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lynn360:
we are still on the same track, some ladies think been rude is actually shakara but it's not. A girl without good attitude is as ugly as an ape no matter how beautiful your face might be. Good you appreciate your girlfriend this much, kudos to u two

Thank you my dear,I wish you too the very best..

Go out more
Socialise
Be open
Learn to interact freely
Take care of your looks
What else??

Don't run around from one church to another seeking for divine assistance.


And embrace Christ genuinely....

holamiday:
I tried to send you an email at win992004@yahoo.com...that email addy is dead.



I read your comment on you & your fiance and i was really touched to say the least. I could feel the friendship-gone-sour air that suddenly overwhelmed your relationship just because of sex & i understand what it feels like to see your lover walk away. Quickly, i'd like to tell you something strange about men.

You see, men like submission. Every man wants his woman to totally submit to him 100%. That's just the way we are wired. We hate it when you women say a thing & expect it to stand-even when you're right. I'd use myself as an example. Often, when i demand something from my girlfriend, i never take 'no' for an answer no matter how distraught & unhappy she may be & no matter how unreasonable my request may seem. At that moment, for the most part, all i want from her is to submit to me, & then i'd lovingly grant her request & let things go her own way. The focal point is in her submission. If she wants 'a' & i want 'b', i feel better when she accepts 'b' & then i'd deliberately change my mind & allow 'a'. I never want it to be 'a' because she insisted on 'a'. I want her to bend to my will first, before i bend to hers. Men don't want to be the first to bend. I hope you get that drill.

I have a strong feeling(it's awkward though & i don't know why) that your fiance may not have slept with you if you had given in to sex. I stand to be corrected anyway. I really perceive all he wanted from you was submission. Trust me, that guy didn't leave you because you witheld sex, rather he did, because you seemed to want to dictate to him & he detested that. It's good you know this about men. It's a sure potent anaesthetic to our hearts. Men value submissive women more than anything & those women usually have more power to influence their men. Next time you fall in love, accept his request with tears, make it clear you're doing that solely for love & if he loves you, he'll deliberately let things go your way.
Play with this psychology of men & you'll be amazed at the ease it'd bring. I wish you all the best. Cheers!

Holamide thanks for your concern. Wow! Its a yahoo.co.uk. Our friendship did not go sour. On the contrary, we parted friends, him knowing that he had a special place in my heart. No, we were never engaged, but stared the relationship with that in mind. We called it quits cos he could not bear to be with me and not get down, and I too could not trust myself with him. Remember I mentioned that the attraction was mutual, and I must add very strong! Its like the case of the goat and yam, lol!. Believe me, I never would have let him out of my life, if not that what I valued most was at risk.
It wasn't a matter of battle of wills or submission. He just didn't believe that we could be together without the sex part, his opinion was that its old fashioned and extinct.

Sadly, most of our generation believe its so. See, if only we realise the value of the kingdom of GOD and its treasures, then we will understand it can't be exchanged for anything, not even for 'love', no matter the broken heart. May GOD help us.

Eze2000:
I'm a 35 yr old man also looking for my dream woman for immediate marriage. I'm desperate but careful in my search so I have looking for 4 yes now.
I've discovered 2 things. one a dream partner doesn't come ready made like we dream it, and 2 no one is perfect. But the upsetting thing is every single lady wants to marry a rich and handsome man even with so much poverty and hardship so commonplace. Funnily these rich guys and their families want to marry a lady of their own class meanwhile the guys are busy sleeping with and lying to all the other girls who want them..... consequently the 'leftover old cargos'.
An intelligent hard-working man with God's blessings and a loving supportive wife can become rich tomorrow and a rich man with all d world poor overnight.....a wise girl should bear this in mind and seek a man who will love and cherish her.
(Tall, big in build (tall), full figured and gentle natured and religious) if there exists any lady with these qualities, plus wisdom and a reasonable heart, ready for marriage then would I like to know her.
{ my BBM pin 51598DE3 / e-mail omegastar293@gmail.com}

bro, the reason you dont find any woman is because of your profession....aint you a struggling "prophet"?

micktoxin:
Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle.
Sorry, I couldnt ignore that quote.

