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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by jopretty(f): 12:02am On Sep 15, 2016
Lemme check my love rule book ...lol
xtervaganza:
yours isn't?
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by pweetychyka(f): 12:09am On Sep 15, 2016
BlackSeptember:
The way i feel now

Jez negodu!
Biko goan rest! And always read ur book so u 'll come out wit 1st class grin grin grin
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by BlackSeptember: 12:10am On Sep 15, 2016
pweetychyka:


Jez negodu!
Biko goan rest! And always read ur book so u 'll come out wit 1st class grin grin grin
who first class epp

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by harmony34: 12:12am On Sep 15, 2016
Do you like her?
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by tonyflash43(m): 12:13am On Sep 15, 2016
bbmpin:
How old are you?



for ur mind now u be FTC, well i truly agree with ur question, how old is he? grin
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by pweetychyka(f): 12:13am On Sep 15, 2016
BlackSeptember:
who first class epp

Na ur way but on the other hand sef who e don epp true true?
Dat guy dat finished wit distinction from great UNILAG sef we don't hear abt em again!

No worry, jez av faith e go epp u grin grin grin
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by BlackSeptember: 12:15am On Sep 15, 2016
pweetychyka:


Na ur way but on the other hand sef who e don epp true true?
Dat guy dat finished wit distinction from great UNILAG sef we don't hear abt em again!

No worry, jez av faith e go epp u grin grin grin
The guy couldn't pay for his house rent. He has book sense but no street sense.

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by pweetychyka(f): 12:16am On Sep 15, 2016
BlackSeptember:
The guy couldn't pay for his house rent. He has book sense but no street sense.



grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Nwanne good nyt ooooh!
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by berrystunn(m): 12:21am On Sep 15, 2016
bilulu:

bros does d age matters? mind u I finished my Nysc not last year

No need you already show case your self...
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by favouryemmy: 12:24am On Sep 15, 2016
bilulu:
I met this girl and we started chatting and later became close. I asked her out and before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl?.... please I needed your candid advice.

Young man, you just asked yourself some questions.
1. Do you love the lady in question?
2. If yes, I hope you will not bring up 'is it because I pitied you and married you' in the future? Never marry because of pity.
3. If your answer to number 2 is No, do you mind raising the little one if necessary as you marry his/her mother?
4. If your answer to 3 is No, go ahead and marry her.
Sincerely, this lady is not desperate for marriage that's why she told you upfront about her status as a single mother. Such ladies are rare in this country even possibly on Nairaland, no offense ladies. Some ladies can go to any length to hide such things from a suitor whose shows extreme desperation. Desperate ladies can be dangerous but such a lady that allows you to make your decision, by telling you everything is most likely a jewel. The decision is yours to make. I wish you well.

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Toks2008(m): 12:30am On Sep 15, 2016
pweetychyka:


Boss I can't match make u wit one!
When u find one & ur heart welcomes her warmly after opening up everything to u den it's cool cool

Lol I was only making a comment o..not asking to be matched .
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by greatmind4real7(m): 12:32am On Sep 15, 2016
My bro, if you truly love and cherish her, keep the relationship on.
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by onionsoup(f): 12:49am On Sep 15, 2016
bilulu:

bros does d age matters? mind u I finished my Nysc not last year


Ehen, guy so why you dey ask whether to kwontinu na? You love her which is most important. Jus make sure say the pikin papa no go show up one day Kom wan chop for where im no invest. Clarify that and you good to go. Train up that child in the way of the Lord. But wait o was the lady married to the child's father? If yes ma hand no dey oo. Check wetin God talk for im word about that kain situation. Bottom line make double sure that Gods on your side.

THE COUNSELOR grin
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Mayflowa(m): 12:55am On Sep 15, 2016
Women don suffer! A single dad can marry any girl he wants anytime anyday. Just see the double standard with our world

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Mayflowa(m): 1:01am On Sep 15, 2016
onionsoup:



Ehen, guy so why you dey ask whether to kwontinu na? You love her which is most important. Jus make sure say the pikin papa no go show up one day Kom wan chop for where im no invest. Clarify that and you good to go. Train up that child in the way of the Lord. But wait o was the lady married to the child's father? If yes ma hand no dey oo. Check wetin God talk for im word about that kain situation. Bottom line make double sure that Gods on your side.

THE COUNSELOR grin

When you give, you give freely with no expectation whatsoever. That is true giving! Whether the child's father comes to benefit from the child or not doesn't reflect in selfless love and givings

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by onionsoup(f): 1:03am On Sep 15, 2016
Mayflowa:


When you give, you give freely with no expectation whatsoever. That is true giving! Whether the child's father comes to benefit from the child or not doesn't reflect in selfless love and givings


I agree with you child, na to avart future wahala and quarrel make me talk so
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Maski87: 1:30am On Sep 15, 2016
After all you are not planning to marry her for just enjoy the punany but make sure you are nice to the child, or else the child will see you as a mother fxxckker

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by emmalezy(m): 1:48am On Sep 15, 2016
Am currently dating a single mum bro and i love her for telling me the truth from the beginning why coz she could have had an abortion and move on with her life..
for ur info u are inlove with her not her child..
if u love her continue with the relationship but if u dnt kindly back off and dnt let her make the mistake she made earlier on..
having a baby isnt sickness okay..
she's mature for telling u the trth at the beginning what if u later found out after u have started dating her?

my advice is that continue if u love her and know that u are in a relationship with 2 people oo..
her and her child..
treat the baby like urs okay?

i have an uncle in the village that married a single mother and her son.
let me break it to u that the bastard son is the bread winner of the family now..
he is an oil mogul now his real father want to claim him ..
u know what he said?
he told his dad go to hell when i was a kid u left me and my mother..


so choose wisely..

okay bye..

