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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by rheether(f): 6:17pm On Jun 12, 2016
I feel for you doctor. May th best always locate you.
Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by LePrezident(m): 6:41pm On Jun 12, 2016
acxlers2014:
Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

This right here is everything.

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by misspicy(f): 7:03pm On Jun 12, 2016
FoxyFlow:
I did not want to say something that would hurt you because of the fact that you sound hurt already... Back to the matter, what happened when she came to spend some weeks in your place? Returned home and started acting funny? Tell me, why did you say you are less of a man?

Okay, you work in a hospital and practice privately but is money everything that a Lady wants?

About the side chick, how did you feel when you discovered she left you for the side dude who was a far "better man" than you?

I will drop my pen here. Nobody knows about the bravery of the dead lion, only the living hunter who has tales to tell.

I remain Foxy and I Flow...

So we still have truthful men shocked

God bless your discerning spirit,inasmuch as I don't agree with the way the lady went about it,her response points to one thing ,Op might be impotent or have a small member,not every woman can manage such.

BTW do you still flow? grin

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by mployer(m): 7:37pm On Jun 12, 2016
ilobasama:
OP thanks. Indeed a lot of lessons learnt. I also have learnt from my experience with ladies. The first is never compromise your hustle or future for her.

But i disagree on the part of side chick. If you love someone truly, then stay faithful no matter the outcome. Why do you want to become a cheat because someone cheated on you. Why will you wanna use people because others used you. Just stay focused and true to yourself and your dreams. You will still meet a lady thay will love you and complete you as a man.

Sorry about your experience. I feel your pain

I think it is ok to keep side chicks. Most of these girls are dangerous. You can actually be a side guy while forming responsible boyfriend. undecided

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by Nobody: 9:02pm On Jun 12, 2016
mployer:


I think it is ok to keep side chicks. Most of these girls are dangerous. You can actually be a side guy while forming responsible boyfriend. I am talking from experience undecided

funny enough, you are right.

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by missvera(f): 9:39pm On Jun 12, 2016
Op, i went through youur previous threads and conclude that you caused this for yourself. So, you still went ahead with that lady to do introduction despite lipsrsealed.

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by missvera(f): 9:39pm On Jun 12, 2016
Op, i went through your previous threads and conclude that you caused this for yourself. So, you still went ahead with that lady to do introduction despite lipsrsealed.
Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by Nobody: 9:54pm On Jun 12, 2016
You guys keep meeting the wrong set of women. Its quite unfortunate.
Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by lastchild: 9:55pm On Jun 12, 2016
Mr op, look into your spiritual life, there is something there you need to know

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by camaraderi(m): 2:34am On Jun 13, 2016
You should be grateful cos you just dodged a bullet

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by henrydadon(m): 5:16pm On Jun 13, 2016
Shey u sha fvck am well

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by idupaul: 5:18pm On Jun 13, 2016
Clearly poor sex syndrome. .OP doesn't know how to do the do

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by metrosexual: 5:18pm On Jun 13, 2016
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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by Nobody: 5:19pm On Jun 13, 2016
Your previous topics shows she BEATS you, is destructive, stopped loving you_ shouldn't you be happy the witch is gone?

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by missyge(f): 5:22pm On Jun 13, 2016
acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.
God might be preparing u for somethg bigger..shws u hv to come closer to God for the best partner for u...
Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by Koolking(m): 5:22pm On Jun 13, 2016
acxlers2014:


My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first.

The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

Above are worth pondering. I think I like your witty words

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by leahcimzil: 5:23pm On Jun 13, 2016
haha maybe yu lasted 30secs on the bed...goan drink Agbo jedi and den Bleep her again....she'll be begging yu to have her back. you r welcome
Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by tyson99(m): 5:24pm On Jun 13, 2016
women are evil dats how mine too messed up two months back after 5yrs

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by MVLOX(m): 5:24pm On Jun 13, 2016
acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

My guy u should be happy and even celebrate her leaving you ooo.... I keep saying and will continue to say it my biggest fear which should be the biggest fear of any man is d knowledge dat ur woman can wake up 1 morning and decide to leave you... I told me fiancé and she didn't take it well...but its d truth... So bro congrats again cuz marriage don't change pple at all.... If u had married her chai am so sure u would have testified

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by Nobody: 5:25pm On Jun 13, 2016
acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

it hurts anyways but nevertheless don't allow her stupidity to spoil your reputation as a responsible man. Men like you are hard to come by. if i may ask is she that beautiful? if yes look beyond facial beauty before getting involved in a lasting relationship/marriage...Lastly, having many eggs in one basket will only result to infecting the good ones when others are broken and by the time you want to make use of the ones that are infected , you also become infected. Get a woman prayerfully and get married to her,,,,,never you look at facial beauty alone as the parameter as all that glitters are not gold....

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by badostic: 5:27pm On Jun 13, 2016
Don't you have a side guy? Say the truth!

