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Less than six months after dad died, our mum started seeing someone else. I  knew their marriage hadn’t been great, but it saddened me that she could move on so quickly. She went to a party with her friend and when I waited till midnight and she had’t returned, 1 went to bed.

In the morning, I took her breakfast. I opened the bedroom door then I noticed there was someone on Dad’s side of the bed. He grunted and rolled over when he saw me. I was  in shock. “What the hell is going on here?” I yelled then ran out of the room. Sadly, he  was the first of many men. Most weekends, Mum would go out and bring someone back.  Her actions are out of order. Do you think she’s in her right mind?

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2015/10/im-sad-mum-is-having-an-affair-six-months-after-dads-death/

She has been cheating on your dad before his demise...
These women ain't loyal!!!!

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iwaeda:
Less than six months after dad died, our mum started seeing someone else. I  knew their  marriage hadn’t been great, but it saddened me that she could move on so quickly. She  went to a party with her friend and  when I waited till midnight and she had’t returned, 1 went to bed.loveIn the morning, I took her breakfast. I opened the bedroom door then I noticed there  was someone on Dad’s side of the bed. He grunted and rolled over when he saw me. I was  in shock. “What the hell is going on here?” I yelled then ran out of the room. Sadly, he  was the first of many men. Most weekends, Mum would go out and bring someone back.  Her actions are out of order. Do you think she’s in her right mind?
http://www.vanguardngr.com/2015/10/im-sad-mum-is-having-an-affair-six-months-after-dads-death/

The fact that you will share in the shame esp in your area makes me pity you. I don't envy you at all. Tell her your mind and prepare for independence.

niggi4life:
She has been cheating on your dad before his demise...
These women ain't loyal!!!!

The family can conclude she killed the man

your mom & her bedmate probably plotted your dad's death. she couldn't wait to get rid of your dad so she can have free access to her boyfriend.

coogar:
your mom & her bedmate probably plotted your dad's death. she couldn't wait to get rid of your dad so she can have free access to her boyfriend.

Marriage,marriage

Six months later,
It's not an affair.

The only issue is that there are many of them as the poster said. If it was only one person, then it's not a problem.
Till death do them part.

ikubch:
The fact that you will share in the shame esp in your area makes me pity you. I don't envy you at all. Tell her your mind and prepare for independence.

The woman cant even hold body for one year

cococandy:
Six months later,
It's not an affair.

The only issue is that there are many of them as the poster said. If it was only one person, then it's not a problem.
Till death do them part.

Yea,but our culture demand mourning period,bring different men to her matrimonial home is not good.

A bit surprised at your mum's behavior especially the fact that she doesn't even care that you kids see it all. She is setting such a bad example for you her children.

You need to tell her what is is doing is wrong on all levels. She should still be greaving if she truly loved your dad and showed him some respect. Surely that cannot be her own way of greaving.

If na man now no one wld raise eyebrow. Abeg u can't teach ur mom how to live her life BC she bore. Let her be and you focus on your life. Aftrtall no law is holding her back, she is a widow and can remarry, if she wills. Buh if its getting too much you can talk to her with respect.

iwaeda:
Marriage,marriage

the woman is a disgrace.....
she must be a nymphö! where's the decorum? if she must shäg, it should have been in the man's crib not in the same bed her late husband once slept.

the OP should go to his dad's grave & invoke his spirit. if his spirit is irked, the new boyfriend could get his ass whöoped by a spiritual horsewhip in the next sex session.

iwaeda:
Yea,but our culture demand mourning period,bring different men to her matrimonial home is not good.

6 months is a decent mourning period. So dating after that time isn't a bad thing.

But bringing different men into the house she shared with your late dad is in bad taste. I agree with that. And the huge deal is that it's not even one person. That's where I'm like

But if your concern is the time, I think people generally believe 6 months mourning period is okay. Some people even remarry just a year later. So they must have started seeing another person some months after the loss. Although most people would wait a bit longer in order not offend the sensibilities of their kids but if they choose not to, it's not a sin. You know.

Face it, even after 10yrs, you still won't like to see her with another person because the memory of your dad is and will always be fresh in your mind.

coogar:
your mom & her bedmate probably plotted your dad's death. she couldn't wait to get rid of your dad so she can have free access to her boyfriend.

nawa for you o.see as you just conclude like say na for your presence them orchestrate all this things


Op na you I get buisness with. Face your front and mind your buisness. She's not and adolescent that you'll be monitoring. Abi if it was your mom that died and your dad brought in a woman Will you come here to rant?

