Pls go ahead with d relationship, some ladies would even hide this from you I mean some single mums will go ahead get married without telling u they ve a child. I love d lady in question, wish u pple d best bro, I also love ur maturity, some ' boys' (men) will flee from her on hearing this. Congrats.

bbmpin:
[b] alright!!!
when you want to date a single mother, You have to consider the following things:
Age of the child!
The location of the father!
The "relationship" status of the father!
Your friends and family!

Its easy to look at it and say! Sure why not(when you haven't laid with her) but after eating the fruit!
"Reality will set in", i asked you, For your age cause its usually men that want to settle down that consider what you are considering

look at it this way, she will "never" fully have your time
The father will always have access to her, can easily lay with her if he wants funny enough!
She will leave you in a "heart beat" for him
The child wont like you at first, he / she will be very negative to you(that may change over time)

if the child is in the village (like in most cases) i will advice you to forget about her!

Sit down and ask yourself if you handle all that and decide! #its your life!
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Wise words from u!
Neva knew guys with such reasoning still exist!

U made ma morning too! Nice one boss

bilulu:

bros does d age matters? mind u I finished my Nysc not last year

From your response, you are just there.

bilulu:
I met this girl and we started chatting and later became close. I asked her out and before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl?.... please I needed your candid advice.

For you to make a wise decision in this matter go on your knees before God and pray hard
This a serious matter which requires help from the originator of marriage


For remember Galatians 6:5 "for each man will carry his own load"

bilulu:
I met this girl and we started chatting and later became close. I asked her out and before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl?.... please I needed your candid advice.

Guy run for your life..,....just kidding give the girl a chance, who knows she might be the "one"

bilulu:

so wat u saying is if truly I luv her I should accept her like dat

Please don't date her, she doesn't deserve a baby spouse like you.

If you love her go ahead

bilulu:
I met this girl and we started chatting and later became close. I asked her out and before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl?.... please I needed your candid advice.

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Its depends on de condition datt let her had that child. 2) Depends on the host herself! Hope its just a normal relationship that let her had the baby? Hope she's not a hoe b4 u met? Once some factual things u need to knw are pure, nothin is wrong. Expecially if you lucky that the girl is good, you will enjoy her! Done somethin like this b4.. Many many after 1 ladies that are better than all this so call *Omoge*. Done many abortions! Upper chamber wack, lower chamber wack! Nothin to gbadun for their body again! Everythin had been pounded!

MidieMeliss:
Madam, it takes a con to know one. All of these you said can be done by anyone, and not only a single mother. No lady is a single mom by choice, a lot of scenes would have happened, so I suggest not being judgemental after all even you are not perfect .

OP asking for advice on such a matter is so out of place. If you are convinced you can love her as well as the child, you wouldn't second guess yourself. Your doubt however shows that you are at a point whereby you want to convince yourself you are doing the right thing. Please don't bother going ahead if you are not convinced. Don't cause her more grief and embarrassment than she is feeling about being an unmarried mom already. That's my take.

Goodmorning Madam, once have I spoken to the OP...

bilulu:
I met this girl and we started chatting and later became close. I asked her out and before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl?.... please I needed your candid advice.

She's actually somebody's Edible Catering.

Can you get married to Somebody's Edible Catering?

bilulu:
she's not married yet

Once have I spoken... the choice is left for you.

bilulu:
she's not married yet

Once have I spoken... the choice is left for you.

bilulu:
I met this girl and we started chatting and later became close. I asked her out and before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl?.... please I needed your candid advice.

hELLO BURV LEMME BREAK IT DOWN FOR YOU BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN THERE

1. The babies daddy will always have access to her irrespective of any cock and bull story she tells you! As in what would you expect they have a child together nah, forget hollywood oh, even abroad divorced couples still sleep together occasionally irrespective of how much they hate each other.

2. Dude if her ex is a nice guy you will always come second to him, if he is very sick she will have to take the child over to see his or her father and she will probably spend the night there too... and she will say nothing happened.

3. Omo get ready to spend on twice the amount needed to maintain a single lady: she expects you to love, care and even daddy her kid

4. Its not worth it, i did it for a year and men was it exhausting, all i can say is, single mums should be left for single dads or divorced dads they work best together.

My two cents

bilulu:
bros does d age matters? mind u I finished my Nysc not last year

Humm...you have no idea why he asked you "how old are you"

Its your life. Make ur decision and live by it. For most single mothers, marrying the father of their child is neater for them and all involved. If the father of the child is late or married to someone else, you can begin to consider. If not, its better you allow her go back jejely and marry her baby daddy. Thats my opinion. Don't aid in breaking a family or would-be family.

A man starting courting a lady. The lady later told him she has 3 kids already. The man was heartbroken but he walked away. He couldn't continue esp when he was still a very young man and had no kids yet. Today, he is happily married. The best bet would be for this lady to go back to her children's father if all three were from him. Or the father of two of the kids at least.