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by patola080(m): 5:28pm On Jun 13, 2016
iamkingzlee:
Mehn! this is serious. Why are ladies like this undecided that's how they'll be coming up with mood swings. abeg, I'm tired!! Moving on is hard, but you just have to, bruv! she wasn't meant for you.
not all ladies Mr man dome re good and some re bad
Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by Tb222(m): 5:28pm On Jun 13, 2016
fuckshit:
OP; shιt happens; can fυcking tell you've fυcking moved on and still fυcking standing strong; you're fυcking blessed; and a big fυcking thanks for sharing this;

OP; again; you're fυcking blessed for this comment; from fυcking experience; without a fυcking side chick; it's fυcking terrible;

guys fυcking wise up; most ladies fυcking know this rule and are fυcking good at it; most ladies do not restrict their pυssy to only one diςk grin grin
may God bless ur fucking hustle with dis damn encouraging fucking comment, may u neva be fucvked up, but instead fuckin rise up to shoot beyond ur fuckin wildest dreams,and fucvk anyone who wish u ill.

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by fitinwell: 5:28pm On Jun 13, 2016
Florblu:
I was feeling your pain abnitio until you started dishing out your unsought for advice.The fact that someone dies in his sleep doesn't mean sleep is harmful to the body.Same way you've gotten your share of heart break doesn't mean other men has not been responsible for ladies heart break.Just move on as she has said and stop misleading the already misled sane minds.

[size=18pt] Hello miss, op advice is meant for we guys and not for ladies.. You have no right to counter.. What he as shared from is wealth of experience.. If i may ask what lessons have you learnt from op story.. Before u start castigating... If u need help dial 911[/size]

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by Akinaukwa: 5:28pm On Jun 13, 2016
Am sorry dude, i dont believe in heart breaks. Always prepare your mind for the good and the worst while in a relationship, whenever a party says its over then let it be over. When i had a similar issue i looked back and discovered we were not meant to be together as husband and wife but as friends. As Jakes puts it, dont talk anyone into staying with you, loving you, marrying you, moving with you. Once he/she says its over let it be. She has told you the truth, move on please and thank me later wink wink wink wink wink.

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by Nobody: 5:28pm On Jun 13, 2016
misspicy:


So we still have truthful men shocked

God bless your discerning spirit,inasmuch as I don't agree with the way the lady went about it,her response points to one thing ,Op might be impotent or have a small member,not every woman can manage such.

BTW do you still flow? grin
Are you not being too direct?. cheesy

I knw that there's something she saw in their two weeks of being 2gether that isn't pleasant.

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by firstolalekan(m): 5:29pm On Jun 13, 2016
[s]
acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.
[/s]
One sided story.
People don't just change like that. There's no smoke without fire.
Tell us what is wrong with you or what you did to her undecided

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by baby124: 5:31pm On Jun 13, 2016
Don't compromise your standards because someone disappointed you. I understand how you feel. However I pause at your mention of her age. Did you treat her right, or you thought because of her age she would overlook any abuse you meted out to her. A girl her age will not just switch off from a promising person like you. Please check yourself well and work on yourself. Instead of thinking of how to cheat.
Revenge has never helped anyone. You are hurting yourself and your future wife for someone that doesn't even care whether you are dead or alive. Is that not stu*pid? Just move on, find a girl that is loyal and stay loyal. Being promiscuous puts your life at danger.
Work on yourself and find someone worthy and faithful. Most sane girls do not have sex with their other suitors but string them along in case a relationship fails. What do you expect when most men don't behave these days. Don't turn yourself into something you are not because of someone that does not love you. You are not the first to experience heart break you won't be the last. In every disappointment, learn a POSITIVE lesson and use it to grow. Never dwell on the negative. Goodluck.

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by Wowzer(m): 5:32pm On Jun 13, 2016
Women are like buses. You miss one. Catch one, Every hour on the hour promptly.

Milk already spilt...so why cry now. When she is gone she is gone.

You have everything to attract chicks of all complexions who are wifey ready. Locally and Internationally.

It's not your pencil, it's how you write your name.
Don't be over committed, cos you will have to deal with it.

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by Ezenwa11(m): 5:32pm On Jun 13, 2016
wilybebsy:
Dis hoe's ain't loyal
I dey tell you! Her loyalty is zero.
Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by Judeoxide(m): 5:33pm On Jun 13, 2016
garnet2:
When we Tell men not to fall in love..... They won't hear

When will Tell men "if you must fall in love then fall with your head and not your heart"..... They won't hear

When we Tell men" Be the boss of your relationship and call the shots"... They won't hear

When we Tell men that it is in our DNA to mate with multiple partners..... They won't hear, They will be forming Real, Gentleman, Nice guys to win women approval

When we Tell men our stories and ask them to learn from it..... They won't hear until they become victims

When we Tell men to stop spending on Girlfriends.... They won't hear, They will be forming Mr Responsible

................................................................................................................................................

Anyways,.. Welcome to the club of the big boiz... Drink away your sins 'cos you have towed the path of self recovery and a player is born.

PUAs please join me and let's give a heartily welcome to our newest member!


cheesy
kai my chineke..
Guy had it been I know you personally I am willing to spend my whole month salary on you..
You Hammad the nail on the head and nail the nail on thehamma... What ever that mean though...
You are da bomb... Well don to the best comment so far

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Re: Life Is A Teacher. Jilted By My Fiancee. by HaneefahRN(f): 5:33pm On Jun 13, 2016
I strongly believe you must have had one terrible attitude for her to treat you that way. Check yourself too

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