I honestly can't shake the pity off my mind anytime i see how many ladies wallow in frustration simply because they are still single at very marriageable ages and this is why i decide to drop this thought provoking piece.

The major reason many ladies are still single at very ripe age is HIGH EXPECTATION and below is a simple illustration to explain my point.

As a lady please get this straight;Good potential husbands are everywhere but your spec may not be readily available.An average Nigerian lady wants a cute,rich,caring guy and no matter how hard they try to shrug this off,they keep using this as a yardstick to be with a man but unfortunately 2 out of 10 guys are the specs of 8 out of every 10 ladies so these 8 ladies clamor to be with these 2 men but unfortunately these 2 guys can't marry more than a wife each.

My advice to many ladies is to understand that it is perfectly normal to seek for a "financially ok" guy to marry but no matter how hot you may be, it is easier to get a man to marry you when he is struggling than when he is made.Comfort,wealth and good life is not usually instantaneous but progressive.

Don't be fooled,many expensive wedding ceremony you see are sponsored by the bride or groom's family.As a lady,try your best to get something doing and lets just assume you meet a guy that makes as little as 40k a month and you also make like 40k a month,please start a life together and continue to build your lives together. You can always do an elaborate intro and engagement party and proceed to the registry and when you have money you can do a very big wedding ceremony.

This thread is not for the few ladies who are fortunate to find a rich dude but for countless number of Nigerian ladies who are on the other side of the divide.

Our ladies should Stop indulging in ultimate search contest with many other ladies for a rich guy and Until our ladies learn to look in the right direction,be financially independent,lower their expectation and be ready to build a life with a man without the negative preemptive mindset of what will happen after he becomes rich,i guess there will forever be an increase in aver-aged unmarried ladies.

Just trying to make sense.

And you actually made sense It's not our fault We want comfort and fulfillment

Well said

Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment

Sure every lady will want that but it does not happen in one day.

Ok..now...they're lookin in the lept direction kwo nd their exfectations are bery bery high faa

Ma priend...do you get puel in ya syd?? I leabe puel me go pyn kwo dey talk why yarinyas single kai mana..haba...je ka sie mana ankali faa



#WeedyGeneration

layla129:
Well said

hmm, we cross path aqain...

Listenin to timaya-i concur

ImDharay:

hmm, we cross path aqain...

Lol, what are you doing here?

Ladies nowadays be looking for already made guys. What they don't knw is that most of these guys don't giv a damn bout y'all because if u leave d guy, other ladies will flock in nd if u don't wanna leave, the guy can dump u for anoda chick.


I knw y'all wanna secure ya future by goin after 'already made guys' but the only future u can truly secure is the one u built with the guy while he was a nobody. Ask TuFace nd Annie.


Bring sumtin to the table... mak ursef valuable such that a guy will be scared to lose u nd not some street rat looking for a shelter in a mansion. U'll definitely die of poison

K K K

love conquers everything, whether poor or rich

Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment

And the guys who can give u all these are busy wallowing in ya "Friend-Zone".


Must the "Comfort nd fulfillment" come from a man??

layla129:


Lol, what are you doing here?

jez to check if wah
d 0p posted was qonna make sense..u?

I love this beautiful sentence ur just made '' it is easier to get a man to settle with u when he is still struggling than when he is rich and basterdly successful ''. Successful men don't care about ur fuckin hrt as a lady, how u try ur best to keep him cos of competition from other lady's. If u force urself into him, he will keep sleeping with u, cheating on u and disrespecting u, at the end he will still go and ur precious time will be wasted.

ImDharay:

jez to check if wah
d 0p posted was qonna make sense..u?

Just roaming

layla129:


Just roaming

0ya stop roaming,
Yhu ready now 2 chitchat..

Despite dis, barca still lost to A. Madrid.

Lalasticlala i guess more ladies need to see this.

@op, 40k salary in lasgidi is slavery ooo for a man that want to marry ooo, A man should be able to protect, provide for his family.. But this days ladies earn more to men in salary digit.. Be wise

ImDharay:

0ya stop roaming,
Yhu ready now 2 chitchat..

Nah, not really. Will soon zoom off to dreamland... feeling drowsy already

So now what's gonna happen to the already made men? If we don't marry them, who then will? You want them to remain single and die alone? No! That'll be unfair.

layla129:


Nah, not really. Will soon zoom off to dreamland... feeling drowsy already

alryy den, nyc excuse!

That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.

pennytration:
Despite dis, barca still lost to A. Madrid.

is this part of the thread

Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.

Waooo .... Nice write up dear.....


High5

A girl called me the other day and said..."Come on over, nobody's home." I went over. Nobody was home

Nonsense

When there Tenants wear this kind of boxer





https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAAzJ_2g6OQ





why wount they be single

Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.

Bless you

Ladies of our generation are lazy pipo!!

No wan do anything useful...just wan chop, clean mouth, dey answer Billionaire wife!

Which one consign me!!

Life z jeje!! Everyone should do what they feel is right...

But I think every lady should have a little dignity and respect for themselves by being useful!!

Btw to open leg, n b dropping children is not the only purpose God wasted time creating you!