UjSizzle:

What's the relationship btwn the situation on ground and what you just typed?

confusion double wahala! i blame buhari i can bet my ass he did not bother to read the story

Dis is strong!

Worse hoes are on this thread now...

Including some degenerated Oloshos


La.ve..da

ourchoice:
All guys should read this! This is what they call a real man, stay blessed bro! I love to roll with sensible and rational guys like u, I am so impressed, well done

Thanks bro!

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
I don't believe in curses. Dude, live your life joor, nothing will happen, never marry out of sympathy. This is the same kind of advice that the feminists on nairaland will give if a girl magas a guy for six years and leaves with a rich dude, so what is good for the goose...

The guy no just try. Did you hear her say he promised to marry her. He didn't just waste 6yrs,he destroyed the girls whole life cos she will never be the same even if she got married tonight.

Arsenate:

Coming with you, bro.

man! Is ridiculous! How every one is commenting some are quarelling over things they do not understand and some want to literally kill each other for not believing in curses, it boggles the mind .

I won't allow any lady to abort for me... Laila even if d babe dint curse the guy, he's cursed oh, buh someone mentioned praying so the girl doesn't get backing from baba, that's funny anyways

Fashx007:
Buh she should ve seen this coming,till the age of (30) no engagement or proporsal of any sort she was just being ignorant,tho it seems bad buh cum to think of it aborting 4x without caution she is even lucky to be alive and with wat ve read so far the dude said she took it well wen he broke-up with her buh the rage sparked wen she got to know he is engaged that is there must ve been some redflags in the relationship she just fail to notice,I pray she finds solace tho,cause life goes on

Don't be ignorant. She didn't take it well. You don't break up with someone you love and take it well-- you act like it's well but nurse hope that the slowpoke will come back.
But realising he's moved on is the sucker punch. There is no coming back and you can finally stop lying to yourself.

And about the 6yrs relationship. Do you see now why some women don't like having serious relationships with guys who consider themselves "struggling"?
Because there's no guarantee that anything will come out of it. You'll be supportive. He'll insist on tying you down to himself. You'll let him because you love him and believe he's worth it. You know he can't marry you now because he doesn't have enough to sustain a family and so you wait. One year turns to two, three, four... six and you're holding on to his promise: I'll marry you. Because men want women who can stick with them when the going is tough.
But when the guy is set, what then? Will he remember your loyalty to him and stay loyal to you and keep his promises, or will he suddenly realise that as an established man he has more leverage in the spousal shopping market than he had before?

That's the bone of contention here. It's not the abortion; it's the betrayal. And as callous as this walking spirogyra of a man is, he got engaged within the same year without thought for her feelings. Wow. Just wow.

I often wonder how people live comfortably with themselves after doing such evil things.

Who still believes in curse?

Specialbaby:
isn't that wickedness? After six solid years of up and down,six years isn't six days,what about the abortions?

Some guys are devil incarnate.

But wait, would you want a guy that does not love you or find you attractive anymore to marry you? Out of pity?

While it is seriously painful, he probably did his ex a lot of good. Better not to marry than have one or two kids and then get divorced.

Moving on would be slightly easier for the babe without a divorce record and no little kids in tow.

I think the kind, supportive girl and her family deserve better than a hubby & son-in-law out of pity.

Girls should not wait till eternity to get married. If he's not proposing in appropriate time, move on.

Rubbish! Who curses don epp?

Eleyi gidi gan. Phew!
The lady didn't even need to curse him. I'm sure the guy deep in his heart knows that he was definitely going to pay for his deeds. Every man has a conscience even when we try to surpress it, it still stares us in the face every noe and then. Even without her curses, from the moment the guy broke it off he was already roped in. Whether we believe karma or not, it surely comes around.
No pastor or bishop can save the guy in question. To build is very difficult and challenging, but to destroy just takes a few minutes. Now that the lady has even multiplied his woes, the only solution for his is to go back and make peace with his ex.
After thorough and genuine quest for forgiveness, if she ever forgives him, there has to be a symbolic act carried out by the lady in which she will nullify the words she has issued against him. The lady too is roping herself too by placing curses, it binds her to this realm until the effect on the victim wears off. I can't blame her though. He who wears the shoes knows better.
Guy! Save yourself now!!!!

A 24 yrs old lady going into a relationship must have been very stupid waiting for six years for a useless man!!.

Any relationship more than two years that have not culminated in marriage for a lady in her mid twenties is futile and ladies need to be aware of this.!

