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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by pickabeau1: 6:39pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy The day you agree the West also has issues... that will be the day If not for BABE3, this argument will have gone for pages In the old days and even in the bible If a man impregnated a woman, he married her... babymamism was not a thing of pride |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by 5minsmadness: 6:41pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
I see I was not so alone in my thoughts Not everyone views the west with such sanctimony ***goes back to reading thread*** |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by troy20(m): 6:42pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
FrancisTony:Yeye woman. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by yorubadelta(f): 6:42pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
FrancisTony: Lol. I watched this post get so many likes within seconds .. just like magic! alternate monikers? 1 Like |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 6:43pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
pickabeau1: I could write a whole thesis on the issues the west has. Are we talking about Germany, France, UK, US, Australia, Canada or which west? The day we would focus on our issues and not blame the west for it, that will be the day. It's irritating to say the least. Yay we don't have minds of our own. The west tell us what to do and how to behave every step of the way. Why does that not offend you? Oh well let's agree the west is to blame. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by Nobody: 6:44pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
coldHeat:17likes Anyone it's paining should kindly do the needful. Had it been this post was bashing women, the hypocritical ilks won't emphasize much on it. Just like a lady and guy called feminists pained/ugly/frigid b1tches and got huge amount of likes but none of folks here quoted them. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by troy20(m): 6:48pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy:thats what am talking about try to be broadminded and you'll be surprised how much truth you find. |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 6:53pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
troy20: Broad minded means accepting we are not responsible for our behaviors but the west is? My mind is broad now like Broadway. |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by Kimoni: 6:55pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
@topic All the parties get the blame surely - the married man, the single girl but society also get a big chunk of the blame. The society gets the blame cuz it's almost like babymamas are now being idolized especially when the dude is rich and the girl can flaunt her ill-gotten wealth; and if she is lucky to marry the man eventually, waoh! she becomes a demi-god. So we have moved from a society that stigmatizes singles dating married men to one that makes them role models. I guess these days, whatever anyone does with his or her body is his/her right, so All things being equal, the man should take the larger part of the blame because asides the fact that often times, he is the more matured one of the two parties who should have learnt the art of fleeing such temptations, he is also the one reneging on a vow he took with another party. But that's just theory, cuz in reality, he often loses nothing and the same society blames the wife instead for failing to keep her man from straying. Shitty world!!! As for the girl, what can I say? She is being given the license more than ever to date anybody she likes, married or not as long as she is reaping from the union. And morality has become a "Greek" word she has never heard about. She lives by nobody's rules. Well, Karma calleth! 3 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by babygirlfl: 6:57pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy: Ok at the bit you put in bold in my post. Agreed. That's the reason I said the man has much more work to do. |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by Joy1706(f): 6:57pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
aflyingbird:Stand by who? Iffa hear say I stand by such a man eh 1 Like |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by pickabeau1: 7:03pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy: Nope Your post has no correlation to my post Westernisation definitely has some side effects as you know Rather than using bravado and sarcasm to make your points..argue constructively His point was clear Being proud as a Baby mama is not an African thing Development and modernisation Same with the gay thing If you are offended by the ease of assimilation of western values that is a separate thing That can also be discussed but dismissing the whole thing is not the way 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by troy20(m): 7:05pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy:am not saying we shouldnt accept certain responsibilities.just that...maybe try accomodate the influence of stronger powers.shey u know united states greatest export na dia culture. |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 7:08pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
troy20:they are not responsible for married men cheating on their wives. That's just silly 3 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 7:16pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
My point from the beginning is that westernization is not to blame for married people cheating as he put it. Of course you say in the old days the man would marry the girl. Yes that's so much better. Bring the adultery and the disrespect home. I'm not even arguing to start with much less constructively. Someone says the west is responsible for men cheating on their wives and I say it's bullshit. We are not arguing. But to avoid long meaningless talk I've bowed to pressure agreed with him. It's the west and the girls that are to blame. The married men have no fault in it. What else do you want me to say? pickabeau1: 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by pickabeau1: 7:18pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
still the same sarcasm... I hear you cococandy: 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 7:21pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
pickabeau1: If you have an opinion, you might as well state it. His is that the west is to blame. Mine is that it is BS. What's yours? Is today going to be another 'blame the west fest' 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by pickabeau1: 7:26pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
The topic is infidelity of single ladies and married men...right? cococandy: |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 7:28pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
pickabeau1: yes. |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by 5minsmadness: 7:31pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy: I dont know who you are agreeing with cos thats not what I said. If we can retrace our steps and return to our high levels of morality and shun western corruption maybe we can pull ourselves out if this quagmire. This was the only phrase in which i mentioned the West. All I was saying is that there are certain western influences that are detrimental to our society; not to put the whole blame of adultery on the west. But as usual you came in, saw me mention "West" and as thier sole defender,nairaland's own Captain America, you went into hyperdrive. Wether you like it or not Western influence has a way of affecting our culture especially when it comes to morality. It may not be totally responsible but it definitely plays a part. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by pickabeau1: 7:31pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy: The man, the lady are to blame/ personal responsibility and choice They are not kids The only time u can absolve the lady is when she is deceived but even that at a point..she is aware |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 7:38pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