Note- Exception should be made in cases of abuse

jmichlins:
would you have wanted it if she said she had an abortion or you mean to tell me that since you have been in the game, you have not put any girl in a family way. Having said that this kind stuff puts heavy moral burden on our girls making the rate of same sex relationship and other pervertual acts to increase cause they feel that such way they get sexual relief and don't run the risk of getting pregnant

Go for whatever you think that will make you happy in life

She may be testing you to know if you truly love her. It's possible she has no child anywherr. Firstly, confirm if she is telling the truth. Then check if you love her enough to stay with her. Secondly, are you going into it for marriage? If yes, do some soul searching, if not proceed.

bilulu:
I met this girl and we started chatting and later became close. I asked her out and before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl?.... please I needed your candid advice.

Hold up !!! hold Up !! hold up !! , since when has childbirth became a disease. if u truely love her man up and let her carry ur own baby too and father the two together.

bilulu:
I met this girl and we started chatting and later became close. I asked her out and before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl?.... please I needed your candid advice.

What did d child do you?

Juzzybabe:


Humm...you have no idea why he asked you "how old are you"

Lol!
am sure d loco is still a teenager!

bilulu:

so wat u saying is if truly I luv her I should accept her like dat

What do u mean by "like that"?

bilulu:

bros does d age matters? mind u I finished my Nysc not last year

Then u are really immature in d mind!

And here I am looking for a single mum to settle down with.

I believe they are more loyal and committed to staying together (though I will prefer her child to be a girl)

bilulu:
I met this girl and we started chatting and later became close. I asked her out and before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl?.... please I needed your candid advice.

Love can make people do things. But what's most important is if you love her. It's a personal decision. Having a child is not a stigma as people think. I think you should also consider othet xteristics.

Think well and pray about it. It's a tough decision.

ITbomb:
And here I am looking for a single mum to settle down with.

I believe they are more loyal and committed to staying together (though I will prefer her child to be a girl)

Come marry my baby's mama .

MidieMeliss:
Madam, it takes a con to know one. All of these you said can be done by anyone, and not only a single mother. No lady is a single mom by choice, a lot of scenes would have happened, so I suggest not being judgemental after all even you are not perfect .

OP asking for advice on such a matter is so out of place. If you are convinced you can love her as well as the child, you wouldn't second guess yourself. Your doubt however shows that you are at a point whereby you want to convince yourself you are doing the right thing. Please don't bother going ahead if you are not convinced. Don't cause her more grief and embarrassment than she is feeling about being an unmarried mom already. That's my take.

Please hold it there... Who told you no lady is a single mother by choice. All the baby mama you seeing now is it not by choice. Did d child just magically appear.
And i know for sure gurls of now adays. After enjoying life to the fullest, sleeping with countless men for money and they realise that time is not on their side.* cuz no man with in his right senses would settle with an alosho* they get pregnant make dem nor loose.
Then give their life to christ and they form holy and old things past awY

Note: these single mother ate always beautiful. So na the beauty tvey shark this OP. He hasent met a fine, decent and single gurl in his life.

vislabraye:

Come marry my baby's mama .

Nah, not you. I read about your dick size somewhere.
I don't want to fight a lost fight

What do you mean by" I should accept her like dat" as if she has some kind of cancer? Does having a child make her beneath you? SMH!!! Chai,

bilulu:

so wat u saying is if truly I luv her I should accept her like dat

bbmpin:
[b] alright!!!
when you want to date a single mother, You have to consider the following things:
Age of the child!
The location of the father!
The "relationship" status of the father!
Your friends and family!

Its easy to look at it and say! Sure why not(when you haven't laid with her) but after eating the fruit!
"Reality will set in", i asked you, For your age cause its usually men that want to settle down that consider what you are considering

look at it this way, she will "never" fully have your time
The father will always have access to her, can easily lay with her if he wants funny enough!
She will leave you in a "heart beat" for him
The child wont like you at first, he / she will be very negative to you(that may change over time)

if the child is in the village (like in most cases) i will advice you to forget about her!

Sit down and ask yourself if you handle all that and decide! #its your life!
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I want to agree with what you said. I married my husband as a single mum and we've been married for 8yrs then my son was 6yrs. Till now we've not had our own children but this boy has filled the space. people don't know so they just call him daddy Joe, my son bears his name. I don't have any relationship with his true father. I have made my husband be in total control over the boy. He's about to write his senior waec and I can't even come in between these 2 guys (my son and hubby) their relationship is something else. when I become jealous I will tell my son that girls are closer to their dads and boys to their mums. when dey quarrel and I try to put mouth my son will say " mum don't worry I know how to handle my dad"

So, op of u love this lady pls go ahead

Op for me having a child never disqualifies any lady bro,wat does s her character.even if u marry a virgin without character u r equally finished..do u like her dat much? S she a Christian? Cn u see urslf grow with her? S she pretty nd sexy? Nobody cn really help u can in this matter.jst sit down,answer some of this questions nd if u r convinced dat she passed em den u move on bro!!!

bilulu:
I met this girl and we started chatting and later became close. I asked her out and before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl?.... please I needed your candid advice.

is having a baby a crime?....guess uve stereotyped ur mind dat u want a virgin dats why it'll be easy 2 lie and deceive u....if she's honest and has learnt her mistake den why not...I wldnt mind