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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Kikenitoluwa(f): 8:15am On Jul 13, 2016
"Come to me, all who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light" (Matthew 11: 28-30)

"Again Jesus spoke to them, saying, 'I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life." (John 8:12)

Different things happen, but this may be a sign that the time is now. please accept the Lord Jesus. You will be fine.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 8:18am On Jul 13, 2016
zeongeon:
No girl is mandated to stick with you for ever as long as she isn't your wife.

No man who is reasonable ties his happiness or build his world around a woman or a human being.

As a man you should be bothered about building a career, pursuing a dream or running a business of yours and not being bothered about a girl....

Having in mind that she did nothing wrong breaking up with you..YES she did nothing wrong...she gave u an opportunity to face your life squarely and make something out of your life so that at the end you xn decide to date or marry either a girl or many girls from any race, tribe or religion.

You will be a big fool if you try to figure out why she left you or if you try going to beg her to win her back...You will be wise if you make up your mind at this time to put woman aside and make a life for yourself.

Finally, "In woman was sin's beginning, and because of her we all die. Allow water no outlet, and be not indulgent to an erring wife. If she walks not by your side, cut her away from you"..SIRACH 25: 23-25
Best comment on this thread! In fact you deserve 1 million likes! God bless you! I hate sentimental and hypocritical men! undecided

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Coldsteel(m): 8:19am On Jul 13, 2016
Sorry bro,but if u'd been a gunner,u wouldn't have been this broken(All tnx to Prof Wenger).. grin On a serious note,i see this as a blessing in disguise for you.10 yrs down the line you would have wished she left earlier.....
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by sexy74(m): 8:21am On Jul 13, 2016
@ op
thank your star that she had to leave and not that you later discovered unfaithfulness from her side which would have been worse for you to bear.
Brother move on there are still other women to know and to have.
Don't let this make your work suffer or make you lose you self esteem or happiness.
Remember this always '' the earlier you know you are alone the easier your life.

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by deplay24(m): 8:22am On Jul 13, 2016
Women have dealt with me,i myself I feel sorry for myself,love is a pure scam

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Oyindaberry(f): 8:23am On Jul 13, 2016
Move on dear, some people are just a waste of time and resources. But I know there will be a loophole in her life in the future and she will come begging.

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 8:24am On Jul 13, 2016
keypad1:
dont curse her you say?

Do you know how many ladies have curse men with their naked va..ginal?


Guy abeg curse her
This guy you always reason backwards! And I will keep on correcting your mistakes!
Curse who For what
The curse sef no go work,you wanna know why??
Because he has already Fornicated with her,which is a sin on its own! So curse no go work unless he will go diabolical which of course must backfire on him!
As a christian,even an atheist knows that generosity is never a sin but fornication is! So do me a favor and keep mute!! lipsrsealed
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by deplay24(m): 8:32am On Jul 13, 2016
Women have dealt with me,i myself I feel sorry for myself,love is a pure scam,my baby mama left me,my own heartbreak was on February 2016.de wound left in heart has healed
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by keypad1: 8:34am On Jul 13, 2016
Trina0936:

This guy you always reason backwards! And I will keep on correcting your mistakes!
Curse who For what
The curse sef no go work,you wanna know why??
Because he has already Fornicated with her,which is a sin on its own! So curse no go work unless he will go diabolical which of course must backfire on him!
As a christian,even an atheist knows that generosity is never a sin but fornication is! So do me a favor and keep mute!! lipsrsealed
tell this to all those your sisters that keeps swearing for their boyfriends after every break ups.



My brother i repeat curse her!

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by keypad1: 8:35am On Jul 13, 2016
Oyindaberry:
Move on dear, some people are just a waste of time and resources. But I know there will be a loophole in her life in the future and she will come begging.
na that day she go die if she comes back begging
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 8:36am On Jul 13, 2016
keypad1:
tell this to all those your sisters that keeps swearing for their boyfriends after every break ups.



My brother i repeat curse her!
Maybe they don swear for you. See your life,no wonder! undecided Accept my sympathy lipsrsealed
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 8:36am On Jul 13, 2016
Adeyeancah:
Let's get married babe, 8months is way too long for me sef grin
Lol
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by bobojoshua(m): 8:37am On Jul 13, 2016
AfroKnight:
She believes has seen a better offer somewhere. Let her go. Nowadays, young ladies are temporary slippery lovers.

I would like to tell you to continue to be a faithful guy to the next chick you meet but honestly, good guys finish last. You need to have substitutes when dealing with women.

Sorry.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by no1madman(m): 8:38am On Jul 13, 2016
Guys hit it b4 u. . . . .
Another is hitting it now. . .
u can hit it again. . . . . . . .
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by keypad1: 8:39am On Jul 13, 2016
Trina0936:

Maybe they don swear for you. See your life,no wonder! undecided Accept my sympathy lipsrsealed
e pain am!

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by bobojoshua(m): 8:41am On Jul 13, 2016
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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by valarinz: 8:41am On Jul 13, 2016
zeongeon:
No girl is mandated to stick with you for ever as long as she isn't your wife.

