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MizMyColi:

@Truckpusher @rman
You two sound so impossible right now

Something is fundamentally wrong with that kind of mentality.

So, because you give to her, then she must pay you back with sex?!
It's funny how you think it's your right.

And then there are ladies who think they can play smart on a guy by magarizing him without putting nyansh for ground.
There is also the group who think that because the guy digs their farmland at his convenience, then he owes them and vice versa.
There is also the group of ladies who think that because a man gets to sex them often, then marriage is their only reward.
There is also the category who think that because they aren't having sex, then the man would be pressured into marrying them so he can done the deed

Maybe I'm even part of those who think this way, albeit unconsciously.

Like seriously, now that I think of it....it is just so stvpid and inhumane.

I should have sex with a guy who isn't my husband because I want to and I'm ready, not because I was pressured into it. And even if I mistakenly allow myself bow to the pressure....I know it's something I will regret for a looong time.

God!
What makes us different from whores then?
Dammit!

Not all of us are after your monies and wealth and rides
Some of us don't have, I mean, some of us are really struggling, but we learn to cut our coat according to our size.


This reminds me of a female friend who just gifted me 200USD.
She also bought me a wristwatch worth 30-35k in the US alone.
If she were a guy, I wonder what her prize would be for giving to me like she does.
Before everyone harps on about her having ulterior motives, I want to add that she is super rich....and sometimes I wonder what I have done for her to deserve such love and admiration.

If you have the means to better a person's life, do so because you can, don't go overboard, and don't go on afterwards thinking they owe you their bodies.

Ladies shouldn't tease their guys to a point of no return only to deny him the real ponmo when they know they are not ready.

There is a mysticism about sex, it is best pleasurable when both parties are emotionally and psychologically ready.
For some ladies, it would require that you prove to them they are worth going all the way with.
For others, they are ready when they are ready.

It's one crazy world out there.

The only way a person can lay claim to my body as his right and vice versa is if we are married... No Sane Lady Enjoys Body Counts
If the relationship ends, good and fine!
If he loved me enough, he wouldn't wanna see me become a shadow of myself for bowing to the sex pressure when it's apparent I'm not ready.
And if it can't wait....then he should go get exclusive rights on me!
Forgive me for valuing myself this much

MizMyColi:

@Truckpusher @rman
You two sound so impossible right now

Something is fundamentally wrong with that kind of mentality.

So, because you give to her, then she must pay you back with sex?!
It's funny how you think it's your right.

And then there are ladies who think they can play smart on a guy by magarizing him without putting nyansh for ground.
There is also the group who think that because the guy digs their farmland at his convenience, then he owes them and vice versa.
There is also the group of ladies who think that because a man gets to sex them often, then marriage is their only reward.
There is also the category who think that because they aren't having sex, then the man would be pressured into marrying them so he can done the deed

Maybe I'm even part of those who think this way, albeit unconsciously.

Like seriously, now that I think of it....it is just so stvpid and inhumane.

I should have sex with a guy who isn't my husband because I want to and I'm ready, not because I was pressured into it. And even if I mistakenly allow myself bow to the pressure....I know it's something I will regret for a looong time.

God!
What makes us different from whores then?
Dammit!

Not all of us are after your monies and wealth and rides
Some of us don't have, I mean, some of us are really struggling, but we learn to cut our coat according to our size.


This reminds me of a female friend who just gifted me 200USD.
She also bought me a wristwatch worth 30-35k in the US alone.
If she were a guy, I wonder what her prize would be for giving to me like she does.
Before everyone harps on about her having ulterior motives, I want to add that she is super rich....and sometimes I wonder what I have done for her to deserve such love and admiration.

If you have the means to better a person's life, do so because you can, don't go overboard, and don't go on afterwards thinking they owe you their bodies.

Ladies shouldn't tease their guys to a point of no return only to deny him the real ponmo when they know they are not ready.

There is a mysticism about sex, it is best pleasurable when both parties are emotionally and psychologically ready.
For some ladies, it would require that you prove to them they are worth going all the way with.
For others, they are ready when they are ready.

