curtains:
I just googled how to commit suicide before I came here. I have snipper in my house I hv bin thinking of taking it, at least it's painless... my husband cheated on me by fulfilling his thre3 some fantasy tears hv not stoped flowing from my eyes. I wish I can tell my mum so she can talk me out of it... my heavy n broken heart will kill me even if I don't take that snipper

Who told death by drinking sniper is painless? It will go into your system and suffocate your cells. Its a slow painful death. Suicide is not worth it. Even me talking, I am currently passing through tough times but that cannot drive me to the point of committing suicide.

Nice thread i must say. I really need someone to talk to as i am so depressed right now. I met this guy sometime last year we started dating, he told me he wanted to marry me. Things were nt working well for him after a while and when my school was on strike i visited and was with him for the five months the strike lasted assisting him finacially althrough including the sachet water we drank. My school resumed and i left for school, finished my exams for the semester and went to visit him only to get the embarrassment of my life. My so called fiance ignored me like a plague and told me never to come to his house without first informing him he also said so many hurtful things to me.This is someone i love with the whole of my heart. Am so depressed that i can't even sleep at night. I am slowly developing a hbp. I used my brother's nairaland account for this post

^^^ I'm sorry to say, the guy is done with you.

Forget about him, pick up your life and move on.

In your next relationship, be wise in your dealings and decision. How will you be living with a guy you are not married to? He got tired of you and he is moving in to the next victim.

Bellong has said it all.
You don't pack into a man's house if he has not done the rights of marriage with you.
Take this as a lesson and focus on your studies for now.There's time for relationships in the future.

isaaci:
Nice thread i must say. I really need someone to talk to as i am so depressed right now. I met this guy sometime last year we started dating, he told me he wanted to marry me. Things were nt working well for him after a while and when my school was on strike i visited and was with him for the five months the strike lasted assisting him finacially althrough including the sachet water we drank. My school resumed and i left for school, finished my exams for the semester and went to visit him only to get the embarrassment of my life. My so called fiance ignored me like a plague and told me never to come to his house without first informing him he also said so many hurtful things to me.This is someone i love with the whole of my heart. Am so depressed that i can't even sleep at night. I am slowly developing a hbp. I used my brother's nairaland account for this post

I'm sorry I don't get this.

How could you live with a guy you just met (i.e: within the year) for five months? Where are your parents / guardians, or whoever it is that pays your school fees? Didn't they have a say in your decision to go live with your boyfriend for five months? Secondly, where did you - as a student - get the money from to assist him financially?

Tnx for your responses. Efe, we had been friends for two years before we started courtship and he had introduced me to all his relatives as the girl he wanted to marry. I used to work in the same town he lives before gaining admission to study for a masters programme in another state. My school was on strike and the GM of the company i used to worked for asked me to resume work pending when the strike will be called off. I took the offer because i did not want to stay idle besides i am sponsoring myself and was afraid the money i had saved for my education will be exhausted even before the strike will be over. The rent of the house i stayed before gaining admission expired and i had already moved out. I would have stayed with my friends but most of them are males i have very few female friends because of a horrible experience i had in the past even when i metioned staying with a collegue my so called fiance sounded like i had ulterior motive and insisted i stayed in his house. I guess i was wrong now i know better.

isaaci:
Tnx for your responses. Efe, we had been friends for two years before we started courtship and he had introduced me to all his relatives as the girl he wanted to marry. I used to work in the same town he lives before gaining admission to study for a masters programme in another state. My school was on strike and the GM of the company i used to worked for asked me to resume work pending when the strike will be called off. I took the offer because i did not want to stay idle besides i am sponsoring myself and was afraid the money i had saved for my education will be exhausted even before the strike will be over. The house i stayed before gaining admission expired and i had already moved out. I would have stayed with my friends but most of them are males i have very female friends because of a horrible experience i had in the past even when i metioned staying with a collegue my so called fiance sounded like i had ulterior motive and insisted i stayed in his house. I guess i was wrong now i know better.

I'm sorry, but I still don't get you.

If you were sponsoring yourself and worried about your rapidly depleting funds, why then would you (as a student on a very tight budget) still help him out financially? Your finances couldn't have been that bad if you were able to fund this man.

You still haven't answered my question. Where are your parents / relatives?

The company i work with paid me well and i felt that in a relationship when one person is down the other should lend a hand within his or her ability. My parents are in the same town where i school. They are both retired from the civil service

isaaci:
The company i work with paid me well and i felt that in a relationship when one person is down the other should lend a hand within his or her ability. My parents are in the same town where i school. They are both retired from the civil service

Did you ever confide in them about this relationship of yours?

