Several years ago while I was doing my NYSC in Rivers, I had this little bit older lady crushing on me. I had met her while working as an INEC ad hoc staff and she was really nice. Because I was such a guy who was always busy at work and leisure, I didn't really notice how deep in love this lady was. I thought we were just ordinary friends.

Few weeks into our friendship, and after visiting her several weekends and having very nice social times with her little family (she lived with her cousin brother), she insisted on visiting me in company of her cousin brother. I obliged. But to my utter surprise, she showed up alone at the Corpers' Lodge. It was around 6 pm.

Once we got in my room and talked for a while, she was all over me, breathing hard. I was shocked and a little perplexed. Not to act like a "Jew man" I had to respond to her kisses but held back my hands. Hers were already wandering nervously around my back and then down my zippers.

I told her "No please we can't do this, I'm really sorry"...

She thought it was a big evening joke but I insisted. I explained to her that we were merely friends and, also, she should recall that she once told me that she's engaged to a certain guy. How on earth am I supposed to make out with an engaged lady? That was gross to me. She was really upset and disappointed and later left angry and sad.



The second time I experienced something similar was about 3 years ago when I came in contact (at my workplace ) with one very beautiful 19 year old girl. Something in me just accepted her personality as someone who has a lot of potential in her newest future. Yes I had a steady girlfriend so sex wasn't my motive with my girlfriends.

Because of this teenager's quest for tertiary education, and also because I noticed that she saw me as a role model professionally, I vowed that I wasn't gonna be amongst that stupid category of guys who feel like they must take advantage of any girl they mentor or help. I already had a very active sex life with my then girlfriend (who was a tigress in bed).

I spent some cash on this girl to procure JAMB UME forms, get a few books (she was really the studious type). In no time she started visiting my apartment. Am this type of guy that had a very mature co-educational social experience and so handling girlfriends were just as neutral to me as handling my male friends. This was one aspect of me my girlfriend found complicated.

However, the frequency of this girl's visit tripled I had to turn down a lot of her requests to visit. It wasn't long before she started literally asking me to date her, to which I told her I wasn't her friend for sexual reasons but that I just wanted to be of help to her because I was once in her shoes of need. I wanted her in my favorites contact list.

To cut this long story short, I found this girl waiting- unannounced- at my gate on coming back from my office one Friday evening. Of course she apologized for not calling and for coming this late. We got in, I left her in my sitting room and went in to bath and change (my usual routine).

After bathing I found this girl in my bed! So I started preaching again like another holy mallam, explaining to her that we should keep the status quo, I didn't want issues or to be perceived as taking sexual advantage of a very young girl who should be studying for her UME examinations. But all my talks ended in deaf ears, cos she just walked up to me, started kissing me and taking off her blouse. I just shouted "no!", left her in my room and went to my sitting room. She later came out crying seriously that she loves me and wants to be with me. It sounded Greek to me, seriously.

Well that evening was really challenging because she simply could not believe that I would refuse to sleep with her. As beautiful as she was. And as sexually virile as I was too.

The other similar incidents I've had weren't that close as these cases I narrated above, and they keep me wondering all the time how exactly do these ladies feel when a guy turns them down for sex/date... Is it a forgettable experience? Do they tell their girlfriends about it or keep it a secret?

Is it annoying, disappointing or just ungentlemanly? How would you react in such situations? Maybe this will help some of us guys understand women better and take win-win decisions...

Too long.


No video?

Never thrown myself at any guy.
Never had any reason to.

Since I do the running, I would really respect any guy who shows no interest in getting down with me.

Good i just got another scene fir my movie

Why throw yourself at a guy? Once they get your v they leave anyway.

When a guy says he's not attracted to me there's onl y one feeling - RELIEF.

lmao, i swear d 3posters b4 the lady above me no well at all

1. Actually, since men are always so ............. about sex, it will be shocking to her if he refuse her advances.



2. Girls feel they should never be turned down .

u need a video? Oya come lerrus act it

slyIsaac:
Too long.


No video?

Generally, women don't take rejection well at all. In my experience, ladies i've curved gently began to develop some sort of love-hate attitude towards me. They'd try for weeks, sometimes months not to talk to me just to get one form of reaction, then they'll come back, trying to soak up everything. They'll pretend they never tried ignoring you lol. At the end of the day, its the indifference you show towards them, to those who can't handle it, develop a love-hate friendship towards you. In my experience

slyIsaac:
Too long.

No video?

Loools....weyrey

slyIsaac:
Too long.


No video?

Hahaha video ke?

