Kenny_G:

Likewise I think that formula needs to be a function of time

whitelexi:

Are u trying to tell me something?

smooooooth:


me think u deserve each other.

Ujujoan:

Okay! But maybe next time you should wait till your opinion is sought!
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meant that as a joke, anyway watever

No2Atheism:

@poster

This is exactly the problem I have with issues related to pre-marital sex . . . if you sleep around then its hypocritical to expect that the woman is a virgin.

1. That you were able to sleep with her on the first date is enough evidence for you to realise that something was not right.

2. There is no way you are going to break up with a girl that is not going to hurt.

3. Do you know your HIV status before sleeping with.

4. Do you know whether you have infected her with one disease or another as a result of sleeping with her.

5. Has she tested herself to know her status in terms of HIV.

6. I have nothing against people breaking up with each other once they discover there is no love in the relationship, however the problem is that it pays to leave her the way you met her . . . i.e. if you are not going to stick around, then make sure you do not stick your thing in her.

7. When you are in a relationship with a woman, its not compulsory that you should sleep with her.

Sex is like a covenant

Ujujoan:

So something must be 'wrong' with a girl for sleeping with a guy on their first date

chika98:

The poster is honest with himself and that ought to be respected. He isn't going ahead to marry her because quite frankly she is not going to enjoy that marriage as he would disrespect her at will because of her past. Go and ask some of the "Karrine Staffens" type women what they go through sometimes. Name calling and likes are the norm for them in "some" cases. He has a right to choose who to settle with. Is it a double standard? Yes it is but so is a lot of things out there in the world.

You lot should give the guy a break! How many of you mouthing off will marry a girl that has been around the block? Or an Ashawo man?

Ebonyeyes:

This man himself has been around the block too many a time. So is he a used product?

chika98:

The poster is honest with himself and that ought to be respected. He isn't going ahead to marry her because quite frankly she is not going to enjoy that marriage as he would disrespect her at will because of her past. Go and ask some of the "Karrine Staffens" type women what they go through sometimes. Name calling and likes are the norm for them in "some" cases. He has a right to choose who to settle with. Is it a double standard? Yes it is but so is a lot of things out there in the world.

You lot should give the guy a break! How many of you mouthing off will marry a girl that has been around the block? Or an Ashawo man?

chika98:

Oh girl common! How many man out there are saints? They all sleep around ( at least for the most part) Then when it is time to settle down they start looking for something serious.

chika98:

Oh girl common! How many man out there are saints? They all sleep around ( at least for the most part) Then when it is time to settle down they start looking for something serious.

megacity:

Apologies for not responding before now to some of the comments and suggestions here. These past few days have been some of my busiest; of course I have to work to earn income to do things like finance my dates, pay for internet subscription to have access to NL and all… I hope you understand.
Thanks to everyone for all the comments and suggestions so far received. Some have been useful, some insulting, and some useless. Most did not address the main concern – which is how to seamlessly exit the r/ship without leaving a hurt.

@C2H5OH
Thnks for some of the things you said and for defending my cause. But then you accuse me of hypocrisy, and to which I plead not guilty. If I have a dirty past, must I marry someone that has a dirty past too? If u are a dwarf, must u also marry a dwarf, so u can start a generation of dwarfs? If your target is to marry someone who is cleaner than u, how is that hypocrisy? And if I choose not marry a person who is like me, is that not a choice I ‘m entitled to make?
It is hypocrisy because you detest something you make no apologies for being yourself. As in, you see nothing wrong in someone else marrying someone who has a dirtier past than them (e.g. a virgin marrying you), but you just would never 'sink that low'. That's double standards, that's hypocrisy, but with that being said, we are all hypocrites some way or another and of course you can choose to hate the exact thing you are and choose to attain for something the complete opposite to you. It's a free world.

@Ebonyeyes
u talk about double standards, and yes that is the way it is. Men and women are not exactly the same and the standards will never be exactly the same. Argue it if u like, but this is the truth.
Well then if you accept this idea of double standards and unequality between the sexes then you can say goodbye to 50% of the posters (women) who would advice you how to deal with your 'woman-problems'.

@Na2day
About who I want to leave the left over for. As I was not her 1st, 2nd, 3rd or even 4th, why should I be the one to keep the left over?

@ujujoan
U talk about second chance to make amends. In life, sometimes there is no second chance. U are only a virgin once, and once it’s broken, there is no second chance; be sure therefore to give it only to the right person. U accuse me also of selfishness, and yes this love they talk about is essentially selfish. If not, how come no one falls in love with mad men and women on the streets?
You should re-read the part in bold. You seem to lack empathy, take yourself off the high horse you've placed yourself, because you were not born a man out of your own doing. You're right sometimes, there is no second chance, so if you decide to leave your girlfriend and you realise you've made a big mistake, then expect her to never look back.

@Jay bee
About looking for excuse not to take the big step; I would have been happy to take the big step, but only if she didn’t have such a past.
You don't realise it yet, but there is no perfect woman, I believe you probably didn't really want to commit to her, I mean the relationship was founded on you finding her physcially attractive, talking to her on a bus and sleeping with her soon after. It could have been established on a weak bond, so it's readily broken by excuses like the one you've described. I mean some people have such strong relationship that they would still honour their girlfriend/boyfriend even if they found out that the person contracted a deadily disease.

@Smooooooth
U say everyone has got a past. And so, everyone must take responsibility for the outcome of their past. And so if I quit because of her past, how is it my fault?
I think it's good for you to quit. Some people learn some lessons from their mistakes, maybe meeting you and allowing you to become someone special in her life was her mistake, maybe now she can learn from it and move onto another guy who will value whatever qualities she may have and respect the woman she has become and not the gossip from her past.

@kellorah
U think it’s unfair for a girl to dumped because of her past. So it’s unfair for a girl to dump her past on me.
She didn't dump her past on you. You're making it seem like she did something wrong, like she actually carried out an action on you, when in fact you went and snooped for info and dirt about her (stuff you could have asked her - shows how trusting you are in a relationship).

megacity:

Apologies for not responding before now to some of the comments and suggestions here. These past few days have been some of my busiest; of course I have to work to earn income to do things like finance my dates, pay for internet subscription to have access to NL and all… I hope you understand.
Thanks to everyone for all the comments and suggestions so far received. Some have been useful, some insulting, and some useless. Most did not address the main concern – which is how to seamlessly exit the r/ship without leaving a hurt.

megacity:

This r/ship will have end soon. I have gotten used to this woman these past few months, and so I know I‘ll miss her after she has gone. I‘ll miss her company, I‘ll miss her friendship, I‘ll miss those smiles, I‘ll miss her intelligence and brilliance, I‘ll miss her jokes and I ‘m sure I‘ll miss the other one too. But only if she didn’t have such a past! How can I marry a woman that now and again we‘ll run into some man waving at my wife – one of the men she used to romp with? I can’t live with that