Noted

Not all ladies are rude online
And also the manner with which some guys chat up a bae nawa??

I hear u Sir.

goingape:
good. those blood sucking parasite called NAIJA WOMEN need to evaluate their mental attitude toward men!

Is your mother and female relatives among? Oops! Pardon me,I forgot they are African American. Olodo Rabata!
Meanwhile,OP you need reorientation ASAP. Go read my post on sexuality forum. BTW there are more subtle ways to drive traffic to your blog
https://www.nairaland.com/3041041/must-read-every-man

alexisgist:
I could remember years back when I had just joined Facebook; I used to send friend requests to various people that I never knew simply because I wanted to have a reasonable number of friends on my friends list. A few people approved them, some ignored and others were so strict with their accounts privacy whereby I got banned by Facebook several times.
But whenever the ban was over I would do the same thing I was banned for till when I made about 150 friends.

When those people approved my friend requests, I would try to pal up with them. Some we became good friends till up to date and others weren’t interested in my amity. Among those people who weren’t interested in my friendship there was this lady (name withheld) who was so rude to me. She could ignore all my greeting messages. And she could let them pile up in her inbox. Well, I felt so bad when I was ignored intentionally. It looked like I was so desperate for her friendship and it seemed like I was trying to woo her yet I didn’t have that intention in my friendship towards her.

So, I gave it time. But one day I got so paranoid and I couldn’t help myself till I popped in her inbox. I sent her a message requesting to tell me why she wasn’t responding to my messages. Guess her response? She told me she never chats with strangers. I got disgruntled somehow. I then asked her why she had approved my friend request yet she wasn’t ready to be affable to me. She replied with insults and when I tried expounding to her that I wasn’t of any harm to her, she blocked me. Truth be said, I got a little hurt but I took it simple but not forgetting about it. Few months later I got hundreds of more friends and forgot about what the lady did to me.

Now a few days back that same lady who acted so rude and blocked me years ago came back to me crying and asking for my help about her relationship which was on the rocks. I read her message and I became speechless for a while. I couldn’t believe she had texted me after all that long seeking for my help. I went offline for some time. And when I came back I found more two messages from her pleading to me to reply her message. Hmm! I scrolled back and I read the old chat. I wondered whether she didn’t read through them prior texting me. I was now her only saviour and my friendship was now important to her.
Well, I chose not to retaliate. I gave her all my time and attention and I solved her problem. She became so happy and she thanked me. But prior we ended our chat I asked her to do for me only one favor. She said “please go on.” (She was all zealous in her reply.) I told her to scroll back and read through our old messages. When she read them, she became mute for some time. She came back after some time and she was so embarrassed. She apologized to me and I forgave her. She didn’t take my forgiveness to be sincere. She said it was too quick than how she expected. I told her it was sincere and from the heart. She really learnt her big time lesson and up to now she is still apologizing to me. She feels a burden of guilty all over her. She still can’t believe I forgave her but honestly, I did.

BOTTOM LINE
Many people act in such a strange way towards others on the internet and in their daily lives. They take everyone who comes their way to be harmful and with bad intentions towards them. Just because someone came in their lives the same way in the past and maybe they hurt or disappointed them in some way, they think everyone is going to do the same. So, they choose to act so rude and weird and then you wonder the world we are living in.

MORAL OF THE STORY
Lesson 1: Learn to forgive and and forget. Keeping anger over people who did you wrong and some things that hurt you is waste of time. It kills you and it steals your peace and joy but not theirs. And it sabotages your progress and success but not theirs. So, learn to let things go and move on to the new chapter of your life.

Lesson 2 : Not everyone that comes in your life is of danger. Every person we call a friend or we fall in love with was once a stranger to us but just because we gave them our time and attention, we palled-up with them and we became special and important people to each other. So, be careful with the way you treat people in your life. Someone you are ignoring today and regarding as a total stranger might be of help to you in the future and probably they might be your partner or spouse in the long run. You may be chasing someone away right now by giving them a cold attitude but not knowing that you are chasing away your only blessing. Please try to be kind, be social, associative, cooperative and amiable because this world is round.
Blessings,

http://alexisgist..com.ng/2016/04/our-women-be-careful-with-way-you-treat.html?m=1

Makes little, if any sense to me.

lilyheaven:
it is called bad communication, ladies can actually say no without insulting the next person. but we should also remember that there are some ladies who openly opened their heart, life and love to strangers on Facebook , today they are resting in peace...

u just spoke d truth...lot of senseless guys on fb now just looking for wat to devour. @OP just relax at a point in your life you'll also hv to thoroughly screen those you add as friends on fb...so many eediots prowling d web these days!

I personally am like the lady, U did nothing special. You gave advice to her, you must not be friends with people to help them. I wonder how I'll spend my life on Facebook, hunting for friends. I don't use WhatsApp, I don't give or take long calls, yet I have wonderful people in my life. I prefer forums than live chat.

.

Seriously?

Op you shouldn't be taken seriously.

