fammo:
Hello nairalanders, is it not funny and somewhat annoying how we can give good relationship advices to other people and we seem to be confused when faced with our own issues. Well I'm in that situation now and I need your help.

I am currently engaged to this lady and we have even done an introduction, we've been through the various phases of relationship together, the happy days, sad days, break up periods, make up times etc. I love her, but I'm having doubts as to whether I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

We are age mates but she looks older than I am already even before having kids. She has had to change her religion just to make the relationship work and I think I'm going through with these relationship out of pity for her sacrifices, I fear this pity would one day wear out and i'll start resenting her and myself. Should I be worried about these feelings or is it just the normal cold feets guys get before finally saying the "I Do". Pls help me out guys.

Will really appreciate if this can make front page, this is my first ever NL post.
Thanks!

bronzegoddess:


And did u read d part where he said he loves her? And where he asked if he's only having cold feet? He's just being a man...d feeling will pass

He who wears the shoes, na ehn sabi how e dey take affect ehn bouncing.

bronzegoddess:


Yep. I no kuku insult am

You insult am.

Because na her opinion be that and e no even sound childish at all.

And you,if you truly be woman I wonder if you go dey happy to discover say your husband dey marry you out of pity and if you be woman I sure say you no go like for your sister or any female friend to go through that experience.

Reason am well.

MadCow1:



Remember.. There is NO KNOWN RULE BOOK IN LIFE.

No rule anywhere says a Woman MUST be married before any particular age.

And why should a woman pursuing self enhancing causes like education and stuff ahead of emotional causes be such a big deal anyways?

I will advice my Daughters to focus on things they can achieve like Education, a career, a business, a Job, building wealth, e.t.c.. Not on things that they cant control like emotions, love and marriage.

Its not like its Girls that marry guys that we should now be blaming them for growing old without marriage. Unless you want to legalise Lesbianism, girls have no control over when they get married.

Michellla:
A girl gives up almost everything for you.

One week to your marriage you're contemplating on whether or not to marry again.


isnt that wickedness?

myaceworld:
5 unique ways to know you are in Love

November 12, 2015 12:00 am

Most people fall in love but they don’t actually know
These unique and outstanding points will stand as a proof.


1. Before you meet:
Have you ever have someone in mind whenever you listen to a love song, read a love story or watch a romantic movie.

Sometimes you will close your eyes during those moment and you find yourself dreaming about the
future of both of you,

If you have wished to be together with a particular person even though you both are yet to meet or talk.

Then, you are in Love


2. After you met:
Maybe in the lecture theatre or beside the alley, you find yourself standing in front of him or her, but you notice that your heartbeat rate has increased.

You keep breathing like someone who has just been saved from fallen off a cliff.

If your heart keep pounding and bouncing when in front of him/her,

Then, you are in Love


3. Before he/she concur.
It has been confirmed that 90% of genuine love doesn’t work out automatically, most times the “play hard to get” falls on the feminine side and the man has to do all doings to make it through.

But even after all her acts as if she is the queen of england, you still cannot look away, after she has even washed or insult you in public, you still cannot let go.

If you find yourself trying, trying and trying (without the thoughts of Lust)

Then, you are in love.


4. When he/she agree
Have you ever been so happy that even when someone dump happens to brake your lovely vase, you will still keep on smilling?.

Have your friends ever suspected you of a douth about you being sane or insane?, because of your needless laughter and smiles

When he/she says YES and you keep dancing like a tree whose root has been placed on oscillary motion by wind,

Then, you are in Love


5. Finally when you are dating.
Sometimes you ask yourself, am I dreaming? because you find yourself experiencing what you thought its impossible.

Love is when you take away the feelings, passion and romance of a relationship and you still find out you care for that person.

You can understand this section 5 well if you read
” 10 ingredients of Love”
Read by pasting in search box and click search




Now you have learnt how to know when you are in
Love, but how do you accomplish the aim of getting the person you love in your arms?

How do you make them yours?

See ” 3 key ways to make them yours”
click here
https://myaceworld./2015/11/12/3-key-ways-to-make-them-yours/


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fammo:
Hello nairalanders, is it not funny and somewhat annoying how we can give good relationship advices to other people and we seem to be confused when faced with our own issues. Well I'm in that situation now and I need your help.

I am currently engaged to this lady and we have even done an introduction, we've been through the various phases of relationship together, the happy days, sad days, break up periods, make up times etc. I love her, but I'm having doubts as to whether I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

We are age mates but she looks older than I am already even before having kids. She has had to change her religion just to make the relationship work and I think I'm going through with these relationship out of pity for her sacrifices, I fear this pity would one day wear out and i'll start resenting her and myself. Should I be worried about these feelings or is it just the normal cold feets guys get before finally saying the "I Do". Pls help me out guys.

Will really appreciate if this can make front page, this is my first ever NL post.
Thanks!

donsteady:


if your relationship with her is above 3 years and she is above 24 years marry her. Change your mind set, your only excuse is she is looking older than you, I have seeing some one who married a lady older than him with about 13 years.
Secondly, there are lots of girls out there but my brother what you have at hand is better than the ones dressing like Kim K.
Thirdly as much as you won't want any one to waste your time don't waste hers.
How damn you expect her to start all over again and you claim to love her. I am always afraid for my ex's to fall in a wrong hand, are you? My brother marry her quickly.

brainbucks:


You started well, but then you ended by contradicting yourself and making your entire advise/argument rather useless.

