all4naija:

Do you judge people based on their past life or deeds?

123papas:
She recently had a fling with him. I don't want her anymore, I just want my kids

daretodiffer:


You are obsessed with women. It is a problem. A big one

Hi55:
Hello nairalanders, I just wish I'll get a shoulder or two to cry on tonight. Things are becoming unbearable for me and I don't know how far I can walk on these shoes. Here's my story...


I am 28 and married to a 35yr old youngman whom I love so dearly. We are blessed with 2 kids and most material things one can pray for. My marriage is 5yrs with just minor issues that do come up once in a VERY LONG while.

The problem is that my hubby does not show me affection and hardly approaches me for sex. I am a very neat, beautiful, Godfearing, educated and classy lady. Most times I am the one who initiates intimacy in our marriage. My heart breaks each time I read or hear of women who deny their husbands sex because its an opposite in my case. For more than two months now we've not been intimate. To make matters worse, he prefers to sleep in the sitting room or children's room than in our matrimonial room.

He always pretends to be tired but not too tired to be chatting on whatsapp with friends. I have his password, that is not an issue. I am not suspecting anything even though I'm not totally ruling out the possibility of adultery. He comes back very late in the night unlike before. Infact even when he comes early these days, he will rather stay with friends within the street or house than come inside. Believe me nairalanders, we don't have issues. Infact he keeps saying that God blessed him with a wonderful woman. It's not like I make the house uncomfortable for him. The only communication we have these days is greetings, asking how the day went or few general topics.

I am not a woman who can't do without sex but I just need to be shown affection even if sex is not there. Committing adultery on my own part is IMPOSSIBLE, i will rather opt for divorce. I am so confused, lonely and heartbroken. I love my husband beyond the word LOVE. I just wish he can see the tears in my eyes as I lay lonely on our bed each night. I am very fragile by nature and gets hurt easily. Believe me...this is killing me.

Please, people drop a word or two for a hurting soul.

sabi99:
u must be a good girl, I was even waiting 4 u 2 rain abusive words on me cos mine was a bit more abusive cos I called u a marriage watchnight but u didn't,instead u mellowed down to even explain things d more 4 me 2 get it right, please 4giv me, may God bless u 4 me.

Artistree:

I don't have to insult you na, doing so wouldn't tell you the full gist.

IYANGBALI:
truckpusher,borntofuck and other vaseline members where una dey?make una come apply for the work o

heardis:
Hi, my name is chima. Allow me to start by quoting T.D jake "...this may be your hard hard bone that is impossible to swallow. It may be your equaliser." Now to the main issue. see, I do have a brother who is dishing this treatment to his wife and I'm totally in support of it. He fits your description (age ratio and no. Of kids (lovely girls, I love them to death and back to life) and all), I hope its you. In his own case, all the faults came from his bloody bitch wife (I'm not sorry for my language).
For you (I hope you're not her else I won't give this advice), check if you're in one accord with his brothers, sisters and parents
2. If you are, talk to his mum (if she is still alive) because guys are closer to their mother, hence listen to every word of her advise.
3. Prepare his favourite meal or you take him out for dinner and after the meal, later that night at about 2;30am, make your sexual move, play dirty like give him the Mouth Action of his life and if he does not oblige you, sit him down and reason it out with him. Note, be very remorseful, infact, be apologetic and let him see and hear you genuinely cry (trust me, he know whe you're faking a tear). Now, the fear here is that he may just Bleep you silly and not feel a thing afterwards.
4. If he does not still respond well, he is either a cold blooded bastard or you've greatly offended him to the marrow in which case, it is only his family (especially parents) that can make him forgive you.
If you need outside affection and satisfaction (strictly business and no possession allowwd), halla 08159064379. Clitoral satisfaction guaranteed.

queenfav:
@op are you a full time housewife?If yes,please get a job or business to keep yourself busy.No one but you,can love you the way you expect to be loved.Keep yourself busy and you won't even have time to brood.

kinibigdeal:
Go to God not Nairaland

Sunbellar:
Did I hear you say ' masturbate' ?

thorpido:
Are you like the Op's hubby?

babysophie:
V u nt heard d word before ?

KanwuliaJara:
Hmmmmm

Onoda wan don come o!
All these women wey dey look for love and affection from Naija men na waya o!

Una nefa learn to marry to get MARRIAGE SAFITIKATE and BORN ONLY?

Una mamas nor teasssssh una to loff una sefs?

You are "blessed" with 2 kids and you are on NL to cry for blokos?

Liar!!!!!
Ask any woman TRULY BLESSED WITH JUST ONE KID! Her attention done SHIFT tey tey to her darling pikin! E come be TWO KIDS?
Where da PHOCK do YOU find the time?
SHAMELESS, JOBLESS WOMAN!


Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!!!!


Song of the day!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0te6iD1jCjM

Sunbellar:

Ah! Ah!! babysophie, but you are more than this degrading word of advice. Please don't make me believe you masturbate!

cold:

What good would that do? Would god start making him more hoŕny or what? Una do dey tire for this pray..pray thing. @op,you haven't too many options open to you. You can either take matters into your hands if you know what i mean,talk to him earnestly. Not like this would change much knowing how these things work. Try out new sexy and seductive lingerie. Don't be too churchy please with all the 'it's either missionary or nothing' thingy. Be ready to explore and try new things, in the bedroom of course. Well goodluck in your conjugal pursuit.

Estharfabian:
If This Story is true...Trust me,Nairaland is provably the Worst place You should Ask for Advice....


Just Reading The comments here makes me Wanna Knock Some people....


Anyways...Back To You...Have You tried sitting him down n Really Talking to Him? Like Really talking to him? If He really Adores You...intimacy Shouldn't be a forced thing...I'm positive there's something behind it...Maybe adultery? some Unknown StD's or some Libido Issues?

dinachi:
The Op is a very terrible evil woman who has hurt the poor innocent man so much that he has decided to keep his respectful distance. How did I know this? ANY woman who confesses openly in a public forum that she will murder her husband under any guise, is an extremely evil and dangerous woman. She never loved the man! Quote me anywhere. The husband should as a matter of urgency divorce this evil beast he calls a wife! So, rather than plan how to check into a rehabilitation center for the violently insane, you are here talking of taking anothers life. Those innocent kids should be handed over to their father as they are not safe around their murderer of an evil mother.

SpeedyConnect:


Totally disagree with you on your stance that she doesn't love him simply because she said she could kill, there was a cindition there---- if she found out he was cheating. It was a statement to underscore how hirt she would feel and its normal for any woman to feel same for a man she adores.

kinibigdeal:
Go to God not Nairaland

dinachi:
I sympathise with your naivety! If you have ever been in love, it will be totally impossible for you to ever imagine hurting the object of your love let alone voicing it in a public forum. Take it from me, the Op is an evil woman who will not waste time in taking the husbands life if she as much as suspects he is cheating. I think the man is aware of her murderous insanity and that is why he stays as far away from her as possible to avoid being murdered in the night while he is asleep.

babysophie:
I dnt mince or distort words jst to please pipul. I dnt join bandwagon,cos am too exposed for dt. Masturbation is neva a crime anywre except self-righteous pipul dt try to b judgemental. It's my opinion n am entitled to it. I wont change cos some pipul dnt wanna hear it.