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CaptainOjemba:
He he saying the truth, imagine yoruba men are are peddling rumour using osun defender to tarnish the image of the Igbos n tomorrow onemofo will say he wnts to marry Igbo babe

I know you know that inter tribal marriages between Igbos and Yorubas are the exceptions and not the norm. However, this is not 1967 this is 2015. A lot of people (you included) need to catch up with the times. You are being left behind in the last century.

omojoshy:
This has been an Age-long battle shortly after the Civil war and the dust is yet to settle till today

Awolowo (A yoruba man) was accused of supporting Gowon (Hausa man) @ the detriment of Ojukwu (An Igbo man)

Ironically, Awolowo and Ojukwu are no more but their generation are now dancing to music played by the two late Icons.

To cry out loud, when shall we start seeing our selves as NIGERIANS?!

It's just a matter of time, things would return to normalcy. After all, 50 years ago, nobody believed a BLACK man could become American President

Blacks were not even allowed to cast votes let alone being voted for

Time heals wound....

There is nothing like Nigeria just a geographical expression. If u say Africa then u might just be making sense.

We are Nigerians wen it comes to fuc.king our girls but flat head igbos, wen it comes to voting and even threaten to kill all igbo and dump them in lagos lagoon.

U people suck.

Don't marry her! Marry from your tribe. Igbo's don't want their bloodline tainted and they prefer the water from the Niger and not the lagoon.

midolian:
First of all..Ask yaself these questions again. Are u sure u truly luv her? I mean do you know her truly and deeply? This is because igbo grls know how to show men love o!(They may even be pretending)..if they show u five minutes luv, you ll begin to make promises you can't fulfil like mtn.."Baby, I ll buy u aeroplane","I will build aso rock for you","I will do this and that"..
[size=1pt]Buh na money kill am ooo[/size]

backtosender:

but yoruba men cannot take thier dirty lys off igbo women huh?maybe their ugly women are not diluted enough for yoruba men thats why they can do juju with their last penny just to talk to igbo women

Wicked...

backtosender:
That is unbelivable!i belive you must have force yourself on him but you look igbo maybe thats why he accept you

loooool, I don laugh taya, OK ooooo, whatever rocks your boat but seriously you should try to expand your view.

People are afraid of what they are not familiar with and most tribalists are people who haven't interacted intertribally. They have lived and are stuck in their small cycle of myopia fearing to really understand what is going on outside their little enclave.

I was priviledged to spend some years in the east and mingle with Igbo's. That's probably why I am not so myopic and don't share the views of most people on this thread.

What people have forgotten is that before tribe or anything else, we are all humans and we should at least treat and respect each other as such and maybe tribe wouldn't factor in the equation anymore.

waternogetemeny:
While the yorubas are busy disrespectin their women and playing beggars to the igbos, their gorgeous women are slowly stepping like repogirl.

I just love this round world. Marriage between Yoruba and Igbo is for well off yoruba men not the poor. No Problem.

@back2sender, i think she might be mixed.

lol, Actually my mom is Ijaw but I took after my dad anyway.

waternogetemeny:
While the yorubas are busy disrespectin their women and playing beggars to the igbos, their gorgeous women are slowly stepping like repogirl.

I just love this round world. Marriage between Yoruba and Igbo is for well off yoruba men not the poor. No Problem.

@back2sender, i think she might be mixed.

She look mixed

unstableaswater:
We know nairaland is owned by a yoruba man, but dis is old and have stop selling, come with something new. Since 2009, this line is dead already.

But people(igbo/yoruba) still dey marry since 2009.

Well, as much as I don't like inter-marriage,we have to accept that things are/and have changed. Its no longer a thing of pride to stay loyal to your kins men, Nigerian women are all looking for husbands and they'd take anyone that comes now.

I'd always advise that people should marry from their tribe or at most,their region and neighbouring ethnicity for better cultural and traditional understanding.

Quality is a thing that cannot stay hidden and for some reason Igbo girls seem to be at the mention of most wanted marital-wise.

To me, Igbo guys have taste ,its no wonder they hardly look outside their region and hence tribe,because they see that the quality lies within,why look else where, Yoruba guys seem to be at the rising of every ethnicity because they accept anything and anyone

I hate to say this but, I don't like igbo girls marrying non-igbo. {{{Quality Depletion}}}

Tribal Disloyalty ,un patriotism and carelessness to marital justice are what this Igbos marrying non -igbos are to me.

F•ck you if you think I'm sentimental and bigoted. We all are in this f^cked up corpse of a country we all drive fictitious preach for unity and oneness . We are not one, we are not the same. Deal with it and stick to your moderf•cking tribe.