If I get you right op, a chick that you were trying to razzle. Came to you after a long time of shakara, so you culd offer help to restore her failing r/ship.....In otherwords, you offered her a shoulder to cry on & helped fix the situation for the lady to be with her man when infact u dey die for am? Its all good, just be careful. Coz as I see you, I see FRIEND-ZONE COMING :-) #lekwa gi, lekwa friendzone

ladyF:
lol is it just me or was anyone expecting a more touching story than this?

You can't blame her completely tho, a lot of females have their very cogent reasons for not chatting with strangers online. It sounds like you were send the poor lady messages every hour so you might have come up as a creepy young lad. But how come nobody messages me. Is there something I'm not doing right?

It's [size=15pt]LadyF[/size] again

Don't you get tired of this crap? Why not start a family and start having kids? In fact, grow some sense..

alexisgist:
I could remember years back when I had just joined Facebook; I used to send friend requests to various people that I never knew simply because I wanted to have a reasonable number of friends on my friends list. A few people approved them, some ignored and others were so strict with their accounts privacy whereby I got banned by Facebook several times.
But whenever the ban was over I would do the same thing I was banned for till when I made about 150 friends.

When those people approved my friend requests, I would try to pal up with them. Some we became good friends till up to date and others weren’t interested in my amity. Among those people who weren’t interested in my friendship there was this lady (name withheld) who was so rude to me. She could ignore all my greeting messages. And she could let them pile up in her inbox. Well, I felt so bad when I was ignored intentionally. It looked like I was so desperate for her friendship and it seemed like I was trying to woo her yet I didn’t have that intention in my friendship towards her.

So, I gave it time. But one day I got so paranoid and I couldn’t help myself till I popped in her inbox. I sent her a message requesting to tell me why she wasn’t responding to my messages. Guess her response? She told me she never chats with strangers. I got disgruntled somehow. I then asked her why she had approved my friend request yet she wasn’t ready to be affable to me. She replied with insults and when I tried expounding to her that I wasn’t of any harm to her, she blocked me. Truth be said, I got a little hurt but I took it simple but not forgetting about it. Few months later I got hundreds of more friends and forgot about what the lady did to me.

Now a few days back that same lady who acted so rude and blocked me years ago came back to me crying and asking for my help about her relationship which was on the rocks. I read her message and I became speechless for a while. I couldn’t believe she had texted me after all that long seeking for my help. I went offline for some time. And when I came back I found more two messages from her pleading to me to reply her message. Hmm! I scrolled back and I read the old chat. I wondered whether she didn’t read through them prior texting me. I was now her only saviour and my friendship was now important to her.
Well, I chose not to retaliate. I gave her all my time and attention and I solved her problem. She became so happy and she thanked me. But prior we ended our chat I asked her to do for me only one favor. She said “please go on.” (She was all zealous in her reply.) I told her to scroll back and read through our old messages. When she read them, she became mute for some time. She came back after some time and she was so embarrassed. She apologized to me and I forgave her. She didn’t take my forgiveness to be sincere. She said it was too quick than how she expected. I told her it was sincere and from the heart. She really learnt her big time lesson and up to now she is still apologizing to me. She feels a burden of guilty all over her. She still can’t believe I forgave her but honestly, I did.

BOTTOM LINE
Many people act in such a strange way towards others on the internet and in their daily lives. They take everyone who comes their way to be harmful and with bad intentions towards them. Just because someone came in their lives the same way in the past and maybe they hurt or disappointed them in some way, they think everyone is going to do the same. So, they choose to act so rude and weird and then you wonder the world we are living in.

MORAL OF THE STORY
Lesson 1: Learn to forgive and and forget. Keeping anger over people who did you wrong and some things that hurt you is waste of time. It kills you and it steals your peace and joy but not theirs. And it sabotages your progress and success but not theirs. So, learn to let things go and move on to the new chapter of your life.

Lesson 2 : Not everyone that comes in your life is of danger. Every person we call a friend or we fall in love with was once a stranger to us but just because we gave them our time and attention, we palled-up with them and we became special and important people to each other. So, be careful with the way you treat people in your life. Someone you are ignoring today and regarding as a total stranger might be of help to you in the future and probably they might be your partner or spouse in the long run. You may be chasing someone away right now by giving them a cold attitude but not knowing that you are chasing away your only blessing. Please try to be kind, be social, associative, cooperative and amiable because this world is round.
Blessings,

http://alexisgist..com.ng/2016/04/our-women-be-careful-with-way-you-treat.html?m=1

this is perhaps one of The finest thread on nairaland, wish Nigeria girls Will learn from This...kudos bro for The post.

Curtsy demands...is just that some ladies manner of communication is hopelessly poor!

when they ban me from all d sections in nairaland egbon lalhlahsthiclahlah (pseudonym) (because am trying to avoid another ban) mind go calm down.....

