Frei:
Hahahah' bad guy.....I can't blame him tho' if a girl aborted for me four times and I fūcked her for 6years' mehn its a no-no

You're too damn shallow to relate to a situation like these.

Kai... how old are you sef?

Sweetlemon:


I beg spare me.
If postinor is so bad for her then why not condom?? Did he rape her? In fact if she wants to curse him because of abortion then may the aborted babies also hunt her too because they are both in it together! Nonsense and ingredients.
Y'all here pls pls pls give me a break. Why do Nigerians act as if all relationships must lead to marriage?? No wonder husbands and wives are now killing themselves out of frustration. Mtcheeeeeew

My friend keep quiet, is there ever a time you'll talk like someone with small sense? Ofcourse the aborted baby will hunt her too(if there's such a thing)but why should this guy be let loose?

All relationships must not lead to marriage but if you've been dating someone for six years, planning a future together, promising heaven and earth, then you must have seen that future in your head and it was what you wanted which made you stay, now, how do you explain how all of a sudden, no reason at all, you just no longer want that future? Just how is this possible? You do know what it means to genuinely love someone, right?

I excuse what I may consider stupidity on this girl's part and as I can't tell anyone how to be moral, but on every scale as regards love, this dude never loved this girl.

If she didn't do anything wrong, then you really messed up guy. That's pure wickedness. Do you know how difficult it is for ladies to meet a guy thats ready to settle down? Considering the fact that you wasted her time for 6 good years. Guy, you're wicked & heartless!

As for your so called silly pastor, where was he when the family helped you, when they were giving you pocket money and so on ?

You know you did what's wrong that's why you're bothered and your conscience is judging you.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
I don't believe in curses. Dude, live your life joor, nothing will happen, never marry out of sympathy. This is the same kind of advice that the feminists on nairaland will give if a girl magas a guy for six years and leaves with a rich dude, so what is good for the goose...

you do not need to believe in curses, it all lies in our thinking. I can smell fear in your words
But one thing is for sure everyman deserve to be paid in his own coin.
Most people that say they do not believe in curses,God, heaven, hell ....etc are PEOPLE WHO FEAR THE SWORD OF JUSTICE.

This is a difficult situation and as is usual with these situations there isn't always a right answer.

Some of my thoughts.

Firstly no one is under any obligation to marry anybody regardless of what has happened. Especially true when there is no love felt. Of course this is unfair in this situation as the lady does have a right to feel like she is owed.
Unfortunately however she's loaned out what she couldn't afford to lose and it's now Impossible to collect on it.

A quick point for the ladies to learn.

Close your legs until he puts a ring on it.

Don't date any man for longer than a year if you're intending to get married one day.

If he isn't ready, break up and tell the guy to come back when he is ready.

You have far more to lose than he does.

For the guy. You have done very bad things. Getting engaged so quick was a jerk move. Ask for forgiveness and seek ways to restitute what you've done (will be hard). Move on with your life, the curses will not be effective if your heart was genuine all along.

Let this be a lesson to men.

ZIP UP.

Break up with a girl if after one year you aren't actively plannng a marriage.

Drastic advice but will save pleny heartache.

Did he tell the pastor that he abort 4 kids....if that pastor is really man of God he must marry her......damn

shaiba:
hmmm....
Quite sensitive situation.

To the lady
It is quite sad. After crying and the pity party, pull yourself together and move on. You have no choice but to forgive him, not because of him but for yourself cause when you don't forgive people who hurt you they tend to have power over you and it keeps you down. You cant hold on to a relationship that does not want you. Five years on, you will look back and wonder what in the world you saw in him in the first place and will thank him for leaving you. like I said, it hurts very bad, trust me it will take a while (cause of all what you and your family went through to support him, memories of the good and bad times you shared and such) but you have one life and it is not tied to this guy. Be glad you didn't lost your life, some who had worse situations never lived to curse the man. Let go and let God.

To the guy
You should have done something to appreciate the parents of your now ex-gf before moving ahead of yourself. Don't know how you intend to breach this, but you have to do all you can to make peace with them. They are more like your parents.
Congratulations on your new found love. I hope you don't grow weary of her after marriage.
I hope you followed your instinct rather than your heart. Please do all you can to be at peace with her parents first, then their daughter.
I pray your pastor guides you in the right path.

Think carefully before you take your next step.

My thoughts though...