The lady more importantly should have kept to the first pregnancy!. The man would have shown her true color then. Rather than committing a grave sin for the useless idiot.

having said that, it takes two to tango, the two of them are to blame and really no man wants an after four (dead kids) lady as a new wife!!!!.

Now who will marry her. Ladies please use your sense in relationship and your heart only!!!

No Jupiter can make men take you to the alter if he does not wants you. Stop spending money on men who does not want you and asking for abortion is a clear message of not wanting you.! If you have enough money to spend on him, you surely have enough to raise your kid!!!

Specialbaby:
stop trying to justify the guy's action. What he did is plain wickedness and devilish.

Your opinion

gypsey:
thanks! for the advice. i respect your opinions but you have failed to give an explaination on how curses works, books? don't believe every thing you read its fictional in my opinion, for some reasons you believers in curses always fails to elaborate on how this crap works, i still stand by my opinion curses do not exist in the world i live in. its all in people's especially nigerians warped imaginations i am afraid to say.
lastly, what i can not comprehend is all this curses bu''ll sh't why is it always used in an evil way? why not free nigerians from poverty, heel illnesses, help the needy make the country better chidren are dying of hunger, why not make this thing better with curses? why always in an evil way? to purnish make lives miserable. why not change the world for the better with curses.
then again what do i know? as i ve mentioned ealier CURSES only exists in some peoples archaic imaginations and humans always feels comfortable when they are afraid of the unknown.

Well that's y its a curse. Its not a blessing so it can't do any of d good u mentioned above. Are u a Nigerian?

With all that. I guess my nigga will die in 6 years

youmour:
Me sef i hate writing abeg,he should carry he's cross,whats the difference between him and ritualists?

Guy!!!
So on point
No difference abeg

I really don't know how to consol Dat lady d fact is u deserve wat ever curse she has placed on u common u made he abort for u Dat much haba!! I think u deserve more curse self? I

pet4ril:
i swear if I were the girl, i will go extra miles for him.... I don't mind remaining single for the rest of my life but his own life will be nothing to write home about

Her pains is not about the financial help her family gave the guy, the abortions or the Six years she wasted with the guy. But that he was quick to propose to another within the space of 4 months. That is why I don't give a guy my money in a relationship. I forbid with everything I have. In fact, the moment a guy starts asking me for money in a relationship, the moment I turn my back on you, that relationship is over.

Hmmmmmmm, this one pass me ooooooooo. I wouldn't say men are wicked, I will say humans are wicked because we ladies sometimes do worse. But in this case, the guy no try at all, how can you use a lady for 6 years, impregnated her four times, aborted for you four times, her parents helped you become who you are today and then leaving her for a young lady you met few months ago. The guy no try rara. Even if she no curse you, curse don dey follow you already. Those babies you both aborted also have God as their creator and I am sure they will also cry for justice. She herself isn't also free from punishment too cos you both murdered four souls you can't create. All I will say is start fasting and pray, ask God for forgiveness because he is the only one who can save you, we can't!

onoslove:
Her pains is not about the financial help her family gave the guy, the abortions or the Six years she wasted with the guy. But that he was quick to propose to another within the space of 4 months. That is why I don't give a guy my money in a relationship. I forbid with everything I have. In fact, the moment a guy starts asking me for money in a relationship, the moment I turn my back on you, that relationship is over.

I like your spirit, I wount ask you for money but i will ask you for your digit .... Do you mind hooking me Up

TonyeBarcanista:

Bros, with due respect to the guy, his excuse is lame. Perhaps he sees her as old and he needed a fresh meat. He kept talking of attraction and intimacy and not character and companionship.

Why do we marry? is it just for sex? What about character, loyalty, support, care and all? I see no wrong in breaking up with a partner with character issues or whatever, but betraying the emotional investment of a loyal and helpful girl is outright wickedness.



Though placing curse is absurd and invalid

Thanks Tonye
You made the points I've been praying someone will make
Unfortunately people these days are just too shallow to think!!!

Eventually you'll get tired of sleeping with the sexiest woman in the world
Then what next
Onto the next fresh one??
There are more important things to consider in marriage than looks and sex.

Shit happens, count your losses and move on
That's one of l life's experiences. She's wiser now.

VictorRomanov:
I think this is the most immature and childish man I ve ever seen. Who doesn't know that when u re a relationship with someone for a long time, the romance eventually dies and companionship takes over? He's forgetting that he's going to be married to his new wife for more than 6yrs of which the same feelings will still reoccur. Will he divorce her then and look for a new wife?

