It all started in a bus station ten months ago. I was waiting at the station to board a bus from PH to Calabar, when suddenly this lady appeared. She was and still is one of the most attractive women I have ever seen. Talking about looks, she had everything: very tall (about 5ft 11), perfectly aligned front and back elevation, glowing skin, perfect dentition, etc. When she walked, her hips had this lazy movement that aroused every sexual passion within me. Fortunately or unfortunately, when we finally boarded the bus to begin our journey, she was sitting right beside me! Applying all the toasting skills I knew, I started a conversation and we jisted all through the nearly four-hour journey. In the end, we exchange phone numbers and parted ways. That night I put a call through to her and after talking on phone for a number of days, she agreed to visit. As envisaged, the first day of her visit ended in bed, and after several rounds of …, we slept; she ended up spending four days on that occasion. From then on, we practically lived together, doing everything together. I have been quite very happy in this relationship and I believe she has too.

Recently however, she has been suggesting that I go and see her parents to formalize the relationship. She has most of the qualities I want, and ordinarily I wouldn’t have any objection to her suggestion. But as I consider marriage more serious business that ordinary relationship, I went behind to carry out independent checks of her past and what I found out are not positive at all. She was quite loose. It’s so bad that if she were to pass through the street she lived when she was growing up, she will be sure to run into several men she had either slept with or used to sleep with.

Now even though I have been happy in my relationship with this woman, I cannot marry her because of where she is coming from. Her past is too much for me. I can’t imagine being married to a woman I can’t comfortably walk on the road with without running into one man or the other she used to Bleep. So I have made up my mind to end it all. She doesn’t know yet that I want to leave and I know she is going feel hurt when it happens. Now I don’t have anything personal against her and do not wish to hurt her, if it  is avoidable; so  my dilemma is how to end all this in way that she will not feel hurt or at least in a way that the hurt will be reduced. Or perhaps is it best to try and forgive her past? I really need suggestions here cos I need to move on and get my life back on track.

Im sure if you walk through some streets you will bump into 5 or more girls that you used to get down with so you are a used product too with a past. Fecking double standards. The nerve of some people

megacity:

I really need suggestions here cos I need to move on and get my life back on track.

You have made up your mind already so what other suggestions do you need please leave her alone if you can't handle it

P.s Sorry o but what did you expect from a girl you slept with on the first date

@Poster,

So u dont want her no more cause she had slept with other men in the past? How about you? Did you slept with other ladies in the past? Does that means you are seeking towards marrying a virgin instead?

I want you to remember one thing. . . On this earth, its not easy finding the right partner with the kind of qualities and preferences which you are looking for. U leave her and you should expect not to meet another girl with the same qualities as hers.

Bro why didn’t you carry out those investigations before u started sleeping with her. And you failed to give us the report of your own background check, need that to advice you appropriately.

OAM4J:

Bro why didn’t you carry out those investigations before u started sleeping with her. And you failed to give us the report of your own background check, need that to advice you appropriately.

I wonder oo

megacity:

It all started in a bus station ten months ago. I was waiting at the station to board a bus from PH to Calabar, when suddenly this lady appeared. She was and still is one of the most attractive women I have ever seen. Talking about looks, she had everything: very tall (about 5ft 11), perfectly aligned front and back elevation, glowing skin, perfect dentition, etc. When she walked, her hips had this lazy movement that aroused every sexual passion within me. Fortunately or unfortunately, when we finally boarded the bus to begin our journey, she was sitting right beside me! Applying all the toasting skills I knew, I started a conversation and we jisted all through the nearly four-hour journey. In the end, we exchange phone numbers and parted ways. That night I put a call through to her and after talking on phone for a number of days, she agreed to visit. As envisaged, the first day of her visit ended in bed, and after several rounds of …, we slept; she ended up spending four days on that occasion. From then on, we practically lived together, doing everything together. I have been quite very happy in this relationship and I believe she has too.

Recently however, she has been suggesting that I go and see her parents to formalize the relationship. She has most of the qualities I want, and ordinarily I wouldn’t have any objection to her suggestion. But as I consider marriage more serious business that ordinary relationship, I went behind to carry out independent checks of her past and what I found out are not positive at all. She was quite loose. It’s so bad that if she were to pass through the street she lived when she was growing up, she will be sure to run into several men she had either slept with or used to sleep with.

Now even though I have been happy in my relationship with this woman, I cannot marry her because of where she is coming from. Her past is too much for me. I can’t imagine being married to a woman I can’t comfortably walk on the road with without running into one man or the other she used to mess. So I have made up my mind to end it all. She doesn’t know yet that I want to leave and I know she is going feel hurt when it happens. Now I don’t have anything personal against her and do not wish to hurt her, if it  is avoidable; so  my dilemma is how to end all this in way that she will not feel hurt or at least in a way that the hurt will be reduced. Or perhaps is it best to try and forgive her past? I really need suggestions here cos I need to move on and get my life back on track.

