Someone will just sit down and start thinking of how to spoil market for his fellow men simply because he does not like what they indulge in..

@ op I need to lay you down and flog you thoroughly...


Anyway this will only bother guys who does not know what they want sha....

To me,own have always been(if you know it going to happen,let it happen now,because I might marry a no SEX lady and divorce her three days after the weeding..that me for you..to let you know that you are not smart enough

And how does my saying no to sex add mary Kay to my face

Hmmm...

I wish the ladies could refrain too

You are right Op, but take note, instead of saying NO to sex, why don't you just forget about relationship till you're ready for marriage?! You just claimed to have lost three relationships and still looking for another, what for?! stay there when someone dey hammer your own future for somewhere, it's your type that later complains of premature ejaculation after marriage why?! Cos you are a woman freak

misreal:
this is the best thread I have seen on nairaland so far. I really wish I could push this thread to front page.op,nowadays its ladies that are even interested in sex not guys.I am a no no no kissing guy tLkess of sex guy.that's why the girl I wanted to marry left me because she coudnt cope in a no sex relationship.

Hehehehe brother calm down. U dnt tell us who you are and this is actually your format for catching your preys. Breeze haf blow fowl yansh haf open

What of ladies that have already slept with countless guys in the past. So they should start saying no to guys they are just meeting. No sense in that. Once u re not a virgin and you tell me no sex, then I assume u re a big Joker.

Advice, once you have done it before just keep on doing it.

No it doesn't...

But come to think of it, why the hype about sex? If you're an adult, and consent to it, then there's nothing wrong with it. Jeez it's people like these that make it seem so despicable whereas it's just an act.
My sisters in the house, if a man loves you and wants to wife you, having sex with him or not will not change his mind, and vice versa.
I've seen lots of sisters turn down guys who ask them for sex and end up single at 40, likewise, I've seen sisters who have been having sex since their teens get married in their early and mid 20s...

Life is not black and white: that abstinence worked for Joan does not mean it will work for Jane. Find what works for you and stick with it.

Op ur speaking for urself mehn...

Why do i sense so much lies, pretense and hypocricy on this thread

Why do i sense so much lies, pretense and hypocricy on this threadv

[center]Mr. Op go and write term paper 4 lecturer, u no go fit. Bt u sabi wast ur tym type jargons on NL[/center]