It's one crazy world out there.

The only way a person can lay claim to my body as his right and vice versa is if we are married... No Sane Lady Enjoys Body Counts
If the relationship ends, good and fine!
If he loved me enough, he wouldn't wanna see me become a shadow of myself for bowing to the sex pressure when it's apparent I'm not ready.
And if it can't wait....then he should go get exclusive rights on me!
Forgive me for valuing myself this much

hedonistic:
Another maga. The supply of mumu guys in Nigeria is almost endless.

She is saying no to sex to you and yet another guy is banging her mercilessly while you are in one lonely corner wanking away in admiration. Mumu x 10.

Bro, give us some credit here!
Would it be okay by you if by virtue of the fact that you are a guy, I go on harping about how heartless and double-dealing you are?

That's what the male folk are known for.

Take this advice Bro.
Act like you trust them until they give you reasons not to trust them.

That she says no to sex doesn't always mean someone's shinning her Congo elsewhere

Perhaps you see her relate with other guys and you think something must be going on...
I am not dismissing this, but I also know that there are some of us out there who, no matter the number if guys we relate with, know where to draw a line. The one we truly love is always before us, always on our minds.
Except they have an incurable problem with insecurity, they know that we are theirs.

We won't betray the trust our men bestow on us, albeit freely.

I know that these ladies I speak for are very minute...very few.
But I think they deserve a voice, I'm speaking up for them.

Most of us were brought up in religious homes, in very conservative ways.
We were taught that it is either you are a virgin or you are useless.

Apparently, it's a lie. There are many useful non-virgins.

However, these teachings and indoctrinations remain with us....those of us who tried to fight it by going against it are paying today....it can be mentally harrowing.
This is where mutual respect comes in.
I believe that's one of the tenets of those striving to practice true love.

Funny enough, it's not like I support manipulation though, but giving a lady the impression that you respect her and that you aren't out for her body is usually a sure fire way to get her laid in due time...


Do not try this at home.
Odikwa riskyyyy!

kinglekan:
See Speech.

Truckpusher:


Miss epistle, you obviously didn't get the message.

We've seen a lot of these girls subjecting guys to this inhumane treatment while constantly getting her self waxed by someone else and my submission is very simple - I do not get involved in dramas, lemme know exactly what is what.

Only a naive guy would run along with that arrangement ,believe me dear women are the worst people when it comes to keeping to such arrangements.
Do you know how many times we've come across women that would talk to her fiancee on phone as if she is been sleeping all day while she is right under your breath taking serious lessons?

If you dey enter jungle eh, you sef go fear women.

OK

An2elect2:
Yea! but at the end of the day i am not settling for a man "with Focus, Goals and Ambition, Responsibility" in the world's sense. That's superficial for me. Hardworking and responsible men, i appreciate but what is foremost is that he must know The Lord that i know.

I appreciate your effort and time to put this out here for us. It only shows how concerned and well meaning you are.

I will also want to say that Christian ladies should in all our doings, not keep the focus of attraction on us but on Christ. Yes and very, important we should be neat, have good carriage, be principled, be good looking, have good dress sense,etc but if we affirm and teach in all honesty that we are only God's vessels then we should remain just that.

I am overjoyed when a guy sees Christ in me more than he sees me. LOL If all he cares for is me me me, i wouldn't want to have much dealings with him. Strange? yes to worldly women but not to Christians.

We cant get people saved by "pricing" ourselves but by pointing them to Christ if we say we are Christians and care for men's souls else, we are nothing but worldlings who are only seeking praises and glory for ourselves from men through rare means.

Just seyin

Toks2008:
Unfortunately guys will only respect a no to sex from a virgin more than any other.

An2elect2:
Okay. I knew this already even before posting. The truth is that the biblical view will always supersede socio, educative or any other kind of views. That's the hard fact, sirr. Being a Christian, all my approach is scriptural based whether any body likes it or not. And of course people wouldn't like it that way but that's the only way they can be saved and i remain true to my God having clear conscience.

