kendybabe88:
please mamas in the house, still on my visa application matter.please i need advice should i apply alone or with my mum as my DH will be busy and can't go with me

Yes dear n read through d pages!

nefertitiram:

Aunty Phema, are you seeing what I am seeing? No be today sha, it is a man's world

My dear, na so we see am oo.

@Modath:

For the first time in a long while, I was typing and deleting continuously, trying so hard to focus on the advice sought. . .

i am not trying to justify his act, but you should know all humans have a threshold. he cracked. I hope maybe there can be a thread on this issue. i have friends that are in a frustrating marriage because of this issue. it can break a man or a woman! and sometimes divorce might not be a solution especially when you have a child with the wife. be it condom or not, the moment he looked at another woman, he cracked. I don't know what solutions he tried to proffer to the situation, but talking sometimes to your spouse about such issues helps. If both of you are not ready to shift grounds, it is better really to damn the consequences and move on with your lives (that is what i think, there might be better solutions). If he can afford to send the mother of his child to give birth there, I think he should. whether he likes it or not, the child is his and making future plans for the child is also a priority.

olokings:
Okie here goes.
So I've been reading this new gist I was gonna waka pass on my own being a sensitive issue buh dude (I dare say cos I'm a man too) playing the guilt card is a no no no no no no no no.
C'mon what are you saying trying to justify ur manhood predators on wifey poor libido?!
Pls for that one I scream a big fat lie.
And right now allot of us was gonna let it slide buh for you to go and say that!...hmmmmm
Truly let me respect mysef and not talk more than this, buh for the sake of humanity and womenfolk, retract that your statement of not. .trust me. ..I ll personally hunt your posts in this forum.

We re not all Saints buh don't go blaming your escapades (weh na u alone enjoy the thing) on your wife. ...even the devil himself no get that liver talk am for public. ...

I'm watching r to see that retract ooh. ..or better still there's a modify button. ..use it!

Come! What are you women saying!
Nerf you for that matter. ....abeg, abeg abeg. ....
Pls jejely for the sake of peace. ...mk she go an averagely safe hospital born the pikin then u ready that moni tk dey do upkeep. ...
Love child can and should never be more privileged than legal child weh be boy for that matter. .
The guy wan die young?
Your wife and her some go just wayonly kpef u in ur sleep if they here this nansense

nefertitiram:

D
Of course she can. Its to book doc or hosp and accomodation. Put.the $30k in her account. I hope she.works or is into biz as ties to d nigeria. No harm in trying. You just may be forrtunate.
Just read the thread and try your luck. deed has been done. You have a lot of explaining to do to wifey. But 4mths without intimacy!!! You guys needed a counsellor and not a bed warmer.

And try to get dna test done. I dont trust girls out there. I mean with $30k to blow...you are a big fish

olokings:
Coughs with you ma'....
Hmmmm....looks left n right. ..peeps n stroll with eyes popping like one who just break wind in an elevator. ..
Even the VO go trip for the stunt..

shawlar:

Before, na tea una dey drink
Be like say una need share cough syrup this time around

Aswear, the cough strong no be small.

When u started watching Telemundo, what happened to African magic? !
Do you still remember the channel number. ..
Weh u no pet woman, set her right psychologically emotional physical how do you expect to have her goodies.
You have to set the mood b4 you scatter the sheets. ..abi na doll she be. .abeghi. ...there's Noone who's libido can't be raised. ...
Some ppl just need to see skin n they are ready to get busy. ..others need to be serenaded b4 u even begin pre-intimacy properly sef
Plus trust me, women knows when you are getting it out there. .it's nature they just know so she go jejely keep her thing for where contain her rather than go craze for market because of man. ....
Kai I dey vex. ....mk o quiet b4 I'm ruptured. ..

nefertitiram:

D
Of course she can. Its to book doc or hosp and accomodation. Put.the $30k in her account. I hope she.works or is into biz as ties to d nigeria. No harm in trying. You just may be forrtunate.
Just read the thread and try your luck. deed has been done. You have a lot of explaining to do to wifey. [b]But 4mths without intimacy!!! [/b]You guys needed a counsellor and not a bed warmer.