Hmm....never tot of it dat way...makes sense..

Creamish:
Hmm....never tot of it dat way...makes sense..

It does make a lot more sense, if you think about it. Everything is context of course, as you can still twist it around .
How are you tho. Having a great day?

micktoxin:
It does make a lot more sense, if you think about it. Everything is context of course, as you can still twist it around .
How are you tho. Having a great day?

Yeah its all about context... Like a patient dog may as well b a dead dog...he'd starve to death b4 getting d fattest bone..

Iv been good and today hasn't been hella hectic as against previous days...especially last week.. U? nice DP & siggy too

Moana:
I don reach 43 and my own husband has not come to marry me yet

D Lord is yur Muscle.....yur hubby is comin Soon..

MrDojo:
D Lord is yur Muscle.....yur hubby is comin Soon..

amen my broda

Invite them to nairaland...

MRBrownJ:
bro, the reason you dont find any woman is because of your profession....aint you a struggling "prophet"?

I am also a writer and a landlord my dear.

Eze2000:
I am also a writer and a landlord my dear.

you are and thats great, but it is the "prophet" part that would scare females away. in this day and age where many are disappearing for ritual, here you are calling yourself a prophet. wouldnt you kill or butcher your wife if that was one of your vision/message from God?!

MRBrownJ:
you are and thats great, but it is the "prophet" part that would scare females away. in this day and age where many are disappearing for ritual, here you are calling yourself a prophet. wouldnt you kill or butcher your wife if that was one of your vision/message from God?!

O man! i love your ideology. I think we should be friends u and I. You see if God asked me to sacrifice my wife to him then God would be terribly old fashioned -we,re talking 5000 years out of date. Two, that would be a foolish directive because I'd surely end up in kirikiri prison and they'll lock me up and throw away the key.
My friend God is neither stupid nor obsolete in his ways. I'm certainly not so neither am I a man that does anything without a very good reason. I serve God today for a very good reason. I abandoned a promising life in the USA for a very good reason. I cut off my friends and my old life entirely, went to a book shop and bought a good bible to study, all this for a very good reason.
That 'very good reason' is not d money I may make in future but God Almighty who lives and let's live whether u love him or not.
Only worldly girls are scared off cos I'm a 'prophet' and these worldly girls are so many dat u worldly guys are complaining bitterly - isn't DAT d veiled subject of this tread? As a well rounded guy my tastes in women are high then there is d issue of spiritual purity which is why I find it so difficult getting for one. Being a man of God doesn't make me less of a man either. I long for sex and the warm love of a beautiful woman....every day- I just don't go about it d casual way as u guys and girls do.
I will not pretend to be something I'm not in other to attract a woman. if God is great and worthy to be praised he will give me a rare gem for wife and I'll be happy and work for him so gladly.
This will happen soon wanna bet?

Eze2000:
O man! i love your ideology. I think we should be friends u and I. You see if God asked me to sacrifice my wife to him then God would be terribly old fashioned -we,re talking 5000 years out of date.

how old are the words of the bible that you use TODAY to base your life upon, Mr prophet? is that not that same 5000yrs old bible that you are using today to know your rights and wrongs in this world? so you actually think you can selfishly decide to remove whatever you deem fit to disregard in this Bible?! you should take your bible for either ALL of what is written in it or NOTHING.

Two, that would be a foolish directive because I'd surely end up in kirikiri prison and they'll lock me up and throw away the key.

Didnt God asked Abraham to sacrifice his son Isaac? are you now saying that this was wrong?!

My friend God is neither stupid nor obsolete in his ways. I'm certainly not so neither am I a man that does anything without a very good reason. I serve God today for a very good reason.

if you do indeed serve God then if you have one of your "vision" that god asked you to sacrifice your wife, you would therefore do it, wouldnt you? or are you saying that you serve god only when it suits you?!

I abandoned a promising life in the USA for a very good reason. I cut off my friends and my old life entirely, went to a book shop and bought a good bible to study, all this for a very good reason.
That 'very good reason' is not d money I may make in future but God Almighty who lives and let's live whether u love him or not.

you did all these sacrifices for the "Lord" but now you are saying that you wouldnt sacrifice your wife?! come on bro!

