tomquest:
sammily

1) your fiancée and her mum are blood. You can literally see your wife's future in her mum today;
2) her mum is a mean, ungodly, unforgiving woman;
3) the fact that your fiancée didn't tell you anything about her dad speaks volumes about her heart. It's certainly similar to her mum's- stony, unforgiving, ungodly, devoid of pure love;
4) ask yourself, if you are nothing would your fiancée have any regard for you, considering how she treats her own biological father?
5) use your brain: doesn't the dad's behavior show evidence of diabolism hovering in that family? Wanna be part of it?
6) they say don't judge a book (your fiancée) by its cover (her family) but God is warning you now by even allowing you to read the book's 1st and Last chapter.

Judge for yourself.

I normally will not comment on NL but this one got me bro. Please listen to this angel's voice and avoid a life time mistake that can wreck you. See you at the top bro

Oh boy, troway everything wey dey ur hand, borrow leg join ur own & don't look back but keep on running till u can run no more. If u think such won't happen to u down the road, u are living in fools paradise. I was married into a family that are notoriously notorious for not staying with their husbands as against the advice of people who knows them well, guess what? 20 yrs down the road am no longer good enough for her. Monkey no dey born dog. I hope u can cut ur loses & move on. U hv been advised accordingly.

sisisioge:
Run!

My dad wasn't really there for my sis and I but he his by all means our father. Even my mom that paid almost all still respects him. Lubbish!

Word!!!!!

IMASTEX:

That is an under statement. He should vanish, disappear, wind, etc

........in addition change his identity if possible.

[size=18pt]You still refer to her as "fiancee" "my girl" You will soon submit your car and salary. [/size]

Valprof:
jezzebel

understatement of the century.
According to Baby124, treating one's father like trash, is a small thing simply because he erred at some point in his life.
Nothing surprises me on nairaland anymore. Any kind of evil, no matter how grave, will have one or two posters trying to justify or rationalize it. I now understand that some people's conscience is dead. Those are the kind of people one needs to stay as far away as possible from.

My guy, use ur tongue count you teeth oh, apple don't fall far from the tree, to be fore warned is to be for armed. It is never late to retract ur steps oh. Women are mean. Since mother-inlaw is like that what do u think she'll be teaching her daughter?
a man is always a man no matter what is not when the woman don go see baba. My advice is if you think you can handle the woman and her mother, go ahead but if you're having any doubt about the whole thing, cancel shhhaaarrrpppplllyyyy

tsamson:
Keep calm

*Modified*

and this thing made Fp?








Anyway, Tsamson Was Here

yur comment is like the ueue in Queue. IRRELEVANT. sometimes it is better to be quiet and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt that you are one

Omo you better run else na you go be their gardener

if u are my brother or church member, you can't marry her....The girl will have the mentality that that's how a nan should be treated. Guy run for your love

Try nd find out wht is really goin on from their neighbours, I dont tink d excuses ur fiancee give are genuine. But I will not advise u to marry d lady, cos she nd d moda will av control over ur life.

Irishrena1:
OP my dad died after a protracted illness which was hushed. He had another woman living with him who of course was not his wife because my mom is his only wife and he never remarried. Upon his death people said had he been with us all the whole he was sick, he very likely wouldn't have died from that sickness whatever it was. Obviously he was maltreated and all what not in the hands of the other woman just because he wanted to obey his mother and leave my mom. Just imagine if his tale is something similar to this and imagine if he's even better off with your fiancee's mom right now. Just maintain a level head first and investigate. I'm not taking anybody's side, I'm just saying that things might not always be the way they seem.

I hope it wasn't your mum's excess love for your dad that made his mother persuade him to leave her for another woman.

sammily:
Please I want people to help me out here. I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 months last 2 week ago and we agreed to visit her home last Sunday. I have always dropped her off around the place but I have never entered the house because I wasn't yet ready to meet the parent because we were just dating then and I wasn't yet sure that she was the one for me. Meanwhile all these while, My girl was only referring to her mum so I subconsciously concluded that the father is late. So last Sunday, I got to their house at Agege pen Cinema and what I saw was very sad. I saw a man looking so haggard in the sitting room and I greeted him, He answered in a very low tone and welcomed me. My girls mum soon came out to the sitting room and also greeted me. We exchanged pleasantries before my girl came out to join us in the discuss. At a point my girls mum brought out money and asked the haggard man to go and buy fuel to power the generator for me so that Heat will not disturb me.

We discussed at length after the man left. To cut the long story short, After the meeting we fixed another date for the second meeting that I was supposed to attend with a family member. When I was about leaving, I gave them some money and some to the man and he fell on his knees thanking me as if he has never owned N1000 in his entire life. When my girl was seeing me off, I asked her who the man was and lo and behold, it was her father. I couldn't believe my ears. it was like a rude joke. it was unbelievable. She must has sensed my confusion before she started telling me stories of how the man maltreated her mum when he had money, how he married another wife who squandered all his money and left them in penury. She said he used to beat her mum and all sorts which I cannot write here.

