You offered ur father flight ticket, accommodation to attend his son's funeral in his inlaw's place! My brother it's not okay for ur father to accept such offer. It would have been better to put the burial on hold and reach a compromise on where to bury the young man. The family should put an end to this media fight and allow the soul of the young man to rest in peace.

manny4life:


If you can shamelessly open your open and utter these words considering the pain they're going through, I can only ask God to have mercy on you. Before you type rubbish, please endeavor to read. As far as I'm concerned, a marriage that was divorced 30 years ago and the estranged father all of a sudden surfaced right now, deserves all the treatment he gets.

“Buwa and I were the product of a short and abusive marriage that ended almost 30 years ago. To a man with many other wives and children. Stella Oduah is the only father, mother, carer and provider that my brother has ever known. The Oduah family is the only Family that he has ever been part of and Akili Ozizo in Anambra state is the only hometown he has ever had.

“I called Mr Satchie and the Etoromi family to inform them immediately my brother passed. I offered flights, accommodation and special care for him or the representatives of the family throughout the funeral. I offered to build a relationship and have a new start.

“I was happy and optimistic. But i was wrong. Instead of asking about his dead son, he proceeded to use my brothers passing as an excuse to shamelessly insult my mother just like he is doing now, issue death threats and even ask for dowry from almost 30 years ago.

That is one side of the story , have you heard what the father has to say in defence of these allegations

Inspectahdeck:
Kids should never get involved in parent fight. Never take sides, because nobody knows the true except their parents.

wisest comment on NL dis year......u deserve an award.....ok,barman,sama dis man 2 cold small bottles of blackwood and erm erm erm 1 smal dried smoke fish

Pidggin:


I wonder about your root. You seem to blame the woman for everything, are you not in touch with your feminine side or are you a male? It's either one of the two although I think you are female but don't understand yourself

I am for justice and upright. I don't support evil. A woman hurriedly burying a son without consulting the biological father is pure evil.

She buried a son to another man in her father's compound. Why didn't she take the son to be buried in her maternal home and disgrace her father too.

freshvine:


In igbo land, an emissary will be sent to the man to officially inform him that his son living with his ex wife is dead. Whether he was an absentee Dad it doesn't matter, he properly married the woman and she bore him a son.

The man will take a delegation to the in law place, do whatever they ask him to do and take his son for burial.

Case closed.

In Igbo land, If the marriage crash,and the woman return to his fathers house for a very long time, the children have right to be assimilated into the kindred of his mother and they will be giving land to build their house and be buried if don't don't wish to go back to their father's place

StOla:
Some fathers are useless, I don't blame the boy 1 bit.

Will Jamaal the son of Tiwa ever be proud of his useless father?

Was Ryan Giggs not born as Ryan Wilson? Yet he rejected the useless name of a useless father, and embraced his mother's name declaring himself to be his mother's child. Boy, did he make that name proud.

Yeah, he did by having affair with his Younger brother's wife for almost a decade

HungerBAD:
Just like that.

The man has just officially lost his children. And for this young man running his mouth,one day in the East he will be asked to "POINT OUT HIS FATHER'S HOUSE" there.

Which father's house?! Did u read his statement at all!! Forget sentiments abeg! If a man abandons his responsibilities, then his kid/s have a right to denounce him!


U don't reap where u never sowed!

“Life is serious. It is not a Nollywood movie. This is madness. This is evil. This is defamation. This is attention seeking. This is opportunism. This is shamelessness. This is jealousy. This is abnormal. This is bitterness. This is shocking!

Arueme... See what an African child is calling his father in public?

What has gone wrong with Africans? How do the youngman expect his father, a pure African breed to accept having his son buried in his wife's place instead of his own place? Well their business sha

Pidggin:


I wonder about your root. You seem to blame the woman for everything, are you not in touch with your feminine side or are you a male? It's either one of the two although I think you are female but don't understand yourself

[/b]That guy is a male tribal bigot using female Monica[b], don't mind him.Go through his post in other threads.

freshvine:


In igbo land, an emissary will be sent to the man to officially inform him that his son living with his ex wife is dead. Whether he was an absentee Dad it doesn't matter, he properly married the woman and she bore him a son.