Frei:
damn she ain't too young to be a mother' she's 30' why abort?.... If my sister aborts for a guy four times' damn she's silly!!! Bro its a no-no for me'

It is still hard for me to believe that men like u still exist in 21st century. If u must say no, then return all her wealth, time and money....
From what i see your egocentric attitude is your problem and it is preventing you from thinking from another perosns point of view.

1k001:
This is a difficult situation and as is usual with these situations there isn't always a right answer.

Some of my thoughts.

Firstly no one is under any obligation to marry anybody regardless of what has happened. Especially true when there is no love felt. Of course this is unfair in this situation as the lady does have a right to feel like she is owed.
Unfortunately however she's loaned out what she couldn't afford to lose and it's now Impossible to collect on it.

A quick point for the ladies to learn.

Close your legs until he puts a ring on it.

Don't date any man for longer than a year if you're intending to get married one day.

If he isn't ready, break up and tell the guy to come back when he is ready.

You have far more to lose than he does.

For the guy. You have done very bad things. Getting engaged so quick was a jerk move. Ask for forgiveness and seek ways to restitute what you've done (will be hard). Move on with your life, the curses will not be effective if your heart was genuine all along.

Let this be a lesson to men.

ZIP UP.

Break up with a girl if after one year you aren't actively plannng a marriage.

Drastic advice but will save pleny heartache.

I have a problem with you saying that he should follow his heart. which heart?
The guy bit-off too much than he can chew and now what he intend doing is to spit the remaining away after he is satisfied. Let him finish wat he started.

9ja film

Even the devil, is afraid to associate with the guy..... Mehnnnn 6yrs and you dump her........ Witchcraft
Add 4 abortions join that guy is so terrible......



Those curses are minute..


As for u guys saying curses are not real, hmmmmmmm.
Make una dey smoke wetin una dey smoke well well

Abortion is evil, enough said

After 6years
At age 30

Which one are you mentioning your pastor up and down... where was he when you were defacing the older lady?

You don't want to be cursed, a taste of your own potion is now bitter?

Did she even need to curse you? Leave reward for karma

But again should one marry out of pity?

Life is filled with rhetorics!

I consider a lady starting a relationship at age 24 without a foreseeable future within 1year as folly.

Women should learn... I'd rather be single till it's the appointed time than a long debasing relationship.

The lady should just chill a bit and wait for karma to take its course, trust me karma is a bitch, it ain't gat no chill.....as for the guy you are either a heartless selfish bastard or a confused simpleton who cannot differentiate between real and aparent whichever one it is you deserve no forgiveness and if God (that is if he exists) should forgive you then it confirms my suspicions about him as a partial and unjust being who derives pleasure in feeding his fat ego......trust me the girl is a nice girl if I were to be in her position you will be a living vegetable by now, besides for you to have done something of such a grave gravity and expect her to forgive you shows that you are indeed a SIMPLETON.

Hehehehe.... I just dey laugh.
Nothing here to talk.

He laid his bed, so he's gotta sleep on it!

chai

In a nut shell the guy is ungrateful fellow, true love don't fade. He just date the girl because of her parent wealth, when the guy knw he can stand on his own he broke up with the girl. It's a big lesson for female who useless themselves because flimsy enjoyment call sex. Imagine the story like these, I was dating a girl she was virgin and she didn't allow me to touch her. She keep saying until we get married, she is so supportive, and humble and her parent are very good. Will the guy dump her for younger girl?

One thing woman don't know is the more you have sex with a guy the more you run out of utility if the guy get use to tight with times yours will became wide and his will remain the same he will be looking for another tight thing. A word is enough for the wise

My advice to the lady, I don't know if the story is true cos I don't believe in blog. Move closer to God confess your sins cos you had killed 4 glorious kids, he's not a wicked father God will receive you and bless you with a guy who will marry you for who you are. Don't pray to God to kill or harm the guy God is not a contract killer, both of you fornicate and committed murder.

Guy, hear my words perfecrly cos i really really know the power in those words. You were wrong to have stayed that long too knowing perfectly you werent compatible anymore. Ladies can possess such powers as to destroy lives by that reason. For you to have known her unclothedness. You just have to pacify her if not in years to come you will find yourself more distasteful than you are now. Trust me, i know what curses can do.

You have wronged her only because you breached your promise to marry her, not because you guys dated for 6 years.

She didn't like condoms. Hmnnnn...
It baffles me why a girl will prefer to have unprotected sex, get pregnant and abort up to 4 times. Why didn't she agree to use condoms?