Only worldly girls are scared off cos I'm a 'prophet' and these worldly girls are so many dat u worldly guys are complaining bitterly - isn't DAT d veiled subject of this tread?

in this day and age where every Dikc Tom and Harry claim to be prophets and use innocent people for money ritual and what not, i can fully understand why a lady (wordly or not) would be scared of you.

As a well rounded guy my tastes in women are high then there is d issue of spiritual purity which is why I find it so difficult getting for one.

so you are not simply waiting for God to send you a wife?! why dont you wait? the big man has one for you in store, just wait....

Being a man of God doesn't make me less of a man either. I long for sex and the warm love of a beautiful woman....every day- I just don't go about it d casual way as u guys and girls do.

you long for sex?! man you better wash your dirty mind with bleach then, you are failing already. look for a partner, look for a good woman, look for a companion..... sex should be as far from your mind as possible when looking for someone.... and if God sends you a woman without a toto then accept God's gift openly, and suffer in silence!

I will not pretend to be something I'm not in other to attract a woman. if God is great and worthy to be praised he will give me a rare gem for wife and I'll be happy and work for him so gladly.
This will happen soon wanna bet?

what you wrote above is the reason why you will probably always fail as a wannabe Prophet..... you are already doubting that God is great, by writing "IF God is great". so you are not even SURE about the Lord's greatness?! blasphemy!!!! on top of that, you are saying that you will be happy and work for him if/when he sends you a wife?!?!?!?!?! so until he sends you a wife, who are you gladly working for?! brotha Lucifer?!

lol, i am just fukcing with you bro....Good luck with your search!

[quote author=MRBrownJ post=33747058]how old are the words of the bible that you use TODAY to base your life upon, Mr prophet? is that not that same 5000yrs old bible that you are using today to know your rights and wrongs in this world? so you actually think you can selfishly decide to remove whatever you deem fit to disregard in this Bible?! you should take your bible for either ALL of what is written in it or NOTHING...........
Like I said we need to be friends - even despite your infuriating comments - I feel you'll make a worthyddd.
The bible is a Testimonial of God's reactions to certain past events which have strong bearings on mankind's nature and consequently tends to repeat itself over generations. the bible is meant to guide people of any period in time to know God's will or reactions to any contemporary event. I won't waste your time or mine explaining cos your only interest is in criticism. Quoting out of context, twisting words and good minded intensions are how critics turn even nice folks ljke Obama into a beast. (which is what u are doing with me now)
There are good politicians and bad ones, fake doctors and real ones, false prophets and real ones the only constant are the the peoples - the victims. You do not know me else you wouldn't be so free with words but perhaps one day you will and then you will have enough information to play judge properly.
finally I thank you so much for wishing me luck in my way. I wish you the same.

holamiday:
I tried to send you an email at win992004@yahoo.com...that email addy is dead.



I read your comment on you & your fiance and i was really touched to say the least. I could feel the friendship-gone-sour air that suddenly overwhelmed your relationship just because of sex & i understand what it feels like to see your lover walk away. Quickly, i'd like to tell you something strange about men.

You see, men like submission. Every man wants his woman to totally submit to him 100%. That's just the way we are wired. We hate it when you women say a thing & expect it to stand-even when you're right. I'd use myself as an example. Often, when i demand something from my girlfriend, i never take 'no' for an answer no matter how distraught & unhappy she may be & no matter how unreasonable my request may seem. At that moment, for the most part, all i want from her is to submit to me, & then i'd lovingly grant her request & let things go her own way. The focal point is in her submission. If she wants 'a' & i want 'b', i feel better when she accepts 'b' & then i'd deliberately change my mind & allow 'a'. I never want it to be 'a' because she insisted on 'a'. I want her to bend to my will first, before i bend to hers. Men don't want to be the first to bend. I hope you get that drill.