Since that Sunday till now, I've had no peace of mind, I've been thinking and imagining how a right thinking woman and her daughter can comfortably relegate the man of the house to a mere houseboy. That Sunday, the man was wearing a torn knicker and a white singlet that I won't even use to clean my car. Even my wife to be hushed him down when he came back and wanted to keep the fuel change to himself. Something is wrong somewhere, a woman who could treat her husband like this no matter what he did in the past is scary. I have not even picked her calls since that Sunday evening. I am scared and I don't know what to do next.

give the rltnshp more time, dnt rush into married wif her. U wud find out the truth.

Lightening:


Holding brief for the obviously evil mother and daughter. Have'nt you seen how their well justified revenge is helping the daughter's life? That seemingly useless man is carrying the daughter's blessing somewhere in his loins. If he dies maltreated and perhaps cursing the daughter, her own case is sealed. Honor thy father and thy mother includes bad ones.

You are talking to the wrong person bro.

I don't buy into that horseshit.

sammily:
Please I want people to help me out here. I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 months last 2 week ago and we agreed to visit her home last Sunday. I have always dropped her off around the place but I have never entered the house because I wasn't yet ready to meet the parent because we were just dating then and I wasn't yet sure that she was the one for me. Meanwhile all these while, My girl was only referring to her mum so I subconsciously concluded that the father is late. So last Sunday, I got to their house at Agege pen Cinema and what I saw was very sad. I saw a man looking so haggard in the sitting room and I greeted him, He answered in a very low tone and welcomed me. My girls mum soon came out to the sitting room and also greeted me. We exchanged pleasantries before my girl came out to join us in the discuss. At a point my girls mum brought out money and asked the haggard man to go and buy fuel to power the generator for me so that Heat will not disturb me.

We discussed at length after the man left. To cut the long story short, After the meeting we fixed another date for the second meeting that I was supposed to attend with a family member. When I was about leaving, I gave them some money and some to the man and he fell on his knees thanking me as if he has never owned N1000 in his entire life. When my girl was seeing me off, I asked her who the man was and lo and behold, it was her father. I couldn't believe my ears. it was like a rude joke. it was unbelievable. She must has sensed my confusion before she started telling me stories of how the man maltreated her mum when he had money, how he married another wife who squandered all his money and left them in penury. She said he used to beat her mum and all sorts which I cannot write here.

Since that Sunday till now, I've had no peace of mind, I've been thinking and imagining how a right thinking woman and her daughter can comfortably relegate the man of the house to a mere houseboy. That Sunday, the man was wearing a torn knicker and a white singlet that I won't even use to clean my car. Even my wife to be hushed him down when he came back and wanted to keep the fuel change to himself. Something is wrong somewhere, a woman who could treat her husband like this no matter what he did in the past is scary. I have not even picked her calls since that Sunday evening. I am scared and I don't know what to do next.

You should be scared! I'll share a similar experience: My girlfriend's brother walked past us on the street and she didn't think he's worth an introduction, her reason: He's lazy nonentity who wouldn't make himself useful by embracing a trade/career, he hangs out with street urchins and brings disrepute to the family name. I was like "no matter what, he's still your brother, blood is thicker than water!" At that moment I had the reality check, that my girl isn't really a good person, a good person who claimed to be a born-again wouldn't ignore/snub anyone, not a family in the least. To cut long story short, a year after, a good business opportunity fell into her brother's laps, he got an SUV, rented a flat and all that. So we broke up, because other negative aspect of her character became apparent and I tacitly pulled away, but we still remain friends. We were walking on her street after I paid her a visit, and she pointed to her brother's car, and yelled "that's xxxxx's new car!". I silently made a prayer, "Thank you Father for making me dodge this bullet"

Don't propose to your girl until you know her family and friends, being born-again doesn't cut it these days.

Lightening:


I hope it wasn't your mum's excess love for your dad that made his mother persuade him to leave her for another woman.

Why don't we ask the gods? Just pray it doesn't happen to you first hand so you can answer your own questions. Bless you

chiefolododo:
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE

follow this advice. Forget the ring

@op, run!

before u run try having a conversation with the Father... but still run oo

If don't lv her, yours will b worse, u go wash pant, no matter what d man did he didn't warrant such humilation,. They did it in your present, my bro, yoruba will say " tete ya ba ese e soro"

You want investigate shey Continue.....
Na dat time hand go meet you!!!

Guy I don't pray to ever be in your shoes!!! please run for your life...I know men can be stupid at times, no matter d sin d man as committed no rite thinking human being should treat her father like dat...u don't need to investigate anything just Run Run..Go to God nd pray.i pray God will guide u.plllllleeassse Run as fast as your leg can carry u.

