Ishilove:

Woman, God is still in the business of joining people together. Take it to God in prayer. If you go on a month's fasting for something as important as marriage, is it too much?

Start studying the bible and praying. Sister, the solution to your dilemma will be revealed to you.

God bless you for this comment.

Y'all are hating on this girl for sharing her HONEST thoughts with us.

Also consider how the final choice of your wife/girlfriend hinged a lot on her big butt, breasts, complexion, age, etc.

She's entitled to desire what she desires.

My dear, pray to God to lead you. Money is not happines...... i have rich people i interact with who are not happily married.
Thanks

Bigsteveg:
What if the rich guy die young, den what happens?
What if the rich guy turns to wife beater, what happens?
What if the rich guy run into debt, what happens?
Be wise.

Also, tell ur brother to go get a life, maybe a job to keep him busy or he should face his studies

What if the poorer guy 'any of those things'?

Bonita101n2:
I was formerly engaged to a very nice guy who luckily for me was very rich and also got a very good job while we were dating in an oil firm. Unfortunately it did not work out due to external factors (folks). After healing and all, I started to open up again and have and still meeting a lot of men, both rich and not so rich, bad and good etc.

My problem here is that maybe having dated someone that was very rich and also having met and meeting still very rich guy, I'm finding it difficult settling for less. I met this wonderful guy who I'm also attracted to but he is not very rich. Meanwhile, I do have another suitor or two who are extremely rich but I'm not so attracted to them and I know marriage, that attraction is important.

I really like this guy but then again, I start battling with the fact he is not so rich as the previous and the others and what people might say in me settling for less. Even one time he visited, while I was trying to talk to my brother about him, before I could finish, my brother had already said who is this guy that does not seem like he's rich.

It's now making have conflicting feelings and thoughts and I don't want to miss out on a good person but what if I force and maybe get attracted to those other rich suitors but my mind is more on the not so rich.

Please advise sincerely and judging. Thank you.

your brother who complains should marry u. White fowl. You are after money not love. Barawo. So what happen if d rich guy later go broke?

@ Bonita101n2 - You are just a broke lady look for a lifetime meal ticket... if you were NOT a gold digger, you would NOT even be asking this question, because it would not be about rich or poor.

LOL

@ op how times will yoi paste this notice, is it not obvious what you need to do? Go and watch nigerian love drama, and stop sending the same content with different topic, abi you dey forget d advice wey dem first give you? Huh
I just read your previous post and the advice were ok and ok pls don't disturb us with dis topic again or else I would suspect a fake story, just to get to front page was ur target, now you have earned it congrats

Na wa o! So ppl still reason like dis Op.

Who told u the poor guy won't get rich and wealthy. Don't waste ur time. U know wat is good for you.

hbpeze:


you are a gold digger.i dare you and your brother who is jobless to quote me

Pls don't be too harsh on her but honestly i really tink d brother is jobless. Her brother is not helping her at all.
My sister, stay with the not very rich guy if he is the type that gives despite the fact that he doesn't have much because you will enjoy him when he becomes rich.

Flashh:

Hehe... Now they are telling us the reason why they keep supporting their fellow ladies blindly even when knowing they are wrong.

Why are you ladies on "mute mode" on this thread?

But her mind is made up... She wants to speak money... Our advice will be like putting a gold ring on a pig's nose... Worthless

Bonita101n2:
I was formerly engaged to a very nice guy who luckily for me was very rich and also got a very good job while we were dating in an oil firm. Unfortunately it did not work out due to external factors (folks). After healing and all, I started to open up again and have and still meeting a lot of men, both rich and not so rich, bad and good etc.

My problem here is that maybe having dated someone that was very rich and also having met and meeting still very rich guy, I'm finding it difficult settling for less. I met this wonderful guy who I'm also attracted to but he is not very rich. Meanwhile, I do have another suitor or two who are extremely rich but I'm not so attracted to them and I know marriage, that attraction is important.

I really like this guy but then again, I start battling with the fact he is not so rich as the previous and the others and what people might say in me settling for less. Even one time he visited, while I was trying to talk to my brother about him, before I could finish, my brother had already said who is this guy that does not seem like he's rich.

It's now making have conflicting feelings and thoughts and I don't want to miss out on a good person but what if I force and maybe get attracted to those other rich suitors but my mind is more on the not so rich.

Please advise sincerely and judging. Thank you.

My advice. The comment made by your brother seems pretty harsh however I can understand given you have dated better men.

Leaving that. I think your man has to be introduced to the family cause obviously I think you've hid him from the fam reason your bro made that statement. I doubt your parents would hold any reservations if he appeals to them as a sincere and promising young man. That would help put your fears to bed or at least get done closure from that angle.

However I believe you have to clear any doubts you might have as I think u hold some reservations about this dude besides him not being financially Ok since marriage is a lifelong contract. It's gonna be hard but if you truly love this dude please take the plunge also make sure he loves you sincerely too.