The parents did a lot for you in anticipation that you were their future son-in-law. Why did you fall out of love with her? You started seeing her as old cargo after using her and after making her bleed out your babies 4 times abi?


The new girl, how are you sure that you won't stop loving her after 6 years?

I don't know about your pastor but I suggest you come to Uyo, Akwa Ibom State on a Tuesday for a counselling session with Rev. Dr. Uma Ukpai at the Uma Ukpai Evangelical Assembly at Four Lane, Uyo. This is not the kind of problem that one can advise you anyhow. This issue needs spiritual guidance and solution. Let the man of God advise you on what to do with the guidance of the Holy Ghost. Trust me you won't regret it.

God bless you.

Sleekbaby:
I don't know what is wrong with some guys shaa, what was the guy thinking when the family was helping him, a times we don't reason like human, let the guy put himself or any of her sisters in the girl's shoe, 6 years is not 6 months, she supported him in all ramifications and at the end he paid her back with heartbreak and I believe that all this while that some guys must have been disturbing the girl for relationship and marriage but bcoz of the guy she must have rejected them.


Please guys, girls love with their whole heart if they like the person, I'm not saying that the guy should marry her out of pity but should at least give her sometime to heal before proposing to another girl. All is well, my advise to girls as well is to always study their guys very well to avoid all these heartbreaks.

For the curse, he should go and meet the girl, make her see reasons why he broke up with her and if possible he should settle the girl, all is well.

You made a lot of sense but for the curse! What is curse. Is she God? Why wud you be bother that someone's curse will happen to you.this is shameful to think.

The pastor is of no use. Why wud he tell the boy to go meet the girl just as you have said. That girl is a wounded lion. He can kill the boy or disfigure him with acid on any contact.

He should run. If he had the mind to do this, he shud never go near the girl o. She will make the curse come true. Other than that, her words is nothing!

How old are u? I guess u are almost the same age with her and that is one of the reason u don't like her again. Guy u be olojukokoro! And I will not blame her for causing u. I can put it to u that u don't love this girl from beginning u only pretended to because of what u are benefiting from her parent. If u really want her u would have marry her after the 1st abortion since her parent are ok. And they are helping u. Its becos u are ok now and u feel u can just walk away that impossible go and meet her and rekindle the love or remain single.


To the ex girl, I also blame u for not able to identify love from fraudsters. U dated a fraudster for good solid years! U dint use ur head u did
4 good abortions for a guy and u still think he will value u? U made useless of yourself. U dint think that u can be barren after all these abortions. U disappointed me and your parents. May God forgive u.

Diamonddamsel:
In my opinion those curses are too small. I would pray they are enforced in his hopeless life wicked and heartless idiot.

its not even a curse, its her own prophetic declaration upon him lol

The lady has every right to curse the foolish guy. Abortion is a very risky thing and she wet through it for him....... For his peace of mind. Then he ran away. He should have married her.

Na him use her reach that level.

Some comments are really annoying....you are just 30, pack your shattered heart together and move on. You don't like condom, you don't like contraceptives and you can't stay away from sex....if you aborted 100 million times, its your problem 100 million time. If it were me, I'm not gon' marry you as well. The guy don get young blood...make win come carry face?? Who does that?

And to the guy...#thumbsup. Forget the curse. The curse would be effective only if you put your mind to it. ...

If na bae chop the guy eyes all this Nairaland amebo ladies go be like GOOD FOR HIM

Mtcheew....na em turn nw...em no go allow us hear word.

For me, if he had take time to explain to her like he did to us before proposing to someone else, it would had gone a long way.. But the did has been done. It's even a good thing she cried out. It would had been worse if she just kept hurting and hating in silence. .. As for the solution my bro your pastor has told you already. There's no real man of God you'd meet that wouldn't tell you to make peace with her and the family first before anything. .If not for anything but for the sake of the innocent 22years old about to be your wife
I pray you all find peace and wish you, your ex and fiancee a very happy and blessed life ahead

Women do worse,so there should be daylight between love and pity...trust naija women when he marries her now,na say "I made you what you are today"when argument pop up.make the babe make pesin hear word jhor,wetin u want mk d guy do?marry pesin wey e no love again?if na woman do am them go say"marriage na by force?"