ErnieSmallzz:
u need a video? Oya come lerrus act it

ah. Oya na kanikpe am the daddy and you are the mummy..................

Beamborla:
Never thrown myself at any guy.
Never had any reason to.

Since I do the running, I would really respect any guy who shows no interest in getting down with me.

RESPECT. Hmmm sounds good.

foolinlove:
Why throw yourself at a guy? Once they get your v they leave anyway.

When a guy says he's not attracted to me there's onl y one feeling - RELIEF.

Are you saying you've never crushed on a guy before? Hmmm.

ehnehn Ayam the mummy. Lerrus act it insyd uncompleted building. Oya who will be our child now

slyIsaac:

ah. Oya na kanikpe am the daddy and you are the mummy..................

Beamborla:
Never thrown myself at any guy.
Never had any reason to.

Since I do the running, I would really respect any guy who shows no interest in getting down with me.

Oh really?... Tell me more.

ErnieSmallzz:
u need a video? Oya come lerrus act it

Hahaha you are really funny. If the dude wants to watch p0rn I'm sure he knows where to click on his phone.

slyIsaac:

Oh really?... Tell me more.

Would you prefer I use a loud speaker

React? He has my respect for life

tomquest:


RESPECT. Hmmm sounds good.

Yeah! Even if I like am. The fact that he is not interested in sex is just so so beautiful. I mean someone is not all about getting inbetween your legs for once.

ErnieSmallzz:
ehnehn Ayam the mummy. Lerrus act it insyd uncompleted building. Oya who will be our child now

Lerrus act first na... Na acting dey lead to belle...belle to pikin... Oya kanilpe I wee put.......

slyIsaac:

Lerrus act first na... Na acting dey lead to belle...belle to pikin... Oya kanilpe I wee put.......

Lol you no well o.

There was this girl when we were in secondary school. Yours truly never had a feeling for her even for once. After graduation like 2 to 3 years passed and 2go messenger brought us together. We got chatting and one thing led to the other we started visiting each other. Without any ulterior motive i overstayed at her place because i was oblivious of the time and she did not remind me, so i slept over at her place.
Ladies and gentlemen when this dude laid his head on the pillow he did not wake up till the next day. At daybreak after exchanging greetings she said this to me "IN MY LIFE, NO GUY I HAVE EVER SLEPT ON THIS BED WITH HAS NOT ATTEMPTED TO HAVE SEX WITH ME, MONLAWAL TODAY YOU NOT ONLY SHOCKED ME BUT SURPRISED ME TOO. I NEVER IMAGINE THIS KIND OF THING WOULD EVER HAPPEN RIGHT BEFORE MY EYES. YOU HAVE EARNED MY RESPECT, YOU ARE A MAN".
So reactions differ. Some girls would respect you for that and some would not take it lightly

Beamborla:

Yeah! Even if I like am. The fact that he is not interested in sex is just so so beautiful. I mean someone is not all about getting inbetween your legs for once.

Seriously this comment got me thinking.

halfricanadian:
React? He has my respect for life

chances of finding him is next to none... At least not in Nigeria.... Nigeria is a fvcked up place to raise boys to men...

monlawal:
There was this girl when we were in secondary school. Yours truly never had a feeling for her even for once. After graduation like 2 to 3 years passed and 2go messenger brought us together. We got chatting and one thing led to the other we started visiting each other. Without any ulterior motive i overstayed at her place because i was oblivious of the time and she did not remind me, so i slept over at her place.
Ladies and gentlemen when this dude laid his head on the pillow he did not wake up till the next day. At daybreak after exchanging greetings she said this to me "IN MY LIFE, NO GUY I HAVE EVER SLEPT ON THIS BED WITH HAS NOT ATTEMPTED TO HAVE SEX WITH ME, MONLAWAL TODAY YOU NOT ONLY SHOCKED ME BUT SURPRISED ME TOO. I NEVER IMAGINE THIS KIND OF THING WOULD EVER HAPPEN RIGHT BEFORE MY EYES. YOU HAVE EARNED MY RESPECT, YOU ARE A MAN".
So reactions differ. Some girls would respect you for that and some would not take it lightly

That's quite remarkable bro. I think it all boils down to one's social experience. At least I know how some babes used to crash in my room back in the university. Just good friends whom we usually gist with late into the nights and then they'd just doze off. Next morning, life continues.

Some of us guys deserve disrespect from ladies because we constantly let our JT determine the direction our brain goes.

ErnieSmallzz:
oya kanipe ayam sleeping with only wrapper, and u is beside me, with only boxer

Ah.. And kanipe I now Remove the wrapper small small.... ....