5minsmadness: Captain blame the west. It's a habit of yours. And it's annoying. Talk about any little thing and your first repsonse would be to blame the west. Let me even ask you which west are you blaming? All the countries in the Western Hemisphere of the world? I only have a problem with you for you constant habit of denying responsibility all the time and finding a way to make it about this ominous western place that no one even knows the location of. They don't blame us for the wrong things in their society. We are not sheep so we should take responsibility for our own too. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by 5minsmadness: 7:43pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy:I wonder what my costume will look like; anywho,it must have a cape It's a habit of yours. And it's annoying. And your habit of defending them without first digesting what the post was about is annoying as well. Na your native country? Why you dey vex? Dem go deport you if you disagree with them? Cococandy where did the term "Babymama" and "side-chic" originate from? Not the concept o, the term itself? 4 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 7:52pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
5minsmadness: What you term defense is actually not defense. Defending them from what? Else I'd be saying all western people are good godly people who don't sin and are at worst being influenced by others. Telling you to take responsibility for your actions is not defending the west. I know I must agree with you for me to be not defending them. If you speak English yes the words you use to describe those terms will be the same western words because you speak the same language as them. You really need to be told this too? #facepalm. But is the concept new? No. We have Igbo words for babymama and they are not new words. They were in existence before the west came and 'spoiled' us. 1 Like |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by Ewuro4: 7:53pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
edwife: Don't mind her jare. She's my good friend and can't forsake her like that. I won't tell you how she dealt with the guy but he literally moved out for few months for starters... You know since that time I realized these lose girls need a iron hand before they heed to warnings. These wives dont joke with their own, if she tries calling the cops then she's a dead meat and ain't kidding here. You can't cause someone so much hurt and pain and now cry foul to the cops without any repercussion. They should move their pangolo Brazilian weaves pan handlings to a man who married a Mumu housewife that will continue to fast and pray for their repentance & karma. Today's Karma is right here and NOW. Caroline New jersey, Same Caroline?? Well well, Good for her I say!! |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by 5minsmadness: 7:54pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
The Rise of the Side Chick Being a side chick used to be so taboo not too long ago. Most women who fell into the side chick category knew they were the side chick but most never truly accepted that role. Most side chick women back in the day held out hope that their man would leave his girl or his wife & start a true meaningful relationship with her. Even these women who were the side chicks, most of them probably never really came out and admitted to the public or to anyone for that matter that they were side chicks to a man. It was embarrassing & shameful to think that a woman would be so desperate that she had to share a man. Now the tables are turning. Thanks to reality tv shows like Love & Hip Hop, being a side chick is no longer embarrassing…it’s almost like a badge of honor. It may not be 100% totally acceptable even by the side chick, but it’s no longer a place where women whom are side chicks just quietly parlay in the shadows. Side chicks are coming out & letting the world know that they are side chicks AND they are proud of it AND the wifey in most cases know they exist & feel a real sense of threat from them. There is no real shame in the game anymore. The objective for most side chicks is to get what they can get from the man in exchange for giving up their goodies. Most would like for the man to leave his wife, but a lot would be happy with just settling for playing second string because they can fulfill certain aspects of the wifey role and get treated (sometimes better) just as well as the wifey but they don’t have to carry the official title of being the wife. Thanks to our culture of music and television, this thought process is constantly being promoted & becoming more accepting. OnyxTruth-2014 The Year of the Side ChicK For your unbiased reading@cococandy. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by Nobody: 7:58pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
troy20:Okay, I'm a woman/female. Your opinion. Why do you keep regurgitating it if you are so sure of that I'm not a Male/Man?. Just free me, sho ti gbo? and by the way, no particular gender is fixed infront of my moniker... 1 Like |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 8:02pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
And the west is to blame. *Not the culture of a man being entitled to more than one woman. *Not the mindset that being married is the highest achievement a woman can attain which therefore leads to her being adviced to turn a blind eye to the side chick which in turn promotes the phenomena. I've agreed. the west is to blame. Why are you trying to convince me some more? 5minsmadness: 3 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by 5minsmadness: 8:02pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
cococandy: you are dancing round the point. the terms "Babymama" and "Sidechick" are not old english words, they just popped up very very recently. So saying I am using the terms cos they are english words...you are the one that deserves the Facepalm. Anyway read the article I posted up there. Its quite interesting if i do say so myself. and it was written in the "West"! So you see, I dont castigate them for everything, they do right sometimes too |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by cococandy(f): 8:05pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
Yea it was written in the west because they face their problems head on instead of blaming Nigerians. We on the other hand will keep naming the west until our problems swallow us. It is never our fault: Again The terms are new, the concept is not new. Stop wasting your energy. I've agreed with you. 5minsmadness: 2 Likes |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by Ewuro4: 8:08pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
crackhaus: Lol. She took crazy to a new level, my chest was throbbing like I'm in the battlefield and that COPS theme song playing in my head ("bad boy bad boy watcha gonna do when we come for you" ) Abeggii you dey mind them, like I cared what anyone think about my person. I'm a TRUE NORTH, I stay TRUE to my self, I owe myself that much. |
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by troy20(m): 8:14pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
FrancisTony:ok jus confess smal.i wan tel u one secret. 1 Like |
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