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[quote author=BrokenHeart2016 post=47476234]Your right[/quo oga author hw mrkt na dats a very good short tale

Kind hearted and good for nothing man, expressing his stupid venture.
Can't you consider yourself to be a "GOOD SAMARITAN" and move on with your life?
Every relationship culminates in to marriage and you never said it to her.
You think you have done what no man did for her? Coward dies many times before they are buried.
This gurl was wiser than you in all respects because she submissively made you push her to her destination while you are yet to start. So no need to wait a brainless like you who will not make you intentions known before now only to come to naira land to attempt
writing of subsections of lamentation.
I pity your wasted years.

BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders

Lesson 1. Did you notice most of the women here are advising you to move on? It shows you how a woman's heart works. So stop building your life around women. You will never succeed that way.

Lesson2. Call her and thank her for opening your eyes and tell her you will always support her in whatever she decides to do. Don't go crying over the phone o! Most of you bread and butter men of nowadays are so weak and pathetic emotionally that you now disgust women.

Lesson 3. I expected to see her here writing about her broken heart but you the man who is supposed to be strong and take control of things is here crying like a weak child. For now you are too weak emotionally to be useful to anybody, so don't go jumping into another relationship for now. Give yourself six months probation for now.

Lesson 4. Next time you wanna pick a girl, don't invest a dime, until you have taken her to the altar. Most of the girls we have today are plain whores!

BrokenHeart2016:
Hold on, did I point a gun in your head in coercing you to read my post?
Just shut da mess up and get lost

Oya now.. .go and die since dem Don break ur heart.
Don't go and improve on yourself . . Be looking for sympathy here on nairaland

Broke ass nigga

I just read your post man...Life is two coins man..it is either it smiles on u or against you..if doesn't smile on you..U move on cos Winners to don't quit and she aint your last bus stop man...Hassle hard,equip yourself and make money....Shikena

WindUpMerchant:
would you grow out of love in marriage'?

Yeah. .it's possible.

sade1994:
Yeah. .it's possible.

smh

psucc:
5years is not 5days or 5 months. Having 'served' you for that long without any glimpse of hope of marriage, she has to move on.

Guy truly you no try at all.

Truly 5yrs aint 5days/month but u dont expect d guy to propose wen hes nt ready.

Take heart.....a broken heart is better than a broken home. Such is life Bruv.

BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders

Op..i sincerely undrstjd hw u feel. il say she left cos she felt her level is now higher dan urs....shes nw a graduate and u are just puttng in for HND. She blivs shes now a grown lady and she has limited time especially now dat shes done with sch.
Mayb u were nvr meant to be..

Cos i blive wateva will be will be, no matter how long it takes.




A broken rlationship is better dan a broken Marriage.

BrokenHeart2016:
Right..............
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders

Brother another bane of a long term relationship, and dating age mates is what you just experienced.

I pray that the Lord will establish you so much so that you'll remember today and laugh out loud.

I can't blame her though, just move on pls.

AngelAhnie:
You said he should be faithful to his next chick and you contradict your statement. Telling him to get a substitute....no vex, e make sense to you

I been dey look bros' comment one kain one kain

my bro take heart and move on, one thing u should think is DT dere is purpose for every thing in dis life and also know DT is we DT propose while God is d final say.what i just want u to do is tp create time and go to her school to confirmed what she mean because at time we lady somehow play some pranks just to know if u truly love her and if eventually she mean it ,let her be because I no she is coming back to beg u .

sade1994:
Oya now.. .go and die since dem Don break ur heart. Don't go and improve on yourself . . Be looking for sympathy here on nairaland
Broke ass nigga

Sis thread the ground softly now! It's just as if you didn't experience 'teenagers love'.

another guy is hitting it now.
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missyge:
Truly 5yrs aint 5days/month but u dont expect d guy to propose wen hes nt ready.

Same old story....... That's why I advocate for dating before jumping into serious relationship, you'd be able to adjudge your prospects before saying yes.