The man will take a delegation to the in law place, do whatever they ask him to do and take his son for burial.

Case closed.

You're right that's what in-laws (ogo) do but not IF the man divorced his wife and has taken the dowry paid. If this is the case, the children would be given their own land away from their father's land or go to their mother's house. Biko, this is not omenenu, go and ask any elder what that means.

However, before emissaries are sent, your immediate in-law to whom this is affected would have reached out to the family FIRST. In this case, the father shouldn't have waited for emissaries considering it may take up to a week or more, he should have left for his wife's place immediately hearing the news. Obugho so ofu onye nwe nwa (it's not only one person that owns a child).

Like I explained before, he did not have to contact Stella or even the kids, all he needed to do was go with his kinsman (Umunna) or delegate someone to know if the news is true. That's what EVERY immediate in-law does. After confirming that it's true, then the wife's family would send emissaries to "formally" inform the husband's family (him, his family and kinsmen), who would confer with them on how to proceed with funeral rites. You can't wait for a whole week for your in-laws who're in grief to immediately dispatch emissaries to all their in-laws, it does not work like that. Go and ask any elder if what I say is true.

freshvine:


I am for justice and upright. I don't support evil. A woman hurriedly burying a son without consulting the biological father is pure evil.

She buried a son to another man in her father's compound. Why didn't she take the son to be buried in her maternal home and disgrace her father too.

The only evil being in the story is the father who abandoned his kids for over 30 years. This means he wasn't there when they were sick, he wasn't there when they were going through uncertainties, he wasn't there while they were teenagers, he wasn't there...

She can't take her son's corpse to his father's compound because the dad is more or less a stranger to his kids. There's no point explaining this to you as it appears you may not have the capacity to understand.

You can live in your cocoon as long as you like my dear, Stella Oduah has buried her son in her father's compound, if you are not ready to go and remove the corpse and transfer it his father's compound, I suggest you sponsor a bill against her action or you take the matter to court

CandyDiamond:

In Igbo land, If the marriage crash,and the woman return to his fathers house for a very long time, the children have right to be assimilated into the kindred of his mother and they will be giving land to build their house and be buried if don't don't wish to go back to their father's place

Sorry.
thats a big lie.
Igbo land, one day he will b reminded that he is a bastard.
No traditional title for him or regards.

Growing up, I thought money could heal every wound
I thought being rich would take away every pain but Oh'Boy, THE RICH ALSO CRY (NOT TEARS BUT BLOOD)
God heal their wound
God forgive the boy and everyone reading

CandyDiamond:

[/b]That guy is a male tribal bigot using female Monica[b], don't mind him.Go through his post in other threads.

No wonder, I was just wasting my time

CandyDiamond:

In Igbo land, If the marriage crash,and the woman return to his fathers house for a very long time, the children have right to be assimilated into the kindred of his mother and they will be giving land to build their house and be buried if don't don't wish to go back to their father's place

Umunna is the highest organ of family unit in igbo land. That young man won't be admitted.

It is better if a member of umuada has a love child son at home that will bear her father's name than one where a divorcee run back to her father's compound with legitimate children of another man.

Make no mistake, Stella Oduah script what that young man read to the public cos he won't do it without her authorisation. It was a perfect ploy to give substance to their evil action. She's a politician

TonyeBarcanista:

Arueme... See what an African child is calling his father in public?