You guys are just being foolish and one sided . . . I thougth it takes two to tango . . . 2 ppl make a couple . . . . Why is it that igbo girls can't just resist yoruba guys, why is it that they find it hard to say "NO" when they are being wooed or proposed to?? . . . . Is it that Yoruba guys are too sweet or what?

LOL! Igbo guys, don't be angry. It is not our fault that your girls like us Igbo girls are not as tribal as their men.

PreciousBro:
Well, as much as I don't like inter-marriage,we have to accept that things are/and have changed. Its no longer a thing of pride to stay loyal to your kins men, Nigerian women are all looking for husbands and they'd take anyone that comes now.

I'd always advise that people should marry from their tribe or at most,their region and neighbouring ethnicity for better cultural and traditional understanding.

Quality is a thing that cannot stay hidden and for some reason Igbo girls seem to be at the mention of most wanted marital-wise.

To me, Igbo guys have taste ,its no wonder they hardly look outside their region and hence tribe,because they see that the quality lies within,why look else where, Yoruba guys seem to be at the rising of every ethnicity because they accept anything and anyone

I hate to say this but, I don't like igbo girls marrying non-igbo. {{{Quality Depletion}}}

Tribal Disloyalty ,un patriotism and carelessness to marital justice are what this Igbos marrying non -igbos are to me.

F•ck you if you think I'm sentimental and bigoted. We all are in this f^cked up corpse of a country we all drive fictitious preach for unity and oneness . We are not one, we are not the same. Deal with it and stick to your moderf•cking tribe.

You are just in denial. Alpha males get all the women from Badagry to Moscow to Afghanistan. Lesser males pick the lowest hanging fruit from their backyard. Let that marinate in your skull.

mesoade:
You guys are just being foolish and one sided . . . I thougth it takes two to tango . . . 2 ppl make a couple . . . . Why is it that igbo girls can't just resist yoruba guys, why is it that they find it hard to say "NO" when they are being wooed or proposed to?? . . . . Is it that Yoruba guys are too sweet or what?

I love this.
Yoruba dude be taken ibo woman right,left and and center while the lazy ones/ibo bois are on here shouting,lamenting our sister our sister

The yoruba guys that marry igbo girls,marries the igbo girls that they meet in southwest,not going to the southeast to seek for them . . . But wait o,why is it that igbo girls are running from southeast,is it because their men are arrogant,lazy,and poor? . . Why is it that the girls coms to southwest hoping to be married by a yoruba guy(where chance of marrying yoruba to igbo is 85%:15% ) ?? . . Is it because yoruba guys are that much attractive?

Lalasticlala, you no try at all.
Your thread title is even divisive. What is the "but" for? "And" would have been a very appropriate conjunction.

Also, you or your friend making this inquiry is just being mischievous and plain unserious. I guess the thread has served its purpose, to bash, insult and program insult against the Yoruba.

Keep it up.

backtosender:
born in yoruba land mean nothing you must have use juju one her there is no way she will go for a yoruba man trust me

Funny you. Use juju for girls? That is classless to me. You must be living your life on juju for you to be firm on this ludicrous view. Have you gone to tertiary institution before? We have so many inter-tribal relationships which leads to marriage. I showed her true and genuine love which cleared all doubts in her mind and we are happy together. Many of your sisters are going for yoruba guys because they notice they are not over-possessive and full of ego like you guys. When i listened to stories of how some igbo guys woo their gfs , most are very ridiculous.

NL ibo dudes, I sorry for una oo
Make una siddon there they lament, make una allow yoruba dude take all of una woman finish.
Una eyes go clear

You niggars better work hard else?
Nntoor

Chai!why are these igbo men typing rubbish on this thread, hmm,i see why most of your sisters especially the ones living in West prefers to marry Yoruba guys, they are open minded, fun loving and very accommodating which is opposite of you ibos, anyway, op,go for it. PS: Yoruba girls are homely, religious and beautiful, have got some as in laws and friends and they are simply the best

FrancisTony:
Is the man a muslim or christian?
I haven't seen a christian yoruba man marrying a second wife and most times, the muslim ones don't venture into polygamy when they marry a Christian woman.

My advice; they should follow their heart not people's own.

Say what?
They are very polygamous and it is very acceptable in their culture
Christians and Muslims
Having babies outside of wedlock is not a big deal in the Yoruba culture
It is uncommon to see a Yoruba person that doesn't have step brothers and sisters ,Christians and Muslims
Their wives and parents will even sew asho ebi and follow for the naming ceremony of the mistress' baby
Infact a mistress who conceives and bears a child automatically becomes equivalent to a wife and can claim inheritance ask any Yoruba person if that is a lie
There is a huge cultural difference between Igbos and Yorubas with regards to marriage and family and any Igbo girl marrying Yoruba should be fully informed of these differences .
Not saying every Yoruba man must end up polygamous but it is not a big deal for them
It is normal for a Yoruba man to keep mistresses and conceive babies by the mistresses and his family and wives are fully aware
Igbo girls marrying into the Yoruba culture ought to sit and have these candid discussions with the man
Observe his family and see if his father and uncles didn't do the things I just described then you know he is likely not to

thotsofnaij:
Don't marry her! Marry from your tribe. Igbo's don't want their bloodline tainted and they prefer the water from the Niger and not the lagoon.

keep shouting "our sisters" . . When yoruba guys are busy "effing" them.

repogirl:
loooooool, interesting! They force themselves on Igbo men, wooow, this is interesting. Frank043 needs to read this.

