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ollah1:
Nick is poor to Mariah Carey just like Dangote was poor to Abacha's children

pleiades45:
bro, you are deviating from the topic. the topic does not say rich women who marry rich men whom they are richer than - the topic says rich women who marry men who are not so rich. please learn to stay on topic. Nick cannon is a rich man who married a rich woman who has more money than him. the topic requires that the man be ' not so rich, meaning somewhat poor '
this is sukkott. spambot ate my other ID

NwaliE01:
Hey, this is not a Yoruba forum.
speak Nigerian language.

Adanna28:
I think it comes down to financial stability, if that guy can contribute to the relationship and not be a burden. I know it may sound harsh, but a lot of mothers even teach their daughters to go for men with money so they don't struggle in life.

It could also be a different dynamic in social structure, a Nigerian woman born in the UK has had a different dating experience to Naija born women, where they may "test" the waters of different men from diverse backgrounds there.

They may also be a bit stuck up, but that goes with the individuals character per say, not all are like that though.

I recall aunties in my family in childhood telling me to date a rich oyinbo man with lots of money, so I don't struggle in life.

Day in day out they use to say this when I would do chores as a small pikin.

I always followed my heart though, since my father advised me as a child to choose a man whom I love and not solely for money.

I'm a strong hardworking woman so I never felt the need to find a man to depend on financially, I like to work for my income.

And my partner he Igbo/Edo not rich, but we work together n make due, and I'm happy

Each to their own at the end of the day.

firstEVA:
First of all, it's not a general thing, some well to do girls just want to get married and bear another man's name even though he has no money, I have heard of several cases where a woman sponsors her wedding, pays for their accommodation, even baff up her man, it happens a lot.

The category of ladies you have referred to are in the majority, the fact is this, a woman wants to be able to look up to her husband in every aspect of life, particularly financially. A woman earning more than her man places her in a higher position than her husband, it takes the grace of God for a woman to maintain her humility and sanity when she is expected to meet most of the demands of the home, it becomes a case of role reversal and can lead to a lot of commotion in the home particularly if he has some ego. To avoid all this wahala, a successful woman/lady would want a more successful man so they don't have an awkward married life.
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firstEVA:
First of all, it's not a general thing, some well to do girls just want to get married and bear another man's name even though he has no money, I have heard of several cases where a woman sponsors her wedding, pays for their accommodation, even baff up her man, it happens a lot.

The category of ladies you have referred to are in the majority, the fact is this, a woman wants to be able to look up to her husband in every aspect of life, particularly financially. A woman earning more than her man places her in a higher position than her husband, it takes the grace of God for a woman to maintain her humility and sanity when she is expected to meet most of the demands of the home, it becomes a case of role reversal and can lead to a lot of commotion in the home particularly if he has some ego. To avoid all this wahala, a successful woman/lady would want a more successful man so they don't have an awkward married life.
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Kelvinpam:
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humilitypays:
Hi, pls this isn't an attack on Nigerian ladies....at least, not from me because I cherish Nigerian ladies so much to hate em

Its just an observation that I felt like hearing ppls opinion.

I can't hate Nigerian girls...I have no single reason to but instead I wish and desire to see us live happily, ever after instead in tears and loneliness as been the case of recent.

So relax and just read ppls opinion, we all are learning from life, good morning

Asiwaju9ja:
Reminds me of this guy from abroad married one ordinary banker o! As per kpe e came from abroad no work or busines as yet so e dey house. We had the same gear issues with our cars(same make different models) as I was fixing mine d guy came around and told me that he had d same issue and he spent over 270k buying another gearbox. Not long after d lady came to join us where they are fixing my car. She then repeated What her husband had said and embarrassed him big time. She said " it was this problem our car had, I SPENT OVER 270K TO FIX IT" see as d woman come open d guy yansh just because na she spend d money. The guy quickly left d place leaving d wife there in annoyance.

Subom1:
People generally whether male or female tend to associate the most with people like their self or someone they may have a lot in common with. 

Most times a rich woman and a poor man will not have a lot in common ( interest,  education etc) so will not be compatible often times then not. I think compatibility and status is more of the issue then the money itself as a rich woman doesn't  'need' a rich man's  money either.


I have found from personal experience that men too (not all of them) are intimidated if a woman is actually earning more than them. Similarly if a man is poor and lazy and allows a woman to be the breadwinner of the house,  there will be no respect and most times the lady will be the boss of the home.

