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DDeliverer:
is linda ikeji richer than oga seun?

is dt why bros is intimidated?

vitus101:
What happened to ' Behind every successful man, there's a woman' ?? Stand by that guy, help him become the man you want. Most of these broke guys are hardworking and industrious. All they need is a lil push.. Help him and you 2 can live happily ever after... Fairy tale style..lol

humilitypays:
I am very aware that what I am about to write will not go down well with many readers on this forum, but then, the truth must be told.

In as much as I do not support single ladies being too forward about money and material things, I do not support a single guy going into a relationship when he has not found his direction in life; more especially nowadays that increase in population has made it very difficult for young people to find job after school.

I will be making reference to the Holy Bible to back up my stand, but before then, let's take a look at some of the disadvantages of a guy going into a committed relationship when he is still struggling:

1. He gets distracted: women are emotional creatures that require lots of emotional attention to satisfy, so for a guy who's still struggling financially, keeping a committed relationship will most likely distract him from chasing his life dreams.

2. Financial waste: no matter what you think or say, keeping a girlfriend cost money, especially nowadays that technology has taken over the world.

Buying call cards to say hi to her, buying gifts for her on special occasions, taking her out for dates, and other frivolous spending cost money which the guy can invest on himself to acquire ICT skill/certification, etc.

I won't bore you guys with too many points, so let me jump straight to the Bible backing.

During the process of creation as narrated in the book of Genesis, the world was without form, nothing existed and God created heaven and earth, sea, oceans, forests, trees, animals and every other thing on earth.

And God looked at the earth and saw its beauty, and decided to create the first human.

Please I want you guys to pay close attention to the preceding paragraphs of this write-up.

When God decided to create human being, God didn't create man and woman the same day, instead God first created man- Adam.

Adam lived alone for long, moving around the earth (Garden of Eden), taking care of the animals, trees, fishes, etc and God saw that He was lonely and needed company and helper, and God decided to create Eve to keep Adam company and to also be his helper.

The moment Adam woke up and saw Eve, he fell in love with Eve without waiting for many years to develop love, and Eve also fell in love with him without having to screen him to know how much he's worth and what he has to offer her.

Note 1: there's true love at first sight, don't doubt it or condemn it, its real!

My point:

God first created Adam, and Adam had virtually everything he needed to survive- shelter (whether under tree or whatever), food, etc before God brought him a wife!

So to the single guys reading this, please pray to God to bless your daily life activities so that you can succeed first before getting a woman, and you know why?

1. Woman is not the most important thing to a man, his work (goal in life) is.

Give a poor man the most beautiful woman who truly loves him, I bet you guys the man will run abandon the woman lol

2. A man feels more good in a relationship when he is financially stable than when he is financially broke!

3. No matter how rich a man's girlfriend/wife is, the man will never feel satisfied with the woman until he himself is financially stable too.

4. The true behaviour of a man can only be known when he is financially okay, and not when he is broke!

5. Naturally, by default, every woman desires to be with a man who is more financially capable than her.

This is one major reason Oprah Winfrey never married. Same reason Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Agbani Darego, Rihanna, etc are all single secretly searching for that guy that has more money and fame to come make their dream come true.

Don't ever think guys aren't proposing to the aforementioned ladies because I can bet my nairaland username that thousands of suitors who may not be as rich and popular as them are asking them out on daily basis.

So guys stop nagging and attacking the ladies; ladies aren't the problem, our common enemies are the past and present politicians who ruined our national economy, leaving the youths helpless and jobless!

It is the politicians that we youths should hate and attack for embezzling our common national wealth for their personal use.

We need to pray for a better Nigeria with many great job opportunities for the youths, and we must also condemn giving better jobs to females who do not qualify to the detriment of guys with better qualification.

Lastly, ladies please I am not encouraging going after already made guys only, please give all guys equal chance of friendship because that broke guy today maybe the next Forbe's billionaire tomorrow, so always pray for God's direction and do use your wisdom!