I only have this to say "marry the rich when he gets poor what happens "marry the poor when he gets rich what happens
the ball in your court....

BuddhaPalm:


What if the poorer guy 'any of those things'?

Seems Uve concluded abt dumping d poor guy, what am saying is follow ur heart.

Buh wit ur statement, u prefer d rich guy...its ur life and ur decision...nobody is going to share ur happiness or sadness in marriage, it's ur cross alone.

I won't be there, it's none of my business.

The most painful place to be is to have everything money can buy, yet you are miserable. You said your family is "well to do", why do they still lay so much emphasis on a man's pocket?

What is she even doing with three men, one broke one and two rich ones? What does she need from the other two that she can't get from just one? I'm sure each of these men think they are the only ones.
I know she called them suitors, but would any man these days want to jump straight to proposing to her without knowing if she's really worth their time? I'm sure there are some sex.ual activities somewhere unless the men are priests. But how does a woman deal with getting it from the three of them?

Anyways, even if she marries the richest of them all, in my opinion she most likely will dump him if Dangote proposes to her. Goodluck on your quest for riches.

the truth is, u should go for the one your heart picks, not what ur brain thinks, he cud turn out to b stinking rich 2mr and u'll be left reminiscing on what could have been.....u cud marry d rich ones, they might go bankrupt and there u have it, a bunch of frustrated couples.....#so far as he can provide ur basic needs, he's not a bad choice in my opinion..... *thank u!*

OP dull and her brother dull...

Waoh! Can't stop laughing in Dagrins tone here .."hehehe " Guys dey vex no be small . No mind me o , I'm here to read peoples comments.

byvan03:
The most painful place to be is to have everything money can buy, yet you are miserable. You said your family is "well to do", why do they still lay so much emphasis on a man's pocket?

OP poor.. she know wen talk true because she is behind d screen... I'm very sure it is because of her beauty dose rich guys are falling on her.

kulikuli26:

Honestly, this story relates to me. I hope this isn't my girl sha. Though I already stopped calling, knowing fully well what her values are. Really got no ill-feeling towards her and sincerely wish her the best.

It's a small world indeed. Who knows, it may actually be your girl. Would you be one of the two rich suitors or the broke one she's attracted to?
Glad u sensed how she thinks and moved on without her. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Fourwinds:
OP dull and her brother dull...

I'm sure her brother is broke too. Both of them want an already rich inlaw/husband when they weren't there when he was struggling.

missmary:

But her mind is made up... She wants to speak money... Our advice will be like putting a gold ring on a pig's nose... Worthless

You can see what's going on.

Thread carefully girl,I've met a girl like that before and she chose the rich guy and after some months the guy dumped her,now she wants me back but i'm far gone.some men still wants to make money free from all kind of negativeties and that kind of money comes naturally,only the patients ones succeds.

I don't know why everyone is calling OP a gold digger. I see OP as someone that knows what she wants and willing to go for it. In fact, I'm from the school of thought that believe marrying for love is marrying and illusion.

For me, as a realist, love will be the last reason for getting married.

My partner must bring something concrete.....that I need. It can be money, fame, power, respect, even fear...based on research and reality on ground, people that are aware of this tend to have long lasting marriages.

Yes money can go so does love fade away or disappear.

We all marry for a reason no matter how we pretend we are not...it is just that society has brainwashed all of us those marrying for love are the one marrying for the right reason. In fact, I can say loving without condition is only applicable in the movies.

@OP, if riches are so important to you, please go for the rich guy, because obviously riches is what will make you happy.

Acidosis:



Miss Spinster Gold-digger: Keep digging RICH gold across the globe. The only phrase in your head is RICH, OILY GOLD, etc.

You're a very selfish gold-digger. "luckily for you, you met a very rich & nice guy"

Bad luck for you, you may end up with a guy as silly & jobless like your sick brother.



What a thread!

You even counted the "rich" for her.

And she said she's not a gold digger... Issokay.

SmartMugu:

It's a small world indeed. Who knows, it may actually be your girl. Would you be one of the two rich suitors or the broke one she's attracted to?
Glad u sensed how she thinks and moved on without her. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

I'm the "broke" guy she is probably referring to. Funny enough she called me around 4pm today after I stopped calling exactly a week ago. She might have reacted to the comments she got from here. I pray she isn't the one but can't just ignore the close resemblance of the story.

There aren't many bright men here

UjSizzle:
There aren't many bright men here

This person has same mentality with the useless op.

kulikuli26:

I'm the "broke" guy she is probably referring to. Funny enough she called me around 4pm today after I stopped calling exactly a week ago. She might have reacted to the comments she got from here. I pray she isn't the one but can't just ignore the close resemblance of the story.

If you happened to have met her brother before, then it's most likely you. Just thread slowly with her, I wouldnt rush into anything with a woman that cares too much about money.