Selena06:
It is horrifying at times to state the length guys in relationships go to make their girlfriends do some things because they are dating.


There are relationships (not married) where the guy expects the lady to visit him every weekend, wash his clothes, cook for him and store in the refrigerator, clean the house and entertain his friends that may visit during her stay.


Sure, it is good helping your guy out but whereby he makes them compulsory and queries you when you fail to do them is not so cool although as they would say, different strokes for different folks.


NLanders, what's your take on this, is it right?
Meanwhile, I am new here. Show me some love

how would you feel if whenever you visits him,he does all those chores you just mentioned while you watch? Happy?

Joy1706:

Ur so wrong. Lemme tell u eh, my first guy, I neva asked anything from him not even airtime. He also never gave me a dime, not even t - fare, not to talk of gifts or even 100 naira airtime. Yet the buffoon had the guts to be demanding for sex and asking when ill come wash and cook for him. My only joy is that I never did a single one of those tinz 4 him.

are you saying he would have been entitled for sex if only he had given you such things as airtime, A dime,gifts and T.fair as you mentioned?

Achilles2:
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As for me
The moment i start asking you my girlfriend to start cooking for me, washing my clothes and introducing you to my visitors then you don't need anyone to tell you that I am no longer seeing you as a girlfriend.
Your attitude towards such demands from me will determine my next move. .

Sadly many women have failed that simple text.

Word! Thank God I am married to the best woman any man could ever wish for. Ladies of today know nothing about how to fight for their relationship without being seen as a slave. They dont know what it takes to even be called a WOMAN!

@op
whats ur own take

The topic says he's not married to you and he wants you to do these things for him, would you do them if he marries you? If no, don't start. If yes, then why not do them now and let him know you have the qualities?

If he craves a woman thats is raised to help with chores at home, and you see that as enslavement, most likely you guys are incompatible.

I'm sure there are women out there that don't see anything wrong in those, especially when they're raised like that and he can find one of them definitely.

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pcguru1:


Yawn

There is a difference between one doing that on her own and being mandated to do so, no doubt girls will do that but every weekend, is he mad

No woman can cook my food without me giving her the go ahead.

Asking my girlfriend to cook for me every weekends should not even be sn issue. She should see it as an opportunity to show me the stuff she is made of.

The only people that will see this as an issue are those who can't cook and are too lazy.

Am sure if I tell her never to wash my clothes and cook for me she will still complain that I don't value her.

It shouldn't be made compulsory to the lady bt the lady know how to help her hobby. More over am type that don't like a particular girl to visiting every time talkmore of doing the house choire every weekends. So it shouldn't be compulsory

Estharfabian:
LoL!

Actually, Helping Out Your bf with certain chores, cleaning his home? cooking and all? that's actually really sweet. Buh it definitely becomes annoying if he tries imposing those duties on You and questions you when You don't. mbanu! for why?

Lol. What Are You? his Maid?

Even A Real Husby Doesn't even act that way! It's So lame!
If he wants to take the semblance of A Control freak? Nne biko, Abort mission or he had better get A maid!

It's A Relationship Not A Full time job abeg!

I hope y'all will reason this way wen u ask of cash from bae

Jengem:
stay in ya papa house now

oniranu obirin

because you are bored at home

Are you not entertained with boyfy?

And you dont wanna pay dues but be receiving vals gift


u thirsty greedy women....thunder awaits ye all

that's harsh, what's wrong in helping a friend out? I know d guy to must not expect that always

If he commands you to do that weekly, that means you have been completely enslaved by that young man, and he won't marry you.

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naijadeyhia:


Word! Thank God I am married to the best woman any man could ever wish for. Ladies of today know nothing about how to fight for their relationship without being seen as a slave. They dont know what it takes to even be called a WOMAN!

My brother can u just imagine.
If you call yourself my girlfriend and after 6 months you have not started cooking for me in any capacity then honestly you are wasting your time with me.

gunners160:
yes my boss but when patience becomes been used up,then it is foolishness.Guys lyk dat end up dumping the lady at d end.Why wil a sensible guy quiery a lady that fails to be a slave to him for just a week?The most annonying part is that he also invites his friends over.Haba,is that a sign of patience or dishonour?