Adanna28:
No I'm not dear, Thank you for the compliment though

daveP:
(looks for thumbs up smiley, cant find)

Joy1706:
Abeg everyone should struggle by themselves and for themselves. Who go cone help us struggle? Abi we no get our own lives to live?

legendsilver:
@op, did your mum married your dad because he was Already Made? if yes then am sorry to say she was a gold digger during her time and the feelings enjoyed in a lovable marriage was never there.
this I believe is the reason you opened this thread so as to kill the already dying spirit of love in today's generation.
I was opportune to watch a movie long time ago titled;
Coming to America by Eddy Murphy. that movie still rings bell in my head cus I will never show a girl how much I am worth just to see and know the one that will stay with me when I am broke and in need.
just be good and take ur deluded sermon thread of deceive to the gullible, low life low self-esteem Nairalanders that believe in this piss of junk you have managed to coined out.
Have a Good day and enjoy your sallah with your gold digger ladies

legendsilver:
@op, did your mum married your dad because he was Already Made? if yes then am sorry to say she was a gold digger during her time and the feelings enjoyed in a lovable marriage was never there.
this I believe is the reason you opened this thread so as to kill the already dying spirit of love in today's generation.
I was opportune to watch a movie long time ago titled;
Coming to America by Eddy Murphy. that movie still rings bell in my head cus I will never show a girl how much I am worth just to see and know the one that will stay with me when I am broke and in need.
just be good and take ur deluded sermon thread of deceive to the gullible, low life low self-esteem Nairalanders that believe in this piss of junk you have managed to coined out.
Have a Good day and enjoy your sallah with your gold digger ladies

safarigirl:
feel free to tell people who care. Congrats, I don't have any boyfriend in this country either cuz girls like me aren't in demand. It is those girls fondly called 'gold diggers' that attract guys cuz most guys just want a girl with a hot body, sex is what drives them. They don't realise their hot bae has a bad character until after they've shagged her, sometimes more than once. You put yourselves in these situations, you toast these girls. So, what is the problem? PS: I'm sure you have lots of dirty words in your vocabulary, but if you want to converse in terms of 'shiit' and 'phuck', you should know that I have at least 3 years of working experience over you with that.

safarigirl:
feel free to tell people who care. Congrats, I don't have any boyfriend in this country either cuz girls like me aren't in demand. It is those girls fondly called 'gold diggers' that attract guys cuz most guys just want a girl with a hot body, sex is what drives them. They don't realise their hot bae has a bad character until after they've shagged her, sometimes more than once. You put yourselves in these situations, you toast these girls. So, what is the problem? PS: I'm sure you have lots of dirty words in your vocabulary, ]but if you want to converse in terms of 'shiit' and 'phuck', you should know that I have at least 3 years of working experience over you with that.

pweedyuz:
Nd what if d girl that was there for u wen things were rough breaks up with u 4 reasons best known 2 her
Won't u get another another girl seeing as u r now "ready made" ??

munchfani:
Nothing is certain except change...READYMADE GO BROKE SOMEDAY

Oliviaarims:
Ur response is non-sequitur!...And d Op's post does not necessarily refer 2 runs girls .Let's all b sincere,we all want d good things of life,but d difference b/w humans is d extent 2 which each person would go to 2 acgive these good things of life. Relationship isn't sth u buy with money quite alright,but it goes a long way making d relationship smooth as long as there's peace and understanding. No matter what anybody says when u dating a broke guy,and d girl isn't. so rich on her own,then there'll be problems and hidden resentment and there's a high possibility that d girl 'll be ditching d niccur soon once she realizes she can't deal wid it anymore.My problem, however is when gurls run after guys,even d ones way older than them 4 nufin else but the money.....
And yea,it isn't stated anywhere that a guy must spend on a girl he's dating. Here's what a relationship really is.....it is an unwritten and unofficial marriage contract. It means that when two ppl agree 2 go in2 a relationship, they've decided 2 stay committed 2 each other and both parties should play d role...as unofficial husband and wife. Unofficial here means that nothing is binding on them...and each person can walk out whenever he/she pleases.....All these guys keep saying a man musnt spend a dime on a woman he's dating,but they have d guts 2 demand sex from the women on d basis that it's a way of proving love and that it's allowed in a relationship. Likewise,u should be able 2 mk contributions in ur woman's life.....financially,emotionally, morally an otherwise..But these are not mandatory and nobody would sue whoever doesn't mett up 2 these requirements

