aly123:
Hello Nlanders,i need your advice as am in a confused state of mind. I have a guy who loves me so much that I wonder if I could ever get such love from anybody else again and I also love him as well but the issue I have with this guy is that I am an introvert and he is also one. Prior to meeting him,i had always wanted a guy that is outspoken, bold nd courageous but on the contrary, my guy is a very shy person (more than I am), not bold, cant face a crowd which I also can't do which makes me wonder what happens if either of us is to do something of such in future amongst other things. Please I would like to know if introvert/introvert relationships work. Please matured minds or married ones here who has been in this situation should let me know how they dealt with it.
Cc : lalasticlala

when you get close to 25yrs and above your confidence will increase, same goes for him

aly123:
Hello Nlanders,i need your advice as am in a confused state of mind. I have a guy who loves me so much that I wonder if I could ever get such love from anybody else again and I also love him as well but the issue I have with this guy is that I am an introvert and he is also one. Prior to meeting him,i had always wanted a guy that is outspoken, bold nd courageous but on the contrary, my guy is a very shy person (more than I am), not bold, cant face a crowd which I also can't do which makes me wonder what happens if either of us is to do something of such in future amongst other things. Please I would like to know if introvert/introvert relationships work. Please matured minds or married ones here who has been in this situation should let me know how they dealt with it.
Cc : lalasticlala

Being shy doesn't neccesarily mean being introverted,you guys need to work on yourself to boost self cofidence.I am an introvert but not shy and i married introvert and we are happy.I never wanted a talkertive because it makes me real uncomfortable.So,the marriage can work.

aly123:
Hello Nlanders,i need your advice as am in a confused state of mind. I have a guy who loves me so much that I wonder if I could ever get such love from anybody else again and I also love him as well but the issue I have with this guy is that I am an introvert and he is also one. Prior to meeting him,i had always wanted a guy that is outspoken, bold nd courageous but on the contrary, my guy is a very shy person (more than I am), not bold, cant face a crowd which I also can't do which makes me wonder what happens if either of us is to do something of such in future amongst other things. Please I would like to know if introvert/introvert relationships work. Please matured minds or married ones here who has been in this situation should let me know how they dealt with it.
Cc : lalasticlala

get a counsellor

JudgementHammer:
You must be phleg-chlor

I'm me.

Classicman47:


Hey smartass. Its called INTROVERSION not PESSIMISM or DEPRESSION.
Well I guess u are not that smart after all, to know the difference.

I can't remember defining introverts up there nor do I recall asking u to tell me anything. But I guess this made u sleep well at night. That's good, at least.

1boyl1kevhis:
This sounds perfect for a Family Guy Interlude. With their moony faces and all.

Lol. Yea. Thanks for spotting the joke.

holysaint1:

then u re an ambivert... And not an introvert.

Whatever!

sonofananimal:
untill when you start REAPING what you sow! that's when you will realize how you are STVPID from the very beginning!


WOMEN with empty vessel or rather, vessel fill with junk and RUBBISH!

This animal's quoting me again. Be happy, I'm not getting into an e-fight with you.

bigass123:
Hey gurl, tell me the name of the spirit you took or is some kindda weird combo.
I know this isn't palm wine, I know palm wine symptoms

I think it's Methylated Spirit.

Mafking:

thank God you know...he just dey pain me say you fine

And why should you be pained? All these uptight ppl that can't spot a joke. What if I tell you I'm an introvert?

In my opinion, marriage is about two...., it's not about the way the world sees your Union, let them call it boring.You said you love him? why do you? Do you fill happy when you are with him? You re both shy, but not to each other,I believe.The truth of the matter is you tend to ve him to yourself, unlike the opposite who easily goes astray.Introvert don't find themselves boring, it's others that do.What if you find the opposite, and he goes out every weekend with friends every spare time, returns drunk, cheats and so on due to his philandering nature.Its quite an advantage for a woman to be married to one, because you have a solid sense of security and belonging. They are the kind of marriages that's last forever because you ve something in common. Like someone mentioned, you women can really be confused, even when you ve something special

MichaelChaplain:
I miss Lasisi69

lol... Abeg o, I never die.. .