sirr:
We can also tag this topic: "Saying NO to sex makes you more "Killing", or "More Valuable", or "More Classical". Etc. But that's by the way.
(Before you start, this write up is not for lazy people who can't read all through).
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I know many ladies are wondering what does this article hold or how possible this is, but let me start by letting you know that this is a "BOYS-THING", so you are not meant to understand fully, but believe me when I say, as a young man or should I say "boy" who has many friends, (the good, bad and handsome), I know things about boys and girls, and this is something about boys I think ladies don't know...
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And this is it; A "No-To-Sex" Lady is the only type of girl Guys Respect and Want the most. If I were talking to my sister, this is truth I will make her understand...
As a guy, as a man, whenever we hear a lady says "NO-to-sex" in a r-ship, we go 'GAGA' for that lady. I don't mean lesbians or girls who are forming hard to get, believe me, guys know all those tricks when ladies are forming "hard-to-get". I'm talking about single ladies hoping for a good future husband, or hoping to be appreciated more by their Bfs or guy friends. Now listen, When a guy hears a pretty and well endowed lady say "NO-to-sex till marriage", That lady only stepped up her game, and the first thing that comes to the guy's mind is "did I hear that correct?", and this is what attracts us to such ladies. (You mustn't know about this, because no Predator tells his Prey about his plans). To Reasonable guys with focus and ambition, the feeling of "SHE'S BIGGER THAN WHAT I THOUGHT" starts growing in the their minds. Mind you, 70% of guys are reasonable, they are only being greedy. (My Reason): When you portray yourself as a "Cheap" material, a guy will always want to take advantage of you, not because he wanted you totally, but because he sees another girl in you that he can make us of, maybe for the next couple of months.
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Now lemme tell you a short story about a lady friend of mine back then in the University. Her name was Susan. (BBM: The Virtuous lady)
Susan was not the most beautiful lady in campus, nor in the department, but when Susan walks, everyone stops and looks, When she comes around, everyone wants to know what she has to say, When she talks to a guy, the world sees that guy like "Obama" for the day, her composure makes most guys in the class want to say "Hi" to her, remember, she wasn't the most beautiful girl in campus, yet she was the most attractive to all of us guys, she was friendly, She was neat, when I say neat, I mean NEAT, she dressed very clean and CLASSIC, yet, guys were not able to approach her even for laughter. And why was this? She created a standard, she had a class, she made it so, and only the brains and gurus in the class could approach her for anything casual or crucial. The news alone about the neatest and highly esteemed susan with a "NO to sex" r-ship till marriage made her Queen Elizabeth of our dept.
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Now, I want to ask you ladies a question, #how many of you are using an "i-phone 6 now#, Few I guess, but tecno reaches your hand almost everyday, right?. Now that is what VALUE has caused. Ladies, its true that "Body No Be Wood", but that is why oneday, you'll get married. The truth still remains this way: A Girl is like a Product, you have to have a Class, Dignity, standard, Self respect, before you can be Attractive to EVERY GUY. Value yourself, and guys will value you.
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When you, as a lady regard yourself as someone above "Sex B4 marriage", you only place yourself above every other girl, other girls of "Boyfriend today---Fast food tomorrow----sex next tomorrow". (Believe me, boys are already used to this type of ladies and are tired of seeing them, they are only being greedy). You have to stand out from the crowd, beat the imagination of every guy about ladies and sex.
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You don't have be a "Reverend Sister" to make this happen. Be beautiful, Dress neatly, look amazing, bold and charming, you are a young lady I guess, and you'll see that "A Gold fish has no hiding Place". Look presentable and step up your life value by saying NO-to-Sex, you'll only make men fall in love with you the more. When I say "Men", I don't mean small boys with Big bodies who chase girls because of what's under the skirts. I mean "MEN", Guys with Focus, Goals and Ambition, Responsibility. Though Its unfortunate how many girls of today will throw away "CLASS for SWAG" all in the name of BIGGER BOYS IN TOWN, in 10 years time, watch where you'll be with those "Bigger boys in town".
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Now ladies, remember this, It takes a MAGNET to attract another MAGNET, you CANNOT attract a man of substance and value when you are VALUELESS. Among 100 girls, you cannot be ATTRACTIVE, or highly esteemed or regarded by Guys/Men when you are like every other girl out there, every other girl they've met before.
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To be Attractive/highly placed, you have to be different from others, matured in your dressing, clean and neat, principled, friendly, and to crown it all, be a VIRTEOUS LADY, (too classic to be slept with by any man), be ABOVE what others cannot control..."Premarital Sex". This alone makes you "Miss Independent", and nothing kills a guy FASTER than seeing a good-looking woman with Self Esteem and Regard.
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Forget what some boys will say or do when ladies are around, guys who pretend they don't care when a girl says "NO" always feel belittled by their actions, and its always worse when the lady is Good looking or very Presentable. (your dressing ALWAYS matters). Its just the fact. Guys can go crazy when they see a girl who thinks her body worth more than gold, and yes, who wouldn't want to own a "Valuable Asset", and this alone makes her more attractive, even without make ups.
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Ladies, to attract that guy or man who you think has a class beyond you, or is a king, or a "High Standard Gentleman", to make him fall on his knees wanting you to himself, OR to find a perfect R-ship where the man will value you totally, YOU MUST NOT POUT YOUR MOUTH, POUTING MAKES YOU LOOK "STUPID"(sorry to say, but this would be a topic for another day), you should be like Susan, you must be a VIRTEOUS WOMAN, good looking and principled, you must be the kind of woman every man wants.
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Now NOTE these 2 things..
1. Being ATTRACTIVE isn't about make-ups, you only look good with make ups, but when your personality is High, you become attractive. Guys will only come for you with rubbish reasons when all you have is Nice MakeUps. Your attraction catches a man's heart when you have a reputation and ego, and not your Marykay.
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2. Being a virtuous woman doesn't mean you should start dressing like -Mary Amaka, or carrying bibles left-and-right, NO, its not all that.
Being a Virtuous woman means being principled, Neat, Dressing fashionably, creating a standard, bigger than "what-any-boy-can-just-have", bigger than Sex, and believe me, NOT ONLY WILL GUYS GO 'GAGA', EVEN GOD GETS ATTRACTED TO YOU, And you know what that means!!!.
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Ladies, Make up your minds today, and step up your game,
Re-brand yourself, No guy is worth your body except your husband, except you want a ---"Time No Dey, Make We Just Marry" Husband. MAGNET ATTRACTS ONLY MAGNET and this alone has made you "More attractive",
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Too all the beautiful African Queens reading this, God bless you.

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I hope this would make front page for my other sisters to see too.