I have a strong feeling(it's awkward though & i don't know why) that your fiance may not have slept with you if you had given in to sex. I stand to be corrected anyway. I really perceive all he wanted from you was submission. Trust me, that guy didn't leave you because you witheld sex, rather he did, because you seemed to want to dictate to him & he detested that. It's good you know this about men. It's a sure potent anaesthetic to our hearts. Men value submissive women more than anything & those women usually have more power to influence their men. Next time you fall in love, accept his request with tears, make it clear you're doing that solely for love & if he loves you, he'll deliberately let things go your way.
Play with this psychology of men & you'll be amazed at the ease it'd bring. I wish you all the best. Cheers!

What did you just type? A woman should submit her body in tears to satisfy a dude she isn't married to & for a relationship that might not end in marriage? She should submit her body in tears against her religious conviction and sin against God? Because you the man is above God?
Smh. The way some people reason in this 2015 is scary to me.
Nobody owes another submission by virtue of your sex. Submission just like respect is earned and by proving yourself worthy. Men AND women are to submit to each other in love.
Basically treat your partner like you would want to be treated is a recipe for a peaceful life.
I can't believe you typed all that.Would you tell your daughter to submit her body in tears for a suitor to prove submission? Very weird reasoning to me but all the same stay blessed.

livialives:
What did you just type? A woman should submit her body in tears to satisfy a dude she isn't married to & for a relationship that might not end in marriage? She should submit her body in tears against her religious conviction and sin against God? Because you the man is above God?
Smh. The way some people reason in this 2015 is scary to me.
Nobody owes another submission by virtue of your sex. Submission just like respect is earned and by proving yourself worthy. Men AND women are to submit to each other in love.
Basically treat your partner like you would want to be treated is a recipe for a peaceful life.
I can't believe you typed all that.Would you tell your daughter to submit her body in tears for a suitor to prove submission? Very weird reasoning to me but all the same stay blessed.

O yes that reasoning is weird, maybe i sounded too ascertive but i guarantee, every wife needs a degree of the described quality to enjoy a happy marriage.

Stay blessed.

Eze2000:
I'm a 35 yr old man also looking for my dream woman for immediate marriage. I'm desperate but careful in my search so I have looking for 4 yes now.
I've discovered 2 things. one a dream partner doesn't come ready made like we dream it, and 2 no one is perfect. But the upsetting thing is every single lady wants to marry a rich and handsome man even with so much poverty and hardship so commonplace. Funnily these rich guys and their families want to marry a lady of their own class meanwhile the guys are busy sleeping with and lying to all the other girls who want them..... consequently the 'leftover old cargos'.
An intelligent hard-working man with God's blessings and a loving supportive wife can become rich tomorrow and a rich man with all d world poor overnight.....a wise girl should bear this in mind and seek a man who will love and cherish her.
(Tall, big in build (tall), full figured and gentle natured and religious) if there exists any lady with these qualities, plus wisdom and a reasonable heart, ready for marriage then would I like to know her.
{ my BBM pin 51598DE3 / e-mail omegastar293@gmail.com}

You have been talking to the wrong kind of ladies and searching for love, in all the wrong places.

Let God lead and direct you, please.....

But also try and remember that sincerity, transparency & respect will make a lady look beyond your lack of money and make her decide to stay with you.

Afterall, security guards and brick layers get married....and to good women, too.

The only challenge is that after a woman waits so long for a man & struggles with him to make something of his life, he usually turns around to stylishly dump such a babe, in order to marry someone else befitting of his new "status."

naijainfogalery:
From experience Church girls and decent girls suffer more in this regard why?
1. They avoid the good guys because those guys are either shy, boring or broke
2. they want you to keep begging and toasting and running after them for 2 years, gone are those days girls,
3. they think they are too holy or saint and because they think you had a bad past they wont give you a chance at all
4. most of this girls wouldnt even grant you on a date request
5. Good girls/born again girls are very rude expecially when you are showing signs of feelings, they either dont pick you calls nor return your calls, they talk to you like you bothering them, they make communication frustrating
6. They always get it twisted thinking because they are good they will get a husband but unfortunately life is not like that
7. They should stop being rigid and be more welcoming