And what's the rubbish that you shouldn't marry out of pity? There's something called loyalty and unfortunately its lacking today. You stick with someone who has been through hardship with you, even when ur heart don't want, not cause of pity, but cause they deserve your loyality.

I don't believe in curses, so the girl doesn't need to waste her saliva. But his attitude and mentality is already a curse to him!

I just have to quote you man
For the record
You made too much sense!!!

The guy lucky sef... Wat if the girl had done wat this oda gals did to a guy dat left dre frnd?
Gals re nt smiling

The guy lucky.. Wat if d gal had done wat this gal did to a guy dat left her frnd?

TrumpDonald:


Well that's y its a curse. Its not a blessing so it can't do any of d good u mentioned above. Are u a Nigerian?

my parents are nigerians was born in England so i consider my selve nigerian.

look i am not entirely disputing some sort of evil but i also believe that to curse (thats if it exists) some one and for it to work, you will have to have a clear mind as in having done no wrong youreself, which in this story's case that did not apply the woman in the story has done wrong too by aborting 4 babies, now how will her curses on the guy work? she is not inncent herself so what gives her the Right to curse? i also mentioned every curses believer always fails to explain how it works either they refer to a book they have read or they try to impose on folks or they resort to insults, now if any one have witnessed curses works i believe they should be in a better position to explain clearly how it works rather than make reference to some fictious books they have read. now correct me if i am wrong. again i repeat human minds feels comfortable when afraid and paranoid of things they could not explain hence the believe esspecially nigerians of witchraft, rituals; voodoos and curses.
this is why African/nigerian children are been accused falsly of witchraft and witches and even murdered by their ignorant parents and families who are supposed to protect them, and its always children or the vulnerables because they can not defend themselves.

It's touching, but let's call a spade, a spade. The guy no try. Six years is a lot, even if it wasn't up to that. Mhen don't people have conscience anymore? Do the needful.

No, no, no. This guy nor try out all. She was your girlfriend, your sister, your mother, your LovePeddler, your cook and your provider for 6 years..... and all of a sudden you don't want her again. You've seen love at first sight, and you want to use someone else's sweat to prosper...... She doesn't even have to curse you. The law of Karma would catch up with you.

onoslove:
Her pains is not about the financial help her family gave the guy, the abortions or the Six years she wasted with the guy. But that he was quick to propose to another within the space of 4 months. That is why I don't give a guy my money in a relationship. I forbid with everything I have. In fact, the moment a guy starts asking me for money in a relationship, the moment I turn my back on you, that relationship is over.

shes just unlucky, if it were some guys, they would never forget such good deeds........ Imagine the nitwit said he started seeing her as his sister if it were her sister, would he have wished her that

I have read so many people's views and all that. But I will share my view with the stories below .My elder bro married the girl that he dated for 11 years just 2months ago. Truth is my family didn't like the girl, including me, but every time I always asked myself, if that girl is my kid sister, would I have wished that a guy dumps her after 11 years. The answer obviously is no. Just few weeks ago, I asked her how did my brother propose to her, she said my brother didn't propose, but they just knew that they will get married. That guy knew he wasn't going to marry that girl, and he knew long before that day that he broke the relationship. This is my observation, and I don't want anybody to agree with me, because of how difficult things are in the economy, so many guys out there are looking for soft landing. That is why when I meet a guy for the first time and he asking me what I do for a living, I just them I am working as an house help to somebody, or learning a skill. I met a guy around 2007 or 2008, and them we started a relationship, a friend came in one day and asked me if I was dating the guy and I said yes, and he she told me that the guy has a girl that he has been dating for 8years and that the lady is 36 years already, while the guy then was 32, when I confronted him, he didn't deny it, but rather he told me that he never promised the girl marriage . He said he doesn't love the girl anymore, that it is me he wants now, and even proposed marriage right there. I remember telling him to his face that, I have conscience, that God will not forgive me if I agree to marry him, that if that girl opens her month to curse me, God will honour it with the speed of light. After begging for almost a year, when he knew I wasn't going to bend, he finally married that lady. This guy them was very rich, handsome. He is a professional diver. Everybody wanted me to marry him, cos things were very difficult for us then, didn't know where the next male was going to come from, but I said no, cos I didn't want to contribute to anybody's down fall. Today the guy is 40 and the lady is 44, but no child. Though I am not married, but every time I think back, I am happy with the decision I took rejecting that marriage proposal. People don't have conscience anymore, their conscience is dead, so they can afford to live their life the way they deem fit. I feel sorry for the girl. If I knew her, I will ask her to just allow God have his way. It won't be easy, but with God and time, she will be healed.