And try to get dna test done. I dont trust girls out there. I mean with $30k to blow...you are a big fish

Crack ke. ..
My guy, I be man. ..
U no dey chop congos for outside then pot black ball na want to come sent baby oku go Yankee to go born. ..wen wifey n pikin original are carry green passport n still on the level of "I beg to apply" for visa before they travel.
No oooh. ..this one no be Crack. ..
This one na proper supernova jorh

bigfido:
i am not trying to justify his act, but you should know all humans have a threshold. he cracked. I hope maybe there can be a thread on this issue. i have friends that are in a frustrating marriage because of this issue. it can break a man or a woman! and sometimes divorce might not be a solution especially when you have a child with the wife. be it condom or not, the moment he looked at another woman, he cracked. I don't know what solutions he tried to proffer to the situation, but talking sometimes to your spouse about such issues helps. If both of you are not ready to shift grounds, it is better really to damn the consequences and move on with your lives (that is what i think, there might be better solutions). If he can afford to send the mother of his child to give birth there, I think he should. whether he likes it or not, the child is his and making future plans for the child is also a priority.

Our POE STORY
Left Lagos yesterday 9/11 with Arik to JFK, flight was on time contrary to peoples expectations . I was using wife's preggy state to harras everybody, fast tracked ourselves to beginning of every line including check in.
Flight wasn't so full so wifey had an empty three seat to stretch out. Fast fwd to JFK, we requested for wheel chair, which was magical!!!! Straight to CBP bypassing d long queues.wifey was d only preggy, but like 6 other old people were on wheel chairs.
CBP- are u guys related
Me- yea were husband and wife
CBP- have u ever been to Guinea
Me- No
Wifey- shakes her head
CBP- you have to answer, nodding or shaking your head can't be used as evidence in court
Wifey- no I have never been to Guinea(we all laff)
CBP- sierra Leone, Liberia
Me &wifey- chorus No
CBP- ok where're you headed
Me- new York
CBP- who's in new York
Me- my uncle
CBP- is he an American?
Me- well, he's a Nigerian who's been here for ages
CBP- what passport does he have
Me- an American passport
CBP- then he's an American(we all laugh)
CBP- how come you're carrying so much money, guess what, there's a poker game this night wanna come!( cos we declared 11k dollars)
Me- No thanx, do t wanna lose my money its for childbirth
CBP - oh she's pregnant, do u have hospital letters etc?
Me- yes
CBP-show me
Me- shows letter from Rodolfo of doctoresparati
CBP- hold on.( he comes out of his cubicle, stares at my wife for almost a minute and says its gonna be a girl
Me- we hope so
CBP- oh you don't know already??
Me- well they said its gon a be a boy ( we all laugh again, I never fit believe say na POE dey go on so oo)
Have a nice stay and have a safe delivery,
Na so we go collect load o, agric just ask do u have any fresh vegetables or seeds, we say no and dat was it
The only thing that wasted our time was we had to be directed to another officer to fill a form becos of the over 10k that we declared
No checking bags no nothing
It's like a heavy weight has been lifted cos I was scared cos we got the visa for visiting wen wifey was already preg and den sent a letter of change of intent after coming across this thread was also one od d reasons i decided to follow wifey on d trip even though na o ly one week I get, but now,I think it was worth it
So make una help me thank God!!!
Sorry for the long post
Wish every prospective an even more successful POE experience

like i said, whether he likes it or not, the child is his. if he has the power to make future investment for the child, i think he should. it is sad that it is coming from another woman that is not his wife really! but do you blame the child? whether they birth the child here or not, they have done what is not proper. should the innocent child then suffer for it? i don't think so really.

olokings:
Crack ke. ..
My guy, I be man. ..
U no dey chop congos for outside then pot black ball na want to come sent baby oku go Yankee to go born. ..wen wifey n pikin original are carry green passport n still on the level of "I beg to apply" for visa before they travel.
No oooh. ..this one no be Crack. ..
This one na proper supernova jorh

Congrats jorh. ....
Wishing your wife safe delivery on good faith. ...
We need more good news jare. ..
First it was all out war btw veterans/gurus and newbies. .now it's all out war for extremely favored baby momma...

Eeehn em gud news. ..
Terese69 don born very very fyn pikin...
Make we go visit n chop kwaret banga soup

jayjay4lyf:
Our POE STORY
Left Lagos yesterday 9/11 with Arik to JFK, flight was on time contrary to peoples expectations . I was using wife's preggy state to harras everybody, fast tracked ourselves to beginning of every line including check in.
Flight wasn't so full so wifey had an empty three seat to stretch out.
Wish every prospective an even more successful POE experience

]Congrats jorh. ....
Wishing your wife safe delivery on good faith. ...
We need more good news jare. ..
First it was all out war btw veterans/gurus and newbies. .now it's all out war for extremely favored baby momma...