Did they ever get to see this man?

He has met my parents but i did not tell them i was going to stay in his house i think that was my biggest mistake. But like i said earlier i now know better

isaaci:
He has met my parents but i did not tell them i was going to stay in his house i think that was my biggest mistake. But like i said earlier i now know better

So basically you shut your parents off your private life. Completely. The question here is why?

mawuqueyan:
ℓ̊ love ds thread....
ℓ̊ av NEVA tot of sucide tho but av bn rily depressed...!
God help me..!

My dear, you can always count on us! I was depressed at the age of 17, now I'm 23. I understand you, we're always here for you!

Things will get better, God is wonderful!

isaaci:
The company i work with paid me well and i felt that in a relationship when one person is down the other should lend a hand within his or her ability. My parents are in the same town where i school. They are both retired from the civil service

Your parents are retired from the civil service and the little funds you make you decide to spend on a man not giving attention to your retiree prarents(i stand to be corrected).It's not the way to live but like you said,you now know better.

IF ONLY I CAN LEAVE IN ISOLATION FROM D REST OF D WORLD THEN I THINK I WONT BE HAVING FREQUENT SUICIDAL THOUGHTS......I DONT KNOW WHY PEOPLE'S PERCEPTION OF ME SEEM TO AFFECT ME SO GREATLY DAT D NEXT ON MY MIND WULD BE TO COMMIT SUICIDE.......
I'M A VERY TEMPERAMENTAL LADY WHO REACTS QUICKLY TO THINGS WITHOUT HAVING A SECOND THOUGHT AND DS HAS AFFECTED ME NEGATIVELY........WHC IS CURRENTLY EATING INTO MY MARRIAGE........
I HAVE TRIED SO HARD TO CHANGE BUT THE HARDER I TRY THE WORSE I BECOME.......MY MOTTO HAS BEEN: WAT U GIVE IS WAT U GET...........SO WATEVER ACTION I GET FROM ANYONE IS FOLLOWED WIT EITHER A POSITIVE / NEGATIVE REACTION....NOW IF I GET ANEGATIVE ACTION WHC FOLLOWS A -VE REACTION FRM ME, I GET TO HAVE A NERVE WRECK FOR DAYS DAT EXTENDS INTO WEEKS....WHC MAKES ME SAD, GIVEN THE REASON Y I WANT TO LEAVE IN ISOLATION....AS THIS WILL PREVENT HAVING ISSUES WITH PEOPLE ALL D TIME....
SECONDLY MY LIFE ITSELF SEEM TO BE MEANINLESS TO ME; BECOS MOST TIMES I THINK EVEN AFTER GOING THRU ITS PROBLEMS, pains, frustration and misfortunes....it will still av to come to an end.....why dont i just end it without having to go thru all that........
There are still so many reasons y i av been aving suicidal thoughts......just ask me and ill tell u.....



n.b - sometimes I tink im not normal but sincerely tell me if i'm normal or abnormal...
cc thorpido , bellong

Laeroy,

You are perfectly normal. You are only showing signs of temperament mismanagement. This is something that can be resolved by you if you are ready to commit to the transformation of character and management of emotions.

To start with, do not expect too much from people. I want to believe that your negative reaction is as a result of disappointment from people you expected too much from. Have a realistic expectations of and from people. When you are wronged, rather than hitting back with same scale, try to talk to the person first and register hour displeasure. I bet you that you will get better result this way than reacting angrily.

You need to know that opinion is what it is, opinion and nothing more. I know it is somehow difficult for some people not to react to other's opinion about them. However, you need to understand that sometimes people say negative things about you because they are jealous of your person and how far you have gone. They want to put you down to their level. It is left for you to laugh it off and let them wallow in their misery or join them in the mud. I prefer the former.

Nevertheless, some are passing the right information but in a wrong way. You sometimes need to examine what is being said if it is true. If true, take it as a feedback for yourself and make amend where necessary.

Life is beautiful my sister and we have many things to live for. Doing good unto and for others will not only bring joy to your heart but fulfillment for living.

I will send you a Pm

bellong:
Laeroy,

You are perfectly normal. You are only showing signs of temperament mismanagement. This is something that can be resolved by you if you are ready to commit to the transformation of character and management of emotions.

To start with, do not expect too much from people. I want to believe that your negative reaction is as a result of disappointment from people you expected too much from. Have a realistic expectations of and from people. When you are wronged, rather than hitting back with same scale, try to talk to the person first and register hour displeasure. I bet you that you will get better result this way than reacting angrily.

