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anitafancis:
Dear readers please mature advice and no insult pls..


Am going throught a difficult time in my life and needed help badly, to cut the long story short, I met this man throught a friend i was living with, she introduce me to this guy saying he has money and he will be able to take care of me, I had no choice because I needed help and the guy has the money to give..

I started dating him and he gives me money a lot and promise to get me an accommodation which I did believe him of course. I got pregnant for him and he told me to keep the pregnancy which i refused but my girlfriend told me to keep it that he may even marry me. After five months plus, he started changing towards me and telling me he doesn't have money anymore. When I try to talk about the situation at hand, he gets angry and even tries to hit me..

He does not give me money anymore, he is always drinking and smoking.. I couldn't go for an abortion because I was scared and it's too late for abortion. I came home after service on sunday and found out that he was not at home and he has packed all his things and left an empty house for me. I cried throught out that day. Where am I going to start from with almost six months pregnancy? I later found out that he's married and he has 3 kids..

What am I going to do?. Pls advice..

Have your baby and move on...Ohh lest I forget, I hope you have a means of income. Women like you really deserve what you get. You were after the man's money, he was after your body. Once he had your body, he was done.

God has clearly instructed us to zip up till marriage so as to avoid these situations...una no wan hear. Then you come boring us here with these stories that have happened so many times to so many people and you wonder why people prefer to learn from their own experiences rather than other people's experiences.

Madam, let me advise you. Go and get a skill and make your own money. And work on your mindset. Any woman in 2015 still waiting for a man to take care of her is not ready for the new millennium. Such a woman belongs to the stone ages when women were commodities to be bought and sold. GO AND LEARN A SKILL, CHANGE YOUR MINDSET AND MAKE YOUR OWN MONEY. You have a baby on the way now. Don't let that baby bear the brunt of your mistakes.

Better look for a job

Oh how foolish art thou...thou art worthy to receive flogging, scolding and rebuke...

A fake 4G wireless dongle deceived you, you immediately opened your high speed 2.0 USB port and fiiiaaammmm he entered and downloaded Spambot virus into your hard disk...Now it's too late for you to get an anti-virus and formatting the hard disk is an impossibility...well my dear you must live with the virus in your hard disk...

In other words, have the child,get to church, go for deliverance (demons just set you up and you fell for it), plead for a job or adult education (if you'v got no education), start your life afresh...Your friend that introduced you to that man must be kept at arms length, get serious with your life and seek to be self sustaining...and learn to love all but never to trust any...trust God alone, for he's not a man...


Pele, you have succeeded in boarding hardship that sails over troubled waters...it is in this kind of ship you get to know God better...

anitafancis:
Dear readers please mature advice and no insult pls..


Am going throught a difficult time in my life and needed help badly, to cut the long story short, I met this man throught a friend i was living with, she introduce me to this guy saying [size=15] he has money and he will be able to take care of me, [/size] I had no choice because I needed help and the guy has the money to give..

I started dating him and he gives me money a lot and promise to get me an accommodation which I did believe him of course. I got pregnant for him and he told me to keep the pregnancy which i refused but my girlfriend told me to keep it that he may even marry me. After five months plus, he started changing towards me and telling me he doesn't have money anymore. When I try to talk about the situation at hand, he gets angry and even tries to hit me..

He does not give me money anymore, he is always drinking and smoking.. I couldn't go for an abortion because I was scared and it's too late for abortion. I came home after service on sunday and found out that he was not at home and he has packed all his things and left an empty house for me. I cried throught out that day. Where am I going to start from with almost six months pregnancy? I later found out that he's married and he has 3 kids..

What am I going to do?. Pls advice..

Up there, is the problem of our ladies today. Mental Laziness.

N1one:
Chaii!

You don enter one chance. . Your piggy bank don disappear..

what you will now do is get yourself a job or find another piggy bank..

Piggy banks and milfs are like fire and water.

Apart from unwanted pregnancy, why do ladies find it hard to believe that HIV is real?? You just meet any guy and open your legs without protecting yourself. @ OP if that man was infected that's how you would have been too? Please don't attempt abortion, no matter how you see it, children are blessings from God!

na you holy pass

TiffanyJ:
Sorry to say this but you are the genesis of your problem. Why are you crying foul? You were sleeping with a man for money, moved in with hiall these while without meeting any of his friends and family? He gave you money and you returned the favour with your body. You needed money why not go get a job? You have two hands, legs, and eyes, yet you chose to give up your dignity to a man you know nothing about.
My advice to you is to get a job, so as to pay your bills and move on. Its your choice to decide if you want to give up the baby for adoption or not.