Ramanto:
Nice Write-up, Op. I Seriously Don't Understand Why Nigerians Gals Are So Rude. Even The Unpresentably Ugly Ones..Rubbish

lols,your last line got me,hells!! I personally experienced it two weeks back,school was on break,girl was having issues with her phone,became bored so i asked a friend to share me friends i can chat with,lo and behold he did send 4 contacts and to ma dismay they were all very ugly,at first i overlooked that cuz i believe no one is ugly until they prove they are,this ladies were not just ugly,but had the mindset of a baby,damnably impertinent and rude as f*ck,they got rili rude when i told em i just needed a chat buddy and not anything serious,i really dont get why they do it on social networks.

lilyheaven:
it is called bad communication, ladies can actually say no without insulting the next person. but we should also remember that there are some ladies who openly opened their heart, life and love to strangers on Facebook , today they are resting in peace...

They did not use their Head, they used their heart.

Before I turk, tell us the problem and how you solved it. Again, next time, allow us to squeeze out the models - the models you wrote is apparently more than the story itself.

Kath5kouture:

Is your mother and female relatives among? Oops! Pardon me,I forgot they are African American. Olodo Rabata!
Meanwhile,OP you need reorientation ASAP. Go read my post on sexuality forum.
https://www.nairaland.com/3041041/must-read-every-man

why must you people put someone's mother or father before his/her make his point


you must be be sick in the head!

go take some banana and get-out of my side

unwanted piece of Shiite!

daveP:
Very true. some peeps quite agree, but are equally guilty of these acts.


tomorrow may be so painful for many peeps on this train.


(in Kofi Kingston's voice)Don't try this, at home or at school, anywhere, stay safe!!

Not Kofi Kingston's voice, it has been said even before he started fighting wrestling. That's WWE message to children.

goingape:
why must you people put someone's mother or father before his/her make his point


you must be be sick in the head!

go take some banana and get-out of my side

unwanted piece of Shiite!

Because educated illiterates like you cannot make a simple statement without generalizing. You implicated yourself fool! Kiss my ass!

This story is faker than Eucharia Anunobi's eyebrows.
How can a lady that blocked you still send you a message except she unbocked you and if she did, you both will no longer be friends(?).

Of all her friends, she singled you out whom she had blocked long ago as a relationship expert when she hasn't been seeing your posts all these while.

Oh Lawd!

ladyF:
lol is it just me or was anyone expecting a more touching story than this?

You can't blame her completely tho, a lot of females have their very cogent reasons for not chatting with strangers online. It sounds like you were send the poor lady messages every hour so you might have come up as a creepy young lad. But how come nobody messages me. Is there something I'm not doing right?

It's [size=15pt]LadyF[/size] again

even a female APE has more value than you!

OP! Few questions for u. How come the lady came running back to you for relationship advice after she was rude to you, blocked you and said she doesn't chat with strangers? How come of all her family, cycle of friends, she just had to come back unblocking the stranger to unpack her emotional baggage on you? Abi are u jerome onipede the realtionship counsellor? I find your story hard to believe though.

goingape:
good. those blood sucking parasite called NAIJA WOMEN need to evaluate their mental attitude toward men!

Blood sucking parasites? including the women in your household?

Well, I feel this guy's story. But some girls aint worth it. Enuff yabz i can't even count. Abeg life is too short to be so serious.

@LadyF, what cogent reasons would make a lady suddenly rude and truculent, kwa?

Nice one indeed.Similar thing happened to me few months ago,I had a seminal of three days of which I need to make a research and I wrote to some of my friends on Facebook to assist me make a research.But look and behold non of them replied to me.

Seequadry:
Lol....op na comedian
She get problem...gehn gehn
Nobody to tlk to...
Both online and offline....gehn gehn
She no gt friends for whatsapp or bbm
...soo she decide to open facebook #gbem
She didnt go to her recent chat to find som1 to tlk to #okayna
She just waka go her privacy settings stroll enter block lst loun loun....unblock d guy she don yab and blast b4.....con begin tell you her problem.....#broz maka y na.....haba biko nu just shut me up with d convo screen shot...and i ll apologise
Buh right now....#picsoradonbilivIt

Hahahahaha.
My guy you are the only descerning mind on the first page of this thread. Nairalanders believe anything these days. To think that a moderator believed this concocted script enough to move it to FP? interesting.

Op said she sent him Facebook message. But she had already blocked him before. Ok, so if she unblocked you, then she was very well aware of what transpired in the past. Therefore, there was no need for her to be surprised and "keep mute" and even apologize after "scrolling up". Oga your story get k-leg.

Some bloggers don't know how to craft fiction.

Your story is full of holes.

goingape:


lol!

just look at who is calling someone educated illiterate.

sorry! I don't kiss fool's ass especially people like you who don't have any molecule of sense.

Na the only grammer you learn after wasting 5 years plus 2 extra years in university? Molecule of sense! Lol upon that you no even get third class na ordinary pass! I talk am say u b olodo! Idiat! The correct statement is 'atom of sense' not molecule! Ewu Gambia!

AlienStar:
You don't expect a gal you met online to be all nicey nice esp. if you keep asking jamb-like questions.

what's bad in being polite to strangers you meet online?

@OP, abeg u be psychologist or Councillor Cz I don't understand d kind of problem u solved for her

That's by d way, I don't respond to chat on Facebook, if one really want to friendzone everyone on their list, no one will have time for better tins jawe.