killsmith:
mysterious deaths.....but I'd rather not talk about the past.....

mixxture:
dis maybe sound silly but its relly hurting me, pls wat does it mean if someone u dont talk or relate with , u notice he always dodge is face from u anytime he is with is friends or girl and u are coming or passing bye?? pls can someone relate to dis? pls help me

Tgirl4real:
The thoughts of starting a counselling/encouragement thread for people that are depressed or suicidal had been on my mind for a long time now. I wanted to create an avenue where they can open up and get solace from people around here.

I really don't know how to put this down, but if you are feeling depressed and battling with the thoughts of suicide, kindly share so that we can all go through it together. Through our interactions, we can help lift the burden and who knows, you can actually find a solution to your problem here.

This is the old thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/826801/feeling-suicidal-come-here-first

Please let's share...

inqusitivebeing:




Personally, I've been feeling suicidal for over a year now. I've really wanted to take my life because things are not ok.

inqusitivebeing:




Personally, I've been feeling suicidal for over a year now. I've really wanted to take my life because things are not ok.

Mhizashantee1:
wow..thankGod i came across this now, I've been having this feelings now..I'm depressed, thinking everyday..can't sleep at night..MAY GOD HELP ME

Mhizashantee1:
wow..thankGod i came across this now, I've been having this feelings now..I'm depressed, thinking everyday..can't sleep at night..MAY GOD HELP ME

anna5:
You guys talked to. Me the last time. And I was getting better but nt any more. My dad is justfrustrating my. Life and I don't know hw long I can take. It. My dad. Makes me. Feel like. Iintentionallyfailed. God in heaven know I. Read my books and I never wanted to fail but y is my dad making me feel this way

thorpido:
What's your position now?You were asked to leave the department,have you done that?
Is your dad no longer giving you funds?

anna5:
I moved to another department, bu things are nt the same with my dad anytime irequest for funds he starts yelling. I asked for funds lasst week but uptilllnow he hasn't sent anything if I call. Him he will just frustrate. Me more so I don't want to call him. He wasn't likethis back then. Beforehe would send me funds the next day, and he has refusedto pay formy hostel. Dontknow wt to do

godfadda6:
We have a whatsapp group, it's call reflections, it's a place to share stories without being judged, cristized feel free to join.....
Sometime all we need is another pairs of ears!
08023908614 admin number

Tgirl4real:
The thoughts of starting a counselling/encouragement thread for people that are depressed or suicidal had been on my mind for a long time now. I wanted to create an avenue where they can open up and get solace from people around here.

I really don't know how to put this down, but if you are feeling depressed and battling with the thoughts of suicide, kindly share so that we can all go through it together. Through our interactions, we can help lift the burden and who knows, you can actually find a solution to your problem here.

This is the old thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/826801/feeling-suicidal-come-here-first

Please let's share...

Nubian113:


Just wanted to bring this to your attention. Is it genuine please?

thorpido:
Do you speak with your mum?Try to get your mum to talk to him.
Discuss this issue with any of your father's trusted friends too.
You may have to persevere and be patient for now.

anna5:
yup she has tried talking to him, even his friends but he listens to. No one.

thorpido:
It's a tough one but you will pull through.The experience will make you strong.
Start looking at some petty jobs. You can do on the side that can bring some income for you.

Kazna69:
Is it OK if I air my thoughts? I might as well get it off my chest before the worst happens.

bellong:


Yes you can share..

Hi everyone, I'm not new to this forum but I just created an account to share my issue. I'm a 23 yr old studying abroad and I feel like I'm stuck at this point. My grades are really good at this point but I've been out of school for a year because I've not been able to pay my fees. My parents are responsible for my education and They've done all they should (paid fees and accommodation) but I use my money for other unimportant things. I feel terrible because this same huge mistake I'm making is why I'm still an undergraduate and my mates are out of school, some working and others serving. I was in a Nigerian university before I moved out here because I did this same thing. I basically use my fees to shop, eat carelessly, sport betting, I've used it to pay fees for some of my "friends" in Nigeria and also live a fake life. The new academic session starts in February and I'm so afraid of telling my family members what I've done because I've been lying to them all this while and I promised never to make this mistake again before I was given this second opportunity. At this point, I feel stuck and afraid that I may not be able to register for next session. Please I need advice from you guys

FullOfShame:
I posted this elsewhere but I'll paste it here. This thing I'm going through has made me pray to sleep and not wake up. Most times I feel like I'll know peace when I'm dead.

anna5:
I moved to another department, bu things are nt the same with my dad anytime irequest for funds he starts yelling. I asked for funds lasst week but uptilllnow he hasn't sent anything if I call. Him he will just frustrate. Me more so I don't want to call him. He wasn't likethis back then. Beforehe would send me funds the next day, and he has refusedto pay formy hostel. Dontknow wt to do

andromida:


Shame. Guilt. Fear such heavy loads to carry. The first point of call for you is disclosure you have to tell your parents what you've done that will remove the guilt and fear. The shame i am afraid will stay a while until you start doing right by yourself. Why did you spend your school fees? why and whose school fees were you paying in Nigeria? why was their future more important than yours. Why don't you want to graduate? Why do you feel you have to impress others with a fake lifestyle before they like you? what is causing you to self sabotage on such a grand scale.

Since this is a repeat performance then you have to get to the root of the issue to overcome it once and for all. This is no longer about what your parents will say its now about you and why you need to break out of this pattern of self sabotage.

Its ok to be afraid what is not ok is not to move past the fear and speak out. Tell your family what you've done, face their disappointment and your own disappointment in yourself you can't afford to live in shame its too heavy a load you are still lying to your family if you continue to lie to them you will soon start hiding from yourself, dislike yourself, be angry at yourself all these leads to different degrees of depression and emotional trauma. You are the one person you will live with all your life and die with you are the one person you want to be proud of you owe that to yourself so let your next actions be actions you can be proud of no matter how hard it seems. Don't let shame, fear, guilt and whatever else is going on cage you and steal your life.

I am reminded of the song what a privilege to carry EVERYTHING to God in prayer. Unburden yourself.

FullOfShame:


This is really deep. Thanks for putting it straight to me. How do I build the courage to tell them please? It's so difficult