My little cent

I could remember i started liking this decent over religious girl, she replied my messages after 3 days, when i call she mostlt doesnt pick and when she does she starts talking like someone is bothering her. I was just trying to get to know her, even though she is a special jewel, sometimes a jewel might become too expensive that it will wilther off in the store for decades, it got so annoying that though i still like her now i just totally ignored and stopped bothering her that the thing is now paining her that she deleted me from BBM cos i didnt ping her , call, text or chat her for over 6 months, i was like why pretend when you freaking feel the same way

Now she is 28 but who cares, God wont come down to answer your prayer, after they have sent out all suitors with their own hands, they will now start crying and disturbing God that one mama is doing them.

I know a lot of good girls in that same shoe, One funny thing about life is when you get to that desperate age no matter how good you are, how saint you are men would run away from you.

So ladies be wise, You need to know how to hold your self in high esteem without sending away possible suitors, until a man marries you always have a way of keeping possible suitors around in form of friendship, Be wise one of the reason why most girls also have marriage issue is over depending on a guy that has been dating them a long while without puting a ring on it, find a way to allow other guys stick around. When that guy finally dumps them after 5 years, it becomes a disaster

@bolded...summary of some of the "good girls" in naija...U said it all
Ad infinitum likes for you bro

laudate:
You have been talking to the wrong kind of ladies and searching for love, in all the wrong places.

Let God lead and direct you, please.....

But also try and remember that sincerity, transparency & respect will make a lady look beyond your lack of money and make her decide to stay with you.

Afterall, security guards and brick layers get married....and to good women, too.

The only challenge is that after a woman waits so long for a man & struggles with him to make something of his life, he usually turns around to stylishly dump such a babe, in order to marry someone else befitting of his new "status."

Your words are greatly appriciated.
Thank you.

temitemi1:
Everything in life is by GRACE...

that's true

Karma

holamiday:
I tried to send you an email at win992004@yahoo.com...that email addy is dead.



I read your comment on you & your fiance and i was really touched to say the least. I could feel the friendship-gone-sour air that suddenly overwhelmed your relationship just because of sex & i understand what it feels like to see your lover walk away. Quickly, i'd like to tell you something strange about men.

You see, men like submission. Every man wants his woman to totally submit to him 100%. That's just the way we are wired. We hate it when you women say a thing & expect it to stand-even when you're right. I'd use myself as an example. Often, when i demand something from my girlfriend, i never take 'no' for an answer no matter how distraught & unhappy she may be & no matter how unreasonable my request may seem. At that moment, for the most part, all i want from her is to submit to me, & then i'd lovingly grant her request & let things go her own way. The focal point is in her submission. If she wants 'a' & i want 'b', i feel better when she accepts 'b' & then i'd deliberately change my mind & allow 'a'. I never want it to be 'a' because she insisted on 'a'. I want her to bend to my will first, before i bend to hers. Men don't want to be the first to bend. I hope you get that drill.

I have a strong feeling(it's awkward though & i don't know why) that your fiance may not have slept with you if you had given in to sex. I stand to be corrected anyway. I really perceive all he wanted from you was submission. Trust me, that guy didn't leave you because you witheld sex, rather he did, because you seemed to want to dictate to him & he detested that. It's good you know this about men. It's a sure potent anaesthetic to our hearts. Men value submissive women more than anything & those women usually have more power to influence their men. Next time you fall in love, accept his request with tears, make it clear you're doing that solely for love & if he loves you, he'll deliberately let things go your way.
Play with this psychology of men & you'll be amazed at the ease it'd bring. I wish you all the best. Cheers!

You sound like a very egocentric person; like the world revolves around you. Your "every man" category is troubling; thankfully not every man fits into your "every man" category. I strongly suspect that your personality and mindset are the offshoots of your background. Your father probably treated your mother in the same way. So, it's natural you are re-living what you saw and experienced and have grown to accept, live out and consequently believed in as a way "every man is wired."

MrCork:
..bro...all they need to do is change color to yellow.....then we men will marry them! (No Ofense)!

