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Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by tolexy007(m): 11:10am On Feb 18, 2016 |
yemi16:....it is big slap on you 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by 4C2215131: 11:11am On Feb 18, 2016 |
yemi16: And therein lies the misconception! |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Princewell2012(m): 11:12am On Feb 18, 2016 |
trappatoni:@ why would she call your brother after you have made a decision. This realy got me angry. Hmmmm.. I think that is a danger sign. The op has ignore the first sigh, now this is another sign. If something is not done now, hmmmm.. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by omirb: 11:13am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Borther your wife had a very bad mentality. Moreover, do u have to anounce to your wife what u want to do for your family? Pls if u know that such as become her attitute, stop informing her of your giving plan. It is nonsence Your welness even in future depend on how many people u have succesfully helped, and this is what we called impact. Every single thing u do today weda good or bad is awaiting u tomoro. You are bless not because u are smart or sharper than others but because u are engraced. Anyone wu want to deprive u of giving is going to deprive u further blessing in life, because where giving stops is where the flow of d grace stop. Now, tell her openly, she is not d one wu send u to schl, afterall some of those brothers in one way or d other must have contributed one or 2 things into your own life in d past. So how will a woman wu comes into your life in d afternoon stops your people from enjoying u. Be careful bro and tell her to stop me and my husband only kind of attitude. If she truly love u, she will love people around and especially your people, it is God wu gave them to u and not u choosing them from heaven by yourself. Beside, there is no one in this world will ever pray to be concern to people in life, but wen d situatn of life sometimes push people to where they dont want. Anything can happen to anyone at anytime, because life is always 2 sided. So u might need to fight( I dont mean u chase her away, she is still your but u need to correct that attitued) to put a stop to that nonsence , that might be d language she understand. Stop begging for such a thing, u can beg her for other things but not on things that may ruin your future. Let me tell u d way we handle things with family and friend in my family, most women do not like giving to your family but if u are doing it to her family, she will not talk, so simply keep mute on whatever you as d man want to give to your family, do what u want to do and that is all See, u will notice that this argument of quarelling wilk not hapen wen u want to do it to her side. Just be careful bro and God bless u |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by freecocoa(f): 11:14am On Feb 18, 2016 |
4C2215131:I understand your point perfectly well, I mean when push comes to shove, then some things just need to be said. You are right my brother, I can't believe the number of people saying he doesn't have to let her in on things, makes me wonder what type of marriage people really are in. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Amhappy(f): 11:14am On Feb 18, 2016 |
I know a woman like this some years ago,today her husband is dead and the table has turned. Her husband's younger brother and wife that she despised then are her bread winners today.@ Op Not your portion oooo. You will live to see your children children. If not for anything,your wife should have been compassionate for the new born baby. I think you should seriously talk to her;maybe she had a bitter experience where her father abandoned his immediate family for the extended one(not making excuses for her ooo). She was selfish,self-centered,disrespectful(to your elder one) and uncaring. I despise selfish people. For me keeping secrets of your gifts to your family or anyone is out of it. 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Acidosis(m): 11:16am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Princewell2012: Can I PM you my account number sir? 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Onegai(f): 11:19am On Feb 18, 2016 |
yemi16: No, actually the message is right. People are the issue. I'm a gambling woman and I'm going to make a bet. I bet you N200 that she also acts jumpy when your relatives come around, like she's not comfy but dare not be rude and overdoes the fake smiles sometimes. Did I win my bet? if that's true, she's suffering from I-Gats-Fight-Needless-Battles Disease. it's a nasty illness, ah tellya. There's a long cure for it and a short cure. Only take the short cure if you are a very calm and in-control person. ONLY IF YOU ARE CALM AND IN CONTROL AND HAVE A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOUR. if you do, reply this and I'll post the short cure here. 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by 4C2215131: 11:20am On Feb 18, 2016 |
stonemasonn: Word! I've dated my fair share of difficult folks. Maybe they were sent my way for self development. Remember dating one sent to me from the fiery pits itself. Men! What that individual that was spawned from the loins of Lucifer himself made me go through, lawdy! The good thing is that the situation made me see where I had to work on myself also as I wasn't perfect either though I was far from being a hell spawn demonoid masquerading as a human. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Guyman02: 11:20am On Feb 18, 2016 |
mutiply: Thank you, like the Igbo saying goes 'whatever a man gives to another man is just for safe keeping'; this implies you may need him to return the favour tomorrow. Be the man of the home and tell her your red line, she will not like it at first but will later get used to it. Make sure you fulfill her own needs by not depriving her to satisfy your siblings, but be strong and let her know your definition of life. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Socketbet: 11:21am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Stop telling her everything about ur family and stop informing her anytime you want to help ur family member........ My big brother's wife was like that b4 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Philadelphia: 11:23am On Feb 18, 2016 |
yemi16: To be honest with you, you married the wrong person. Marriage involves 2 families uniting via 2 people (husband and wife) in order to spend the rest of their lives together. The families' problems should be shared. As for a woman, she is supposed to "RESPECT" her husband as he is her head (the bible clearly says so). If anyone dares attempt to upturn things, then there is bound to be great problems. I'm sorry Bro but you just have to face the reality here. Stick with her as I would not encourage you to divorce her. You even noticed this during courtship and you ignored it? Face it nah, you messed up. By the way, I would have made same mistake you made but I thank God for Jesus.