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Well, everyone is different. I have never placed much emphasis on sex since I started dating. I could make a lady enjoy it but truth be told, that's where it ends for me never attached to it. Whether you say no or yes to sex, just learn how to co-ordinate your disposition in order not to mar whatever values I may have for you as a lady. I have only met two ladies whom I respect and it's not because of sex.

I have ended relationships that sex wasn't involved. Why? Simply attitude. That's the only thing that can make me respect a woman. So bro, safe all these epistle for guys who worship sex. I don't!

If a lady like say no sex till marriage, I could agree easily to that term but if your attitude stinks so much, be very sure to get a red card from me and I will tell that lady to get out of my life, especially if she has nothing to offer or values to contribute, or something valuable I could learn from her.

The earlier you guys stop attaching much importance to sex, the better for your wellbeing.

In essence, I will not be attracted to lady because she says no to sex... never had, never will. Besides those how give in to the sex are less of a headache than those who don't, majority I suppose and that's my experience.

kaydguru:
What of ladies that have already slept with countless guys in the past. So they should start saying no to guys they are just meeting. No sense in that. Once u re not a virgin and you tell me no sex, then I assume u re a big Joker.

Advice, once you have done it before just keep on doing it.

Broda yu aff kee me wit laff oooooo

kevinberry:
Someone will just sit down and start thinking of how to spoil market for his fellow men simply because he does not like what they indulge in..

@ op I need to lay you down and flog you thoroughly...


Anyway this will only bother guys who does not know what they want sha....

To me,own have always been(if you know it going to happen,let it happen now,because I might marry a no SEX lady and divorce her three days after the weeding..that me for you..to let you know that you are not smart enough

Brother truth be told, yu too harsh ......hahahhhahhahahah

An2elect2:


Okay. I knew this already even before posting. The truth is that the biblical view will always supersede socio, educative or any other kind of views. That's the hard fact, sirr. Being a Christian, all my approach is scriptural based whether any body likes it or not. And of course people wouldn't like it that way but that's the only way they can be saved and i remain true to my God having clear conscience.

Thanks for the reply.

ImpreSsive! You seem quite granded biblically and christically enthusianstic...I have twin questions if I may ask out of curiosity...

1. I curiosly checked in your profile and saw half your breast

Is there a typical dress code endorsed by the christ ?


2. You said you would most certainly audience a guy whose perspective about you is of religion than mere descency..

What would that be in you?

Just curious this is not argument driven..

Say No to sEx.

Say No to Mr Biggs. :p

Say No to Shopping.

Why are you revealing our secret here?

2sex:


Well, everyone is different. I have never placed much emphasis on sex since I started dating. I could make a lady enjoy it but truth be told, that's where it ends for me never attached to it. Whether you say no or yes to sex, just learn how to co-ordinate your disposition in order not to mar whatever values I may have for you as a lady. I have only met two ladies whom I respect and it's not because of sex.

I have ended relationships that sex wasn't involved. Why? Simply attitude. That's the only thing that can make me respect a woman. So bro, safe all these epistle for guys who worship sex. I don't!

If a lady like say no sex till marriage, I could agree easily to that term but if your attitude stinks so much, be very sure to get a red card from me and I will tell that lady to get out of my life, especially if she has nothing to offer or values to contribute, or something valuable I could learn from her.

The earlier you guys stop attaching much importance to sex, the better for your wellbeing.

In essence, I will not be attracted to lady because she says no to sex... never had, never will. Besides those how give in to the sex are less of a headache than those who don't, majority I suppose and that's my experience.

you made sense... I wonder why all the emphasis on sex that is everywhere, What happens after she finally gives u the hallowed v on the wed night? Will you go to heaven... no I guess, more likely you will snap back to reality and evaluate your options.. sex is actually a test if u succeed in getting through, the best time to know whether you actually like the babe is after..lol... anyway, some people don't actually give in because their hearts are cold and locked up ... just saying

all4naija:
I can see that all the girls that like the OP are ugly!

Exactly what I observed too.
They had no opportunity so they are using chastity as an excuse.

dumodust:

you made sense... I wonder why all the emphasis on sex that is everywhere, What happens after she finally gives u the hallowed v on the wed night? Will you go to heaven... no I guess, more likely you will snap back to reality and evaluate your options.. sex is actually a test if u succeed in getting through, the best time to know whether you actually like the babe is after..lol... anyway, some people don't actually give in because their hearts are cold and locked up ... just saying

True... at the emboldened. Now imagine a lady who say no to sex but runs her mouth like tap... she is rude, all she thinks about is her looks, hair and how you/any guy could take her out... a complete empty barrel that is lacking substance. what can you do with such a lady?