I didn't finish reading the post,buh i see good reason in ur comment.and he could stil mean well with those actions,he might just see her as a wife material and may want to be completely sure.

But you can demand money and expect being treated like a queen? Where the hell are Naija women getting their infatuations from? Who is pounding yam for you women and promising no issue about soup? I am one of the most happily married men on planet earth and all these your so called trivial demands made me scored my would-be wife then so high. No one can take her place in my heart forever. You better drop your dead ego and do well. Even, if you dont end up marrying him, doing home chores will rather train and uplift you and not mar you.

Achilles2:
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No woman can cook my food without me giving her the go ahead.

Asking my girlfriend to cook for me every weekends should not even be sn issue. She should see it as an opportunity to show me the stuff she is made of.

The only people that will see this as an issue are those who can't cook and are too lazy.

Am sure if I tell her never to wash my clothes and cook for me she will still complain that I don't value her.

Sorry about writing "yawn" that was actually disrespectful of me, what I mean yes she can see it as an opportunity there are ways you go about it maybe like "honey come and cook for me nau weekends" am assuming there's a commanding tone and I don't believe in that too, you guys are not married so there shouldn't be any marital priviledges unless it's a very serious relationship and even at that every weekend is rubbish , come on she too has her own weekends to plan for herself. I think we advise women to glorify men too much all in the name of possibility of getting married. Then would it be safe to say the guy should pay for her rent annually so she can get know his financial prowess and capability better.

Selena06:
It is horrifying at times to state the length guys in relationships go to make their girlfriends do some things because they are dating.


There are relationships (not married) where the guy expects the lady to visit him every weekend, wash his clothes, cook for him and store in the refrigerator, clean the house and entertain his friends that may visit during her stay.


Sure, it is good helping your guy out but whereby he makes them compulsory and queries you when you fail to do them is not so cool although as they would say, different strokes for different folks.


NLanders, what's your take on this, is it right?
Meanwhile, I am new here. Show me some love

You're his househelp, obedient little maid. When he says 'jump', say 'how high'? When he says clean, grab the toilet brush and scrub that toilet.

Get used to it or gerrout.

cruzita:
this will happen when he knows u are jobless if u have a job he won't expect u to come over his house every weekend to clean his house.if he can't clean himself then should sleep on top of the dirts .

Recieve sense in Jesus name.am sure you are still single or you should be a teenager...ur advice is awful.

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pcguru1:


Sorry about writing "yawn" that was actually disrespectful of me, what I mean yes she can see it as an opportunity there are ways you go about it maybe like "honey come and cook for me nau weekends" am assuming there's a commanding tone and I don't believe in that too, you guys are not married so there shouldn't be any marital priviledges unless it's a very serious relationship and even at that every weekend is rubbish , come on she too has her own weekends to plan for herself. I think we advise women to glorify men too much all in the name of possibility of getting married. Then would it be safe to say the guy should pay for her rent annually so she can get know his financial prowess and capability better.

My brother.
If after 6 months a supposedly girlfriend is not cooking for her man, she is only good for one thing. SEX. (Ladies sorry to say this )

[quote author=Estharfabian.....and some peeps swallowed diz sermon hook line n sinker by liking...probably juxt becos she's got a hole...wen she might b goin thro worst difficult situations...smh
by d way wot of d guys hard earned bar?...no de collect if u no wan chop duties.

Simply tell him to go and pay the bride price.

Naff24:

That means u are worthless and classless for u to demand stuffs like that from ur partner.....d real big and responsible guys stay classic and treat there woman as such!

Tiis is serious o....I was making a joke...
On the less "weird" side....There nothing wrong in him demanding his Gf to wash his clothes....She either says yes or No...He did not threaten her....
Yhur language is quite offensive...

Achilles2:
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My brother.
If after 6 months a supposedly girlfriend is not cooking for her man, she is only good for one thing. SEX. (Ladies sorry to say this )

Ladies will cook for their loved ones I guess we are on the same page, my only issue is forcing a Babe to do that

thats nonsense if u ask me

Achilles2:
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My brother can u just imagine.
If you call yourself my girlfriend and after 6 months you have not started cooking for me in any capacity then honestly you are wasting your time with me.