Thanks for the reply.


Sister calm down . This topic is not just meant for Christians alone .

sirr:
We can also tag this topic: "Saying NO to sex makes you more "Killing", or "More Valuable", or "More Classical". Etc. But that's by the way.
(Before you start, this write up is not for lazy people who can't read all through).
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I know many ladies are wondering what does this article hold or how possible this is, but let me start by letting you know that this is a "BOYS-THING", so you are not meant to understand fully, but believe me when I say, as a young man or should I say "boy" who has many friends, (the good, bad and handsome), I know things about boys and girls, and this is something about boys I think ladies don't know...
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And this is it; A "No-To-Sex" Lady is the only type of girl Guys Respect and Want the most. If I were talking to my sister, this is truth I will make her understand...
As a guy, as a man, whenever we hear a lady says "NO-to-sex" in a r-ship, we go 'GAGA' for that lady. I don't mean lesbians or girls who are forming hard to get, believe me, guys know all those tricks when ladies are forming "hard-to-get". I'm talking about single ladies hoping for a good future husband, or hoping to be appreciated more by their Bfs or guy friends. Now listen, When a guy hears a pretty and well endowed lady say "NO-to-sex till marriage", That lady only stepped up her game, and the first thing that comes to the guy's mind is "did I hear that correct?", and this is what attracts us to such ladies. (You mustn't know about this, because no Predator tells his Prey about his plans). To Reasonable guys with focus and ambition, the feeling of "SHE'S BIGGER THAN WHAT I THOUGHT" starts growing in the their minds. Mind you, 70% of guys are reasonable, they are only being greedy. (My Reason): When you portray yourself as a "Cheap" material, a guy will always want to take advantage of you, not because he wanted you totally, but because he sees another girl in you that he can make us of, maybe for the next couple of months.
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Now lemme tell you a short story about a lady friend of mine back then in the University. Her name was Susan. (BBM: The Virtuous lady)
Susan was not the most beautiful lady in campus, nor in the department, but when Susan walks, everyone stops and looks, When she comes around, everyone wants to know what she has to say, When she talks to a guy, the world sees that guy like "Obama" for the day, her composure makes most guys in the class want to say "Hi" to her, remember, she wasn't the most beautiful girl in campus, yet she was the most attractive to all of us guys, she was friendly, She was neat, when I say neat, I mean NEAT, she dressed very clean and CLASSIC, yet, guys were not able to approach her even for laughter. And why was this? She created a standard, she had a class, she made it so, and only the brains and gurus in the class could approach her for anything casual or crucial. The news alone about the neatest and highly esteemed susan with a "NO to sex" r-ship till marriage made her Queen Elizabeth of our dept.
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Now, I want to ask you ladies a question, #how many of you are using an "i-phone 6 now#, Few I guess, but tecno reaches your hand almost everyday, right?. Now that is what VALUE has caused. Ladies, its true that "Body No Be Wood", but that is why oneday, you'll get married. The truth still remains this way: A Girl is like a Product, you have to have a Class, Dignity, standard, Self respect, before you can be Attractive to EVERY GUY. Value yourself, and guys will value you.
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When you, as a lady regard yourself as someone above "Sex B4 marriage", you only place yourself above every other girl, other girls of "Boyfriend today---Fast food tomorrow----sex next tomorrow". (Believe me, boys are already used to this type of ladies and are tired of seeing them, they are only being greedy). You have to stand out from the crowd, beat the imagination of every guy about ladies and sex.