Generally women don't tend to be stupid like men who often fall for younger women who end up being gold diggers and are less likely to want to support a man financially. They want someone their equal, well educated, good job, etc. However, everything they expect they can also offer.

When a lot of poor peeps get a taste for money, they become greedier than even some rich people. This is due to the fact that they grew up with nothing and now feel that they deserve the money since they grew up poor. He will then grow wings and that's when the trouble will begin lol not to even get started on his family becoming a liability to you as well.

If you guys happen to separate for some reason then just take Elizabeth Taylor for an example. She married 'lesser', and paid a ton in palimony & divorce settlements. What woman wants that!

Ain't nobody got time for that


personally I can date a guy I earn more than but he has to be educated and be able to stand on his own feet. I ain't going to date some guy whereby I will be his atm machine while he does nada. Tufiakwa

humilitypays:
Some days ago, I and a friend who recently returned from abroad were gisting about life, and one thing led to another, we ended up discussing Nigerian issues like- insecurity in the northeastern Nigeria, abnormal increase in graduate unemployment, politics, and of course romance; basically the rate at which true love is fading away in Nigeria of our time.

It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria.

He revealed to me that many Nigerian guys living in US and Uk would love to marry Nigerian ladies living there, but that the problem is that Nigerian ladies don't always make it easy for Naija guys living there with them to approach them and that most of the Naija ladies there usually flock around a Nigerian guy there if they notice that the guy is from a wealthy Nigerian family or at worst, studying medicine or working as a doctor there.

He also mentioned that he has observed that Nigerian ladies who come from wealthy family backgrounds or those who worked hard to become rich themselves will never agree to date or marry a Nigerian guy who isn't richer than them or popular; that's a celebrity.

His statement shocked me because exactly what he said was also my thought having observed things here in Nigeria for some time now, and some months ago, I also overheard a group of guys discussing same thing at a gathering I went to.

Now, I want to throw this question open to Nigerian ladies of all social status, since nairaland is a popular forum where people of all class visit...please no insults, I just want to hear your opinion.

Why don't we see more of rich single Nigerian ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys? Is it a crime or does it mean Nigerian ladies only develop love when they see or smell wealth and success?

At least, we have witnessed or heard of several cases of wealthy Nigerian guys date and marry poor Nigerian girls from poor families who don't even have a job, but on the other hand, we rarely hear or see rich Nigerian single ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys; I am not even talking of dating or marrying broke guys, I mean guys who aren't that rich or popular.

Before anyone come calling for my head, please kindly sit back and observe things in your area of residence; you will notice that we now have plenty number of Nigerian single ladies working in big companies and earning fat salaries, some are born into wealth, some have become rich doing business, yet these ladies are single probably waiting for a rich or richer guy to come ask them out and marry them, hence making it difficult for them to find husband.

But in other countries of Africa, Europe, Asia, and Americas, rich ladies date and marry broke and not-so-rich guys without issues, but is seems to be different in Nigeria, why pls

What then is the need of fighting for feminism and gender-equality if NIgerian ladies can't embrace the changes that comes with gender equality/feminism?

Let me give some examples:

Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnajia, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, Tonto Dikeh, Kate Henshaw, etc

Believe it or not, Linda Ikeji wants to marry, but she's probably waiting for one rich guy or son of a former minister, governor, MD, etc to settle down with.....same with Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, and so many others that are not that popular but rich or come from rich family background.

Does it mean that rich Nigerian guys dating and marrying poor or not-so-rich Nigerian girls are fools

At least Marriah Carey married poor Nick Cannon...and many of such cases abound in western countries, but rarely happen in Nigeria, why? Something is wrong somewhere, can someone please explain.

Note:
I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich?

humilitypays:
Some days ago, I and a friend who recently returned from abroad were gisting about life, and one thing led to another, we ended up discussing Nigerian issues like- insecurity in the northeastern Nigeria, abnormal increase in graduate unemployment, politics, and of course romance; basically the rate at which true love is fading away in Nigeria of our time.

It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria.

He revealed to me that many Nigerian guys living in US and Uk would love to marry Nigerian ladies living there, but that the problem is that Nigerian ladies don't always make it easy for Naija guys living there with them to approach them and that most of the Naija ladies there usually flock around a Nigerian guy there if they notice that the guy is from a wealthy Nigerian family or at worst, studying medicine or working as a doctor there.