Eeehn em gud news. ..
Terese69 don born very very fyn pikin...
Make we go visit n chop kwaret banga soup

Thanx @olokins amen
More good news coming def
Cos I know plenty sept/Oct/Nov mummies
wink wink
firsty I hail ooo

@El2015, pls don't change ur decision based on the feedback from this thread. The child is yours, legally married or not. Let her have strong ties,and try her luck.

You don't have to answer those personal questions. Concentrate on why u r on the thread, get info and move on. Leave us to our imaginations

@EL2015

I'm not in a position to judge you, so I'm just going to skip that part and concentrate on your questions.

Many people have asked if this lady has any other ties, but you didn't respond. Are you the only thing/person she lives for tie she has? No job, no school? This will be a huge contributory factor towards her visa issuance. Lumping a huge sum into her account will be very detrimental.

Please, the last thing you want to do is appear to be married or engaged to this lady as that is bigamy especially if you are not a muslim. It will go on your record and this will make it more difficult for you to get a US visa in the future.

She should go prepared with documents to proove her ties and your financial/business documents to proove you two can afford it. She should just say her child's father will be sponsoring.

And no, she doesn't need to have anyone in the US. Sometimes, the less people one has, the better.

Goodluck.

As a side note; I couldn't help but notice you mentioned your wife's libido. As much as I empathise with you, my little experience in life has taught me that a very happy and healthy woman/wife will not continuously deny her husband sex for months. There is a fundamental issue in your marriage and I'm sure you have an idea what it could be. Get to the root of that issue and deal with it.

You do seem like you have a good head on your shoulders with a fairly decent heart. You've got to look for a way to fix your marital problems. You cannot continue this way. How many more babymamas will you be sending to the US? How much will you keep spending on covering your tracks? You've just got to look for a way out. If not, the more you make excuses why you should 'eat out', the more you drown and lose yourself and eventually, your family.

Most times, facing our problems heads-on costs us less (in every ramification) than taking the seemingly "easy way out".

Makes all the sense this...

Phema:
EL2015

I'm not in a position to judge you, so I'm just going to skip that part and concentrate on your questions.

Many people have asked if this lady has any other ties, but you didn't respond. Are you the only thing/person she lives for tie she has? No job, no school? This will be a huge contributory factor towards her visa issuance. Lumping a huge sum into her account will be very detrimental.

Please, the last thing you want is to appear to be married or engaged to this lady as that is bigamy especially if you are not a muslim. It will go on your record and this will make it more difficult for you to get a US visa in the future.

She should go prepared with documents to proove her ties and your financial/business documents to proove you two can afford it. She should just say her child's father will be sponsoring
your family.

Phema:
EL2015

I'm not in a position to judge you, so I'm just going to skip that part and concentrate on your questions.

Many people have asked if this lady has any other ties, but you didn't respond. Are you the only thing/person she lives for tie she has? No job, no school? This will be a huge contributory factor towards her visa issuance. Lumping a huge sum into her account will be very detrimental.

Please, the last thing you want is to appear to be married or engaged to this lady as that is bigamy especially if you are not a muslim. It will go on your record and this will make it more difficult for you to get a US visa in the future.

She should go prepared with documents to proove her ties and your financial/business documents to proove you two can afford it. She should just say her child's father will be sponsoring.

Goodluck.

As a side note; I couldn't help but notice you mentioned your wife's libido. As much as I empathise with you, my little experience in life has taught me that a very happy and healthy woman/wife will not continuously deny her husband sex for months. There is a fundamental issue in your marriage and I'm sure you have an idea what it could be. Get to the root of that issue and deal with it.

You do seem like you have a good head on your shoulders with a fairly decent heart. You've got to look for a way to fix your marital problems. You cannot continue this way. How many more babymamas will you be sending to the US? How much will you keep spending on covering your tracks? You've just got to look for a way out. If not, the more you make excuses why you should 'eat out', the more you drown and lose yourself and eventually, your family.

Well said @phema

LadyGuinivere:

Chaie ,b u be true african woman true! U don do the math sharpry

You see why I had to do this math, so that I can calculate the 'concentration' of the rat poison / acid the wife is expected to prepare . As you can see the good news is the wife is the mother of the FIRST son, ( that's about 50% conc, so as to give 50% chance of survival) and the bad news is the son has green pp while the illegitimate one will have blue pp ( increase by 10% = 60% concñ, that will give him only 40% chance of survival).