An2elect2:
Yea! but at the end of the day i am not settling for a man "with Focus, Goals and Ambition, Responsibility" in the world's sense. That's superficial for me. Hardworking and responsible men, i appreciate but what is foremost is that he must know The Lord that i know.

I appreciate your effort and time to put this out here for us. It only shows how concerned and well meaning you are.

I will also want to say that Christian ladies should in all our doings, not keep the focus of attraction on us but on Christ. Yes and very, important we should be neat, have good carriage, be principled, be good looking, have good dress sense,etc but if we affirm and teach in all honesty that we are only God's vessels then we should remain just that.

I am overjoyed when a guy sees Christ in me more than he sees me. LOL If all he cares for is me me me, i wouldn't want to have much dealings with him. Strange? yes to worldly women but not to Christians.

We cant get people saved by "pricing" ourselves but by pointing them to Christ if we say we are Christians and care for men's souls else, we are nothing but worldlings who are only seeking praises and glory for ourselves from men through rare means.

Just seyin

My ANGER iz dat dese kind of gals may nt b in existence wen am ready 2 marry, considering wat dis world is turnin into!
More power 2 ur elbow dear! I luv ur perspective!

A Lady's Heart should be So Kept in God's Hand that No Man will be able to Reach Her without Seeking God First...

Op stop wasting your time. You can't predict human behavior. Some girls lost the men they love because of no to sex. Some even got raped. Some girls are happily married today because they willingly gave sex. Mind you a good number of guys believe that any girl that says no to sex in a relationship is doing it secretly with somebody else.
The best thing is to stay out of relationships till you are ready for marriage.

CC: sirr

An2elect2:


Okay. I knew this already even before posting. The truth is that the biblical view will always supersede socio, educative or any other kind of views. That's the hard fact, sirr. Being a Christian, all my approach is scriptural based whether any body likes it or not. And of course people wouldn't like it that way but that's the only way they can be saved and i remain true to my God having clear conscience.

Thanks for the reply.

Well this is a platform for people of different religious backgrounds, differemt cultures &believes.
I believe the op considers that this is not a Christians' call-to-conversion thread, hence for the sake of our Muslim brothers, and people of other believes, its more effective to approach this topic from a moral,ethical,psychological and otherwise point of view rather than biblical. This makes it possible for every one to effectively& more logically relate with the message. Its not as though he is shying away from biblical references. Though thankfully, both the Qur'an & Bible take the same stand on premarital sex. But we are not addressing women of just these Two believes.
I sense your strong believe and passion for Christ and i must say that it is quite admirable.
But imagine a dedicated &devote Muslim for instance, who has as strong a passion for Islam as you have for Christianity. Dont you think such person would feel that the Qur'an's view supersedes any other view too? He/she has every reason& right to.
What are the chances of you making such a person believe otherwise? Rather you stand the risk of incurring his/her resentment which makes the aim of the thread defeated since he may percieve you as a faithful of another religion trying to undermine his,which he holds so dearly. I say this because of what you said & I quote u:
"That's the hard fact, sirr. Being a Christian, all my approach is scriptural based whether any body likes it or not."
The above lines seem to carry with them an air of bigotry. But I stand to be corrected.
I fear that this approach which you subscribe to would have far less reach & impact than the op's approach which seems to accomodate virtually any well meaning & rational thinking individual irrespective of his/her cultural background or religious affiliation. So if you & the op were to address a secular crowd of female youths with the aim of sensitizing them on the above topic, I imagine who would gain more converts.
I'm a Christian & there is no need to be hypocritical about the fact that I'm clearly less likely to go on reading an article if i notice so many quotations from the Qur'an. This is simply because of the feeling that I may not gain an adequate understanding of its meaning and more so, the possibilty of a contradictory teaching to my faith may discourage me as well.
As I said earlier, if the topic was "call to Christian conversion", then it would have been a different case altogether. But this is a "Say-No-to-sex" thread for the ladies. He made very valid points & I believe that he has not only inspired a lot of religious people, who's scriptural guidance further reinforces his message, but has most likely also touched the lives of many agnostics & atheists out there who would normally only relate to plausible reasoning& logic.

cutieberie1:
nice one sirr say NO to sex b4 marriage protect the future,it's in our hands

Yes ooooo

misscastle:
Sensible post.

Excertly!