He also mentioned that he has observed that Nigerian ladies who come from wealthy family backgrounds or those who worked hard to become rich themselves will never agree to date or marry a Nigerian guy who isn't richer than them or popular; that's a celebrity.

His statement shocked me because exactly what he said was also my thought having observed things here in Nigeria for some time now, and some months ago, I also overheard a group of guys discussing same thing at a gathering I went to.

Now, I want to throw this question open to Nigerian ladies of all social status, since nairaland is a popular forum where people of all class visit...please no insults, I just want to hear your opinion.

Why don't we see more of rich single Nigerian ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys? Is it a crime or does it mean Nigerian ladies only develop love when they see or smell wealth and success?

At least, we have witnessed or heard of several cases of wealthy Nigerian guys date and marry poor Nigerian girls from poor families who don't even have a job, but on the other hand, we rarely hear or see rich Nigerian single ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys; I am not even talking of dating or marrying broke guys, I mean guys who aren't that rich or popular.

Before anyone come calling for my head, please kindly sit back and observe things in your area of residence; you will notice that we now have plenty number of Nigerian single ladies working in big companies and earning fat salaries, some are born into wealth, some have become rich doing business, yet these ladies are single probably waiting for a rich or richer guy to come ask them out and marry them, hence making it difficult for them to find husband.

But in other countries of Africa, Europe, Asia, and Americas, rich ladies date and marry broke and not-so-rich guys without issues, but is seems to be different in Nigeria, why pls

What then is the need of fighting for feminism and gender-equality if NIgerian ladies can't embrace the changes that comes with gender equality/feminism?

Let me give some examples:

Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnajia, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, Tonto Dikeh, Kate Henshaw, etc

Believe it or not, Linda Ikeji wants to marry, but she's probably waiting for one rich guy or son of a former minister, governor, MD, etc to settle down with.....same with Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, and so many others that are not that popular but rich or come from rich family background.

Does it mean that rich Nigerian guys dating and marrying poor or not-so-rich Nigerian girls are fools

At least Marriah Carey married poor Nick Cannon...and many of such cases abound in western countries, but rarely happen in Nigeria, why? Something is wrong somewhere, can someone please explain.

Note:
I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich?

Stelvin101:
That's why they will continue to remain single all the days of their lives and married to Cucumber or intimacy gadgets. Their loss, not ours.

Op you are so on point. Na so d stuupid chick I dated during my NYSC days do na. am a regular Corper receiving N19,568 and she is a A special corper who happens to be an Optician (for those of y'all moda4ckas dat don't understand who is an opticians. it meas Eye specialist or Doctor lolz) receiving N19,568, Plus N50,000 State bonus, plus N5,000 General Hospital pay, plus N20,000 two hours per day private hospital monthly pay. This babe dey net pass me but will still wan collect from me and when we get into arguments she will remind me she receives pass me and always wanna act like she is d head and am d tail. I gat dump her sorry Asss fast fast before service finish coz if i try am marry that one, na hell on earth wey person nova know weda e go make heaven

Nigerian gals majority of you should change y'all evil ways.

donem:
hahaha Ogar you just made me have a good laugh at work, on the talking issue most of them fit cast you innocently self.

can't immagine the look on the husbands face, pathetic to say the least.

sonofananimal:
which other thing we fit classify them again apart from pride

Orkpekyandega:
Tôû I just felt pride will be too low a factor, selfishness to me is the reason. Girls are naturally selfish. They always feel it is their right to spend a man' money.

Asiwaju9ja:
Reminds me of this guy from abroad married one ordinary banker o! As per kpe e came from abroad no work or busines as yet so e dey house. We had the same gear issues with our cars(same make different models) as I was fixing mine d guy came around and told me that he had d same issue and he spent over 270k buying another gearbox. Not long after d lady came to join us where they are fixing my car. She then repeated What her husband had said and embarrassed him big time. She said " it was this problem our car had, I SPENT OVER 270K TO FIX IT" see as d woman come open d guy yansh just because na she spend d money. The guy quickly left d place leaving d wife there in annoyance.

