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| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by bebe2(f): 9:34am On Jun 28, 2016 |
RichYoungNigger:Child pls go take a shower. This was posted in the family section not romance. There is nothing special about where I live. U are the only one who seem to be impressed at the mention of dollars. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by shilees(f): 9:37am On Jun 28, 2016 |
U have already convinced yourself that the girl can't be better than she is with u, U don't know 2morrow dear, the girl is in ur house for a good reason,if u don't help her God will use someone else, do what u want but remember Jesus came to die for sinners, wicked ppl,backsliders etc. And his only commandment is to love your neighbour is urself. U have materials things not because of urself and ur husband and children alone Mrs world bank how many ppl are in ur care? |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by slizylindy: 9:47am On Jun 28, 2016 |
[color=#006600][/color] SamMilla1:Nawa ooo. Mature parents are contributing from experience and 20year old too is typing. I gave you 20years because you made just a few point while all others are balderdash thereby overwriting those few points. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by enygmababe: 9:51am On Jun 28, 2016 |
andyanders:So true! Once you start helping somehow it becomes a responsibility, the day you say you do not have that day you become evil and wicked. I remember how one of our neighbours started collecting 2k every week from my hubby and I for antenatal. It started with my hubby settling a quarrel for them. She got pregnant and they were happy. She went for ultrasound and it showed twins. The moment she told her hubby he told her to go and use an injection to kill one of them cos he cannot provide for them financially. That quarrel my hubby settled that God will provide became the siphon. She was collecting 2k from either of us every week till she gave birth and it was much later that I realised that antenatal is not weekly and she was usng the money to pay her contribution in 'Glamorous Ladies Club' ![]() |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by ring7(m): 9:53am On Jun 28, 2016 |
What nonsense ,abeg have a million. Sit,treat her the way you gna great your child....OK what if shes your daughter what will you do? She her back to your husband d***k? Just asking |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by kediman: 9:57am On Jun 28, 2016 |
I personally don't subscribe to someone harboring another person's child/children when the parent are still alive and healthy. I would rather suggest that all children should be allowed to stay with their parents, while anybody that has financial capacity should either help to empower the parents or be sending money to them for their school fees. Nobody can adequately take care of a child like the parent particularly the mother. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Valprof: 10:10am On Jun 28, 2016 |
cococandy:they say u r a single mother..not my biz tho....op said d poor gal broke TV and toilet ..did she tell us the circumstances that led to dat? no.....I personally hate people dat breed beyond their pockets and am sure i wont hv more than 3 kids....but life is not always in black and white..there is always a shade of grey.... |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Valprof: 10:17am On Jun 28, 2016 |
bebe2:u really wanted to impress....ur type dont help unless everyone that cares to listen hears abt it..who ur dollar help....dollar my ass |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Valprof: 10:18am On Jun 28, 2016 |
bebe2:u really wanted to impress....ur type dont help unless everyone that cares to listen hears abt it..who ur dollar help?....dollar my ass |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by bebe2(f): 10:24am On Jun 28, 2016 |
RichYoungNigger:OK. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by RichYoungNigger(m): 10:26am On Jun 28, 2016 |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by RichYoungNigger(m): 10:49am On Jun 28, 2016 |
bebe2:Don't let me leak all your info here. If i start, you will curse the day you were born. I have all your information on my laptop. I handled Babymama1 |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by brosammy(m): 11:02am On Jun 28, 2016 |
I love the way people have been responding to this isue, my own little contribution is dat family are the most deadly enemy you can never do without, no amt of ur support will ever satisfy them,assuming ur hubby live his life d way his bro dos,who will cater for his child now. There are some help that actually need God concent so that you ill not live to regret ur decision. Pray over it nd take action fast |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by jadelyn007(f): 11:07am On Jun 28, 2016 |
Please do not send that child home, she'll turn out worse than she is now. Train her the way you would your child. The only problem you have is her nosey father. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by ini4brandon(m): 11:11am On Jun 28, 2016 |
SamMilla1:you put it too harshly bro....but I support you...her mind was already biased towards the girl and her family from the onset...there is nothing that poor girl(maybe energetic.. lol) will do that will satisfy this woman...her bias has blinded her. So sad |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by slizylindy: 11:14am On Jun 28, 2016 |
[color=#006600][/color] HaneefahRN:Exactly!!!...oN POINT. SamMilla has some points but he took it to the extreme. Was it not someone's aunties that ganged up against her mum, we are not saying the girl is outrightly guilty but these things relatives do are beyond human comprehension. Wisdom as well as God's guidiance is really needed here. People will say it is when you accidentally crush a madman roaming on the street with your vehicle, you will know the madman has relatives. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by torqque7(m): 11:27am On Jun 28, 2016 |
Hmmm you've wasted too much time already..pls send her back before she burns down your home and kill everyone. I can't understand how an 11 year old can break the toilet seat..even an adult would have to use a lot of force before that can happen,as for the plasma,did she pull it off the wall abi she pushed it off a table?for goodness sake all these acts are not things that happen mistakenly, I have NEVER heard where a toilet was broken mistakenly because someone sat on it,I also never heard of people's plasma TVs breaking mistakenly,the stories usually involves an angry spouse or girlfriend smashing the damn TV and doing it deliberately so mam..I'll advice you to do the needful because some people are just planted by the devil in our lives to cause us pain,the earlier you realise the better for you. Good luck tho and God bless your home. P.S those relatives you are concerned about are not in your shoes and dn't know how your are hurting,if they feel too sentimental about the issue then they can take the Lil bag of mischief into their homes ![]() |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by amacastel: 12:02pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
SamMilla1: slizylindy:Hello angel is not by force to take in anybody in her house every parents shld be responsible for his or her own child pls don't inconvineance anybody with the care of ur child ok @ op pls pls send d girl home asap u and ur husband shld save ur strength and money for ur own children cos they are ur responsibility let her parents do their job cos wen she grow they will enjoy her fruit of labour. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by stonemasonn: 12:42pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