What has gone wrong with Africans? How do the youngman expect his father, a pure African breed to accept having his son buried in his wife's place instead of his own place? Well their business sha

It depend on the condition of things, if the father abandon his children up to 30 years ago only to surface at the death of one them, put yourself in their shoes, is only the person that wear a shoe no where it pains, it is easy to override some issues if you where not directly involve.

neoapocalypse:



That is one side of the story , have you heard what the father has to say in defence of these allegations

The father did not have to say anything, mere stating that he wasn't informed whereas his own biological son called him shows the kind of person he is. Nothing further.

some people here sha did u people hear the young man? that the so called father start bringing death treat asking for the dowry of almost 30yrs someone who claimed to lost a son. for crying out loud this guy is old enough to know that the father should ve come for them he never show up or ask for them for over 20yrs if he even see the son will he recognize him? the man is shameless let the truth be told if I happened to be the young man I will even do more than that

freshvine:


In igbo land, an emissary will be sent to the man to officially inform him that his son living with his ex wife is dead. Whether he was an absentee Dad it doesn't matter, he properly married the woman and she bore him a son.

The man will take a delegation to the in law place, do whatever they ask him to do and take his son for burial.

Case closed.

Even a teenager knows that if I call you on phone and inform you that I just paid 10 million naira into your account and later you go on media and tell the world that you didn't know that I paid money into your account, then you must be full of mischief and a bloody liar. That's the case here. Let's call evil evil. When I saw the news that the man didn't know about that guy's death, I was stunned, only to now hear that he was informed. I hate people being mischievous.

CandyDiamond:

[/b]That guy is a male tribal bigot using female Monica[b], don't mind him.Go through his post in other threads.

Whatever makes you feel better

Yes you are a Bastar.d!

ikp120:


Even a teenager knows that if I call you on phone and inform you that I just paid 10 million naira into your account and later you go on media and tell the world that you didn't know that I paid money into your account, then you must be full of mischief and a bloody liar. That's the case here. Let's call evil evil. When I saw the news that the man didn't know about that guy's death, I was stunned, only to now hear that he was informed. I hate people being mischievous.

When you want to marry, call your dad on phone and invite him to your wedding. With all things being equal if he attends, I change my surname.... It's a promise

freshvine:


Umunna is the highest organ of family unit in igbo land. That young man won't be admitted.

It is better if a member of umuada has a love child son at home that will bear her father's name than one where a divorcee run back to her father's compound with legitimate children of another man.

Make no mistake, Stella Oduah script what that young man read to the public cos he won't do it without her authorisation. It was a perfect ploy to give substance to their evil action. She's a politician

Oh so you know that Umunna is the highest organ of the family? Admitted to what exactly? Were the umunna not present when the man came to marry/divorce Stella the traditional way? Ogini bu isi okwu gi because I don't understand you. When a son is involved, the father would give a piece of land to his son's and/or the son returns to the mother's side if he wish. I'm from Nnewi, Anambra state and that's how it's done. So were you from so that I know how your culture does it.

..... I don surrender for dis kind Family Scandal !......

CandyDiamond:

It depend on the condition of things, if the father abandon his children up to 30 years ago only to surface at the death of one them, put yourself in their shoes, is only the person that wear a shoe no where it pains, it is easy to override some issues if you where not directly involve.

Bro, who told you the man "abandoned" the children? You could say the woman moved out with the children.

As an African man, the man paid dowry of the woman in 1984, and tradition demands that his offsprings MUST be buried in his compound. It doesn't matter whether or not they had lived with his wife for 30years or 100 years.

Let us not turn against the truth simply because some rich woman is involved. The act of Stella is abominable and may spell doom in the land.

pring:

Sorry.
thats a big lie.
Igbo land, one day he will b reminded that he is a bastard.
No traditional title for him or regards.