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Nobody: 2:55am On Sep 15, 2016
jopretty:
Your love na with condition? undecided
is there any love without condition? or you are just kidding. even God loves us so we'll worship him.
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Emmyfem97(m): 3:12am On Sep 15, 2016
bilulu:

bros does d age matters? mind u I finished my Nysc not last year
Shoroniyen? Answer dat question joo!
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by manando1(m): 4:06am On Sep 15, 2016
Congrats Bro you've found love and the baby free , buy one get one free , some people are very lucky ooo

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by OscaZee: 4:11am On Sep 15, 2016
bilulu:
she's up to 3yrs
In my opinion, I think she's still young to be away from the mum though..
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by row2ray(m): 4:35am On Sep 15, 2016
bilulu:
I met this girl and we started chatting and later became close. I asked her out and before accepting she said she has a child. On hearing this my mind became so heavy to the extent that I felt heartbroken. Should I continue with this girl because I really like this girl?.... please I needed your candid advice.
I don't get it... How does her having a child make a difference. Big deal she had a relationship that didn't turn out the way she wanted, she was woman enough to take responsibility for the result of her actions and learn from it. Then she opens up to you on the truth and you dare judge her for it? Do you even know how she became a single mum, did you ask, your statement reeks of immaturity and self centeredness. Would she ask this if you were the one with the kid? Wise up dude sometimes that woman you need may have had to fight battles you can't imagine

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by madjune(m): 4:56am On Sep 15, 2016
Find out why the first man left her or she left him...

Cos she will likely do it to you too.

In this kind of thing, karma works overtime.
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Malakh: 4:59am On Sep 15, 2016
so u know d meaning of toto?
chineloSA:


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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Malakh: 5:10am On Sep 15, 2016
Fact of the matter is a single mum is a hoe
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by davidif: 5:34am On Sep 15, 2016
bbmpin:
[b] alright!!!
when you want to date a single mother, You have to consider the following things:
Age of the child!
The location of the father!
The "relationship" status of the father!
Your friends and family!

Its easy to look at it and say! Sure why not(when you haven't laid with her) but after eating the fruit!
"Reality will set in", i asked you, For your age cause its usually men that want to settle down that consider what you are considering

look at it this way, she will "never" fully have your time
The father will always have access to her, can easily lay with her if he wants funny enough!
She will leave you in a "heart beat" for him
The child wont like you at first, he / she will be very negative to you(that may change over time)

if the child is in the village (like in most cases) i will advice you to forget about her!

Sit down and ask yourself if you handle all that and decide! #its your life!
[/b]

20 GBOSA'S for you jare.

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by Jnrbaino4real(m): 5:35am On Sep 15, 2016
For God sake , we live in a civil modern society please.what's wrong with having a child? You dknt know the circumstances that led to that, probably she was deceived by a guy or even raped .it can happen to anyone , if you love her be with her .
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by davidif: 5:35am On Sep 15, 2016
row2ray:

I don't get it... How does her having a child make a difference. Big deal she had a relationship that didn't turn out the way she wanted, she was woman enough to take responsibility for the result of her actions and learn from it. Then she opens up to you on the truth and you dare judge her for it? Do you even know how she became a single mum, did you ask, your statement reeks of immaturity and self centeredness. Would she ask this if you were the one with the kid? Wise up dude sometimes that woman you need may have had to fight battles you can't imagine

Read the above comment (highlighted with blue).

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Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by dopedealer(m): 5:48am On Sep 15, 2016
So out of all the vibrant young beautiful single pretty Nigerians girls, na after one you choose to date ?
Op Awon aye ti get ye.. undecided
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by pweetychyka(f): 5:49am On Sep 15, 2016
Toks2008:


Lol I was only making a comment o..not asking to be matched .

Hehehehehehehehe grin grin grin grin grin
It cool anyway!

Good morning dear!
Re: Please I Need Advice...... She Is A Single Mum by MidieMeliss(f): 5:56am On Sep 15, 2016
STENON:
Hmmmm... With my experiences with single mothers, I can never recommend any of them to my least friend/enemy. They can go extra miles to make a guy to completely fall in love with them. They can go extra mile by pretending to be what they are not. Most of them are even with worst characters and also fetish when it comes to Love and relationship issues.

Please don't look at their sweet/angelic voices nd fake christian life styles.

Please endeavour to do thorough background checking/research on her before making your decision. I WISH YOU THE VERY BEST.

NB: No man in his right senses would send out the mother of his child away.


Bt there are still some single mothers that are very okay for marriage.

Dear Op, think very well
Madam, it takes a con to know one. All of these you said can be done by anyone, and not only a single mother. No lady is a single mom by choice, a lot of scenes would have happened, so I suggest not being judgemental after all even you are not perfect .

OP asking for advice on such a matter is so out of place. If you are convinced you can love her as well as the child, you wouldn't second guess yourself. Your doubt however shows that you are at a point whereby you want to convince yourself you are doing the right thing. Please don't bother going ahead if you are not convinced. Don't cause her more grief and embarrassment than she is feeling about being an unmarried mom already. That's my take.

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