How would you claim to be afraid for your exes to fall in the wrong hands when clearly they are only your exes because your own hands were self-ordained to be abundantly wrong?

donsteady:


Bro if you care to know, my ex's are close to me. I care so much about their future, I wouldn't want to see my ex suffering. That is just me. All in all, I would do everything possible for my ex not to fall in a wrong hand, they call often for advice, I see them like my own kids sisters. That is just me.

brainbucks:


Oh, right. Good for you!

fammo:
Hello nairalanders, is it not funny and somewhat annoying how we can give good relationship advices to other people and we seem to be confused when faced with our own issues. Well I'm in that situation now and I need your help.

I am currently engaged to this lady and we have even done an introduction, we've been through the various phases of relationship together, the happy days, sad days, break up periods, make up times etc. I love her, but I'm having doubts as to whether I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

We are age mates but she looks older than I am already even before having kids. She has had to change her religion just to make the relationship work and I think I'm going through with these relationship out of pity for her sacrifices, I fear this pity would one day wear out and i'll start resenting her and myself. Should I be worried about these feelings or is it just the normal cold feets guys get before finally saying the "I Do". Pls help me out guys.

Will really appreciate if this can make front page, this is my first ever NL post.
Thanks!

AVRecruit:


i wont say yes to a 32 year old because [size=18pt]I have preference[/size] for younger women. so if u advise ur daughters men r distraction as is now being taught to young girls well its a challenge because young girls r being born everyday and most men won't pick a girl their own age.

so that career woman will lose out.

i say this but they delete it as they get emotional. most ppl lack capacity for original thibking. if a girl has 3 boyfriends before she gets married how is that better than being in a stable relationship from the onset. regardless if she is in university or not. so u now encouraging ur daughters to be promiscuous? which proposition is better? multiple boyfriends u sleep with over University and career then marry another vs settled with one guy as a serious boyfriend / husband to be at University?

as a father which will u choose?

or u will advise her to watch porn and wait to fulfill career?

fammo:
Should I be worried about these feelings or is it just the normal cold feets guys get before finally saying the "I Do". Pls help me out guys.

Will really appreciate if this can make front page, this is my first ever NL post.
Thanks!

fammo:
Hello nairalanders, is it not funny and somewhat annoying how we can give good relationship advices to other people and we seem to be confused when faced with our own issues. Well I'm in that situation now and I need your help.

I am currently engaged to this lady and we have even done an introduction, we've been through the various phases of relationship together, the happy days, sad days, break up periods, make up times etc. I love her, but I'm having doubts as to whether I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

We are age mates but she looks older than I am already even before having kids. She has had to change her religion just to make the relationship work and I think I'm going through with these relationship out of pity for her sacrifices, I fear this pity would one day wear out and i'll start resenting her and myself. Should I be worried about these feelings or is it just the normal cold feets guys get before finally saying the "I Do". Pls help me out guys.

Will really appreciate if this can make front page, this is my first ever NL post.
Thanks!

MadCow1:



Jesus Christ of Upper Iweka!! Where do you come up with these thoughts?

Like seriously!

When I give birth to my daughter, I will not be raising her with the consciousness of 'MEN' in mind. I will be raising her to be independent minded. I will raise her to get self worth. I will raise her to be a strong, powerful, working, well rounded, capable woman. I will teach her how to be domestic and industrious.

I will teach my daughters to understand that there is a whole lot more to life than marriage. However I will teach them how to build a home, raise sound kids and cater for their families.

Notice I highlighted a section of your post, notice the word "I".. That refers to only you. In an ideal world, you can only marry just one other woman out there. Meaning other people with other preferences are there. Some like Older women, some like fair women, some like busty, some like smart educated strong women, some like naïve, timid and shy women, e.t.c. YOUR PREFERENCE IS NOT A YARDSTICK FOR ANYBODY ELSE BUT YOURSELF.

You can choose to raise your Daughters to be Conscious of Men and Marriage and there would be nothing wrong with that either. Its would again be one of those things that would be classified under 'YOUR PREFERENCE'.

And when you say an old career woman would loose out for choosing to enhance herself instead of throwing herself at the mercies of Men to marry her, the question I ask you is how can you lose something you never had?


Now.. Please What would you advice Girls in their early 20's who are currently in school studying or out of school working or in business and currently have no male suitors.. What would you advice them to do? Pay a man to marry them or what?

holamiday:
This person has said it all and this is the most useful so far. fammo, here's your advice, stick with it. Forget all else.

God bless you, fexyrich

Etizz:


Trust me, when a guy truly loves a woman, he has zero doubt in mind, he thinks nothing but how to make her a wife no matter any circumstances, there's is no normal cold feets feeling before marriage, instead there is happiness and joy dat u are getting married, and if u don't have d happiness and joy dat u are getting married to her, then u will not get the happiness and joy after the marriage,

Why the introduction in the first place? Pls don't marry a woman out of pity, u may pity yourself at the end of everything........... Am a guy like u n I know what am saying..