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Vikings007:
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KashyBaby:
Nope..u shut d hell up! Seal ur black mouth and quit pointing fingers to all females coz u juz disagree..

Who me? Will marry u? Chaaaaaiii! I better fvck myself than settling with someone who is still a kid.

mentorandfriend:
Thanks for asking.

This thread might answer your question.

The Friend Zone: Much Ado About Nothing.

Feel free to ask me any further question if that thread didnt answer your question.

And then, also get it that mental, financial, spiritual maturity is not a function of being a student, or age. Three of my close pals married while we were in school and they still have successful marriages today.

What most immature boys call dating today is nothing other than 'We're sex-partners'. They end up wasting the girl's most productive years. The guy moves on easily, but for the girl, her best years (18-28) have been wasted by an unserious guy who never had marriage in mind. This is what I and Emusmith are trying to point out.

EdDave:
Serious men and women praying and getting married; while unserious boys n girls throwing blame. When you are ready, nobody go tell u.

donbenedict:
so wit ur big eyes u can't see us commenting ba?

Onyezaza:
Funny you

mentorandfriend:
Thanks for asking.

This thread might answer your question.

The Friend Zone: Much Ado About Nothing.

Feel free to ask me any further question if that thread didnt answer your question.

And then, also get it that mental, financial, spiritual maturity is not a function of being a student, or age. Three of my close pals married while we were in school and they still have successful marriages today.

What most immature boys call dating today is nothing other than 'We're sex-partners'. They end up wasting the girl's most productive years. The guy moves on easily, but for the girl, her best years (18-28) have been wasted by an unserious guy who never had marriage in mind. This is what I and Emusmith are trying to point out.

dollyjoy:
what surprises most is,a guy will know deep in his heart,that he is not ready for marriage due to financial probs or maybe not ready for commitment yet will keep leading a lady on,just to over stretch her body and dump her later.


What prevented the young men in the scenerio you gave above from dating at all since they are not ready for commitment.


Wicked species

dollyjoy:
hello darl,why are you surprised?

KashyBaby:
All true OP... but plz add more most men are stubborn like kids, think like kids and act like kids...

kingcity:
ok in that thread you were talking about friendship wth your coursemate...I asked because I saw a comment you made some last year about how you broke up wth your gf in medical sch..am trying to ask if you were mentally ready then...sorry I cant remember the thread now

omoharry:
Go come..we go still dey wait for you..

mentorandfriend:
Lol. I remember now. It wasn't a break up, and she wasn't my 'girl friend'. Tight friends disagree and quarrel too. That's what I think I was trying to say then. I never had any break up as a student.

kingcity:
ok. can I pm you? there is something I would love you to help me wth...an advice

KashyBaby:
Oohh another kid wailing down here....have u lost ur toy? sorry this is not the lost & found area mumi...

Have u read what I quote? I said most men, not all men...


Now, gerrarahere!

JayJustus:
so much misandrists on this thread but all I have to say is

vizkiz:
do you want me to marry you? Just say it

tdayof:
you don fat small sha

vizkiz:
Most guys are spending too much time creating silly threads on nairaland

I can't believe you are actually gonna blame me because Cynthia living opposite my compound is yet to marry due to the fact that she is busy playing "hard to get" meanwhile me no even get time to dey pursue woman.

How will I be sitting down here jejely and someone will be blaming me for lady's stupidity

This thread stinks. I think op wants to get laid by winning some ladies hearts

dollyjoy:
So on point.

I know most guys wouldn't like this.

chijokz:
Dollyjoy....i want to make sure u don't remain single..I'm the type of guy u need.

emusmith:
Guys Are The Major Reason Most Ladies Are Still Single.


Don't tell me something else because I've had my share and chances and most I blew. I'm not proud saying these but as a note of warning to all other guys who derive pleasure casting blames on the female folks.

Back then in college, I knew of a Lady-friend who called me one night and said, "Smith, I'm about to say Yes to a guy"...waiting for me to say something, "life" got a solid grip on me as I sheepishly let her go.
I am very sure, if you're not a "big eye" or "ojukokoro", you would have had some girls around you who also want to hear you say, Ok, to their green lights.

It boils down to specs. There is nothing absurd if a girl doesn't like you. You are simply not her spec. Chin up and look elsewhere. There are some girls that you can't date too because they don't get to you. It's nature.

Guys Are The Reason Most Girls Are Single? How?

- Most Guys Are Greedy.

Get this right, your lady can't have the complete package. She can be pretty, with big ups and back but lack culinary skills. Some men can teach her and all will return to normalcy. Don't be greedy. No lady is an angel. Atinuke who is not so pretty and not busty, but well behaved/mannered, speaks well, intelligent and Godfearing is after your signature but the lustful part of you wants Samantha who is just the opposite. She is a player. She plays you and you call girls "how". C'mon!

- Most Guys Are Scared Of The Responsibility Marriage Brings.

Say the truth, "you just want a girl for "dating" and not for a "serious relationship". An average normal lady wants a serious relationship by the time she is heading for Year 3. That's when most guys wants to flex and test. There are many "good girls" around who won't give in to sex from unserious guys so they've resorted to "self-servicing". "Mr Right" is still busy counting how many girls he has slept with. SMH!

- Most Guys Are Insensitive

By being sensitive, I mean in being there for your woman all the time, without her asking. It can also be termed, "maturity". Money and diamond is not all a lady needs. Can I tell you now? It's in one word, CARE. She may scream "money"! After giving her the money, she'll scream, "You don't even care". Place "Care" before money and Love is born.


- Most Guys Are Still Broke!

I would not allow my sister marry a broke man! A broke man is not the man that earns 40-70k. It's a man who lacks money sense. It's a man who lacks confidence of the future. A guy should know how to use the salary he is receiving to better his life, his investments and others around him. If you smell broke, you are broke. If you are broke, no sensible girl should marry you. Take note: a jobless guy now, might not be broke.


- Most Guys Are Indecisive

Nothing puts a girl off like indecision. You have to be sure it's her you want in your life, her faults notwithstanding. You can't keep saying Yes, No, Yes, No...Time is of the essence.


PS: Everyone quickly blames a 30+ lady who is still single for messing up while she was younger. They wouldn't do if they had an elder sis or aunt in such predicament. GUYS ARE THE REASON LADIES ARE STILL SINGLE. You can date any girl you want to, if you know what price you are ready to pay. If you feel you can't maintain the relationship, don't go into it. You ask out a girl whose cream is half your salary and she (out of consideration) tells you No. Don't call her names. She just saved you. She's not your spec. Meanwhile, if she likes you and shows you that, then, you are confident that both of you can be responsible for the mobility of the relationship. Cut your coat according to your cloth: if you do, you will see you'll that you've been the one keeping ladies single.

dollyjoy:
So on point.

I know most guys wouldn't like this.

OlivetBen:
This is one of the best thread I've read this year on nairaland. Op thumbs-up.

donbenedict:
there is nothing like most, currently there are over 6billion people in the planet earth. Of which men cover at least 40percent of the population... so saying most is more like an exaggeration..