Abroad ke ! That guy might be serving his time in prison and you're here killing yourself over nothing .
Same thing happened to a family friend , since 2013 ,she's been waiting for the guy to come back ... Still till today the idiat never show , she kept on planning weddings with nothing to show for it .
As for the first guy , he beats you and you're still considering him ... You're just another Ronke shode in the making !

well said.... no addition or substractn..

mhizeva:
First of all I don't trust Sammy... because men can be so crafty... I mean what do you know about his business, his earlier lifestyle and what is the real reason why he Travelled. have you done this research....
My dear don't base your heart on love alone.... because no marriage can stand on love alone

Secondly, for your ex.... I will advise you not to go back to him... One reason is that men are strong and vibrant and natural born leaders... If a man cannot stand for himself with the love he has for you and marry you even against his father''s wishes then he is not going to stand for you in much more difficult situations..

Secondly, he gave up on you too quickly, by going to marry another girl.... meaning that his father controls him... If his father hadnt accepted in the end that means he wont have come back for you....

Thirdly, think about the other woman that just got married to him... Thats one reason why you should off him

Fourthly, Wait for a genuine man.... Search the net, read books and you will understand what a real man is made up off my dear....

Love cannot keep a marriage forever... If it could then why are so many american marriages falling apart today after the expensive weddings in which the man professed his love...

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

Marry d 7year relationship guy jor .

U re convincing urself that Sammy loves u because he is going abroad . o'girl I pity u cos u will end up losing at last if u wait for 2years for one stupid Sammy . U tink its easy to come back to naija after experiencing life overseas? U will just be a WhatsApp/Facebook girlfriend for life .

Op, both Sammy and your on and off guy of seven years ain't the right people for you, it's so obvious. Your man you've stayed with for 7yrs doesn't know what he wants, plus he might turn out to be a "wife beater" you can see the early signs. The other Johnny traveller called Sammy has gone for greener pastures, in other words, he has gone overseas to hustle, and would you blame him for that? I think not. So don't hope on that, cuz he won't be coming soon, even from his response to you, you can tell.

Just an aside, i have a lil sis who has a guy she wanted to marry to, he travelled out and promised my sis that in 2 - 3 yrs he will be back to marry her, it's now more than 8yrs he hasn't been back, his reason being that things weren't the way he thought it will be. So I'm talking from experience.

Final verdict, keep looking for someone, he is out there, that someone who will love you for who you are and the parents wouldn't oppose to you marrying his son. There's that someone for everyone.

Goodluck!

Seek the face of God

sweetheart12:
I Need Your Advise Please

I will sincerely appreciate a good advise from you all.

I have been in a relationship for 7 years, in this relationship i was in, the guys father never like me from the day he heard my name. My boyfriend then asked him severally even the mum also asked the dad why he didnt like me, but he was not able to give any reason.

Myself and this my boyfriend has had several breakup due to his father not liking me.

The third time i broke up with him was because he beat me up and left several injury on me. He came back to beg and apologize and all then i accepted him back. A time came when we planed to do our wedding, when his dad heard of it he never supported it. Our Pastors asked him why he never wanted us to be together but still there was no reason given.

After this incident my family said i cant marry him since his father has never accepted me. I was not able to let go cos i was thinking how i will throw away the 7 years of relationship, but not quite long my boyfriend came to me and said he wanted us to breakup since his father wont accept, i cried n cried but at the end i decided to let go.

After 6 months i heard he has done introduction with a girl the father like and all. after a year now the same guy is now calling me saying he wants us to come back together and get married, he said he does not love the girl he was forced to do introduction with by his dad, he said he has told the girl he didnt love her and cant marry her,he also said his dad has accepted that we can get married now. DO I GO BACK TO HIM OR NOT?

During this last breakup we had, i met a very nice guy by name Sammy he has been so nice and good to me, When i and Sammy met it was not up to 6 months before Sammy traveled out of the country. He was supposed to be away from the country for 2 years then he will return and we will do our wedding. Sammy loves me alot, he is a God fearing person but recently he told me he's not sure of his coming home in next 2 years as planed, when i asked him what the new plan is and when he will return home he said he cant say, Sammy still loves me and wants us to be together but i am worried how long i will have wait before he returns. And now my ex boyfriend is saying he wants us to get married. i am just confused.

