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Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Opiosko: 10:47am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Demmocrats:Hhahaha! Choir member indeed. |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by adanny01(m): 10:50am On Dec 25, 2015 |
From where i come from kitchen wares, furniture and food stuff for a new couple is usually provided by bride's family to the level they can afford. Traditionally, the reason is because a new bride is supposed to be shy and cannot resort to borrowing anything from her inlaws atleast to such a time they become very familiar usually after birth. Bride can share specific items to her relatives who can afford it. In particular, the brides father is responsible for their bed. Some years ago, my cousin married a guy from another state, the guy was able to build a house. My uncle furnished it to even the DSTV subscription for a year. My uncle could afford it and its a thing of pride for the brides family as a parting gift. However, this is no excuse for any bride not to make her own arrangements especially knowing the family she comes from. That means no working bride can tell her groom months before their wedding that kitchen wares is the grooms responsibilty. Its a very direct message that she is not planning to settle anytime soon or doesnt plan to be a life companion to the groom. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Junior66(m): 10:52am On Dec 25, 2015 |
ogawisdom:apologies bro. Your advice would have made good hearing to most northerners/muslims‚ most peeps here are from the south. I am a Christian too by the way. 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by sisisioge: 10:54am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Orisirisi! Wetin person no go hear o! He should do whatever he pleases! |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 10:59am On Dec 25, 2015 |
kessel: This is not about marriage or a man sef How can you not have ceramics in your own house? How would you serve your friends or yourself? 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by jabojafa(m): 11:01am On Dec 25, 2015 |
ogawisdom:a lizard in Nigeria cant become a crocodie in America. Mind u d guy talkd to her abt planning for d future lik buying stuffs dt wud be used in deir home. Instead of taking correction she wz saying its d man's responsiblity. She is workin n earnin money so why not start buyin things now. In marriage wot u dnt hv u cnt give. She lacks financial management. My cousin b4 she got married wz doin business n d moni she made, she bought d tins dey are using in deir kitchen now including a big generator plus a washin machine and a gas cooker with oven. Marriage is for meeting needs. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by gidjah(m): 11:11am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Let him take his decision now pls , if after all the plans on the way , she still in jewelries and what have you, them she is not a grown up lady and needs to grow up. By the time she starts getting old , her eyes will clear and she will begin to look for prophets !pls allow your cousin to move on, there are lots of ladies who will cope with him and support him big time. Some of this church [fake] ladies can be difficult t manage or control pls .[ i speak from personal encounter o!let him in search for another nicer lady who will understand economy. This one na big time spend thrift.her mates can even support her fiancee and pay even for most bills required.but she is still in to frivolities wwwkaycom: 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 11:11am On Dec 25, 2015 |
ogawisdom: Low-self esteem alert! Total submission ko total submission ni. I hope you have started searching for that mo..ronic low self esteemed idi.ot that would be your wife. She is moving into ur house as d man, when she moves in she must then support u. It is good sha to see her making plans towards ur future together, dt shows commitment but at this stage it's at her discretion. Once she moves into the house. The house becomes their house, as in the man and the woman's house. I don't care what he had to do to build their that house Like you could afford any of those things. If you don't have it or if hers are better than the pangolos you have. She MUST move in with them. 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by odutolasodiq(m): 11:19am On Dec 25, 2015 |
rite decision by ur cousin! such a lady can never make a good wife! he should dump her ASAP 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by therapistmrs: 11:46am On Dec 25, 2015 |
there's nothing wrong in having a change of heart , remember that this is marriage and its a life long journey so he needs to make the right choice. all the best. therapistmrs..com |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by andyanders: 11:53am On Dec 25, 2015 |
wwwkaycom: My brother, your friend is very right calling off the relationship as this is not a flimsy excuse as the sign the lady is exhibiting now, is how the future is going to be. For her to start saying at this early stage that it was the guy's responsibility to provide for those items goes to show how she is going to display her attitude in future.Are you telling me now that if by tomorrow if they are married and the guy has no money for the home, she cannot help out? For me. the guy is right and should look for someone he can build his life with. 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by nnamdiosu(m): 12:04pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
wwwkaycom: bro don't u get it. its not about the plates issues only its also about her reply... ABOUT IT BEING HIS RESPONSIBILITY. who does thatwho wants to marry an unrepentant money over spending wife who doesn't even see reasons with her soon to be husband that her actions is bad. anyway..... apart from all that i suggest you leave him. if he marries her based on ur advise and things dont go as planned you will be blamed. so just back out. peace 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by chinchum(m): 12:12pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
kessel:You understand the situation, and it aligns with mine. It is easy to want to trivialise the situation and try to make a superficial assessment of the situation, but Op's cousin is reading the body language of the lady , which is a good predictor of future things to come. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by jackpot(f): 12:18pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
kweenkong:I need a spouse that reasons to some extent like you, and not a cosmetic one. |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by ifoundmyperfect: 12:20pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
The babe never ready to marry. |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 12:24pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
blaise26abj: 100000 likes 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Applaner: 12:35pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
op, u haven't told us how many tyms ur brother has been 4king her o |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by avicky(f): 12:46pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
VampireeM:Oh really? But she needs all the clothes and shoes and can't afford a decent and classy China plate or dining set for meals? Op, tell your cousin to move on. She's not physically ready. When i was single, I know how many kitchen gadgets i bought and kept to take along to hubby's house. 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by ogawisdom(m): 12:50pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
daretodiffer: Sorry dts a divine injunction, deal with dt my little daughter, submission to ur husband is total n non negotiable |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by johnson232: 12:50pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
Segadem:what if u can't make her to be what u want? don't u think it will be better to let her go? |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by byvan03: 12:53pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
End time men, waiting for their wives to carry pots from their fathers' house to his. Tell your cousin that he is really funny . |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 12:54pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
ogawisdom: My dear low self esteemed man. The divine injunction does not say ‘total submission'. Please fix yourself before your try to lead others. Who am I kidding, you can never be good enough to lead 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by ogawisdom(m): 12:54pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
jabojafa: She is right its d man's responsibility, d woman can help at her discretion |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by ogawisdom(m): 12:57pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
Junior66: So what did ur bible tell u abt marriage if nt d man being d provider n d woman d helper. Now wat we dnt understand is dt to help is discretionary |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by ogawisdom(m): 1:05pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
daretodiffer: Lol u can't engage me in a debate smallie jst feel good with ur name calling BC dts all u got. Morbid fool |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Originalsly: 1:15pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
Why try to lead the guy down the road of misery? He is seeing the signs... danger ahead.. and you are still trying to convince him it is safe? Bro...it seems that you like the girl for whatever reason and should he marry her .. you would always get to see her. I see no other reason why you would encourage him to marry this strong headed pretensive no class materialistic babe that still be using steel plates because ware plates too fragile for her. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Dmanky(m): 1:47pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
A broken relationship iz far better than a broken marriage.When choosing a life partner, B more logical about...... |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Okies27(m): 1:52pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
wwwkaycom:. Broken relationship better than broken marriage. Do your thing my man. |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 1:55pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
A brother's got brain and a heart, let him put it to use. If he knows he can't handle a sister, he better walk away and quit making her feel guilty! 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Fkforyou(m): 2:24pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
daretodiffer: Wow.... |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Fkforyou(m): 2:39pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
mira4u: Did you take your time to read and understand the thread? Ask misspicy to break it down to your level of understanding. He is narrow minded, he is this, he is that.. ..some people sha 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Fourwinds: 2:49pm On Dec 25, 2015 |
passionate88:correct |
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