Hahahahaha It is true o...I know say you nor well sha.

ayobamigbe:
You sound like a very egocentric person; like the world revolves around you. Your "every man" category is troubling; thankfully not every man fits into your "every man" category. I strongly suspect that your personality and mindset are the offshoots of your background. Your father probably treated your mother in the same way. So, it's natural you are re-living what you saw and experienced and have grown to accept, live out and consequently believed in as a way "every man is wired."

Disgusting!

Must you people always involve one's parents? Is there no other way to drive home a point? Pretending to be so cultured & insulting people stylishly.

Hian!

otiigba1:
Nigerian women can be very very very very boring, very very very selfish,very very very Demanding and very very very problematic, very very very fat,very very very pretentious and they carry a lot of baggages from their families like their parents, brothers and sisters plus cousins and aunties aĺl her folks you must carry along, just because you are married to one of their family member

u r very very very correct.

Youngpo413:
Karma

possibly

MrCork:
...correction...all men prefa lightskin females except the mechanic lookin men who lack self confident....every guy wants a lightskin female...truss me!

It's five years down the line hope u still don't have this mentality?

Cavenchy:
You know, I just thought it would be cool to chip in a few words. Some advice for the church going ladies. it could apply to both men and women but I have used the female gender in my analogy as the topic refers to them.

Work on being a true Christian Lady

Being a prayer warrior who prays only for material wealth and to fight enemies you have created through your hatred not spiritual growth doesn't make you a Christian
Being in every fellowship only for the sole reason of finding potential husbands doesn't make you a Christian
Being a choir mistress who looks down on the poor people in your group doesn't make you a Christian
Being self righteous and insulting those who God sent you to convert doesn't make you Christian. (Yes even sinners deserve pity not contempt).
Wearing long skirts and a scarf in church and fantasizing consistently about things of the flesh doesn't make you Christian.
Being obedient to your pastor but disrespectful to elders/parents including anyone who God has placed above or below you isn't being a Christian.

My point is: Being good/Christian is a thing of the heart.

When I was very little, a teacher once said to us, ''Children you have to be good, because if you are bad and you go to heaven, Jesus would have to run away from heaven. He can't live with people who are bad because you would cause trouble for Him".

Now as an Adult, it makes more sense to me, God wont let you to enter heaven if you would cause trouble for the citizens there. It wont be fair for the good people in heaven to be treated badly by the bad people who bring their bad behavior to the Kingdom. God is Love and if you can't Love your neighbor you can't Love everyone in heaven and God has already promised everyone in heaven Love.
Example: Lets say God lets you into heaven, then you see a man who used to be in ragged clothes on earth saying hi to you and you ignore him because you feel you were better than him on earth would you be fit to be in that Kingdom?
You can see now that it is all about our hearts/character.

If this is so, look at the points I raised, In Nigeria a lot of people treat God like a local diety, they only go to him to receive power to achieve their selfish interests and forget they can't live outside the Love he has given.

If it is God's will that you should get married, think about the person you are, if this God you claim to love so much gives you a husband, would your character be good for him? Would it be fair for God to give you to a just man? Would that be answering the husband's request for a good wife? God would not seem fair if he gives good things to people who would abuse them. Marriage is the sacrament of Love. If you can't show love to your neighbor where would you find it to give to your husband?

Ladies if you can grasp this simple principle I assure you, your husband would locate you in the fastest time possible. God isn't asleep (Remember Genesis 24:12), he just wants to be sure those who truly love Him get the best deal. If you have been trying to do what is right and you don't see the man forthcoming it doesn't mean God has abandoned you, he is trying to find the one who matches your qualification and that is why you must pray for those who have fallen, if God can't find a good man for you he would probably expect you to work on making them Good enough or he would bless your singlehood. But this is when you are free from blame, perfect your ways with the help of the Holy Spirit and what you desire would come freely.

''Children you have to be good, because if you are bad and you go to heaven, Jesus would have to run away from heaven. He can't live with people who are bad because you would cause trouble for Him".

lol good quote. it's well.

Send me their numbers

monsterrock:
Must they marry

it is Nigeria mentality, they look at it as achievement

Yahoo ni gbogbo wa