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Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by ATinaC(f): 11:23am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Don't stop rendering help to ur brother n family OK. God will keep on blessing u for dat. But no matter how transparent u want to be to ur wife, don't let her know wenever u want to help ppl. With dat, there will b no more quarells. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Guyman02: 11:24am On Feb 18, 2016 |
mutiply: Thank you, like the Igbo saying goes 'whatever a man gives to another man is just for safe keeping'; this implies you may need him to return the favour tomorrow. Be the man of the home and tell her your red line, she will not like it at first but will later get used to it. Make sure you fulfill her own needs by not depriving her to satisfy your siblings, but be strong and let her know your definition of life. zayhal:Voted! 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Nobody: 11:26am On Feb 18, 2016 |
She is acting as if she is Oyibo wife.is only Oyibo women that behaves like that not we africans. Get a second wife to teach her a lesson. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by lurladay(f): 11:30am On Feb 18, 2016 |
u shouldn't even marry a woman dat gave u dat reason 4 lvn her x.yoruba would say "pasun ta fi lu iya le...."u should know she would do d same 2 u also.she I mean and wicked.she dosnt know 2mrw.she dst know when she would b needing ur brithers help 2.or u needing him.she just wicked.and don't beg.let her know she wrong.report her 2 her mum.she is not a good woman. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by 4C2215131: 11:32am On Feb 18, 2016 |
freecocoa: DOA most times. I've come to understand that cloaking everything debilitating about your character and that that of your potential significant other under the banner of love tends to backfire as when reality sets in the veneer of protection afforded by so called love appear to be very thin. Full disclosure (to a reasonable extent, don't want him knowing you shagged three of his friends and two of his work colleagues before you met him) is the key. Let him/her see you at your most infernal and glorious moments. Be real! Stop the lies and pussy-footing! If you're a wife beater, tear am better slap during courtship so she knows she's got an abuser for a fiancee thus making her decision of staying or leaving. If you're a nymph do tell him to go another six rounds after the fourth so he knows your sexual appetite being insatiable may find release in the loins of another man or two. Knowing this he makes his decision too. Hiding all the above mentioned proclivities of a potential spouse under the guise of a misplaced sense of love bodes disaster...ask the OP, he can verify that. Now this doesn't mean I do not advocate for love, hell, I'm a hopeless romantic as a perusal of my posts will show BUT I've learned how to balance the yearnings of my heart with the dictates of my head. Learn it too, you'd be the better for it. 6 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by luckesky1990: 11:33am On Feb 18, 2016 |
BLOODY IS THICKER DAN WATER. His ur brother nd he needs ur help, so I don't tink anything can stop u from helping him. Is GooD to be GooD. God reward good deeds. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by onaija62: 11:38am On Feb 18, 2016 |
My brother you did not marry the wrong lady but you are handling her the wrong way. You have been too open with your wife. Since you do not run a joint account, she does not have to know when you choose to assist anybody. Help by all means but keep it from her. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by forstergr8t(m): 11:39am On Feb 18, 2016 |
To be sincere with you, women like this kill their husband out of loosing power to control them.That her life style is simply witchcraft.Dont die for nothing. Anywoman that will not give u a good reason, i mean convincing reason not to do a particular thing is a secret witch, mark my word and find out.so many men have died or become poor caused by their wife. some suggested you hide a give your own blood brother, bro if she finds out, that means you have overpowered her and you might be injured for it(you know what i mean na) seat her down and discuss this issue weller with her but if she persist, FILE FOR DIVORCE SIMPLE. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by gbigbega: 11:39am On Feb 18, 2016 |