What do i do please? I need advise please.

None of them dear. The Ex hits u, and the new one sounds as if his ambitions are more important than you are.

The reason why a lady will want to continue with a guy who beat you black and blue is beyond me. Have you no self esteem left? What are you doing with a woman beater? All the advise on this thread will just pass through one ear and come out through the next.

I really feel no pity for anyone married to a "boxer". They laid their beds, let them endure it till heaven throws a banquet for them for turning the other cheek.

CAPSLOCKED:





DON'T BE SO HARDCORE ON THE INTERNET, WHILE IN REALITY YOU AIN'T SHIIT.

IT HAPPENS EVERYDAY, SOMETIMES THE OTHER WAY ROUND.


IF YOU DO STUFF THAT GONNA FETCH YOU KNOCKS FROM YOUR MAN, ( I DO NOT ENJOY HITTING PEOPLE GENERALLY, I'M BIG TIME AGAINST THAT SHIIT) BE READY TO BE HIS MIKE TYSON!

not a matter of acting hard core.just telling u the fact

mhizeva:


Fourthly, Wait for a genuine man.... Search the net, read books and you will understand what a real man is made up off my dear....

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

Really?? And many have done all those yet don't know what a genuine man is..
I hope you not mistaken a genuine man for a real man??

Sweetheart12 - The physical abuser that is married, imagine the type of beating he would have been downloading on his present wife. Go back to him at your own peril, the beating baton would simply continue on your head.
The other one abroad, if he is talking seriously about this relationship, lick your wounds and move on. He has probably moved on, but does not know how to officially tell you.
Marry out of desperation and you go see wetin you ear, eye and body no wan see or feel!!!!

If not the beatingi could have shut... Marry your ex!

my dear i wil speak to u frm experience. marriage is nt sometin to jump into. ot requires prayer. no matter aw gentle a man is during courtship, he wil stil exhibit some traits in marriage u never believed he had during courtship. there is alyws ds urge to wanna settle down quickly cos our biological clock is tickling fast bt my dear its wen u enter u wil knw dt u r at d mercy of the man.

its better n safer to marry late n av peace of mind than to jump in n start telling stories that touch d heart.
as for ur ex, u a. seen enof red signals. a man dt can do introduction wit anoder lady n dump him wil do worse to u
as for sammy, he is jst a time waster. some guys r lyk dt. they wil hold unto u n yet they wil nt let u go. dnt fall for u. its a scam
finally, none of the two options is gud for u.
a word is enof for d wise.
we dnt want another version of mr lekan shonde n his late wife.
God help women in marriage.
i rest my case.

Please, leave bothvof them, and truly move on with your life.
However, if you feel you can't move on then I'd suggest you wait for Sammy. Your first boyfriend is bad news, and I doubt if anything good can come out of your union.
Let old things remain passed away

No matter the circumstance stick with Sammy.

ladyF:
The reason why a lady will want to continue with a guy who beat you black and blue is beyond me. Have you no self esteem left? What are you doing with a woman beater? All the advise on this thread will just pass through one ear and come out through the next.

I really feel no pity for anyone married to a "boxer". They laid their beds, let them endure it till heaven throws a banquet for them for turning the other cheek.

That's how some women are you.. we call it love, lol.

The way women like the word marriage ehn,be like say i go add am to my chyking format

Pick Sammy. Dump the guy that used to beat you. My 2 cents.