SHATAAAP DIAAA! u dey for calabar dey talk say she was very loose, wetin u bin dey expect? as e bin dey sweet u wen una dey do am, no bi from practicing she for take learn am? u neva talk ur church mind

@OAM4J

Detailed investigation was not necessary at the beginning because marriage was not in view at the time

As for my own background check: yes I had some relationships before I met her, but still I do not expect the woman I marry to have a long chain of ex-boyfriends. See, every single woman that hopes to marry in future has a duty live the kind of life that that her husband would be proud of when they eventually meet. The number of EXs in this case is many and I don’t appreciate that at all

Anyway, the issue now is how to end it all without much hurt

megacity:

@OAM4J

Detailed investigation was not necessary at the beginning because marriage was not in view at the time

As for my own background check: yes I had some relationships before I met her, but still I do not expect the woman I marry to have a long chain of ex-boyfriends. See, every single woman that hopes to marry in future has a duty live the kind of life that that her husband would be proud of when they eventually meet. The number of EXs in this case is many and I don’t appreciate that at all

Anyway, the issue now is how to end it all without much hurt

very simple, u jump into the river and drown, i promise she will find another person that will accept her

megacity:

@OAM4J

Detailed investigation was not necessary at the beginning because marriage was not in view at the time

As for my own background check: yes I had some relationships before I met her, but still I do not expect the woman I marry to have a long chain of ex-boyfriends. See, every single woman that hopes to marry in future has a duty live the kind of life that that her husband would be proud of when they eventually meet. The number of EXs in this case is many and I don’t appreciate that at all

Anyway, the issue now is how to end it all without much hurt

There is no way it will not hurt, that is why u should have done your investigation b4 poking her. Just tell her the truth; according to the investigation you carried out on her, she has been disqualified. Then manage whatever comes out of the announcement including your conscience.

please send the gurls phone number to my email address (in my profile), it appears you dont need her anymore. oloooshi!

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please send the gurls phone number to my email address (in my profile), it appears you dont need her anymore. oloooshi!

Na fight

Gabry:

@Poster,

So u dont want her no more cause she had slept with other men in the past? How about you? Did you slept with other ladies in the past? Does that means you are seeking towards marrying a virgin instead?

I want you to remember one thing. . . On this earth, its not easy finding the right partner with the kind of qualities and preferences which you are looking for. U leave her and you should expect not to meet another girl with the same qualities as hers.

Dont mind him.You should be happy and lucky that she wants to marry you.People change,and am sure she has changed.

Pweety4me:

Wat a selfish human being. . .u only care about urself so y did u sleep with her then?did she force u or did she push herself onto u?pple have worser pasts than that but u need 2 realise it's called a past 4 a reason because it was then dis is now. . . did u even love dis gurl?tell me wat did u have 4 her?

no mind the guy. same thing I told him.

Exactly. . . .i tire for this poster o! what if the gurl tells you that she has had ehm like 10 - 20 abortions in the past - after you don marry am?

Quite frankly dude, even though you kinda deserve some mudslinging for hypocritically joining the pool of men who have walloped the girl's virtue, if her past is too much burden for you to bear, don't bother knotting it up with her.

C2H5OH:

Quite frankly dude, even though you kinda deserve some mudslinging for hypocritically joining the pool of men who have walloped the girl's virtue, if her past is too much burden for you to bear, don't bother knotting it up with her.

so who is he leaving the left over for? 

@poster
U cn drop her since u notice dis bt her past is nothing as long as she has changed. Bt if she's still loose,then u hv d absolute right wt clear conscience to drop her.
Finally,u nid to verify wat caused her waywardness wheda it is money,high sexual libido,emotional problem or possessed. Frm ths u wl nw b able to knw if u cn change her bt remember dat judging frm her past is nt a reason to end a relation because even som prostitutes makes a beta wife and morally strong afta marriage.

@ poster,
my brother, the past is the past. if u love this girl like u claim, you will forgive her past and move on. that is if she has shown a great deal of change since she met u. we all have pasts-however murky and shameful it might seem. do u think God looks at our past deeds before he forgives us? also, can u claim that u have not slept with a staggering number of women? my guy, there is no saint anymore these days. we are all trying to be the best we can be. recognise love and embrace it.

What's this? Another 'it's a man's world thing'

It's okay for you to have a past but God-forbid she does too!

Why do you have to bother about her past when you are perfectly happy with who she is now

@poster if u really love dis gurl,u will not even think of hurting her despite her past,4rm wat u said u,maybe she has changed and wats 2 settle down wit u cos she saw smthg she didnt see in orders.so just keep calm,pretend as if nothing happen,spy on her and see really if she has changed so dat u will know ur next move.but remember 2 err is human and to 4give divine.

@poster if u really love dis gurl,u will not even think of hurting her despite her past,4rm wat u said u,maybe she has changed and wats 2 settle down wit u cos she saw smthg she didnt see in orders.so just keep calm,pretend as if nothing happen,spy on her and see really if she has changed so dat u will know ur next move.but remember 2 err is human and to 4give divine.

Except your a virgin. . .then HUSH dude!

ThoniaSlim:

Except your a virgin. . .then HUSH dude!

did u read his post and his reply to a post? he is no where close to being a virgin

The reason why I said he should F the hell up!

@ OP
You write very well. . .your description is just hmmm. You should start posting on the lit sec.

na2day?:

so who is he leaving the left over for? 

Some unfortunate guy who probably thinks he's found a gem.  abi you want am?

To be fair to her, she's not a bad girl. She just has a lotta mileage on her.

Well buddy,look at it this way-at least you know where she's coming from.
Better to marry the devil that you know.
Don't get tied down with the past-you know why? Because almost everyone has a story to tell.

C2H5OH:

Some unfortunate guy who probably thinks he's found a gem.  abi you want am?

To be fair to her, she's not a bad girl. She just has a lotta mileage on her.

cars with too much mileage always gives problems and they dont last especially when abused by previous owners

Tell me how her past defines her future.
You are just a joke that doesn't deserve anything good in life.
Why didn't you carry out the research before you started sticking your dick? So you are now comfortable adding to the statistics of men she has slept with.

Funny thing is you keep hammering that the relationship is very good and all but still you are afraid to take the step further.
I am so mad right now that i just wanna slap you silly. Utter rubbish