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2sex:
Bros, Nigerian girls are very inconsiderate and unappreciative, whether you believe it or not.

People don't just speak without reasons.

Swissheart:
I lost my pity for you when you spoke of suicide. You want to kill yourself because she desires a good life abi..... a good life for you after all it is a job she needs from you. How old is she? Her background blah blah... . All these are what to consider in understanding the situation. I once told my guy the same thing... ..... Yes because he was appearing lazy and unpromising. At that instance he knew he what to do... .. .. it is not easy to get a job but then it is wrong to be stagnant. You have helped her secure jobs while you aren't doing any except the one you are managing ... Who does that?... You will only appear flippant to her. Brace up nd search more. Leave her to herself for now though I doubt if she is into anyone yet but if she is, bro she never loved you and she doesn't deserve you. 7years isn't 7 weeks to throw away like that.

DBestDoc:
very sensible and mature post.
@Op, listen to this advice. It has a lot of wisdom in it.
Don't worry, that suicidal feeling would go away and you will be fine.
Just don't stop hustling and making yourself better and don't hate her.

Everybody is quick to call her shallow, she may not be. She alone knows what she's been through and what informed her decision.
Some people have been through hell and out and wouldn't want to have anything to do with lack...whether her decision was right or wrong, i don't know. But what i do know is that she is trying to be very careful so as not to land herself and her unborn children in the same thing she is very much afraid of, even though at the of the day, whatever will be will be.

She might still end up being your wife, so treat this with wisdom and don't hurt yourself.
All the best!

DBestDoc:
very sensible and mature post.
@Op, listen to this advice. It has a lot of wisdom in it.
Don't worry, that suicidal feeling would go away and you will be fine.
Just don't stop hustling and making yourself better and don't hate her.

Everybody is quick to call her shallow, she may not be. She alone knows what she's been through and what informed her decision.
Some people have been through hell and out and wouldn't want to have anything to do with lack...whether her decision was right or wrong, i don't know. But what i do know is that she is trying to be very careful so as not to land herself and her unborn children in the same thing she is very much afraid of, even though at the of the day, whatever will be will be.

She might still end up being your wife, so treat this with wisdom and don't hurt yourself.
All the best!

hurting:
Thanks I need more of ur type here. I really need to get over this.

Decker:
Look bro, first things first. I'll advise that you don't relent in your hard work and search for a job, but you shouldn't make the mistake of doing all this with the mindset of winning your girl back.
To be honest with you, the girl made her decision and she chose someone else, someone more financially capable over you, despite the long way you the both of you had come. It's kind of sad, I know, but it's her choice and she has her reasons. She has told you she has moved on and I think you should too. Things like this happen at some point in our lives and when this kind of things happen, the best thing to do is to just wipe the dust of pain and regret off of you and move on with your life. That girl betrayed your love and friendship, all on the altar of having a better life. That tells a lot about her character and what exactly it is she wants from life. Even if you do win her back, which is highly improbable, what's your guarantee that she won't leave you for someone else in future when the going beings to get tough?

The thing about love is that it makes you think that person you are in love with is the best person out there, but that's not true.
You might think that no one can be as pretty and fun and smart and all those good qualities you admire in her, all in one, but there are actually other girls like that out there, better girls. And out of them, there is one for you. But in other for you to see them, you first have to remove the scales of supposed love from your eyes.
So, stop crying like a baby and get this girl off your mind, free yourself from all the negativity and keep looking for a job and I know you will find one. And when you do find one, work hard to be established in it, and along the line, you will find the right girl who really deserves you.

hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

repogirl:
I know you are hurting badly at the moment OP, but you are not the first person it this situation.

This is what happens when you place all your trust and faith in human beings, when they disappoint you, it shatters you but you can get over this.

You did your best in this relationship and I must commend you for that but taking your life because of this is simply NOT WORTH IT.

If she wants to move on, let her do so please, you deserve someone who values you for who you are and not what you have. You really don't deserve her type and you will find better.

Please focus on yourself and not on her. Make something of yourself and while at it, you will find someone deserving of whatever you have to offer.

Who is to say that later she wouldn't regret leaving you?