But boys of nowadays wanna assume fatherly 'bed roles' without marital commitments '...... It doesn't work that way!

BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders

the truth need to be told, once a lady is ahead of you just try nd take a walk.

It is very easy to wait n hope for the relationship to work out with d hope that she wld come come back. that is pure weakness on ur side bro. Before she called it quits she had taken her time to select a new guy...rich guy i believe. What she does not know is that money can come n go at any time, but a good man remains forever...Dust yourself, pick up the crumbs of ur life n mooove on.that is the sane thing to do now!.
Cut off all communications frm her for ur hrts sake. It may take even up to one yr but trust me u will be fine. Similar thing happened to me, mine left after 4yrs.I was set to marry her but no money yet n we agreed to wait wen it comes.She met a rich guy....something led to another n after 8mnths one of her frnds leaked it to me, as she was dating me n planning marriage with him
I took courage, got my self back in shape n now i am living better.Nobody has the key to ur life...n know this- the beautiful ones are not yet born.Complete ur studies...invest in urself...You will sure make it.
I forgot to say dis....cryyyyy plentyyyyy.it is part of the healing processs.

BrokenHeart2016:
Yes I do visit her even whenever I called her I use to asure her how I truly love her and encourage her to face her studies that things will get better soon
Not at all, I don't have key to her apartment but I don't want to see her again not to talk of visiting her....am not violent at the moment but what surprise me most is that, when I called her on sunday her tone was bold and clear to tell me that " it is over between us"

I will not advice you to go poo, so you don't end up having bp if you end up meeting a new guy in her apartment. Thank God it happened now, not when you later. You can talk to your boss if you guys are pals he will understand and give you time off work to get your self together , so you won't blunders that will Cost you your job.

BrokenHeart2016:
Yes I do visit her even whenever I called her I use to asure her how I truly love her and encourage her to face her studies that things will get better soon
Not at all, I don't have key to her apartment but I don't want to see her again not to talk of visiting her....am not violent at the moment but what surprise me most is that, when I called her on sunday her tone was bold and clear to tell me that " it is over between us"

You never see anything lol.

No doubt you are going to feel it, I just hope you don't end up doing funny things.

In these age where girls are super-desperate for money and fame, oga, you cant put all your eggs in one basket.

BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders

Good morning all, and gud morning OP..
Well i av sometin simple to say to u..

MOVE ON! MOVE ON!! MOVE ON!!!

Why because, the girl cant love u again. And i can tell u i knw so, cos am talkin outta experience too. Had a broken relationship last year march wit my ex. Same MO as urs. Just called and said its over btw us. Affected me that moment, couldnt sleep nor eat, always talkin to myself. Even fell sick. Then went for service may last year.

Took me at least 8mnths to get over her. Currently i av anoda gf, who takes gud care of me, beta than my ex does. Well i cant go into details of my experience, buh trust me it aint easy to move on. Buh wen u do it worth it.

You will start seein clearly, wats meant to be and wats not..

Pls i implore u, take ur time and invest in sometin else, cos if u go back to her to get an explanation. U will not get any. Trust me. NONE..

Bro, i av learnt my lessons, counted my blessings, and lovin my life. Just move on and u wud see that there are many fishes in the ocean, just that we chose to die wit a shark.. And the funniest part is that many guyz love sardine and titus, even mackerel..

So why endangered ur mental and physical state cos of one gal.. Bro not worth it at all. Moreover u r a guy, and still av a lotta years ahead of u..

Pls live ur life for urself, and neva settle for less. If u cant av her, pls dont be a slave to her, cos she wud capitalise on that and use u..

Take charge of ur life bro..

My dad wud say, if u die cos of one woman, on ur burial day many ladies wud turn up, consistin of crush, secret lovers of u, and those dreamin to be wit u, buh that woman who made u die wud not attend, and u neva had the chance to experience live to its fullest. So u lose..

Pls go fishin and this time wit real incentive, and guarantee. Nt wit empty pockets. If u dig. Cos thats the language the ladies hear.. If they love u, wit time love wud not do the trick anymore, buh the incentives..