NoIgwegbe:
You say that white women marry men who are poorer than them, but have you visited their homes?
Have you seen the man doing all the house chores and doing it gladly while his wife works?
THis is called role reversal. The woman does not mind maintaining the man, as long as he is useful around the house.
Unlike in NIgeria where the men are too proud of doign house chores, yet they want an ATM machine as a wife.
Most hardworking established women do not see the need to become slaves in the name of being wives, when the main function of the man in the home, which is providing for his family is done by her, and the man still would not want to do the roles of a wife, like the men abroad do.
Nobody is a work machine, she cannot do all the work outside and inside the home. it is not done. Better to be single and hustle for just yourself, than acquire a liability, and a slave master, that creates more stress for you both at home and at work.
Marriage in Nigeria is over-rated. it is okay to not want to marry if you feel you are okay. Genevieive said it several times, that she does not want to marry.
NIgerian men think that marriage is all the beginning and end of a woman's life, but you must not marry.
When you have something more important in life to achieve than marriage, the bible says that it okay not to marry. and waiting for rich men is not the reason why some rich women are not married.
Some simply do not want to marry, because marriage in NIgeria is over-rated. Gurrit.

scentmarlc:
LINKS TO SECTION NOMINATION THREADS FOR N.A.I.R.A AWARDS 2015


GENERAL:
www.nairaland.com/2447625/n-r-awards-2015-awareness



ROMANCE:
www.nairaland.com/2450570/romance-sections-nomination-thread-n.a.i.r.aawards2015

FAMILY:
www.nairaland.com/2450719/family-sections-nomination-thread-n.a.i.r.a


CULTURE:
www.nairaland.com/2450889/culture-sections-nomination-thread-n.a.i.r.a


FASHION:
www.nairaland.com/2450885/fashion-sections-nomination-thread-n.a.i.r.a



NYSC:
www.nairaland.com/2449622/nairaland-recognition-awards-2015



CAREER:
www.nairaland.com/2449643/nairaland-recognition-awards-2015

MUSIC/RADIO:
www.nairaland.com/2450809/music-radio-sections-nomination-thread


EDUCATION:
www.nairaland.com/2449776/nairaland-recognition-awards-2015


JOB/VACANCY(now in general):
www.nairaland.com/2449632/nairaland-recognition-awards-2015


POLITICS;
www.nairaland.com/2450670/politics-sections-nomination-thread-n.a.i.r.a


CRIME:
www.nairaland.com/2450966/crime-sections-nomination-thread-n.a.i.r.a

why is the business section missing



Endaevour to nominate before the week runs out.

Asiwaju9ja:
Reminds me of this guy from abroad married one ordinary banker o! As per kpe e came from abroad no work or busines as yet so e dey house. We had the same gear issues with our cars(same make different models) as I was fixing mine d guy came around and told me that he had d same issue and he spent over 270k buying another gearbox. Not long after d lady came to join us where they are fixing my car. She then repeated What her husband had said and embarrassed him big time. She said " it was this problem our car had, I SPENT OVER 270K TO FIX IT" see as d woman come open d guy yansh just because na she spend d money. The guy quickly left d place leaving d wife there in annoyance.

bukatyne:
Sorry I did not get the embarrassment

Asiwaju9ja:

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Can You Imagine? bukatyne say she no see the embarrassment there. You see a classic example of wetin we dey discuss here. All wetin we dey go back and forth about see the example above.

bukatyne:
There is no need for a dramatic response...

What was the embarrassment?

humilitypays:
It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria.
Note:
I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich?

Asiwaju9ja:
I no be actor (when dey act Drama) as you say you no see am (the embarrassment). Leave the matter then.

lilmax:
na lie


The fact is you cannot be proud and humble at the same time,the reason they dont get married to poor guys is because of “responsibility“

rhymz:
what exactly is your definition of self-esteem, a woman being equal to a man in a marriage..... Let me ask you this one question, how much success are marriages where both husband and wife are assumed equal in responsibility and ability to lead and make decisions for the relationship-have been recorded with such models. A woman can never be equal to a man no matter what any feminist tell herself in a marriage. The man is the leader and the woman is his companion and is there to complement him.... All that crap about women being equal and should be left to make decisions only lead to uneccessary strife and competition that eventually leads to the high baby momma and baby daddy models we now see creeping into our society from the the West.
No man will stay in a relationship where his decisions have to always be first vetted by his wife before it passes, that's not low-self esteem, it is common sense, it calls to question his ability to lead or be trusted to lead.. .