Na wa o! Now u r forming victim. The topic sef dey vex me. He got u pregnant & left u to suffer Like for real?
How about I was foolish & got carried away by the money & tot getting pregnant wud secure my future with him. U better get. Job to support the kid. Hope others learn

If I where you. I would raise dust. I would start hurricane. Its quite simple dear. blackmail the guy. He must give you money or you will find his wife and tell her about your relationship with him. If blackmail doesn't work. Find the woman and confess everything. If the woman is not receptive. Its not hard, deliver the baby and leave it in front of the woman's house and disappear. the child is her business because she will not draw her husbands ear

Noted

if all this happened in Lagos, there is a law

if there is anything I'm scared of it is a very rich guy over spending on u for no reason

Shey you followed him because of money..see wat it has gotten u into...if it was luv, this man wouldnt hav left bt he knew u were after his money...gals are nt smart bt they always think they are smarter than guys...sorry my sister bt jus keep the baby

anitafancis:
Dear readers please mature advice and no insult pls..


Am going throught a difficult time in my life and needed help badly, to cut the long story short, I met this man throught a friend i was living with, she introduce me to this guy saying he has money and he will be able to take care of me, I had no choice because I needed help and the guy has the money to give..

I started dating him and he gives me money a lot and promise to get me an accommodation which I did believe him of course. I got pregnant for him and he told me to keep the pregnancy which i refused but my girlfriend told me to keep it that he may even marry me. After five months plus, he started changing towards me and telling me he doesn't have money anymore. When I try to talk about the situation at hand, he gets angry and even tries to hit me..

He does not give me money anymore, he is always drinking and smoking.. I couldn't go for an abortion because I was scared and it's too late for abortion. I came home after service on sunday and found out that he was not at home and he has packed all his things and left an empty house for me. I cried throught out that day. Where am I going to start from with almost six months pregnancy? I later found out that he's married and he has 3 kids..

What am I going to do?. Pls advice..

Am So happy.chai man did well.

If I was him I will do d same.

God will bless that man for Mi.

Next tym u will learn to Mke ur own money n knw Dat men r Nt God, a Gud woman Wrk n Mke ha own money.

Dat man did Vry well,Cuz had it bin d man said go rmve am,u culd Hv gone since ur sight is on money,he decided to punish u,by telling u to Kip it,till u cnt abort.haha Wat a wise man.

Atleast for now u cnt put ur Kitty kat to use,since no man will climb u n pay u wit big tummy.

He did well.

U eat him up, n left him wit no penny n u xpect him to pluck Mre from tree.

Is Gud Dat ur suffering now.

Once u drop d baby,due to dis suffer u will knw Dat u Hv to Wrk n Mke money,Dat men r Nt Wrk.



Laffing @ u in 4D

Lwkmd


Ashawo Dey go church.


U Neva marry u carry belly n u Dey go church, Wetin person go call Dat one?

u sleep wit a man,carry belly, cum Dey go church lol,Lwkmd.

All ur talk is money, money lol n u xpect him to Kip u.


Lol.


Like this gel Nw,She will go n pray in church, Wat r u praying for? Dat u r sleeping wit a man,or got pregnant to a man Nt ur husband.Wat will u b praying or going to church for?


or as in u go to church Lik married women?.who married u,who paid on ur head.

Instead of u idddiot to tell him to go pay,Na to find accommodation, and money.assuming u tell him go pay shebi d wife n kid issue for pop up n u bail.

Bt base in say u b Ashawo, all u knw is money n accommodation, So Dat u cn do ur Wrk well.


Lol

standd:
If you know how much I detest what the Op has done eh Just that she is pregnant and very vulnerable right now, and I know pregnant women to be extremely emotional. Just asking that we don't compound her issues.

You don't have to keep explaining yourself. It's you who are taking the correct stand here. These other posters know no better than to crucify a dying man.

The man is a sperm donor, and hope he doesn't come for the after 15years cos men are fun of that.

As for u, try and give birth to ur child and don't even bother the man, let him go and then wait if he ever dares come for the child, boil his manhood and give him to eat

marriedvirgin:
na you holy pass

I am not saying I am holy, what I told her is the truth, take it or leave it. The truth is always bitter but it remains the truth.

Mindfulness:
@anitafancis

You have to find that guy and ask him to assist you with the baby, it is also his child and you two must share the responsibility.
Do you know where he lives or works?