No man who is reasonable ties his happiness or build his world around a woman or a human being.

As a man you should be bothered about building a career, pursuing a dream or running a business of yours and not being bothered about a girl....

Having in mind that she did nothing wrong breaking up with you..YES she did nothing wrong...she gave u an opportunity to face your life squarely and make something out of your life so that at the end you xn decide to date or marry either a girl or many girls from any race, tribe or religion.

You will be a big fool if you try to figure out why she left you or if you try going to beg her to win her back...You will be wise if you make up your mind at this time to put woman aside and make a life for yourself.

Finally, "In woman was sin's beginning, and because of her we all die. Allow water no outlet, and be not indulgent to an erring wife. If she walks not by your side, cut her away from you"..SIRACH 25: 23-25

Mr OP aka broken heart2016, pls come and read this asap

Go and make money, you're broke that's why she left, she sees no financial security with you, forgive that babe and make her a friend, she just helped push you to the best place ever, which is :

The money making zone,

You can either make money your next lover, Chase it, seduce it, woo it and date it marry it, or......

You can keep crying over a kitten you've hammered over the years which is close to its expiry date anyways, your choice

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by sultan003(m): 8:41am On Jul 13, 2016
BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders

boy, shit happens.......... focus on yourself and move on, you still have a lot to achieve in your life and trying to understand why she left you right now is not one of them.

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Iphesure212(m): 8:42am On Jul 13, 2016
So many soft nice guys out here undecided
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by no1madman(m): 8:46am On Jul 13, 2016
Juicysam:
As far as she is unmarried she's available to the HIGHEST BIDDER.. love is a scam my guy
Na so toto be!
I might be d next 2 hit it. . . .
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 8:47am On Jul 13, 2016
keypad1:
e pain am!
What pained me Your sisters too dey curse other men so who cares?? Oga swerve make I see road undecided

Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by tayo619: 8:53am On Jul 13, 2016
Hello, bruh..... I honestly think you should let her go... She is definitely nt the right person for you. Its better she goes now than you regretting that you married her. Kindly take heart and am sure God would provide a better person made for you......
My advice to you is that you should channel your anger, sadness and unhappiness into something greater... As u said.. Try enrolling for your HND or a degree program and be the freaking best in your chosen course, also try working smart and hard.... Godspeed, bruh

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by keypad1: 8:53am On Jul 13, 2016
Trina0936:

What pained me Your sisters too dey curse other men so who cares?? Oga swerve make I see road undecided
and your brothers don receive curses tire.....eeeya.




Guy naked yourself around 2 a.m. And curse that biiiitch

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Oyindaberry(f): 8:55am On Jul 13, 2016
keypad1:
na that day she go die if she comes back begging
Lol, guys dey para o. Abeg no kill person o.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Funkybabee(f): 8:57am On Jul 13, 2016
sorry bros,but u too do abnormal things nah. why don't u quickly finished ur HND before her, she might not want to wait for u to finish yours maybe that is why, although she also do bad thing!!!!!but u know woman don't have much time like u guys in aspect of marriage!!!


Pele a oni ri iru re mon

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by badderdandem(m): 8:57am On Jul 13, 2016
BrokenHeart2016:

my education is very important to me at the moment, the worst part of it is that I applied to her school, same faculty same course though she will graduate this year.
Lalasticlala
what course is that ,and please take heart bro you will definitely find a better person I know is hard to forget try to build up and be a better person God loves you more
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by keypad1: 9:00am On Jul 13, 2016
Oyindaberry:

Lol, guys dey para o. Abeg no kill person o.
its true na. I like being truthful. If you go dont ever come back. Dont even greet me if you see me on the road side. Na so i be.
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 9:02am On Jul 13, 2016
keypad1:
and your brothers don receive curses tire.....eeeya.




Guy naked yourself around 2 a.m. And curse that biiiitch
Not every guy is useless and stupid like you! Receive sense! undecided
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by ojuolu(m): 9:02am On Jul 13, 2016
BrokenHeart2016:
Right now my heart is heavy, am in a state of confusion I don't know what to do.On saturday I received the shock of my life through a text message from my girlfriend stating that I should move on with my life that it is over between us, at first I thought I was dreaming because I just got up from bed at exactly 7am, I ignored the text thinking it was a mistake had to shower and get ready for work. The following day which happens to be on sunday I called her and She told me that she has think about it that I should move on with my life...its over!!! I asked her what have I done to deserve such a thing from her she was unable to justify her action.
O boy, my jaw drop e be like say dem use dagger pierced my heart have never experience such thing in my life, I do read it online about how girls break up with their partner with no reason I can't believe this is happening to me. This is a girl that I really care for we met during our National Diploma program in 2012, she will be graduating this year while am about to put in for my HND.
Am not boasting about what have done for her but I just want you guys to understand my plight, I help her financially during her two years of studies pay her school fees and other miscellaneous while am still hustling. During our five years of courtship have never thought of cheating her or dump her for no reason I always make sure she's comfortable because her parents has passed. Since saturday my life have never been the same because the tone of text msg always ring on my head, am so sad right now I can't think straight anymore my boss at work notice my mood today and ask me what's up with me I had to dodge the question....till now I always look at my phone hoping to see her call or text maybe she was joking with me, I really love her so much and I always express my love to her though am not financially bouyant at the moment but I always do everything in my capacity to ensure she is Ok....there was a time i use money meant for my handouts to buy her foodstuffs and all, have sacrifice a lot for her during our academic days I finished with Lower Credit while she has Upper Credit. I'm not jealous of her success but frankly speaking I make impact in her life in general, I do see her as the mother of my kids there are a lot of plan I have for her, we always discuss this all the time. Right now she school in osun state while am hustling here in oyo state but I always travel to visit her from time to time and shower her with a lot of gifts.
Pls I need your advise on how to move on with my life because right now the thing is affecting my life I can't think straight anymore or even sleep very well. Bashing is also allowed I just want u guys to talk sense into my head.

