notyourb1tch: Quit with the swearing pls. It's not necessary and I don't like it. Yes, I stand by what I posted about being you are what you attract. The whole purpose of dating is to see if you're a compatible match. Fine, she hasn't met her match so far from her limited pool of Nigerian men, but does that give her the right to generalize? Would she happily classify her father and other menfolk in her family in the same way she's downgraded majority of our men? She's in an environment where it's no big deal NOT TO GET MARRIED. So why is she going on and on and on about it? Why is she allowing her self to be hooked up with Nigerian men by her multitude of aunts / relatives? There's plenty of fish in the ocean. Let her look elsewhere na. Just because she's born of Nigerian parents doesn't mean she's got to get hitched to a Nigerian man. She says one thing but means something else. 1 Like |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 6:09pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
Let them take their American wife to a party Na dem go take off her coat Na so so "are you ok dear?" "Are you alright honey?" " everything alright love"? If na naija wife,for where,na who go ask you? And when the woman says she is not ok,he gets up and they leave,party's over If na naija wife ,who born you You leave when he decides it is time to leave Our culture can be very crude wallahi That is the problem Americans have with African men 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by EfemenaXY: 6:11pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
Notyourb1tch: I am a first generation Nigerian married to a first generation Nigerian man too. So is Babyosisi. And many others I'm sure. Re: the bolded, then why bother at all. Since her experience has been a nightmare so far, it begs the question as to why she keeps going back for more. 1 Like |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Notyourb1tch(f): 6:12pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:Lol because I said BS you are having a hissy fit about it? Like I said before, there is no such thing as you are what you attract otherwise why do some good people end up with bad people? Let's just agree to disagree okay 10 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 6:13pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: No we are not First generation nigerian Americans are our children We are immigrants Believe me sis every first generation nigerian American girl I have come across says the same exact things this girl is saying Their parents would want them to marry a nigerian And they don't want a man that is dug in his ways like their father They want a man like the boys and young men they have interacted with 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Notyourb1tch(f): 6:14pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:That's my point. I understand why as a first generation she would want to be with a first generation Nigerian man and not FOB because of the above I just stated. It seems you did not watch the video at all |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by EfemenaXY: 6:16pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
babyosisi: You'll be surprised what the lure of papers can do. If they're sooooo lovey dovey as you say, then why do many of them drop these women like hot cakes the minute they've solidified their stay in Obodo oyinbo and always go back home to get married to the real deal? Yes, most of these men turned into boy-boy houseboys will continue to swallow the shyte thrown at them till they get what they want. Let her go marry an AA man na. They'll show her pepper. At the very least, our men have strong cultural value and will not abandon their wives and kids. Their full blooded Nigerian wives and kids. It's a give and take situation. 3 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Notyourb1tch(f): 6:16pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
babyosisi:Thank you. |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by EfemenaXY: 6:18pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
Notyourb1tch: Lol @ hissy fit. Perhaps. I don't know you and you don't know me. Doesn't mean we can't be civil to each other. But yes, let's agree to disagree on that one. 1 Like |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 6:19pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: I am not talking of paper wives I am talking about marriages that have lasted a decade plus They are so polite and good mannered A naija that has been trained by Oyibo wife will make a good husband wallahi Hopefully he won't fall to his old ways 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by EfemenaXY: 6:20pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
babyosisi: Well, we (hubby and I) certainly aren't immigrants. We were born and bred here for a while before being whisked back to Naija to get some Naija values entrenched in us. Anyway, she should leave our men alone jare. They don't want her. That's why she's still searching amongst them. 2 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by EfemenaXY: 6:24pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
babyosisi: Such a man will never be happy and is just a tightly wound coil waiting to snap. A leopard can never change ALL of it's spots. What you've described is a completely watered down man with no manhood, no pride. Tell me something then sis...do such men, when they visit Naija with their Oyinbo wives and kids do all of what you've described? i.e: opening doors. Hanging her coat. Rubbing her hands so the hammattern doesn't bite her frail fingers. Polishes her shoes. Calls her "darling" even when they're having an argument. Cleans up after her. And so on and so forth? 3 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by blackpanther25(m): 6:31pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
This bish is using Nigerian men as a scape goat cause she's 6'3' ...she needs to blame her giant gene parents. 3 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by blackpanther25(m): 6:36pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:This is a Gross generalisation and I don't think you are in a position to talk for the full Nigerian male population. There are lots of Nigerian men happily married to non Nigerian women (not just whites but other Africans, AA, etc etc). Just because some men date Non-Nigerian women does not mean they have no pride and no manhood. Everyone has preferences and to be honest Nigerian Women can be something else. All am saying is stop speaking for us. Thanks 9 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by T3Amo(f): 6:43pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
blackpanther25:Why are you so harsh? |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by T3Amo(f): 6:47pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
Part 2 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6fo4EUM_0J4 I feel this was better conveyed and I get a clearer vision of what she's saying. This was a powerful video. She's very brave for putting herself out there 4 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by EfemenaXY: 6:50pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
blackpanther25: And where exactly in my post have I indicated that I'm speaking on behalf of the entire Nigerian male population? Re: the bolded - I don't think you too are in a position to speak on behalf of all Nigerian women. So stop speaking for us also. Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by EfemenaXY: 6:52pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
Anyway, I've given my opinion on this thread. Nothing else to add. #Thread unfollowed.# |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by cyprus000: 7:02pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
TheSonOfMark:true talk bro. I dont fucckin give a hoot,wat does galz beliv. I am no asslicker of any femal,both foriegn and indeginious. But I had rather go for foreign than home base,bcs most of them are uncut,mannarless,arrogant with shallow reasoning and yet,this same gals xpect boyz to come begging and crawling to date their sorry ass,while they have nothing to offer. What pains my heart the most,is the way those boyz boost their ego. 1 Like |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by cococandy(f): 7:04pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
babyosisi: I don't know why that's a funny picture to imagine. 3 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by cococandy(f): 7:07pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
babyosisi:Well then I can say My DH is an epitome of Americanized man I guess. Because he does more than all that: He even wears apron to cook (no he doesn't bake ) I'm just saying I think she generalized a bit too much. That's the problem with generalizations. They take attention away from the details and lump everyone in the same boat. But she totally right about them not liking women taller than them just like most women don't like guys shorter than them. It's a genetic thing maybe. BTW I think she's pretty 1 Like |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Subom1(f): 7:09pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
T3Amo:I completely understood where she was coming from in her first video. I kinda got a defensive feeling from her in this second one. I'm assuming she received some backlash so she was trying to clear things up. But she told no lies and she shouldn't apologize. I like her alot. She seems very strong minded and she is beautiful too. |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Dahjhi: 7:16pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
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Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Nobody: 7:19pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
I think she's got the cultural differences nailed on. To be honest, it would be difficult for a Nigerian man who has lived a greater part of his life in Nigeria, to share domestic duties with his (Nigerian) wife. After all, he paid a substantial bride price (including stuff on the 'list'); so to him the 'wifely' duties should strictly be left to the woman. 3 Likes |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by sevule(m): 7:22pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
Xiadnat: GBAM!!! You hit the nail right on the head Ma'am. I have always been attracted to strong women and I cannot imagine not getting married to one. But being a strong woman does NOT mean dropping your brain on the sidewalk. I don't buy the whole blunt thing and like you rightly said there is a time for everything. You can be naturally blunt but an indirect approach is required for certain situations. By the time she tells all the guys in her life to lose her number she would be wondering why she is still single at 60 |
Re: Dating Nigerian Men by Subom1(f): 7:35pm On Apr 25, 2015 |
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