I think the OP herself isnt ready for any form of relationship and probably just likes the hype of saying " I have a boyfriend". Its a blessing for a man you are in a relationship with to ask you to wash or cook or clean. It shows he values u. I guess she would be comfortable watching him cook, clean and wash by himself while she sits and watches telemundo.
God has wired ladies to be the keepers of the home. Now this doesnt mean they are servants but it means they are meant to ensure everything is in tip top shape from cleaning to painting the house to choice of colours to type of furniture and all that and not just hair, nails and shopping.
In my home I cook better than my wife and she knows it but she still makes it a point of duty to always cook and its my duty to eat what she cooks.
I can clean d house but the way and speed my wife goes about it amazes me. Its a thing of joy to lay foundations in a home but Girls of today know nothing.

Selena06:
It is horrifying at times to state the length guys in relationships go to make their girlfriends do some things because they are dating.


There are relationships (not married) where the guy expects the lady to visit him every weekend, wash his clothes, cook for him and store in the refrigerator, clean the house and entertain his friends that may visit during her stay.


Sure, it is good helping your guy out but whereby he makes them compulsory and queries you when you fail to do them is not so cool although as they would say, different strokes for different folks.


NLanders, what's your take on this, is it right?
Meanwhile, I am new here. Show me some love

it doesn't have to be compulsory, whatever you do for your man should be out of your own volition.

cruzita:
this will happen when he knows u are jobless if u have a job he won't expect u to come over his house every weekend to clean his house.if he can't clean himself then should sleep on top of the dirts .

are u sure this is coming from d bottom of yr heart?

Selena06:
It is horrifying at times to state the length guys in relationships go to make their girlfriends do some things because they are dating.


There are relationships (not married) where the guy expects the lady to visit him every weekend, wash his clothes, cook for him and store in the refrigerator, clean the house and entertain his friends that may visit during her stay.


Sure, it is good helping your guy out but whereby he makes them compulsory and queries you when you fail to do them is not so cool although as they would say, different strokes for different folks.


NLanders, what's your take on this, is it right?
Meanwhile, I am new here. Show me some love

It shows your skills, incase you became the wife!!!

Selena06:
It is horrifying at times to state the length guys in relationships go to make their girlfriends do some things because they are dating.


There are relationships (not married) where the guy expects the lady to visit him every weekend, wash his clothes, cook for him and store in the refrigerator, clean the house and entertain his friends that may visit during her stay.


Sure, it is good helping your guy out but whereby he makes them compulsory and queries you when you fail to do them is not so cool although as they would say, different strokes for different folks.


NLanders, what's your take on this, is it right?
Meanwhile, I am new here. Show me some love

the act is to test if you are a good wife material.
don't blame d guy
its an opportunity for you to proof yourself, except you are not prepared to marry him which seems to be the case as you are complaining already.

slyIsaac:
Lol...There's nothing wrong with his demands.....Meet them or get off.....

And you will be his nanny for as long as you agree to meeting his selfish demands.
some men sha! A lady that is desperate will keep to his demands but a lady that knows what she wants will never intertain that relationship

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naijadeyhia:


I think the OP herself isnt ready for any form of relationship and probably just likes the hype of saying " I have a boyfriend". Its a blessing for man you are in a relationship with to ask you to wash or cook or clean. It shows he values u. I guess she would be comfortable watching him cook, clean and wash by himself while she sits and watches telemundo.
God has wired ladies to be the keepers of the home. Now this doesnt mean they are servants but it means they are meant to ensure everything is in tip top shape from cleaning to painting the house to choice of colours to type of furniture and all that and not just hair, nails and shopping.
In my home I cook better than my wife and she knows it but she still makes it a point of duty to always cook and its my duty to eat what she cooks.
I can clean d house but the way and speed my wife goes about it amazes me. Its a thing of joy to lay foundations in a home but Girls of today know nothing.

God bless you and your family.
May you and your wife grow old together in love, harmony and in wealth.

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pcguru1:


Ladies will cook for their loved ones I guess we are on the same page, my only issue is forcing a Babe to do that

No body is forcing anybody to cook.
Its either you cook for me or you don't. Just don't complain when someday else start doing the cooking.

Selena06:
There are ladies who work but must go over to his place on weekends and do her bit for him.

I know of some.

Their cup of kunu! how many men will u slave for b4 mr right finds u?