nnamdibig:Making a 11 years old girl better......hahahahaha It's too late. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Harvard13(m): 12:52pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
my dad has stopped taking people into our home cos the people ure trying to help will back bite you. tell you youre not taking care of their children well enough or that there not doing as good as yours as if its always your fault. if you scold the child, deyll say its cos he/she aint yours. now he just sends money. train ya child as you deem fit! |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by glossy6(f): 1:02pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
Dyt:Ordinarily, I wanted to watch this thread pass me but I will comment and you can crucify me if you want. The op can do all these, yet the child refuses to change. Reason? She's not her mother! I have a 13 years old living with me and she was bedwetting 2 years ago until I turned to baby nurse waking her up now and then. Now she no longer bedwets but that did not end the entire drama. She refuses doing her homework and rough handles her books, leaves her books at school and comes back with another pupils books. She gossips with her teachers and her teacher beat her up and I protested and the teacher eventually left the school. But the event that broke my resolutions to make her a better person was finding out that she doesn't clean herself after poo pooing at times. I mean, I can't handle that any longer and am sending her home this holiday, though the father wants her to stay with me. I can't make her a better person because am not her mum and no matter how hard I try, it will yield no effort. I can't enumerate everything here but I've resolved to take her back to her parents pronto! |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Nobody: 1:57pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
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| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by andyanders: 2:01pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
enygmababe:You can imagine that kind of thing. One should not fail to help people but it should not be the way to encourage people to now see it as a glorified way to become irresponsible to themselves. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by Movingheight(f): 2:12pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
MarryMeee:@MarryMeee, Your story made me remember what i passed through in the hands of inlaws mine nearly sent me packing the girls dad was my husband's senior brother every month we were paying allawee from our salaries to them,i then decided to go bring the eldest daughter from the village and enrolled her in school with my money o! Immediately d babe reach abj she became something else,even attending parties,going places that i have never been even with all my years in abj,she chooses what to eat, she would never wash my childeren cloth or any chores cos i have a maid that does that and whenever am in the kitchen she will b busy with the tv. when i got tired and wanted to return her my oga refused o! and said i should leave instead. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by slizylindy: 3:04pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
[color=#990000][/color] Movingheight:You can imagine!!! That is why i insist giving suggestions on this issue should be left to people with experience. Those that have never been in such shoes will just come here and type whatever logic places in their heart. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by benjibabs(m): 3:40pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
Valprof:@ Valprof, if OP had to go into full details no one would read her post. Even though her post was brief, there are lots of information in it. And yes, @SamMilla1's comment was bias, cruel and extreme, even though he had a few positive points. Did you guys read where she mentioned that the teachers also complained about her attitude and performance? Would you call the teacher EVIL as well? After all the teacher is a neutral party. The comment about the teacher gave a huge credibility to her observations and experience. The fact of the matter is that this child is BROKEN!!! Also, did you read where she mentioned she was tired of BUYING things for her? Would an EVIL person care to buy stuff for her? In addition, she also mentioned that her husband is frustrated, is her husband EVIL as well? Why single her out and label her EVIL when three people observed the same thing? Again, the fact is that the child is BROKEN!!!!! At 11, a well trained child would not be behaving as she described. My take is that the uncle and his wife had not done a great job of raising their child. I fully agree with you that life is not always in white or black, but no where in her post did she mention that some sort of calamity befell the uncle before he started sending his kids out for other people to train. Both parents are alive and kicking for crying out loud. Agreed, she has her opinion of the uncle and his wife, but one can almost always tell the sort of home a kid is from by the kid's behavior and attitude. The only reason she gave for being hesitant at first was that she did not know the uncle and kid very well; that was a very valid point and does not make her evil. Even though they are family members, knowing them well before this time would have helped OP make informed decision with her husband. Also, the reason the uncle wanted the child to stay with them was for her to go to school in the city, are there no more boarding schools in the city? Someone did mention if they even ask whether the girl wanted to be with them or not. 99.9 % chance is that no one cares about what she thinks as average Naija parents are what I call dictatorship-in-love; they want the best for their kids and forget the kids also have a say in the issue that concerns their lives. The funny part of the post is the bible verse that the family member are using to whip OP's butt; I would think that applies way better to the uncle or am I the only one thinking in that direction? Pulling out the verse to justify having this girl under their roof is pure manipulation with the use of the work of God - sad and disturbing! |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by teenagetalks(f): 3:45pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
sometimes, I really do wonder why relatives bring up issue of their children staying with their uncles or cousins after marriage. haba,what happen all the while this person was a bachelor. why didnt there sent all the battalions then.I seem not to understand the idea.A man was staying alone for donkey year,no relation stayed permanently. immediately the dotted line is signed,A whole community want to move in,the mother inlaw not excluded. Every body claiming my brother,son etc house.where were ye all,when he living alone.hmmmm, what women go through in marriage . |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by MarryMeee(op): 3:45pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
SamMilla1:
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| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by MarryMeee(op): 3:48pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
giles14:i never thought about this, its a good idea but it could be tricky. i am not too sure how i would go about asking them to take her in. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by MarryMeee(op): 3:55pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
olushowunm:boarding school sounds like another good idea, i might have to discuss with my husband before sending her to her parents. |
| Re: Relatives Turning Us Into Their World Bank by slizylindy: 4:10pm On Jun 28, 2016 |
[color=#990000][/color] MarryMeee:OP i respect you. You are really ignoring the negative post by not replying them and filtering and absorbing the good ones...KUDOS!!! |
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