legendsilver:
@op, did your mum married your dad because he was Already Made? if yes then am sorry to say she was a gold digger during her time and the feelings enjoyed in a lovable marriage was never there.
this I believe is the reason you opened this thread so as to kill the already dying spirit of love in today's generation.
I was opportune to watch a movie long time ago titled;
Coming to America by Eddy Murphy. that movie still rings bell in my head cus I will never show a girl how much I am worth just to see and know the one that will stay with me when I am broke and in need.
just be good and take ur deluded sermon thread of deceive to the gullible, low life low self-esteem Nairalanders that believe in this piss of junk you have managed to coined out.
Have a Good day and enjoy your sallah with your gold digger ladies

francizy:
I now recall you!!!

You've been the one sharing flows/rhymes on my Following list...

Guess we hardly cross path since am always on politics section while you're always on the poem section...

So I was actually seeing a musician in you, when I mentioned Asha??

Keep up the good work ma'am.

humilitypays:
I am very aware that what I am about to write will not go down well with many readers on this forum, but then, the truth must be told.

In as much as I do not support single ladies being too forward about money and material things, I do not support a single guy going into a relationship when he has not found his direction in life; more especially nowadays that increase in population has made it very difficult for young people to find job after school.

I will be making reference to the Holy Bible to back up my stand, but before then, let's take a look at some of the disadvantages of a guy going into a committed relationship when he is still struggling:

1. He gets distracted: women are emotional creatures that require lots of emotional attention to satisfy, so for a guy who's still struggling financially, keeping a committed relationship will most likely distract him from chasing his life dreams.

2. Financial waste: no matter what you think or say, keeping a girlfriend cost money, especially nowadays that technology has taken over the world.

Buying call cards to say hi to her, buying gifts for her on special occasions, taking her out for dates, and other frivolous spending cost money which the guy can invest on himself to acquire ICT skill/certification, etc.

I won't bore you guys with too many points, so let me jump straight to the Bible backing.

During the process of creation as narrated in the book of Genesis, the world was without form, nothing existed and God created heaven and earth, sea, oceans, forests, trees, animals and every other thing on earth.

And God looked at the earth and saw its beauty, and decided to create the first human.

Please I want you guys to pay close attention to the preceding paragraphs of this write-up.

When God decided to create human being, God didn't create man and woman the same day, instead God first created man- Adam.

Adam lived alone for long, moving around the earth (Garden of Eden), taking care of the animals, trees, fishes, etc and God saw that He was lonely and needed company and helper, and God decided to create Eve to keep Adam company and to also be his helper.

The moment Adam woke up and saw Eve, he fell in love with Eve without waiting for many years to develop love, and Eve also fell in love with him without having to screen him to know how much he's worth and what he has to offer her.

Note 1: there's true love at first sight, don't doubt it or condemn it, its real!

My point:

God first created Adam, and Adam had virtually everything he needed to survive- shelter (whether under tree or whatever), food, etc before God brought him a wife!

So to the single guys reading this, please pray to God to bless your daily life activities so that you can succeed first before getting a woman, and you know why?

1. Woman is not the most important thing to a man, his work (goal in life) is.

Give a poor man the most beautiful woman who truly loves him, I bet you guys the man will run abandon the woman lol

2. A man feels more good in a relationship when he is financially stable than when he is financially broke!

3. No matter how rich a man's girlfriend/wife is, the man will never feel satisfied with the woman until he himself is financially stable too.