You need to know that opinion is what it is, opinion and nothing more. I know it is somehow difficult for some people not to react to other's opinion about them. However, you need to understand that sometimes people say negative things about you because they are jealous of your person and how far you have gone. They want to put you down to their level. It is left for you to laugh it off and let them wallow in their misery or join them in the mud. I prefer the former.

Nevertheless, some are passing the right information but in a wrong way. You sometimes need to examine what is being said if it is true. If true, take it as a feedback for yourself and make amend where necessary.

Life is beautiful my sister and we have many things to live for. Doing good unto and for others will not only bring joy to your heart but fulfillment for living.

I will send you a Pm

Tanx for giving me a listening ear......can u please mail me via lydiabalogun@gmail.com , i somewhat lost access to d mail used in registering ds acct.....

BACK to ur post, I realised that some people will for no reasons tlk u down just to mk demselves feel good, and wen i react bk in d manner at wwhc dey tlked to me, they begin to caution demselves and not repeat such nonsense, but when i calmly/politely tell dem wat deyve done wrong, it even spurs them to talking more rudely to me....hence the resolve to send to dem wat they give....and its been working for me....., It's just that it saddens my heart whenever I have any issue wt a friend , relative , brother / sister.......
DTS WHY I PREFER TO EXIST IN ISOLATION....IF ITS ACTUALLY POSSIBLE DAT I CAN GET TOTAL COMFORT IN A DESERT.....I DONT MIND JOURNEYING TO SAHARA/ KALAHARI DESERT.......DAT WAY NOTING BOUT
THIS CRUEL LIFE WILL BOTHER ME.....

^^^^ sent a mail to you.

Laeroy,
You are normal,you probaby just grew up in a not too friendly environment that has affected your state of mind and makes you get very defensive.
Bellong has said it,you just need people management skills.There is much evil in the land but there's a lot to live for at the same time.One of the things I'll want you to do is to start impacting others.Begin to be a source of inspiration to other people especially people who are not necessarily your friends.
You say you are married which means you have dated and courted someone.How did you cope(and still cope) with him?He's obviously not perfect which means tolerance must be involved.Employ that tolerance in your dealings with other people.
If you want me to talk to you,I could send you a mail.

bellong and thorpido, I really appreciate how you take your time to attend to every complain/indecision/ problem constantly. it is very nice of you guys. I wish I had an idea where y'all leave to send a Christmas present.

The smallest assistance,the smallest advice they go a long way.

Merry Christmas everyone

zeb04:
bellong and thorpido, I really appreciate how you take your time to attend to every complain/indecision/ problem constantly. it is very nice of you guys. I wish I had an idea where y'all leave to send a Christmas present.

The smallest assistance,the smallest advice they go a long way.

Merry Christmas everyone

Christmas presents are welcome.Should I send my address?
A merry Christmas to you and a prosperous 2016.

thorpido:
Christmas presents are welcome.Should I send my address?
A merry Christmas to you and a prosperous 2016.

lol yeah send me your address

zeb04:

Thanks sis...

It is a pleasure to always be of help in our little way.

Been depressed since 2011.....and thoughts of suicide keeps creeping in.....I fear I might break anytime soon....
Hopefully I can find solace here...

killsmith:
Been depressed since 2011.....and thoughts of suicide keeps creeping in.....I fear I might break anytime soon....
Hopefully I can find solace here...

Do you have an idea of what initiated the depression?

bellong:


Do you have an idea of what initiated the depression?

I lost 5 people in months...

killsmith:
I lost 5 people in months...

Was it accidents, sickness or mystery?

I can't believe that I've been on Nairaland since 2007 and never knew a good thread like this existed.

Kudos to you guys
.NET

Good morning my family. Bellong , thorpido, and efemenaxy are doing great job here. Kudos to you guys. This is the place where I come to read people's emotional disturbance, so I can learn and be contented with whatever is taking toll on my psyche.

I guess I can place this here.

I have had this cut from an Editorial page of Punch Newspaper April, 2008 and it has constantly served as a reminder to the fact that you don't let people draw you back. Aspire for whatever height you want, if you didn't succeed at the first, second, third or unlimited tries, life continues as success aint about trying once. And if you succeed; then all well and good.

The caption is about people's insinuation about Obama while he was still vying for the Democratic Nomination. Just note the striking difference between the sentiments of people and the actual outcome.

Best wishes in 2016.

bellong:


Was it accidents, sickness or mystery?

mysterious deaths.....but I'd rather not talk about the past.....