You lost me at "beating you up". Walk away from any and all physically abusive relationship. No matter how much you "love" him. God forbid you have kids together and then they become part of this cycle of domestic violence we've turned a blind eye to in this country. SMH

See Epistles in the name of comments!!!! Hey look here you wey create this thread,i will give you one advice PLS CHANGE YOUR JOB,AND STOP FEELING INFERIOR. To be continued.......

mhizeva:
First of all I don't trust Sammy... because men can be so crafty... I mean what do you know about his business, his earlier lifestyle and what is the real reason why he Travelled. have you done this research....
My dear don't base your heart on love alone.... because no marriage can stand on love alone

Secondly, for your ex.... I will advise you not to go back to him... One reason is that men are strong and vibrant and natural born leaders... If a man cannot stand for himself with the love he has for you and marry you even against his father''s wishes then he is not going to stand for you in much more difficult situations..

Secondly, he gave up on you too quickly, by going to marry another girl.... meaning that his father controls him... If his father hadnt accepted in the end that means he wont have come back for you....

Thirdly, think about the other woman that just got married to him... Thats one reason why you should off him

Fourthly, Wait for a genuine man.... Search the net, read books and you will understand what a real man is made up off my dear....

Love cannot keep a marriage forever... If it could then why are so many american marriages falling apart today after the expensive weddings in which the man professed his love...

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

Well said.

YOU HAVE NO OPTION IN THESE TWO GUYS. IF YOU CHOOSE ONE OF THEM, SURELY YOU WOULD COME HERE ASKING FOR ADVICES FOR MORE DANGEROUS SITUATIONS. PLEASE START AFRESH!!!

sweetheart12:
I Need Your Advise Please

I will sincerely appreciate a good advise from you all.

I have been in a relationship for 7 years, in this relationship i was in, the guys father never like me from the day he heard my name. My boyfriend then asked him severally even the mum also asked the dad why he didnt like me, but he was not able to give any reason.

Myself and this my boyfriend has had several breakup due to his father not liking me.

The third time i broke up with him was because he beat me up and left several injury on me. He came back to beg and apologize and all then i accepted him back. A time came when we planed to do our wedding, when his dad heard of it he never supported it. Our Pastors asked him why he never wanted us to be together but still there was no reason given.

After this incident my family said i cant marry him since his father has never accepted me. I was not able to let go cos i was thinking how i will throw away the 7 years of relationship, but not quite long my boyfriend came to me and said he wanted us to breakup since his father wont accept, i cried n cried but at the end i decided to let go.

After 6 months i heard he has done introduction with a girl the father like and all. after a year now the same guy is now calling me saying he wants us to come back together and get married, he said he does not love the girl he was forced to do introduction with by his dad, he said he has told the girl he didnt love her and cant marry her,he also said his dad has accepted that we can get married now. DO I GO BACK TO HIM OR NOT?

During this last breakup we had, i met a very nice guy by name Sammy he has been so nice and good to me, When i and Sammy met it was not up to 6 months before Sammy traveled out of the country. He was supposed to be away from the country for 2 years then he will return and we will do our wedding. Sammy loves me alot, he is a God fearing person but recently he told me he's not sure of his coming home in next 2 years as planed, when i asked him what the new plan is and when he will return home he said he cant say, Sammy still loves me and wants us to be together but i am worried how long i will have wait before he returns. And now my ex boyfriend is saying he wants us to get married. i am just confused.

What do i do please? I need advise please.

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There are more than 2 men in the world.

Don't be like Nigerians that were made to choose between only two bad products in 2015.

One boyfriend is surrounded by uncertainty.
The other is enmeshed in indecision ganished with the penchant for violence.

Stay away from both of them.
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naijaboiy:
FÜCK!

Why should life be so frustrating for people sometimes.

[b]Op I won't lie to you I'm also confused concerning this your issue but let's see what other people would say that will be helpful.

Lalasticlala over to you.[/b]

dont go for anyone. ...reason,




dat mike tyson is totally out coupled with his dad dislike.

for d oda guy, u barely know him because u hardly could say anything about him oda dan he his God fearing wich means he could b worse dan tyson. . and by d way u said u dated mike tyson for 7yrs d oda guy for 6 month, approximately 8yrs altogether. ....even if u started dating at d age of 20 u should b 28 by now...

my advice for u is to find one cool guy for naija for here b4 u start grow bie bie.

mhizeva:
First of all I don't trust Sammy... because men can be so crafty... I mean what do you know about his business, his earlier lifestyle and what is the real reason why he Travelled. have you done this research....
My dear don't base your heart on love alone.... because no marriage can stand on love alone

Secondly, for your ex.... I will advise you not to go back to him... One reason is that men are strong and vibrant and natural born leaders... If a man cannot stand for himself with the love he has for you and marry you even against his father''s wishes then he is not going to stand for you in much more difficult situations..