Pls focus on yourself, give yourself time to heal as you are still going through shock. With time these suicidal feelings will fade.

hurting:
Thank you. My heart is really really heavy right now.
God bless.

hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.

This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.

She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.

P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.
Please commit suicide,u must be a foolish baby

kaziblake:
Your story is so touching.

Let her be for sometime....

The truth is you can't manage a family with that amount you earned a month in this present economy.....
It's not easy to get over heartbreak but I assure you will get over her.
Tell yourself you are done crying and thinking about her....Work hard,earn the money and watch how girls flock around you.

No man or woman is worth dying for.
If you commit suicide hell fire await you.

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Decker:
Look bro, first things first. I'll advise that you don't relent in your hard work and search for a job, but you shouldn't make the mistake of doing all this with the mindset of winning your girl back.
To be honest with you, the girl made her decision and she chose someone else, someone more financially capable over you, despite the long way you the both of you had come. It's kind of sad, I know, but it's her choice and she has her reasons. She has told you she has moved on and I think you should too. Things like this happen at some point in our lives and when this kind of things happen, the best thing to do is to just wipe the dust of pain and regret off of you and move on with your life. That girl betrayed your love and friendship, all on the altar of having a better life. That tells a lot about her character and what exactly it is she wants from life. Even if you do win her back, which is highly improbable, what's your guarantee that she won't leave you for someone else in future when the going beings to get tough?

The thing about love is that it makes you think that person you are in love with is the best person out there, but that's not true.
You might think that no one can be as pretty and fun and smart and all those good qualities you admire in her, all in one, but there are actually other girls like that out there, better girls. And out of them, there is one for you. But in other for you to see them, you first have to remove the scales of supposed love from your eyes.
So, stop crying like a baby and get this girl off your mind, free yourself from all the negativity and keep looking for a job and I know you will find one. And when you do find one, work hard to be established in it, and along the line, you will find the right girl who really deserves you.

Lilyalacutey:
Are u a beautiful lady?
Are you Bold?
Do you have charisma?

Are u a skillful team player?

Are you a leader?

Do you have what it takes to be a part of a Guinness Book of World record breaking project?

SPACES ARE NOW AVAILABLE FOR:

ACTIVATION TEAM LEADERS

FOR THE MODELLO PAN-AFRIQUE INTERNATIONAL PROJECTS.

2 MAJOR PROJECTS WILL BE EXECUTED IN 2016:

A) BGM AFRICA (MR. & MISS BGM: 100% ENTREPRENEURSHIP)

B) FACE OF PAN-AFRICA:
(100% HEALTH)

BOTH ARE DECENT BEAUTY PAGEANT / TV REALITY SHOW

PAY:
ACTIVATION TEAM LEADERS WILL BE PAID 50,000 FOR EACH PROJECT PLUS LOTS OF EXTRA BENEFITS

JOB DESCRIPTION:
1) They shall be the ones to supervise the team that will sell the forms (MORE OF ONLINE)

2) They will also supervise the team that will do the online promotion

3) They will supervise the audition protocols in their various states

4) Also play the role of sorrugate ushers in the course of the big events

5) They shall handle the pet project logistics.

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(Jan 20th - Feb 20th)

Fill the LEADERS FORM by clicking this link:
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2sex:
stop fooling yourself with the emboldened. I have read your post, I have been there and dusted it off me. Atlantian has told you the truth.

Hustle for money like mad. Visit business section of nairaland from time to time to keep abreast of opportunities.

Bro,they ARE all the same but with different wavelength, including those commenting on this thread. I have seen it all. They are deceptive like serpent, including those you thought can't hurt a fly.

This Nigeria where prospect is the in thing for women. Hardly will a Nigerian girl date a business dude nor encourage him. You secured a job for her and what did she do in return? That's to tell you her real person. If you had impregnated her, you would have been on safer side.

I want to sound a warning to all guys reading this, do not EVER trust that girl you are dealing with, except she has become your wife. Anything outside that you are playing with your life.

Women are deceptive... take that to the bank.


Rubbish!

2sexy

hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.

This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.

She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.

P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.