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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by freecocoa(f): 5:37pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
crackhaus:I haven't in any way suggested you are supporting cheating, the word "unless" should tell you that, it is your place to indicate if you are or not. Seriously? What other marriage vows do I know? How does my knowledge of marriage vows come into play? Does it mean you don't agree that not all marriage vows are biblical? Dude some people write their own vows and so far in all the wedding ceremonies I've witnessed, none includes allowing a partner cheat. The point remains that, you can't tell a single lady how to be responsible for herself, what you consider irresponsible, might be responsible to her, cheating can ruin a man in a law court but I am yet to see/hear that any single lady was taken to court for sleeping with a married man. I believe I have not opined that morality is gender specific, I have only said it is subjective. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by freecocoa(f): 5:38pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy:As should be. |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 5:38pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
mredwifeosband: We are still in touch. She's my namesake too. (Native name) |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 5:40pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
edwife:I don't usually go check on people's post history, but I was moved to check that posters' - he/she loves to type and tries very hard. There were so many things wrong with the post and I just didn't want to deal with it, hence my GIF.... and to think the poster was trying hard to make sense made it even more embarrassing. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by mredwifeosband: 5:40pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy:lie lie |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 5:43pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
mredwifeosband:it's true. That's how you doubted me the first time I told you. Ok forget it sha. 1 Like |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 5:46pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
BABE3:Lmao... How dare they? |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by yorubadelta(f): 5:53pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
babygirlfl: Babygirl, you get sense.. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by yorubadelta(f): 5:53pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
crackhaus: Lool. Well unfortunately this is Nairaland where people will 'like' anything they see on front page. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by BABE3: 5:56pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy: which kind check? Chei coco... Upon all the checks and balance you'd think western men will be less shiesty. But surprise, surprise, Infidelity is still a leading cause of divorce in the west. If Infidelity is a leading cause of divorce, imagine the number of western wives that are still living with cheating husbands coz of the emotional stress of divorce.... Humans are the same everywhere. Yes there are laws here in the west compared to Africa but that's all on the surface. No difference between a modern african marriage and a western marriage; the bullshìt is just packaged differently. The number of cheating men hasn't reduced because of those laws , btw. I can even argue that it has increased. I've lived in the west for a while, I've never seen where a western wife divorced her husband coz he cheated once. The men usually get a pass; the women proceed to divorce if the man is unrepentant, or if he's rich, or if there are other issues apart from cheating. Bottom line is, it's not all black and white. We (westerners and Africans) have more similarities than differences. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by edwife(f): 5:56pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
crackhaus: You know i didn't get your gif at first,but after reading through the post,i was like? They don't care to understand or anything,as long as it is the man who takes the blame.That guy was practically saying that the world revolves around MEN. |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by ABEngine(m): 5:58pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
Money rules morality, I believe it's often the case with man's insatiability, men and women alike. |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by babygirlfl: 6:02pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
yorubadelta: Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by babygirlfl: 6:03pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
yorubadelta: Some people like a post not because they like every single word or sentence in the post. 1 Like |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 6:05pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
freecocoa:It doesn't matter. Seriously? What other marriage vows do I know? How does my knowledge of marriage vows come into play? Does it mean you don't agree that not all marriage vows are biblical? Dude some people write their own vows and so far in all the wedding ceremonies I've witnessed, none includes allowing a partner cheat.No marriage encourages cheating, vows or not. Agreed! The point remains that, you can't tell a single lady how to be responsible for herself, what you consider irresponsible, might be responsible to her, cheating can ruin a man in a law court but I am yet to see/hear that any single lady was taken to court for sleeping with a married man.Is a married man taken to court for sleeping with a side-chic? You can't tell a single lady how to be responsible by staying away from married men...same way you shouldn't tell a married man how to be responsible by keeping his vows. I believe I have not opined that morality is gender specific, I have only said it is subjective.I have always agreed on the obvious, which is that morality is subjective. So remind me why you're putting all the blame on the man... is his idea of morality supposed to align with yours or with the vows he may have made in Hindu, Chinese, or Igbo? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by troy20(m): 6:06pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
FrancisTony:always needing to leave in a statement of being a man eh? Something tells me you are even beginning to doubt your sex 9 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by yorubadelta(f): 6:06pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
edwife: Granted a man has to carry his own share of blame in this situation. However, that poster threw me off when he said: "a woman today that is happy or sad, or hurt or mad, it is a man that made her so and not another fellow woman." Such a doltish statement. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 6:10pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
BABE3:@bold, that happens huh? Summarizes my point. Wil she be blamed for it or will the man have the audacity to beat her up for complaining too? Anyway we are going to another topic. Like who cheats more or stuff like that which needs extensive research to prove beyond reasonable doubt. My post was in response to 5mins post that western influence is the reason why Nigerians cheat on their wives. Seriously I'm surprised nobody saw anything wrong with that but when I said in the west men are more prone to respect their wives (which is true) the thread wants to come to a halt? Let the earth open up and swallow the west so that some people will accept not everything bad comes from there. Ok no problem. I agree. It's not the African men's fault. The west and the women are responsible for their behavior. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by edwife(f): 6:10pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
yorubadelta: The guy is something else, i tell you.... I have to bookmark it. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by freecocoa(f): 6:15pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