You dont know what you are talking about,I am talking of Anambra state, Aniocha LGA, your own side may be different. Their is an adage in my place that says that "ozo chio nwadiana o gbanaa igwu nne ye" meaning that if they persue a child in his fathers place he will run to his mothers kindred for integration. Nobody will ask them in the feature of all those things,they will bear the name of their mothers family. A rite will be performed on them by the kindred for assimilation, when they finish eating and performing the rite that is final

freshvine:


When you want to marry, call your dad on phone and invite him to your wedding. With all things being equal if he attends, I change my surname.... It's a promise

Nne go to bed, I doubt you have any idea on Igbo tradition. This scenario is quite different because your dad and his kinsmen are the ones going with you to pay the bride price. Absolutely different.

deltapikin:
You offered ur father flight ticket, accommodation to attend his son's funeral in his inlaw's place! My brother it's not okay for ur father to accept such offer. It would have been better to put the burial on hold and reach a compromise on where to bury the young man. The family should put an end to this media fight and allow the soul of the young man to rest in peace.

From the fathers statement and from this young man's rant, seems like legal custody was granted to the ex senator now minister.

If I am correct, the question we should be asking Lawyers in the house is: ''does this custody still exist as the boy is dead? If it does, then she has the right to even bury him in USA.

manny4life:


You're right that's what in-laws (ogo) do but not IF the man divorced his wife and has taken the dowry paid. If this is the case, the children would be given their own land away from their father's land or go to their mother's house. Biko, this is not omenenu, go and ask any elder what that means.

However, before emissaries are sent, your immediate in-law to whom this is affected would have reached out to the family FIRST. In this case, the father shouldn't have waited for emissaries considering it may take up to a week or more, he should have left for his wife's place immediately hearing the news. Obugho so ofu onye nwe nwa (it's not only one person that owns a child).

Like I explained before, he did not have to contact Stella or even the kids, all he needed to do was go with his kinsman (Umunna) or delegate someone to know if the news is true. That's what EVERY immediate in-law does. After confirming that it's true, then the wife's family would send emissaries to "formally" inform the husband's family (him, his family and kinsmen), who would confer with them on how to proceed with funeral rites. You can't wait for a whole week for your in-laws who're in grief to immediately dispatch emissaries to all their in-laws, it does not work like that. Go and ask any elder if what I say is true.

In igbo land children belongs to the man. If you like divorce, hence bride price is paid, whatever comes out of the marriage belongs to the man before the marriage breaks.

Igbo men can never return bride price and return children as well

CandyDiamond:

You dont know what you are talking about,I am talking of Anambra state, Aniocha LGA, your own side may be different. Their is an adage in my place that says that "ozo chio nwadiana o gbanaa igwu nne ye" meaning that if they persue a child in his fathers place he will run to his mothers kindred for integration. Nobody will ask them in the feature of all those things,they will bear the name of their mothers family. A rite will be performed on them by the kindred for assimilation, when they finish eating and performing the rite that is final

Gbam... I just said the same thing because that's how it's done in Nnewi as well.

ikp120:


Even a teenager knows that if I call you on phone and inform you that I just paid 10 million naira into your account and later you go on media and tell the world that you didn't know that I paid money into your account, then you must be full of mischief and a bloody liar. That's the case here. Let's call evil evil. When I saw the news that the man didn't know about that guy's death, I was stunned, only to now hear that he was informed. I hate people being mischievous.

My brother, you don't inform elders through phone call in such matters. Can you make official demand to you boss through phone call? That is highly informal.

Ideally, Stella Oduah was supposed to carry along elders to her exHusband's place and properly inform him. You don't tell a kid to call his father and consider in such matters.

freshvine:


Umunna is the highest organ of family unit in igbo land. That young man won't be admitted.

It is better if a member of umuada has a love child son at home that will bear her father's name than one where a divorcee run back to her father's compound with legitimate children of another man.

Make no mistake, Stella Oduah script what that young man read to the public cos he won't do it without her authorisation. It was a perfect ploy to give substance to their evil action. She's a politician

I like you.

Wondering why I have not noticed your intelligent write ups before.

You should write more.

Your knowledge and intelligence from all your replies here is astounding.

See Crushing.

Okay I am adding you to my list of friends here. Everybody I follow have one thing in common.

Intelligence.