The most descent and matured comment from all other comments.

anitafancis:
Dear readers please mature advice and no insult pls..


Am going throught a difficult time in my life and needed help badly, to cut the long story short, I met this man throught a friend i was living with, she introduce me to this guy saying he has money and he will be able to take care of me, I had no choice because I needed help and the guy has the money to give..

I started dating him and he gives me money a lot and promise to get me an accommodation which I did believe him of course. I got pregnant for him and he told me to keep the pregnancy which i refused but my girlfriend told me to keep it that he may even marry me. After five months plus, he started changing towards me and telling me he doesn't have money anymore. When I try to talk about the situation at hand, he gets angry and even tries to hit me..

He does not give me money anymore, he is always drinking and smoking.. I couldn't go for an abortion because I was scared and it's too late for abortion. I came home after service on sunday and found out that he was not at home and he has packed all his things and left an empty house for me. I cried throught out that day. Where am I going to start from with almost six months pregnancy? I later found out that he's married and he has 3 kids..

What am I going to do?. Pls advice..

I am willing to help you but on my terms that after you give birth i will collect the child and cater for she or he very well you just let me know if you are interested to give up the child but pls don't abort the baby and don't dump the baby in the gulter or dustbin i am willing to care for the child.

tonychristopher:
Why adk her what she does


She is a shitty slut

Who told you she is a shitty slut...who are you to judge her? are you perfect..what about all the women you have bleeped in the past...what does that make of you....a saint?

anitafancis:
Dear readers please mature advice and no insult pls..


Am going throught a difficult time in my life and needed help badly, to cut the long story short, I met this man throught a friend i was living with, she introduce me to this guy saying he has money and he will be able to take care of me, I had no choice because I needed help and the guy has the money to give..

I started dating him and he gives me money a lot and promise to get me an accommodation which I did believe him of course. I got pregnant for him and he told me to keep the pregnancy which i refused but my girlfriend told me to keep it that he may even marry me. After five months plus, he started changing towards me and telling me he doesn't have money anymore. When I try to talk about the situation at hand, he gets angry and even tries to hit me..

He does not give me money anymore, he is always drinking and smoking.. I couldn't go for an abortion because I was scared and it's too late for abortion. I came home after service on sunday and found out that he was not at home and he has packed all his things and left an empty house for me. I cried throught out that day. Where am I going to start from with almost six months pregnancy? I later found out that he's married and he has 3 kids..

What am I going to do?. Pls advice..

send me a mail.

MrBasketball:
Are you the op? Or I should assume that's your alternate account that you can't reason it that she's a gold-digger and you couldn't say anything about it than to support her for her stupidity for opening her legs for a man she barely know all in the sake of money.

She doesn't love this man but his money... So stop posting nonsensical comments here.

are you telling you that you have not made a mistake before in your life, do you even know her background, and the circumstances she found herself at that point in time? Who are you to judge are...yes she is a Gold Digger...she know that...she got pregnant in other to pin a the man down for marriage but she got her fingers burnt...she already know her mistake and condemned herself a thousand times but does not need all the barrage off accusation going on here.....if she did not put it here online for you to see i don't think you will be busy over another person's headache.

jannies:
Apart from unwanted pregnancy, why do ladies find it hard to believe that HIV is real?? You just meet any guy and open your legs without protecting yourself. @ OP if that man was infected that's how you would have been too? Please don't attempt abortion, no matter how you see it, children are blessings from God!

she is far gone already...abortion is out of the question now.

N1one:
Chaii!

You don enter one chance. . Your piggy bank don disappear..

what you will now do is get yourself a job or find another piggy bank..

Lolz. I laugh when I see such stories. Who did you consult at first when he wanted to date you? Your friend was just the sole controller of your destiny. Now you are popping out questions to Naira landers like they were the one who mislead you. I hate when little girls like you misbehave before getting back your sanity. Now you have discovered that the man is married with kids. Good, he used his little money to lavishly make you feel comfortable to the expense of his family. I would have said I am sorry for you. But then you just got what you deserve. Save the pregnancy, hustle well and be a single parent.

omoharry:
are you telling you that you have not made a mistake before in your life, do you even know her background, and the circumstances she found herself at that point in time? Who are you to judge are...yes she is a Gold Digger...she know that...she got pregnant in other to pin a the man down for marriage but she got her fingers burnt...she already know her mistake and condemned herself a thousand times but does not need all the barrage off accusation going on here.....if she did not put it here online for you to see i don't think you will be busy over another person's headache.