crackhaus:Yes a married man can be taken to court for cheating, the person he cheated with is the side chic in this case, which is why we are talking about her. I don't have to tell him how to be responsible, his vows or just being married has done that for him. If we gave agreed that no marriage the world over, encourages cheating, why does it matter what language the vows was made in? His morality is ofcourse supposed to align with what comes with being married, which is simply "no cheating" I don't know how much longer I can keep up with this, as I've been practically saying the same thing, just in different words. 1 Like |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by 5minsmadness: 6:17pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy:Where was the term "side chic" coined from? Who glamourised the term "Baby mama"? And made it such a thing of pride that our ladies started making headlines with it? Are those African terms? Sure we have always had mistresses and the philandering husband and secret wives but we didn't glamourise it. It was a thing of shame actually. Unfaithfulness occurs everywhere, even in your precious west. In fact it became so rampant in the West that laws had to be enacted to discourage such behaviour. Hence your "respectful" western men who are only respectful because they fear the law courts. It doesn't stop cheating though as evidenced by the TV series of "cheaters" I watch daily and the level of divorces still at an all time high in the US. I know this might come as a rude shock to you but the US is a festering cesspool of unfaithful men and women. I know, I know, have a hankie As per your example of men going after the girls sure that happens. But for you to deny that girls also go out of thier way to chase married men shows you being biased (as usual, nothing new here), or you must have gotten married really young and had innocent friends as well. There are frequent reports in my office of single girls throwing themselves kamikaze-like at married men whether or not they wear rings and it's really tasking and laborious trying to discourage them or push them away. These girls know the said target is married but are undeterred, in fact some have admitted it's a kind of turn-on for them as they view married men as more "responsible" and "matured". All men have the tendency to be polygamous of they can get away with it, even your precious white men in the West. It's just the courts like you said that holds them back. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 6:19pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
edwife:Sensationalism at its best...I honestly couldn't make sense of anything on there. What's wrong with my GIF? |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by BABE3: 6:21pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy: I didn't even see the post you're talking about. I don't read everyone's posts on here. I see some usernames and just jump and pass. I read yours, that what why quoted you. Not that I'm picking on you. Anyways, cheating isn't a western or African trend. That's obvious enough. |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by Nobody: 6:22pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
troy20:Na so my post pain you reach? You sound bitter!. Oya, smack your head on the wall or jump inside third main-land because I am not the cause of your predicaments. 14 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 6:25pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
freecocoa:A married man can be taken to court to initiate divorce proceedings as a result of cheating, not for cheating itself - cheating is not a crime one can go to jail or serve community service for. I don't have to tell him how to be responsible, his vows or just being married has done that for him. If we gave agreed that no marriage the world over, encourages cheating, why does it matter what language the vows was made in?Okay. His morality is of course supposed to align with what comes with being married, which is simply "no cheating"Okay. I don't know how much longer I can keep up with this, as I've been practically saying the same thing, just in different words.Okay. Thanks for your time... 3 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by babygirlfl: 6:29pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy: You are right however the fact that the side chic is not entirely blameless* means that they share in the blame however little. The man obviously has the biggest part of the blame and is the person that can most effectively put a stop the cheating. People sometimes needs a form of punishment to deter them from doing something. Sincerely, I don't know the best way to punish side chicks as we all know the wife beating and fighting the side chic is a waste of time I do know that they deserve to be purnished for causing another so much pain. More emphasis should be put on the man for this menace to stop. * as far she is aware the man is married Just like you said, a society frowning at something might discourage some people from doing it. The ex governor did it shamelessly because the society doesn't frown at it. |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 6:30pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
Thanks for agreeing with me @bold. Humans are basically the same everywhere. So where the laws are strong, people behave better. Or hide their misbehavior better. Hence my stand that they are more prone to respect their women. I'd be quite naive to say people there don't cheat but you come on a public forum and say they are to blame for others cheating in other parts of the world? Really? I don't have any shares in any western nation but I find it annoying that some of you manage to make soup that goes sour in your house the fault of the 'west' Seriously accept your faults and move on. @last bolded, you don't even know what you're saying. Are all men Polygamous or are the western men corrupting you innocent ones. You even agree something holds them back. Pls decide what you're saying. But for now married men cheating is their fault and not the fault of the so called west and the girls. 5minsmadness: |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by Kimoni: 6:31pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
BABE3: |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 6:32pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
yorubadelta:Just another day on Nairaland |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by troy20(m): 6:33pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
it really is a shame on men who treat their side chicks better than their wives.but thats not to say their isnt much more decent men who know how to place the varying situations as this on the appropriate priority chart. |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by freecocoa(f): 6:37pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
crackhaus:Lol , I don't see how you can take cheating out of it, he cheated which is why there is going to be a divorce, the crime in the marriage/divorce court is cheating and the punishment for that is divorce oga sir. There won't be a sitting, if there was no cheating. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 6:39pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
babygirlfl: I'd think the bold was implied in my post. Seems I had to spell it out. @ the rest of the post, the reason why I too can't think of a good way to punish side chicks is because they don't have much to lose in such a situation. How do you punish that kind of person? The person who's married has more to lose. And the married person has more power to prevent the situation from getting deep to start with. If things go south, the single person walks and leaves the married one with the mess,heartbroken kids,wives and husbands to deal with. Even if one can think of a good punishment for them, it won't solve the situation. The most effective solution is for married people to take their vows more seriously. 1 Like |
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