[quote author=el2015 post=37950769][/quote]

Guy u better fashi this your Yankee plan, even though ur plan works, u can't just wish her away like that, she is part of ur life and will remain one for life. Start thinking of better ways to handle this ish.

ifax:
@El2015, pls don't change ur decision based on the feedback from this thread. The child is yours, legally married or not. Let her have strong ties,and try her luck.

You don't have to answer those personal questions. Concentrate on why u r on the thread, get info and move on. Leave us to our imaginations

How is he going to get the info without answering those PERSONAL questions? Those questions are what leads to INFORMED answers.

@El2015 u have been bashed oooo.. but then its best you tell us what baby mama does in nigeria. that way veterans on this thread can give their best advice. yes the did has been done. mums & dads have pointed out your mistakes. i feel you should follow your heart. let her apply, worst case scenario they deny her. best case scenario she gets the visa.
BUT TELLING US HER TIES HERE will guide you on how to package the application
u gat the gist??

Phema:
@EL2015

I'm not in a position to judge you, so I'm just going to skip that part and concentrate on your questions.

Many people have asked if this lady has any other ties, but you didn't respond. Are you the only thing/person she lives for tie she has? No job, no school? This will be a huge contributory factor towards her visa issuance. Lumping a huge sum into her account will be very detrimental.

Please, the last thing you want to do is appear to be married or engaged to this lady as that is bigamy especially if you are not a muslim. It will go on your record and this will make it more difficult for you to get a US visa in the future.

She should go prepared with documents to proove her ties and your financial/business documents to proove you two can afford it. She should just say her child's father will be sponsoring.

And no, she doesn't need to have anyone in the US. Sometimes, the less people one has, the better.

Goodluck.

As a side note; I couldn't help but notice you mentioned your wife's libido. As much as I empathise with you, my little experience in life has taught me that a very happy and healthy woman/wife will not continuously deny her husband sex for months. There is a fundamental issue in your marriage and I'm sure you have an idea what it could be. Get to the root of that issue and deal with it.

You do seem like you have a good head on your shoulders with a fairly decent heart. You've got to look for a way to fix your marital problems. You cannot continue this way. How many more babymamas will you be sending to the US? How much will you keep spending on covering your tracks? You've just got to look for a way out. If not, the more you make excuses why you should 'eat out', the more you drown and lose yourself and eventually, your family.



Most times, facing our problems heads-on costs us less (in every ramification) than taking the seemingly "easy way out".

Well put

ifax:
@El2015, pls don't change ur decision based on the feedback from this thread. The child is yours, legally married or not. Let her have strong ties,and try her luck.

You don't have to answer those personal questions. Concentrate on why u r on the thread, get info and move on. Leave us to our imaginations

well said.

abiscomama:
hello people,

please is there any february mom in the house going to el paso for delivery?

for previous el paso moms, could you pls give me a referral for the doctor who took ur birth?

thanks

Just click on the white ad with the baby on this page, it is always up and it's in El Paso.

olokings:
Come! What are you women saying!
Nerf you for that matter. ....abeg, abeg abeg. ....
Pls jejely for the sake of peace. ...mk she go an averagely safe hospital born the pikin then u ready that moni tk dey do upkeep. ...
Love child can and should never be more privileged than legal child weh be boy for that matter. .
The guy wan die young?
Your wife and her some go just wayonly kpef u in ur sleep if they here this nansense

So olokings can speak pidgin like dis? oh boy eee

Abeg, him without sin, cast d first stone. even if we gather beat up ds dude, he has messed up and there's a child in the mix. I'm only sorry for the parties involved. The drama that wants to follow eh! Nairaland fp will catch fire.

@el2015, Brazil, Barbados, st. Kitts or even Gambia will be a good alternative if the whole motive of travelling out is to maintain your sanity if the sht hits the fan. At least all of them give citizenship.
I mean, look at Maje, Toke's husband. The other woman went to UK to deliver At least she and the son were out of harms way when the kasala burst.

I agree, the child shouldn't suffer for his parents' misdeeds (even King Solomon, the wisest man ever was born to a scandalous mother-Bathsheba and father-King David). Easier said than done sha to be honest.

As for her getting a visa, they'll definitely frown at the lump sum in her account. The poster's best bet is to write an accompanying letter stating he will be sponsoring her and then include his bank statements and other relevant docs.