4. The true behaviour of a man can only be known when he is financially okay, and not when he is broke!

5. Naturally, by default, every woman desires to be with a man who is more financially capable than her.

This is one major reason Oprah Winfrey never married. Same reason Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Agbani Darego, Rihanna, etc are all single secretly searching for that guy that has more money and fame to come make their dream come true.

Don't ever think guys aren't proposing to the aforementioned ladies because I can bet my nairaland username that thousands of suitors who may not be as rich and popular as them are asking them out on daily basis.

So guys stop nagging and attacking the ladies; ladies aren't the problem, our common enemies are the past and present politicians who ruined our national economy, leaving the youths helpless and jobless!

It is the politicians that we youths should hate and attack for embezzling our common national wealth for their personal use.

We need to pray for a better Nigeria with many great job opportunities for the youths, and we must also condemn giving better jobs to females who do not qualify to the detriment of guys with better qualification.

Lastly, ladies please I am not encouraging going after already made guys only, please give all guys equal chance of friendship because that broke guy today maybe the next Forbe's billionaire tomorrow, so always pray for God's direction and do use your wisdom!

humilitypays:
I can bet my nairaland username

wristbangle:
Lol. Babe I know what you have at the back of your mind is to settle for ready made guy but to be candid what happens if he go broke in future. Meanwhile saying who will help u struggle, I mean u can't compare guys hustle to that of ladies.

Adanna28:
Yeah you have a point men shouldn't be mad when a woman goes for ready made men. After all who really wants to go for a woman that can't even hold her own and support herself financially?

This is not the 1950s era where men have to cater to your beck n call, get off your yansh and raise your level.

Yeah if he your husband of course he will support you, but it goes both ways it a partnership for life.

But a mere girlfriend wanting her man to play " Daddy" n supply all her needs? Lol grow a spine and make your own money.

Plus those ready made men aren't looking for commitment, he probably has many side dishes to go with the main meal.

I personally can't live my life like that, using my pus.sy as a bargaining chip to get funds, it the same thing as an ashewo wanting payment for services, I got dignity to me.

I've been with my man through the good and the rough times, even supported him when he been down financially without malice or judgement because I know it just a temporary setback.

He been there for me too when I've struggled, we help each other out, after all it a partnership not queen to slave.

I love my Igbo/Edo Obim very much, man of good conscience, not perfect but hey I ain't exactly an angel myself.

But I stick by him through thick n thin coz I know no matter the circumstances, we hustle n work together to progress.

McCarlito:
And statistics have it that girls going for "Ready-made" men mostly end up as single parents....





















Any lady that was not there thru my struggles would never had made my list of marriageable partners

Adanna28:
Yeah you have a point men shouldn't be mad when a woman goes for ready made men. After all who really wants to go for a woman that can't even hold her own and support herself financially?

This is not the 1950s era where men have to cater to your beck n call, get off your yansh and raise your level.

Yeah if he your husband of course he will support you, but it goes both ways it a partnership for life.

But a mere girlfriend wanting her man to play " Daddy" n supply all her needs? Lol grow a spine and make your own money.

Plus those ready made men aren't looking for commitment, he probably has many side dishes to go with the main meal.

I personally can't live my life like that, using my pus.sy as a bargaining chip to get funds, it the same thing as an ashewo wanting payment for services, I got dignity to me.

I've been with my man through the good and the rough times, even supported him when he been down financially without malice or judgement because I know it just a temporary setback.

He been there for me too when I've struggled, we help each other out, after all it a partnership not queen to slave.

I love my Igbo/Edo Obim very much, man of good conscience, not perfect but hey I ain't exactly an angel myself.

But I stick by him through thick n thin coz I know no matter the circumstances, we hustle n work together to progress.

ceecee0703:
You made my day...u are certainly a rare breed. Your later will be greater

JOESAJIB:
That's poor men mentality. Make it big and take good care of your babe. That's the right thing to do.