With a little work on ur part u cud come out of ur shell n just b at d middle...not an extrovat b at least not an xtreme introvat

I think it works better that way

tosyne2much:
Hmmmmm

You don't have any advice apart from hmmmm.

Ladies complain about everything. You marry what is in you.

Op, i don't see that as a problem, and you shouldn't feel bad about what any couple or person feels about you.
Just be real.

Introvert-introvert marriages are perfect.
Quote me anywhere.

theMusicNerd:
U guys can handle it, if U really wanna

I'm an ambivert... Both intro and extroverted.
U guys should find common things u guys like, books, games, argument topics - philosophy, politics and etc movies... And thrive on 'em to bond more

Get outta ur fvcking shell! u guys should task urselves to do something new... Maybe visit a cinema or park with time, u'd get used to it

U guys should go all crazy in the house!!! When home alone, pillow fights, cook 2geda, sex on the kitchen floor

When u're out, maybe do an analysis of everyting u see! 'Hey babe, see that nigga's head like a watermelon' hahahah.... Just yab ppl and say crap.. A lil' alchohol too.. U guys 'll go haywire

Make ur indoors ur outdoor, intellectially stimulate each other... Puzzles riddles quests adventures

Basically, u guys should get extroverted with each other, let others see u guys as introverted, buh u guys are extroverted insider each others mind


Life's too short!

See advice...you for tell them to drive against traffic in front of LASTMA.

Oliviaarims:
Two introverts dating...

Woman: Life has become meaningless. Nothing seems to be working. No money, no friends, no family. What's the point in living?

Man: Yea, life is meaningless. Let's die.

Woman: Nice idea, I think we should just die.



Hey, y'all should stop quoting me. I'm allowed to have fun. I haven't made any assertion, neither did I mention names. Defendants of the Universe! Lol.

Uniben girl?

Emodeee:
I'm sorry bt no. If u r an introvert as a guy, marry wife wey go get small craze bt dn't let her be husband over you. If she wanna trespass, take ur cue from extroverts. When normalcy returns, go bk to your normal self.

If u r an introvert as a lady, marry an extrovert. Ur relationship will be boring if you both are introverts.

Introverts are boring#facts.

nonsense, trash, u are just saying this because u think u are better, introverts are not boring is just that u have not been close to any, it depends because am not boring am the funny type buh am an introvert

aly123:
Hello Nlanders,i need your advice as am in a confused state of mind. I have a guy who loves me so much that I wonder if I could ever get such love from anybody else again and I also love him as well but the issue I have with this guy is that I am an introvert and he is also one. Prior to meeting him,i had always wanted a guy that is outspoken, bold nd courageous but on the contrary, my guy is a very shy person (more than I am), not bold, cant face a crowd which I also can't do which makes me wonder what happens if either of us is to do something of such in future amongst other things. Please I would like to know if introvert/introvert relationships work. Please matured minds or married ones here who has been in this situation should let me know how they dealt with it.
Cc : lalasticlala

You can't eat your cake and have it... The last tym I checked relationship isn't about getting all u want buh bout getting that which u can work it and make it all u need.

Build urself up to be dat which u want to see in ur man... Cover his weaknesses..

Men don't like been told u aren't like dis and dat.. We prefer changing by ourselves and in secret.. So chances dat he will change when u tell him is very low..

Buh when he sees u changing just for him.. He would want to change just for the relationship.. Yes I said it! Men change for a greater purpose if u dint know, know now.. Quote me anywhere..

I just hope he already knows that women can't be pleased and I mean cannot (quote me anywhere)... he should change cos he wants to and because he feels it would help ur relationship...


And not because u want him to cos when he does dat u may not love him anymore.. Strong men who have had their heart turned to stone by women know this..