Visa application is always a gamble anyways, the worst that can happen is a refusal.

bigfido:
like i said, whether he likes it or not, the child is his. if he has the power to make future investment for the child, i think he should. it is sad that it is coming from another woman that is not his wife really! but do you blame the child? whether they birth the child here or not, they have done what is not proper. should the innocent child then suffer for it? i don't think so really.

[quote author=koko83 post=37948179][/quote]

@koko83
Congratulations dear... God bless you and your little one.

Phema:





Aswear, the cough strong no be small.

Mehn!!!! My cough is stronger than yours.
Thank God I have plenty ignore buttons.
Na women dey do women.
Nothing is new under the sun.

Madam nerf, don't get me wrong ooh. ..
My heat is not abt the deed ooh, it's the case of blaming it on the poor woman (wife) on top of it. ...
Implying that she indirectly caused this kwanta weh dey ground. ..
Simply put, just own up n let people weh wan waka pass jejely waka pass. ...n those weh wan help mk them help in gud faith
Don't go n enjoy, get extra cash to sponsor obodoyibo for the side chick then blame the poor woman say naim cause again na. ..
Talk about insult ontop injury. ..no oooh. ...

Abeghi sef..I don too talk. .
#justwise bekoo if u could grant me a request n kindly rapture my posts on this matter mk e pass. ...
Seriously I mean it. ...rapture my posts on this issue please..

Moving on. ..

nefertitiram:


So olokings can speak pidgin like dis? oh boy eee

Abeg, him without sin, cast d first stone. even if we gather beat up ds dude, he has messed up and there's a child in the mix. I'm only sorry for the parties involved. The drama that wants to follow eh! Nairaland fp will catch fire.

@el2015, Brazil, Barbados, st. Kitts or even Gambia will be a good alternative if the whole motive of travelling out is to maintain your sanity if the sht hits the fan. At least all of them give citizenship.
I mean, look at Maje, Toke's husband. The other woman went to UK to deliver At least she and the son were out of harms way when the kasala burst.

Phema:
@EL2015

I'm not in a position to judge you, so I'm just going to skip that part and concentrate on your questions.

Many people have asked if this lady has any other ties, but you didn't respond. Are you the only thing/person she lives for tie she has? No job, no school? This will be a huge contributory factor towards her visa issuance. Lumping a huge sum into her account will be very detrimental.

Please, the last thing you want to do is appear to be married or engaged to this lady as that is bigamy especially if you are not a muslim[b]. It will go on your record and this will make it more difficult for you to get a US visa in the future.[/b]



Most times, facing our problems heads-on costs us less (in every ramification) than taking the seemingly "easy way out".

I also hope one day you won't apply with your family at the embassy and the VO brings it up.
While I have no right to judge you, I just can't help to feel sorry for your wife. Hmmm men sha.

Ur a correct man abeg... Blaming a womanks libado.. Lemme not even talk ...... Didn't want to comment b4 but Oloking (correct guy)post got me.
Yea I know el2015 is been responsible trying to take care of his other child but lemme tell you think think of the waaaaay future . When ur 1st child and other kids after know they have an american brother or sister from another mother . I have seen a lot of things and I can tell you its not a good feeling for those kids.
But then again this should be your personal descion.
To avoid future problems for ur kids(all) amosngst themselves. All should be made to be on as equal footing as much as possible.
My personal opinion

olokings:
Crack ke. ..
My guy, I be man. ..
U no dey chop congos for outside then pot black ball na want to come sent baby oku go Yankee to go born. ..wen wifey n pikin original are carry green passport n still on the level of "I beg to apply" for visa before they travel.
No oooh. ..this one no be Crack. ..
This one na proper supernova jorh

Choi! Y am I always late to the parri

@ el2015 you've gotten more than enough responses.
Honestly a thousand and one no too good ideas came into my head just reading through.
The deed has been done. Good luck to you.

Thought I should share this..
Nigerian passport intervention excercise for those in Dallas and environs..
http://nigeria-consulate-atl.org/?p=4894

Thanks extra plenty much.

Beryl15:
Thought I should share this..
Nigerian passport intervention excercise for those in Dallas and environs..
http://nigeria-consulate-atl.org/?p=4894

justwise:


Condom is very expensive though $30K would have got you a lot + peace of mind

You can say that again! Been boiling inside but let me reserve my comment.