You didn't even make any single point in your post.

She should have keep it to herself instead of coming on here to seek for advice instead, that would have saved her from the bashing she received instead.

I called a gold-digger her because based on the attribute she possessed and everybody knows that... So I'm who I am, there is difference between judging and calling someone something... If your fellow ladies were against her for being greedy and she's part of the man's failure. And if you are the op in disguise who came to defend herself with this, stop running after a man with money, because you won't get a good result at the end.

You can go and have a peaceful day on your birthday.

Juxtified:
You can't blame the poor guy na, he said he has no money anymore. Maybe you were the one who finished his money, since according to you that was what attracted you to him in the first place...

I taya o, don't knw how some ladies think using fish brain. Owo shaaaaaaaaa!!!!

anitafancis:
Dear readers please mature advice and no insult pls..


Am going throught a difficult time in my life and needed help badly, to cut the long story short, I met this man throught a friend i was living with, she introduce me to this guy saying he has money and he will be able to take care of me, I had no choice because I needed help and the guy has the money to give..

I started dating him and he gives me money a lot and promise to get me an accommodation which I did believe him of course. I got pregnant for him and he told me to keep the pregnancy which i refused but my girlfriend told me to keep it that he may even marry me. After five months plus, he started changing towards me and telling me he doesn't have money anymore. When I try to talk about the situation at hand, he gets angry and even tries to hit me..

He does not give me money anymore, he is always drinking and smoking.. I couldn't go for an abortion because I was scared and it's too late for abortion. I came home after service on sunday and found out that he was not at home and he has packed all his things and left an empty house for me. I cried throught out that day. Where am I going to start from with almost six months pregnancy? I later found out that he's married and he has 3 kids..

What am I going to do?. Pls advice..

Pm me for an interview if your are employable y not

MrBasketball:
You didn't even make any single point in your post.

She should have keep it to herself instead of coming on here to seek for advice instead, that would have saved her from the bashing she received instead.

I called a gold-digger her because based on the attribute she possessed and everybody knows that... So I'm who I am, there is difference between judging and calling someone something... If your fellow ladies were against her for being greedy and she's part of the man's failure. And if you are the op in disguise who came to defend herself with this, stop running after a man with money, because you won't get a good result at the end.

You can go and have a peaceful day on your birthday.

LOL...Thank you the birthday compliment. I am not the op in disguise ooo! haba! ..I work very hard for my money and take good care of myself without asking a man for money...all i am saying is that we are all human and bound to make mistakes most of the time.This is her cross to carry and she will learn her lessons from life experience.So people here should not over flog this issue with criticism having in mind that she is in a delicate condition.

anitafancis:
Dear readers please mature advice and no insult pls..


Am going throught a difficult time in my life and needed help badly, to cut the long story short, I met this man throught a friend i was living with, she introduce me to this guy saying he has money and he will be able to take care of me, I had no choice because I needed help and the guy has the money to give..

I started dating him and he gives me money a lot and promise to get me an accommodation which I did believe him of course. I got pregnant for him and he told me to keep the pregnancy which i refused but my girlfriend told me to keep it that he may even marry me. After five months plus, he started changing towards me and telling me he doesn't have money anymore. When I try to talk about the situation at hand, he gets angry and even tries to hit me..

He does not give me money anymore, he is always drinking and smoking.. I couldn't go for an abortion because I was scared and it's too late for abortion. I came home after service on sunday and found out that he was not at home and he has packed all his things and left an empty house for me. I cried throught out that day. Where am I going to start from with almost six months pregnancy? I later found out that he's married and he has 3 kids..

What am I going to do?. Pls advice..

No! U jst listen to ursef top down, what kind of advice do u expect from someone lyk me ehn?? Mk I come claim the unborn foetus or start giving u money jst like d man used to or start acting in his capacity? Coz I don't get this shit..........!!!!

omoharry:
LOL...Thank you the birthday compliment. I am not the op in disguise ooo! haba! ..I work very hard for my money and take good care of myself without asking a man for money...all i am saying is that we are all human and bound to make mistakes most of the time.This is her cross to carry and she will learn her lessons from life experience.So people here should not over flog this issue with criticism having in mind that she is in a delicate condition.

I tell u, that wasn't a mistake dear. That's what is called greediness's menh!!!.








One question for u babe, why haven't u made the same mistakes After all, u are human too.........