I know one thing that can work- it worked for all the people it was recommended for. If you are chanced, I will like to invite you for a program in Miango Jos coming up on the 27th of April to 1st of May. Its called the Couples Fellowship Retreat, an annual event. The Couples Fellowship Retreat takes place in Miango Rest Room Jos, with couples from different denomination coming together to have fun discuss marriage issues and get to rediscover each other. The talks are really, really good, there is time for discussion on real life issues, people openly speak about issues they have and they get response from matured couples of similar event and how they handled it. A marriage counselor is also employed to teach on marriage issues and do one on one with couples that need it. On the Saturday of the event, couples have a 'Renewal night'; an event where you give yourselves gifts and say your marriage vows again. This program changed my marriage and many others. I know of couples who came to do their honey moon in this program. No one comes and want to ever miss it again. Most of the couples coming resides in Abuja, but that does not stop any one from coming. I was once's in Bonny Island River state and was attending the program in Jos - I cross air, land and sea to get there. My sister who introduced me to the program leaves in USA now but she is contemplating coming for this one- It is that important. I can assure you your home will take a turn for the best and if you go this time, you will never want to miss it again no matter the location you reside. You can call me on 09093478754 tomorrow for more details. I do hope you consider this. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Princewell2012(m): 11:40am On Feb 18, 2016 |
asha01: What makes the point good Don't you think it is too early to start hiding things from her? And. Btwn what kind of love or relationship is that? 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Nobody: 11:43am On Feb 18, 2016 |
pureview: You took the words out of my mouth! Pls no third party and learn to be a man. Be firm. She will fall in line. Sometimes, we women push our men to see how much they can take. Personally, I respect a strong man who is firm yet gentle. A man who allows himself to be a push over will lose his respect. Teach her to tolerate your family. Then you wont have to keep secrets. That can lead to worse outcomes in future as she may stop trusting you etc 3 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by freecocoa(f): 11:43am On Feb 18, 2016 |
4C2215131:You are funny and make a lot of sense, such great quality in a person. Btw, you are preaching to the choir love. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by gentleagu(m): 11:44am On Feb 18, 2016 |
zayhal: Kai...God bless you sister...OP Go with this and peace will reign. Its wisdom |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Princewell2012(m): 11:45am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Acidosis:Ha bros na joke I dey o |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Jesuschild: 11:47am On Feb 18, 2016 |
My broda, marriage is quite tougher than courtship as u ve learnt. ur wife is just bn a woman ie holding on nd nt letting go of wat she perceive 2 b hers unless it is eventually falling on her lap (family). I'm in dis biz nd I know she has more gud attributes dan nt so pleasant one. lovingly let her know d 2 families married nd nt just 2 individuals nd stop thinking or asking if u r married 2 d rong person bt taking ur marriage 2 d next level by passing dis test b4 u.(It is an institution u won't graduate from) Avoid telling or making her know wat u tink/know would piss her, avoid quarrelling/fighting wit her especially wen she is ranting, continue helping ur family as she was never there from beginin bt nw (different relationship) b really patient & most especially "LUV HER" more nd more. U r already married, enjoy it 4 dis wud pass wit tym maybe den na children palava. lol 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Cabbukka: 11:48am On Feb 18, 2016 |
find out the real reason why she acts that way.......then the problem is half solve 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Adheemoh(f): 11:48am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Her problem is selfishness, don't tell her anything about your brother again. As her husband you need to help to change for better 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by 4C2215131: 11:50am On Feb 18, 2016 |
freecocoa: Please hope you understand I was speaking in the third person perspective. The comments were not for you o! |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by yemi16: 11:50am On Feb 18, 2016 |
foriz4u:Bro...God bless u for the above...well on pioint...!! |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by asha01: 11:51am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Princewell2012: because what u don't know wont kill u |
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