Secondly, he gave up on you too quickly, by going to marry another girl.... meaning that his father controls him... If his father hadnt accepted in the end that means he wont have come back for you....

Thirdly, think about the other woman that just got married to him... Thats one reason why you should off him

Fourthly, Wait for a genuine man.... Search the net, read books and you will understand what a real man is made up off my dear....

Love cannot keep a marriage forever... If it could then why are so many american marriages falling apart today after the expensive weddings in which the man professed his love...

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

kai!i love you for this piece of advice... na platonic love o! lol! but I am impressed. nice and thoughtful words

naijaboiy:
FÜCK!

Why should life be so frustrating for people sometimes.

Op I won't lie to you I'm also confused concerning this your issue but let's see what other people would say that will be helpful.

Lalasticlala over to you.

What's so confusing? A guy who beat her and jilted her ones? Or the one who she has plans to settle with but has no plans to settle down with her?

Sweetheart12, in my opinion 7years meant nothing to him when he went off with someone else. I'm even shocked you are considering it again. It best you Don't go back to him.

As for your Londoner find out his plans for you so you don't waste your precious time.

Life is too short for people to play 10|10 with you.

Good luck

sweetheart12:
I Need Your Advise Please

I will sincerely appreciate a good advise from you all.

I have been in a relationship for 7 years, in this relationship i was in, the guys father never like me from the day he heard my name. My boyfriend then asked him severally even the mum also asked the dad why he didnt like me, but he was not able to give any reason.

Myself and this my boyfriend has had several breakup due to his father not liking me.

The third time i broke up with him was because he beat me up and left several injury on me. He came back to beg and apologize and all then i accepted him back. A time came when we planed to do our wedding, when his dad heard of it he never supported it. Our Pastors asked him why he never wanted us to be together but still there was no reason given.

After this incident my family said i cant marry him since his father has never accepted me. I was not able to let go cos i was thinking how i will throw away the 7 years of relationship, but not quite long my boyfriend came to me and said he wanted us to breakup since his father wont accept, i cried n cried but at the end i decided to let go.

After 6 months i heard he has done introduction with a girl the father like and all. after a year now the same guy is now calling me saying he wants us to come back together and get married, he said he does not love the girl he was forced to do introduction with by his dad, he said he has told the girl he didnt love her and cant marry her,he also said his dad has accepted that we can get married now. DO I GO BACK TO HIM OR NOT?

During this last breakup we had, i met a very nice guy by name Sammy he has been so nice and good to me, When i and Sammy met it was not up to 6 months before Sammy traveled out of the country. He was supposed to be away from the country for 2 years then he will return and we will do our wedding. Sammy loves me alot, he is a God fearing person but recently he told me he's not sure of his coming home in next 2 years as planed, when i asked him what the new plan is and when he will return home he said he cant say, Sammy still loves me and wants us to be together but i am worried how long i will have wait before he returns. And now my ex boyfriend is saying he wants us to get married. i am just confused.

What do i do please? I need advise please.

If you marry that your ex whose family never wanted you and who assaulted you.You are already a dead woman walking.
Mark my words, you would end up like the recent case of Ronke who was just killed by her husband from assault.
Your ex is not an option, discuss with your boyfriend abroad and tell him the situation or look for someone else. As a matter of fact that your ex is not Gods will for you. You've been warned.

your ex and Sammy have no better plans for you.walk away from the two of them finally and completely.change environment if possible and look for someone who have better plans for you.may Allah help you (pray)

SirWere:
Another cooked up story..


Let's hope the Gods will accept it

A lot of things happen in this world not everything has to make sense to u.

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