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You don't have be a "Reverend Sister" to make this happen. Be beautiful, Dress neatly, look amazing, bold and charming, you are a young lady I guess, and you'll see that "A Gold fish has no hiding Place". Look presentable and step up your life value by saying NO-to-Sex, you'll only make men fall in love with you the more. When I say "Men", I don't mean small boys with Big bodies who chase girls because of what's under the skirts. I mean "MEN", Guys with Focus, Goals and Ambition, Responsibility. Though Its unfortunate how many girls of today will throw away "CLASS for SWAG" all in the name of BIGGER BOYS IN TOWN, in 10 years time, watch where you'll be with those "Bigger boys in town".
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Now ladies, remember this, It takes a MAGNET to attract another MAGNET, you CANNOT attract a man of substance and value when you are VALUELESS. Among 100 girls, you cannot be ATTRACTIVE, or highly esteemed or regarded by Guys/Men when you are like every other girl out there, every other girl they've met before.
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To be Attractive/highly placed, you have to be different from others, matured in your dressing, clean and neat, principled, friendly, and to crown it all, be a VIRTEOUS LADY, (too classic to be slept with by any man), be ABOVE what others cannot control..."Premarital Sex". This alone makes you "Miss Independent", and nothing kills a guy FASTER than seeing a good-looking woman with Self Esteem and Regard.
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Forget what some boys will say or do when ladies are around, guys who pretend they don't care when a girl says "NO" always feel belittled by their actions, and its always worse when the lady is Good looking or very Presentable. (your dressing ALWAYS matters). Its just the fact. Guys can go crazy when they see a girl who thinks her body worth more than gold, and yes, who wouldn't want to own a "Valuable Asset", and this alone makes her more attractive, even without make ups.
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Ladies, to attract that guy or man who you think has a class beyond you, or is a king, or a "High Standard Gentleman", to make him fall on his knees wanting you to himself, OR to find a perfect R-ship where the man will value you totally, YOU MUST NOT POUT YOUR MOUTH, POUTING MAKES YOU LOOK "STUPID"(sorry to say, but this would be a topic for another day), you should be like Susan, you must be a VIRTEOUS WOMAN, good looking and principled, you must be the kind of woman every man wants.
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Now NOTE these 2 things..
1. Being ATTRACTIVE isn't about make-ups, you only look good with make ups, but when your personality is High, you become attractive. Guys will only come for you with rubbish reasons when all you have is Nice MakeUps. Your attraction catches a man's heart when you have a reputation and ego, and not your Marykay.
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2. Being a virtuous woman doesn't mean you should start dressing like -Mary Amaka, or carrying bibles left-and-right, NO, its not all that.
Being a Virtuous woman means being principled, Neat, Dressing fashionably, creating a standard, bigger than "what-any-boy-can-just-have", bigger than Sex, and believe me, NOT ONLY WILL GUYS GO 'GAGA', EVEN GOD GETS ATTRACTED TO YOU, And you know what that means!!!.
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Ladies, Make up your minds today, and step up your game,
Re-brand yourself, No guy is worth your body except your husband, except you want a ---"Time No Dey, Make We Just Marry" Husband. MAGNET ATTRACTS ONLY MAGNET and this alone has made you "More attractive",
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Too all the beautiful African Queens reading this, God bless you.

