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Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by bilulu(op): 8:05pm On Sep 14, 2016

I met this girl and we started chatting and later became close. I asked her out and before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl?.... please I needed your candid advice.

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Nobody: 8:10pm On Sep 14, 2016

How old are you?

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Sunexy(m): 8:12pm On Sep 14, 2016*

The child might end up been the next president...so continue...u can even make an impact in the baby's life
CONGRATS BRO cheesy

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by jopretty(f): 8:13pm On Sep 14, 2016

Your love na with condition? undecided

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by bilulu(op): 8:14pm On Sep 14, 2016

bbmpin:
How old are you?

bros does d age matters? mind u I finished my Nysc not last year

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by jmichlins(m): 8:14pm On Sep 14, 2016

would you have wanted it if she said she had an abortion or you mean to tell me that since you have been in the game, you have not put any girl in a family way. Having said that this kind stuff puts heavy moral burden on our girls making the rate of same sex relationship and other pervertual acts to increase cause they feel that such way they get sexual relief and don't run the risk of getting pregnant

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by bilulu(op): 8:15pm On Sep 14, 2016

jopretty:
Your love na with condition?

so wat u saying is if truly I luv her I should accept her like dat

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by bilulu(op): 8:17pm On Sep 14, 2016

jmichlins:
would you have wanted it if she said she had an abortion or you mean to tell me that since you have been in the game, you have not put any girl in a family way. Having said that this kind stuff puts heavy moral burden on our girls making the rate of same sex relationship and other pervertual acts to increase

if I understand ur post bros I should go ahead

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by saintfellow(m): 8:19pm On Sep 14, 2016

whateva rock ur boat.

Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by pweetychyka(f): 8:20pm On Sep 14, 2016

@OP, please follow ur heart if u feel she's d kind of woman after ur heart! Love the child as your own n trust me u 'll live to enjoy d fruit for good

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by jopretty(f): 8:22pm On Sep 14, 2016

Yes na, but if she and her child pose as threat to you in whatever form, just quit it.

bilulu:
so wat u saying is if truly I luv her I should accept her like dat

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by theEYe21(f): 8:29pm On Sep 14, 2016

No don't do it angry

dump her ass undecided

she fvcked up, that's her fault and her loss undecided

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by bilulu(op): 8:39pm On Sep 14, 2016

theEYe21:
No don't do it dump her ass she fvcked up, that's her fault and her loss

I didn't say she cheated on me...... she already had d child bf we met

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Nobody: 8:41pm On Sep 14, 2016

bilulu:
bros does d age matters? mind u I finished my Nysc not last year

does the age matter*

GST 121

scroll down and read my suggestion

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by theEYe21(f): 8:42pm On Sep 14, 2016

bilulu:
I didn't say she cheated on me...... she already had d child bf we met

still dump her ass undecided

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by jmichlins(m): 8:47pm On Sep 14, 2016

bilulu:
if I understand ur post bros I should go ahead

the thing is in issue of someone you will spend your life with you make clear choice. You don't let someone make the decision for you

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by AfroKnight: 8:53pm On Sep 14, 2016

Her loyalty and attention will belong first to her child then you come in second. If you can accept this, go ahead.

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by vchykp(m): 9:03pm On Sep 14, 2016

bilulu:
I met this girl and we started as chatting and later became close. I asked her out and she before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl...... please I needed your candid advice.
lalasticlala pls help out

my dear brother i will advice you to continue because with the sound of your voice you truly love her, single mum or not, thats not a cretaria, if you are comfortable with her character, then dont think twice because even d ones with no kids has aborted and the ones that seems to be virgin has akward character, so no one is perfect, even u..! your problem with her should be her assuring you that she won't go back to her EX.. and pls advice her to give the kid to the fada if you really want to settle with her #bestADVICE

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Nobody: 9:03pm On Sep 14, 2016

[b] alright!!!
when you want to date a single mother, You have to consider the following things:
Age of the child!
The location of the father!
The "relationship" status of the father!
Your friends and family!

Its easy to look at it and say! Sure why not(when you haven't laid with her) but after eating the fruit!
"Reality will set in", i asked you, For your age cause its usually men that want to settle down that consider what you are considering

look at it this way, she will "never" fully have your time
The father will always have access to her, can easily lay with her if he wants funny enough!
She will leave you in a "heart beat" for him
The child wont like you at first, he / she will be very negative to you(that may change over time)

if the child is in the village (like in most cases) i will advice you to forget about her!

Sit down and ask yourself if you handle all that and decide! #its your life!
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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Diplomaticbeing(m): 9:36pm On Sep 14, 2016

@OP

Beibg a single mother is not a disease - this however doesn't mean that I will encourage an unmarried ladies to intentionally get pregnant and have babies out of wedlock, no.

As far as I'm concerned, attitude is the key. And I don't see how any person be it a male/female who has tested se.x out of wedlock is better than such a lady.

I'd rather choose a single mother who tick at least 60 percent of the boxes in what I need in a wife over a virgin/tested lady that couldn't tick up to 50 percent of the boxes.

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Richy4(m): 9:37pm On Sep 14, 2016

U did not say what u wanted out of the relationship...U have to define the relationship.... Is it the one just for companionship or a long term serious one that might lead to marriage....

Definition is important in every relationship.... although i must say that there is no stigma anymore hanging on being a single parent.... a lot of people adopt kids this days........

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by bilulu(op): 9:51pm On Sep 14, 2016

thanks for all d advice

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by petux(m): 10:15pm On Sep 14, 2016

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by DozieInc(m): 10:16pm On Sep 14, 2016*

Bruh it's a tricky business .
In most cases the child may not pose the problem, but the mother, while you're in love it also right to be realistic and ask concrete questions.
1.What is her relationship like with the father of her child?? either he is dead or she must assure you that she has no intention of going back.
3. How often do they communicate??
2. Will she be committed to the relationship?? by seeing you as part of her "family"
3.Are you ready to accept her child as your own??

If these questions are answered, then you have to work on your relationship with her child, let's face it, initially the child may seem distant, but your love and understanding may prove the glue in your relationship, thereby strengthening the bond amongst you.

***Please seek the advice and counsel of matured member of your immediate community, somebody you can confide in.

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by biggie73(m): 10:21pm On Sep 14, 2016

She is a collateral damage good.

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by soonest(f): 10:21pm On Sep 14, 2016

Finally it's only u can answer this. If you love her and her character is ok then go for her.

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by tahoe(m): 10:22pm On Sep 14, 2016

I would advise you to leave her.
But what do I know, I have never been in love.

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by YINKS89(m): 10:23pm On Sep 14, 2016

u really like nd nt love .... ts beta u move on if u re not ready to be commited to both mother nd child.

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by emerged01(m): 10:25pm On Sep 14, 2016

If you are a christian, meet the counselling department in your church. As for me,i will advice you to go ahead but there are something that needs to be considered.

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by remikunle: 10:25pm On Sep 14, 2016

She may even dump u for another man think twice

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