I guess I forced myself on my husband abi? Even if I did, he sure isn't complaining.

Nobody is forcing him or herself on anybody! A man/woman from a particular tribe normally go for the other tribe cos they saw something very exemplary in them,PERIOD!! There is absolutely no fallacy to this statement. I have 'friends'(I can roughly count 12 of them right now) that married to other tribes,they saw very good qualities in their partners that they didn't see in their own tribes person,and to cap it up,they are doing pretty well than couples from same tribe. There is more record of misunderstanding among couples from same tribe than couples from different tribes. As for me,I don't care the tribe so long as the individual is a CHRISTIAN with jaw-dropping qualities that I seek in a partner. I won't cos of empathy(or tribal sentiments) settle for someone from a same tribe,knowing fully well that the person will finish me off. I aint in for that dead end deal!!! My life...my choices. REPOGIRL take note. Been a while...You just shut me outta your world.

babyosisi:
Say what?
They are very polygamous and it is very acceptable in their culture
Christians and Muslims
Having babies outside of wedlock is not a big deal in the Yoruba culture
Their wives and parents will even sew asho ebi and follow for the naming ceremony
Infact a mistress who conceives and bears a child automatically becomes equivalent to a wife and can claim inheritance ask any Yoruba person if that is a lie
There is a huge cultural difference between Igbos and Yorubas with regards to marriage and family.

Seems ibo girls ain't complaining after all.

How about that you daughter ?


We need more:

Chimma bamidele
Kwukoze kolawole

Chindima olabisi

babyosisi:
Say what?
They are very polygamous and it is very acceptable in their culture
Christians and Muslims
Having babies outside of wedlock is not a big deal in the Yoruba culture
Their wives and parents will even sew asho ebi and follow for the naming ceremony
Infact a mistress who conceives and bears a child automatically becomes equivalent to a wife and can claim inheritance ask any Yoruba person if that is a lie
There is a huge cultural difference between Igbos and Yorubas with regards to marriage and family.

IT IS A LIE . . Aso ebi for naming ceremony . . .and who told you child out of wedlock is no big deal . . . . . Oh sorry!,it's like you're referring to the Yoruba people of benin republic.

Please we are opposing anything yoruba in our bloodline we are not the same, both in looks,body shape,skin tune,and most impotantly we dont bleach our skins that make yoruba women face yellow like fanta couple with black spots all over her hands and face. please igbos are too refined there is no comparism.

babyosisi:
Say what?
They are very polygamous and it is very acceptable in their culture
Christians and Muslims
Having babies outside of wedlock is not a big deal in the Yoruba culture
It is uncommon to see a Yoruba person that doesn't have step brothers and sisters ,Christians and Muslims
Their wives and parents will even sew asho ebi and follow for the naming ceremony of the mistress' baby
Infact a mistress who conceives and bears a child automatically becomes equivalent to a wife and can claim inheritance ask any Yoruba person if that is a lie
There is a huge cultural difference between Igbos and Yorubas with regards to marriage and family and any Igbo girl marrying Yoruba should be fully informed of these differences .
Not saying every Yoruba man must end up polygamous but it is not a big deal for them
It is normal for a Yoruba man to keep mistresses and conceive babies by the mistresses and his family and wives are fully aware
Igbo girls marrying into the Yoruba culture ought to sit and have these candid discussions with the man
Observe his family and see if his father and uncles didn't do the things I just described then you know he is likely not to

You are the wise one

Kachisbarbie:
What does he want to hear?

We are all humans, irrespective of race, tribe... whatever.
Marriages between igbos and yorubas is on the rise these days. Personally, I love it, the fusion of two different culture, platform/opportunity to learn a new language is enviable.

I don't think ethnicity has anything to do with a marriage working or not. Individuals have the power to steer their relationship/marriage in the right direction. He has the power to make her trust him and realise he ain't marrying any other woman.

Which young man marries two wives in this 2015 gaan? ? ?

Better pikin u don talk am finish! make i jus join bodi 4 dis 1 wey u talk, ermm ermm and 4 d last question wey u ask, abeg no vex i go keep 4 my broda Musa, wen im come back im go ans dat 1.

lalasticlala:
A Nairalander sent me this mail. Let's help him with useful advice.