Face your own problems and leave whatever your mom is doing with her private part

iwaeda:
Yea,but our culture demand mourning period,bring different men to her matrimonial home is not good.

it's culture that puts a time frame to this thing.Once the spouse is dead,he/she can move on after a while.
The only snag here is the multiple affairs.

coogar:
the woman is a disgrace.....
she must be a nympho! where's the decorum? if she must shäg, it should have been in the man's crib not in the same bed her late husband once slept.

the OP should go to his dad's grave & invoke his spirit. if his spirit is irked, the new boyfriend could get his ass whöoped by a spiritual horsewhip in the next sex session.

@bold,
Story.

She never loved your father ,trust me it's a plan work

Even the vow people make says "till death do us part". As some posters have already said, the only concerns there is the different partners.

SAMBARRY:
nawa for you o.see as you just conclude like say na for your presence them orchestrate all this things

Op na you I get buisness with. Face your front and mind your buisness. She's not and adolescent that you'll be monitoring. Abi if it was your mom that died and your dad brought in a woman Will you come here to rant?

Face your own problems and leave whatever your mom is doing with her private part

so a woman behaving badly should not be corrected? how can a woman bring a another man into her bedroom barely 6 months after her hubby passed away? what kinda hormones are in her that she cannot hold her urges for much longer?

cococandy:
@bold,
Story.

hehe!

Please leave mom alone oooooo.
Dad is dead, so mom can continue her life biko.
Car wey dem pack for six months need proper servicing.
By the way, tell mom to stop bringing men into the house. It's disrespectful.


If na dad na, na normal thing.But because of na mom, culture must apply.
Because dad died, all of a sudden mom is no longer a human being with needs.

coogar:
so a woman behaving badly should not be corrected? how can a woman bring a another man into her bedroom barely 6 months after her hubby passed away? what kinda hormones are in her that she cannot hold her urges for much longer?



hehe!

he has no right whatsoever to correct her. He should Face his own issues

EggovinMma:
Please leave mom alone oooooo.
Dad is dead, so mom can continue her life biko.
Car wey dem pack for six months need proper servicing.
By the way, tell mom to stop bringing men into the house. It's disrespectful.


If na dad na, na normal thing.But because of na mom, culture must apply.

no mind am

na for only nollywood I dey see am

I never see am for real

cococandy:
@bold,
Story.

SAMBARRY:
no mind am

.Women don suffer for this country.

coogar:
so a woman behaving badly should not be corrected? how can a woman bring a another man into her bedroom barely 6 months after her hubby passed away? what kinda hormones are in her that she cannot hold her urges for much longer?



hehe!

Does it matter? Not everyone is as fragile as yourself. If she is ready to move on, she should move on. The man is dead. He is not coming back even if she decided to wait for twelve years

Ermmm......there is no need pretending like she cared when she does not....it wasn't like they had great marriage sef

EggovinMma:
.Women din suffer for this country.

seriously since

TooNoisy:
A bit surprised at your mum's behavior especially the fact that she doesn't even care that you kids see it all. She is setting such a bad example for you her children.

You need to tell her what is is doing is wrong on all levels. [b]She should still be greaving if she truly loved your dad and showed him some respect. [/b]Surely that cannot be her own way of greaving.

You are not her and she is not you therefore judge her actions based on your own bias

daretodiffer:
Does it matter? Not everyone is as fragile as yourself. If she is ready to move in she should move on. The man is dead. He is not coming back even she waited for twelve years before moving on

of course, it matters....
unless you don't understand what the word decorum means. how can a widow start bringing different men into her bedroom only 6 months after husband passed away?

pray tell - what kinda tacit message is she sending to her kids? the issue isn't fragility, it is promiscuity. before you know it, those men would start abusing the woman's kids. if she is getting the itch, there are cheap dïldos in oyingbo market or better still.....she should take her men elsewhere but her house.

Ermmm......there is no need pretending like she cared when she does not....it wasn't like they had great marriage sef

whether she cared or doesn't care she could be infected with HIV isn't only the concern. there are kids in that house - that is the primary concern. if she's all alone by herself, she could shag all the men in baghdad in her bedroom & no one would care.

How would you view it if a man 6 months after his wife's death is bringing different women into their house to crash on the bed he once shared with the wife 6months ago

iwaeda:
The family can conclude she killed the man

she actually did




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raumdeuter:
How would you view it if a man 6 months after his wife's death is bringing different women into their house to crash on the bed he once shared with the wife 6months ago

but it does happen na! You wanna pretend it doesn't happen?

Six months is enough to mourn a spouse. Life must go on!

Personally 6 months is not enough to mourn someone you share many memories with and honestly not even a lifetime.

But to have sex with another man and in this case not one but multiple is very distasteful.

My focus will be on the kids and how i will take the role of a father and mother, a man will be the last thing on my mind.Self control is something many people lack and that is just sad.