Bro open ur eyes and see the world for its fullest and love, its all around u.. And pls close this thread and get a life..

PEACE....

Rest... There too many babe single... Go get another one

Dude, your girl has stepped up na, you don fall mugun...it happens to the best of us...btw 5yrs of courtship too much na...take heart, oya go outside and make that money another girl will come.

psucc:
5years is not 5days or 5 months. Having 'served' you for that long without any glimpse of hope of marriage, she has to move on.

Guy truly you no try at all.

hmmm!!

Zambux:
Focus more on building urself, start up ur degree program or HND and don't forget to pray always and pls don't curse her with time it will be a story .... Time heals

best advice

one chance love for naija. you need to see what my sister does to guys thank God i married an american.

BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders

BrokenHeart2016:
my education is very important to me at the moment, the worst part of it is that I applied to her school, same faculty same course though she will graduate this year.
Lalasticlala

Bros, please can you explain why you have been the one helping her financially and even paying her school fees yet you didn't enrol for your HND or B Sc ?

ADUNOKIKI:
That's human being! My suggestion to you... Visit he in Osun, don't let her be aware you are coming. May be weekend, but make sure you have money for hotel ooo.
Ask her one on one what you have done to deserve this?
Don't be violent and don't sound desperate. You have been with her for 5 years, you should read the answers in her eyes...
But don't expect anything positive from her.
She already have a replacement for you!!!


Do you use to pay her surprise visit in school before?
Do you have the key to her apartment?

i dont think that will change anything the fact hes has made her mind ,it will only escalate more pain !!! breaking up via is very hurtful

ADUNOKIKI:
That's human being! My suggestion to you... Visit he in Osun, don't let her be aware you are coming. May be weekend, but make sure you have money for hotel ooo.
Ask her one on one what you have done to deserve this?
Don't be violent and don't sound desperate. You have been with her for 5 years, you should read the answers in her eyes...
But don't expect anything positive from her.
She already have a replacement for you!!!


Do you use to pay her surprise visit in school before?
Do you have the key to her apartment?

i dont think that will change anything the fact hes has made her mind ,it will only escalate more pain !!! breaking up via is very hurtful

pele

ADUNOKIKI:
That's human being! My suggestion to you... Visit he in Osun, don't let her be aware you are coming. May be weekend, but make sure you have money for hotel ooo.
Ask her one on one what you have done to deserve this?
Don't be violent and don't sound desperate. You have been with her for 5 years, you should read the answers in her eyes...
But don't expect anything positive from her.
She already have a replacement for you!!!


Do you use to pay her surprise visit in school before?
Do you have the key to her apartment?

i dont think that will change anything the fact hes has made her mind ,it will only escalate more pain !!! breaking up via is very hurtful

ADUNOKIKI:
That's human being! My suggestion to you... Visit he in Osun, don't let her be aware you are coming. May be weekend, but make sure you have money for hotel ooo.
Ask her one on one what you have done to deserve this?
Don't be violent and don't sound desperate. You have been with her for 5 years, you should read the answers in her eyes...
But don't expect anything positive from her.
She already have a replacement for you!!!


Do you use to pay her surprise visit in school before?
Do you have the key to her apartment?

i dont think that will change anything the fact hes has made her mind ,it will only escalate more pain !!! breaking up via text is very hurtful sorry man

Maybe the relationship is moving nowhere and she wants to settle down. I think she did the right thing except that she didn't discuss it with you first. But Even if she did, you might have started thinking she's desperate or pushing you into something you're not ready for.

There's really no pleasing some dudes. So I don't blame her. A girl's gotta do what's best for her in that anti-woman environment. Afterall na una go still yab her when she's 30 and single.
But to marry them, you won't. You want to date them for 10 yrs. Well You can't eat your cake and have it.

As long as you live in and promote a society where the culture shames ladies ladies for being single past a certain age, you will all be dumped unceremoniously like this when wedding bells seem to chime. Real or fake.