Below is the exact message, the way it came:


"Why Igbo Can't Marry Yoruba

Though we have been facing so many challenges about this before but we overcome it . they use to tell my lady, HE CAN"T MARRY U but when they all see how serious we are(Preparing for Traditional Marriage) then they came up with, IF HE MARRY U AFTER TWO KIDS HE WILL STILL MARRY HE"S TRIBE. I'm Yoruba guy while my lady is Igbo. What should i do but i love her, mean love her."


Please, if you have any useful and mature response to his message, don't hesitate to give him. Please no tribal bashings ooo. Thanks. He will be reading it..

The main reason Igbos fear for their daughters marrying a Yoruba man is the legendary promiscuity of Yoruba men
Many of them never fail to go outside the marriage to father numerous other kids
Many of them come from complicated family settings
That is the primary fear
There are others

For instance if the man is from Ijebu ode,your parents may disown you.Ijebu ode is synonymous with juju and all things fetish ,that is a no go area for NdiIgbo

chimerase2:
Morale?

Advice what? The lady no get kiniko? That is all the man needs to look for in a woman- not this tribe tribe nonsense

babyosisi:
Say what?
They are very polygamous and it is very acceptable in their culture
Christians and Muslims
Having babies outside of wedlock is not a big deal in the Yoruba culture
It is uncommon to see a Yoruba person that doesn't have step brothers and sisters ,Christians and Muslims
Their wives and parents will even sew asho ebi and follow for the naming ceremony of the mistress' baby
Infact a mistress who conceives and bears a child automatically becomes equivalent to a wife and can claim inheritance ask any Yoruba person if that is a lie
There is a huge cultural difference between Igbos and Yorubas with regards to marriage and family and any Igbo girl marrying Yoruba should be fully informed of these differences .
Not saying every Yoruba man must end up polygamous but it is not a big deal for them
It is normal for a Yoruba man to keep mistresses and conceive babies by the mistresses and his family and wives are fully aware
Igbo girls marrying into the Yoruba culture ought to sit and have these candid discussions with the man
Observe his family and see if his father and uncles didn't do the things I just described then you know he is likely not to

You just spoke my mind, I'm not one to throw tribal remarks and air my individual sentiments and thoughts that could be perceived as bigoted.(I like to keep it civil even though with differential opinions as everyone else)

Nonetheless, I think these very meagre igbos that marry non-igbos to me are un enlightened and not quite educated or should we say, not information-equipped.

I know yoruba guys marrying igbo girls is akin to touching heaven's gate However, the few igbo girls that do these are often times married to the wealthiest of them non-igbos, because I know its certainly not a thing of desired choice.

Well, they get married and get gone. Their loss and they know this.

It depends on the reason(s) upon which he wants to marry her.If it is due to an inferiority complex where he thinks his yoruba sisters are less than Igbo girls...that is not a good reason.If he genuinely love the girl and is willing to embrace her culture by all means.

From the comments on this thread...I reckon it seems like Yoruba guys suffer from the same complex like Blacks in the west....a deep sense of Inferiority.I reckon that a lot of people say bad things about Yoruba women on nairaland and they label them ugly because they are dark and have thick lips which just shows the amount of self-hate amongst Black people.Perhaps Yoruba men feel ashamed that their women are not light skinned etc

Many of us in the west prefer to marry non-black or mixed folks due to the fact it has been hammered into our heads that 100% African is not beautiful.Many Black men in the west deliberately disrespect their women calling them ugly,lazy,no good etc unlike Indians,Chinese ,Whites and Mixed folks.A couple Yoruba guys had nothing good to say about their sisters...which is utterly shameful.

I reckon Igbos and other lighter skin tribes fall higher on the beauty pole according to Euro-centric standards so Yoruba men rush towards them.Despite the rampant mixing amongst Blacks and other races most blacks get married to blacks due to there not being a full openness to mixing by the other races.I suspect similar will hold in Naija in that though Yoruba guys mix with Igbos...most Igbo girls prefer their own men.

The best advice I can give to Yoruba chics like the Black women in the west...do u.Surely life goes and you can't correct a man who have been conditioned to dislike self and kind.You just embrace those who embrace you and screw the rest.

For me,I embrace Blackness in all its manifestation so I will never label a sister who is dark or whatever as ugly despite the fact that I am not exactly dark.At the same time I wants no self-hating negro around me either.

Naija has an obsession with light skin like Jamaica.

Get back to your farm!

mesoade:
keep shouting "our sisters" . . When yoruba guys are busy "effing" them.

Leave the poor girl alone you yoruba boy and marry your tribe!!! Kpokwem!!!








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