Sorry for my grammatical blunders
Hi op, you may not get to read this but others will. I will start by telling you that relationship is a two way thing. "It takes two to tango", and the two that tango must have expectations and the expectations also have timeline. Gone is the era of love is blind...not in the present economic realities anyway, If your love have eyes defection, her can see! A woman ideally have following expectations 'ceteris paribus'; Finish secondary education (without getting pregnant), gain admission on time into higher institution, develop a fulfilling , marriage-bound relationship with a guy THAT HAS PROSPECT(prospect...not rich), graduate and get a job as not to become a burden (if possible), settle down and have a family with a man of her dream who can provide security on all fronts(socially, financially, morally, spiritually and emotionally). You might have been in her life when her expectation was at a stage where she need to develop a relationship, but you will agree with me that the expectation, like in Maslow hierarchy of needs theory, would have moved up in the past five years while you are still where you were when she met you. What she did was natural and noble. I wont blame her. She is sensible, practical, forward looking, honest and realistic. You should evaluate yourself and your life. Questions such as these should be answer by you: In the last five years, how have i improved myself? Can i sustain a family now? If yes, at what standard of living? Again when will i be ready to get married and raise kids? Where do i see myself in the next five years? All these questions are self focused. They are called critical self evaluation. Now ask again: this lady i am dating, does she fit into the 'me' now and the 'me' i see in the nearest future? This is called the evaluation of the impacts of your current and future factors on your partner(please this is equally important). She must have done an honest evaluation of herself and her future to arrive at this "painful decision". Please note, she is equally pained. At least, she has given herself emotionally, socially, psychologically and what have you. She had been trying to 'fit into you' in the past years. Please allow her to move on. Your plains are obviously no longer same.
Now i will offer you this advice. Critically evaluate yourself, identifying those areas you need to work on to be fit for a woman of your dream if you really want to be taken serious. The part i made bold in your write up were mere efforts for which you were adequately rewarded when she was with you in whatever manner you may want to look at it. Again, make a visible, concerted and realistic efforts at achieving your dream of being an ideal husband. Remember, to get an ideal partner, you have to first be an ideal partner yourself. Efforts counts for little, results matters a lot. Get results!

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by Nobody: 9:03am On Jul 13, 2016
AngelAhnie:
BrokenHeart2016 gringrin seriouslygrin your moniker is so funny to me..

Sorry about your heartbreak bro , life goes on.

What's funny about being heartbroken?

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Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by samsam2019: 9:03am On Jul 13, 2016
ADUNOKIKI:
That's human being! My suggestion to you... Visit he in Osun, don't let her be aware you are coming. May be weekend, but make sure you have money for hotel ooo.
Ask her one on one what you have done to deserve this?
Don't be violent and don't sound desperate. You have been with her for 5 years, you should read the answers in her eyes...
But don't expect anything positive from her.
She already have a replacement for you!!!


Do you use to pay her surprise visit in school before?
Do you have the key to her apartment?
so he should risk his life to go meet her?




What if he has an accident on the way? So he will die because of someone who gives no crap about him?





Avegi
Re: My Girlfriend Just Broke Our 5 Year Relationship. Pls I Need Advise!!! by samsam2019: 9:10am On Jul 13, 2016
As for you op, you no get sense. What happened to you is exactly what happened to teebilliz.




You can't pause your own life so another person's life can progress especially for a woman. Once she's fsr ahead of you she will move on.



She's done eating you now and she will spit your waste out now.



And you said you do spend on her and sponsor her education; I mean, how are you guys oriented? Do you have any sense at all? So because you're in a relationship now you have to spend on the lady? Why? Are you a boyfriend or her father?




This is the problem with guys nowadays, you believe you have to spend on your girlfriend which is 500000% wrong. Once she finds someone who can spend more she will bin you like a dirt.



You should only be with a girl who will stay with you for you. Not because of financial benefits. I trust mysel, I smashed so many poocee and I won't spend my money cos I'm not your father. If you don't want to be with me just vamoose

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