When I was growing up,I realized I was an introvert,but as time went on,I asked myself if I could really cope with my life style towards people.This was how I dealth with it: I started socializing when I got into the university and went as far as playing politics which took me to other departments.From there,I started addressing crowds,though it wasn't easy at first,but I had to psych myself mentally by seeing myself as a giant and my audience as little people.

They respected me because of my boldness and I became very popular,won elections and today I don't think there's anything like shyness in my dictionary.
Though,introverts are people who lack confidence due to up bringing,psycological problems and environmental factors,but it can be subdued when the person realizes that people could take advantage of you if you appear too quiet.

My advise is this: It's very bad for the two of you to be introverts because it'll surely affect your kids,but if you truely love each other,one of you should work on it.But don't forget that learning how to use your right hand at an old age could be disastrous,though nothing is impossible.

....among other advices, both of you should try and get a book titled "public speaking" just that I can't remember the name of the author. It teaches on how to make a speech in the public.o

....among other advices, both of you should try and get a book titled "public speaking" just that I can't remember the name of the author. It teaches on how to make a speech in the public.

I don't see why not. Both being introverts are best suited to attract, understand and live with one another. There's a strong reason they caught each other's attentions in the first place.
People also change so its possible that in the future one of the them would become more outgoing.

Introduction: My wife is intro but am extr..... I find it easy to relate wt pple but base on her nature I undstad her and I force her to do sam as I desire. And our marriag of 5yrs is in gud shape and beta!!!!

Advise: work thg out ursef... Build ursef and also carry him along.

Conclusion: pray to God to uphold u and your marriage!!!!

Prayer: God will help U to fulfil destiny

Amen: fill d gap

i dont see any problem here... uu both love ya self, forget wat u think others think...

Boring relationship begots boring marriage
Make sure a boring pastor doesn't preach at ur weeding ooo

OP, u have to acknowledge the fact introverts are good husbands cos he'll love u,care for u,make sure u are happy,won't cheat on u etc. It's beta to be in a relationship with an introvert guy who'll give u his time and care than an extrovert who'll not give u his tym. I am an introvert that had same issues like ur guy, when I discovered this, I started working on it by joining the choir in my school, singing in a large crowd etc though it wasn't easy at first. U should be grateful u have such a rare kind of guy who will love u. My ex too was like u who wanted an extrovert though an introvert, but today she's regreting for leaving me. Jst show him and not tell him that he needs to build on his confident issues,if he truly loves u,he will change but not totally. Have a nice day.

it work the more u guys come to live together tins will becoming better ......just matter of tym

No, you will just create more introverts.

arki:
OP, u have to acknowledge the fact introverts are good husbands cos he'll love u,care for u,make sure u are happy,won't cheat on u etc. It's beta to be in a relationship with an introvert guy who'll give u his time and care than an extrovert who'll not give u his tym. I am an introvert that had same issues like ur guy, when I discovered this, I started working on it by joining the choir in my school, singing in a large crowd etc though it wasn't easy at first. U should be grateful u have such a rare kind of guy who will love u. My ex too was like u who wanted an extrovert though an introvert, but today she's regreting for leaving me. Jst show him and not tell him that he needs to build on his confident issues,if he truly loves u,he will change but not totally. Have a nice day.

tanks so much buh wat abt wen we start having kids,i hate to have kids dat are dull.....i love sharp and smart kids.
Btw,i have always wanted to be someone who wld be able to face a large crowd nd frm ur suggestion........am nt xtian...so, I nid advice on other ways I can boost my confidence

Change is possible. I have seen introverts become extroverted. You both have not stretch the limits of your temperament to actually say if both of you are the way you are. Again, there's the Spirit-filled or controlled temperament that will work for anyone. I recommend you both read Tim LaHaye's Spirit-Controlled Temperament. I am a product of such but now I cannot even tell which I belong cos I have a blend of most if not all.