GUY U CAN'T EAT YOUR CAKE AND HAVE IT SO TRY TO GO BACK TO HER AND BE HER HUSBAND BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT YOU ARE OR ELSE YOU WILL SUFFER MORE ABEG TRY

These things are not black and white at all... but, everyone should take responsibility for his actions...

You decided to stay with him for 6 years.
You decided to have sex with no form of protection.
You decided to abort those babies.

Sure, the guy might be an ungrateful winch but you played a part in your own misery...

When you preach abstinence, the world will label you holier than thou and throw you the "its my body" card. Then you switch and preach protection and they prefer skin on skin. Then there are tons of pills but no, it makes them fat.

Women should protect themselves. Why any girl will be having careless sex beats me. Abortion is illegal in Nigeria so you're most likely going to get a ratchet job. Just how I heard "nurses" whispering about how one chick they did a "job" for was still bleeding and they were not sure what to do. I wonder if she survived!

Well, it's hard to say but the curse is nothing... ladies should learn to be smarter and more selfish even. Make better choices for yourself and yourself alone. You ain't married till you are and until then, you alone are responsible for yourself.

shaiba:
hmmm....
Quite sensitive situation.

To the lady
It is quite sad. After crying and the pity party, pull yourself together and move on. You have no choice but to forgive him, not because of him but for yourself cause when you don't forgive people who hurt you they tend to have power over you and it keeps you down. You cant hold on to a relationship that does not want you. Five years on, you will look back and wonder what in the world you saw in him in the first place and will thank him for leaving you. like I said, it hurts very bad, trust me it will take a while (cause of all what you and your family went through to support him, memories of the good and bad times you shared and such) but you have one life and it is not tied to this guy. Be glad you didn't lost your life, some who had worse situations never lived to curse the man. Let go and let God.

To the guy
You should have done something to appreciate the parents of your now ex-gf before moving ahead of yourself. Don't know how you intend to breach this, but you have to do all you can to make peace with them. They are more like your parents.
Congratulations on your new found love. I hope you don't grow weary of her after marriage.
I hope you followed your instinct rather than your heart. Please do all you can to be at peace with her parents first, then their daughter.
I pray your pastor guides you in the right path.

Think carefully before you take your next step.

My thoughts though...

Specialbaby, na woman like you give this advice on.

For the guy, don't forget the devil u know is better than the angel u don't know.

U were like a family to the lady parent, theyccepted u nd supported u but shamed them in return.

Note this ,without the lady cursing u, u will never be happy with ur New found love, guilt with hunt u so much that u will realised u made mistake.

Yes is good u know u cn dump her becuse u feel she might feel she owned u because her parent helped u hence u wanted some one that don't know how u are successful.

Just know that karma is a bitch.

To have dated someone for 6yrs!!! That's a long time. I kind of blame the girl though. Postinor makes you fat! Smh...Abeeg who abortion hep? Certainly not you.
Thing is sometimes in a relationship you run out of love, that's when friendship comes in. It's not all about romance and sex and good times. The guy too is an idiot, because if he got engaged to a 22 yr old girl in less than 6 months then he'd definitely fall out of love for her too very soon. Did you guys try talking about the brake up? Imagine how your lives would be without each other? These are the things that makes you one. And why the hell did the girl wait until the guy got engaged? Sometimes ladies are the architect of their own misfortune. What happens to going after the man you love? Remind him of why you guys were in love in the first place. Unless you too was only keeping him for "marriage material". Guys aren't silly anymore, babes wake up pls!!! You love a guy and once you guys have an issue you walk away and hold your peace until you hear he's moved on. Must you wait that long? Be vulnerable, be a baby around him, let him know you have nowhere to go if you lose him. I mean hold on to your man! Of course some men will still dump you nonetheless, but not in all cases. A reasonable man just wants to see how far you're willing to go to fight for him. Guy, my advice is if you wronged the lady then karma is a waiting for you but if your mind is clear Abeeg invite me for the wedding.

The girl is hrt broken,spending six solid years of her life with the guy and get dumped for no reason. We're human, put your self in her shoes. I feel for the girl

Arsenate:
wetin concern your write up with the topic? A lot, bro.
Many guys out there have gone through what you've been through. Girls break relationships more often than guys but men just take it on their chin and move on. Girls on the hand will always want to bring drama into everything as is the case here.
@op, her curse won't do nada to the guy. God will be really angry with
anyone who murdered 4 innocent babies. She should work on seeking forgiveness from God instead of cursing someone else.

POC.. .they both committed it. Not just jer