Run Niccur Run. Run and never look back. Never ever pick her callvagain if possible.
The truth of the matter is she had the chance to give a good defense of what you saw but couldn't because her mind is already poisoned by her mother and if you marry her, you are indirectly getting married to her mum.
The man has been charmed and its a sad event.

God revealed that secret to you for a purpose.

For them to have treated that man like that in your presence is a clear indication that they are mean, ruthless and heartless and they would do anything, I repeat anything to destroy anyone.

No need to pray about this one. . your prayers have yielded results already.

Congrats and once again Run Run

Askseek:
Borrow 8 legs join the 2 u have and run for your life. Don't look back oh.

Well, fear a woman who lacks empathy. My conscience can never allow me do such... Op if you marry her, just pray to b on top of your game always cos she will definitely maltreat you once u turn helpless...

Bros... Try and spend some time with that man and find his own part of the story,



His experience might be helpful to you, You can also be God sent to that man.... Cos I see diabolical spirit in that family.... Bros... Also be very prayerful if you intend finding out more information from the man.

It's well.... Some Women get mind oooo...

.... Op... Pls talk to that man....

Run for your dear life, is all i will tell you

Godmother:
OP,

You've been to that house just once and even though you saw a lot, most times things are not always as they seem. I won't support your fiancee and her mom's attitude but at the same time I wouldn't advice you to take hasty decisions. Take out time to investigate the situation some more. Spend more time with the family and subtly dig for information before drawing your conclusions.

*****
In reference to the bolded words...no more tym spending...

Signs re staring u in d face but u say no..You want a direct miracle like Gideon...

OP, 2 many comments telling u to run...so, am not going tell u dat.
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My advice is that you disappear...be a magician..pull an Abracadabra on her A$s...

Op, having seen this, do you need to even come here to ask? That is just an example of how your life MUST turn to if you get married to that girl. God just blessed you to be there when the man was around in order to show you how you will look like after the marriage. Even if the man was wicked then, the treatment you witnessed was just to open your eyes how your tomorrow will/MUST be.

Get out now and never consider any kind of sympathy for her.

freecocoa:
You are talking to the wrong person bro.

I don't buy into that horseshit.

I am only teaching you life lessons. You desperately need it going by your posts which make you strike me as one of such carefree entities that pay little attention to the principles of life but will start screaming the devil when the evil consequences of their actions come calling.

My guy run when you still can. If what you really said is true, bro congratulations, God has helped you divert evil. The justification your fiance gave is so weak and watery, he married another wife, he used to beat them, first of all it may all be lies to justify the evil they are doing, if true, the mum should have divorced the man and run and even if she stayed she must have stayed cos she loved the man and then what is the need for humiliating the man.

sammily:
Please I want people to help me out here. I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 months last 2 week ago and we agreed to visit her home last Sunday. I have always dropped her off around the place but I have never entered the house because I wasn't yet ready to meet the parent because we were just dating then and I wasn't yet sure that she was the one for me. Meanwhile all these while, My girl was only referring to her mum so I subconsciously concluded that the father is late. So last Sunday, I got to their house at Agege pen Cinema and what I saw was very sad. I saw a man looking so haggard in the sitting room and I greeted him, He answered in a very low tone and welcomed me. My girls mum soon came out to the sitting room and also greeted me. We exchanged pleasantries before my girl came out to join us in the discuss. At a point my girls mum brought out money and asked the haggard man to go and buy fuel to power the generator for me so that Heat will not disturb me.

We discussed at length after the man left. To cut the long story short, After the meeting we fixed another date for the second meeting that I was supposed to attend with a family member. When I was about leaving, I gave them some money and some to the man and he fell on his knees thanking me as if he has never owned N1000 in his entire life. When my girl was seeing me off, I asked her who the man was and lo and behold, it was her father. I couldn't believe my ears. it was like a rude joke. it was unbelievable. She must has sensed my confusion before she started telling me stories of how the man maltreated her mum when he had money, how he married another wife who squandered all his money and left them in penury. She said he used to beat her mum and all sorts which I cannot write here.

Since that Sunday till now, I've had no peace of mind, I've been thinking and imagining how a right thinking woman and her daughter can comfortably relegate the man of the house to a mere houseboy. That Sunday, the man was wearing a torn knicker and a white singlet that I won't even use to clean my car. Even my wife to be hushed him down when he came back and wanted to keep the fuel change to himself. Something is wrong somewhere, a woman who could treat her husband like this no matter what he did in the past is scary. I have not even picked her calls since that Sunday evening. I am scared and I don't know what to do next.

The writing is on the wall for you already, if i may ask, how you take know say na she be your future wife? The bible is against what they're doing to that man so no matter what.