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I hope this would make front page for my other sisters to see too.

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MizMyColi:

@Truckpusher @rman
You two sound so impossible right now

Something is fundamentally wrong with that kind of mentality.

So, because you give to her, then she must pay you back with sex?!
It's funny how you think it's your right.

And then there are ladies who think they can play smart on a guy by magarizing him without putting nyansh for ground.
There is also the group who think that because the guy digs their farmland at his convenience, then he owes them and vice versa.
There is also the group of ladies who think that because a man gets to sex them often, then marriage is their only reward.
There is also the category who think that because they aren't having sex, then the man would be pressured into marrying them so he can done the deed

Maybe I'm even part of those who think this way, albeit unconsciously.

Like seriously, now that I think of it....it is just so stvpid and inhumane.

I should have sex with a guy who isn't my husband because I want to and I'm ready, not because I was pressured into it. And even if I mistakenly allow myself bow to the pressure....I know it's something I will regret for a looong time.

God!
What makes us different from whores then?
Dammit!

Not all of us are after your monies and wealth and rides
Some of us don't have, I mean, some of us are really struggling, but we learn to cut our coat according to our size.


This reminds me of a female friend who just gifted me 200USD.
She also bought me a wristwatch worth 30-35k in the US alone.
If she were a guy, I wonder what her prize would be for giving to me like she does.
Before everyone harps on about her having ulterior motives, I want to add that she is super rich....and sometimes I wonder what I have done for her to deserve such love and admiration.

If you have the means to better a person's life, do so because you can, don't go overboard, and don't go on afterwards thinking they owe you their bodies.

Ladies shouldn't tease their guys to a point of no return only to deny him the real ponmo when they know they are not ready.

There is a mysticism about sex, it is best pleasurable when both parties are emotionally and psychologically ready.
For some ladies, it would require that you prove to them they are worth going all the way with.
For others, they are ready when they are ready.

It's one crazy world out there.

The only way a person can lay claim to my body as his right and vice versa is if we are married... No Sane Lady Enjoys Body Counts
If the relationship ends, good and fine!
If he loved me enough, he wouldn't wanna see me become a shadow of myself for bowing to the sex pressure when it's apparent I'm not ready.
And if it can't wait....then he should go get exclusive rights on me!
Forgive me for valuing myself this much

whillyamz98:
Thats just the truth.... But few dudes will prefer to marry a LovePeddler because she would make a good sex partner and would not be moved to cheat cuz they've seen it all...

rsleeky:
I love this post...op u deserve a big hug....I just hope we ladies take this serious cos some will still ignore this

rman:
Well, I have been there and done that.....only un exposed pathetic losers agree to date a woman that says no sex upfront.

Until women apply the same rule to all men irrespective of class and looks, I refuse to belong to the no sex group.

This rule doesn't apply to the alpha male and you know it.

Things have changed and guys need to adapt, like Truckpusher said, smart, good looking, rich guys get away with anything they want then then some p.uss.y wipped guys will start worshipping a woman because of sexual gratification expected in the future. The irony of it all, it is men like Truckpusher and I they respect and will glady want to marry with the illusion we will remain faithful to her alone.

Unfortunately, we make the best husbands too!

OK

MizMyColi:
OK

MsBliss:
Op Thank you very much. your article just helped me in a way you won't understand. God bless you for me.

rman:
Well, I have been there and done that.....only un exposed pathetic losers agree to date a woman that says no sex upfront.

Until women apply the same rule to all men irrespective of class and looks, I refuse to belong to the no sex group.

This rule doesn't apply to the alpha male and you know it.

Things have changed and guys need to adapt, like Truckpusher said, smart, good looking, rich guys get away with anything they want then then some p.uss.y wipped guys will start worshipping a woman because of sexual gratification expected in the future. The irony of it all, it is men like Truckpusher and I they respect and will glady want to marry with the illusion we will remain faithful to her alone.

Unfortunately, we make the best husbands too!

rman:
Let's, I forget, your post actually supported our claims. You crystallised all kind of reasons women withhold sex or give sex, including your own category that assumes if he desires it hard enough, he will marry you ( a bargaining tool for marriage)

Actually, I don't see sex as a reward for doing right, I just feel something is missing if you claim you are my babe and you are not crazy enough to want to f.u.ck my brains out.

UjSizzle:
I don't think I will ever understand the craze surrounding this sex talk.
If you want to have sex with a guy, biko do just for the sake of it and not because you want marriage or whatever the hell else there is to be bought with sex.

If you don't want sex, then biko don't for whatever reason you have-- morality, religion, self-interest, revirginization, or just because.

Then again, I get the impression this relationship thing is a game. You play your cards right and get what you want. You don't, and you may completely lose out.
And even when you don't want to treat it like a game someone out there thinks you are

Messed up.

Truckpusher:
Ha! See great minds.

Uj kom kom.
Odikwa risky o.

Nellypy:
Kudos to this gentleman. I appreciate this write up.

UjSizzle:
Biko Truckie hapu'm

And why are you always on threads like this eh?

UjSizzle:
And even when you don't want to treat it like a game someone out there thinks you are

Messed up.