chrisj2:

I am actually in more or less the same situation. I am also so busy with work to fully immerse myself in Nja circles or activities but I am fine and comfortable without a wife but will like some children...

I also intend to go to Nja for a long break; not specifically to look for a spouse but to get back into the Nja groove and integrate with the culture a bit more and then see what happens. I am not religious and do not do much tradition - even when I was in Nigeria, I was not into all that Loudness, Owambe and Toasting and general waywardness.

Good luck bros!

Thanks.
You sound like me. I guess we dont operate how the world works.
I have many stories of wolves pretending to be sheep. Been there. Done that.

Ichliebedich:
8 pages of Bad mouthing Nigerian women . Nairaland guys una weldone o

i wonder o! it boggles the mind! are nigerian girls really this bad?

AfroBlue:
@ibx1976 come on bro what's the real problem... five years and no score/goal?
Can I Find A Wife On Nl? by ibx1976: 1:33pm On Jun 24, 2011
https://www.nairaland.com/698281/find-wife-nl

My brother without saying too much, lets just say I have had some experience since then. Thanks for checking out my profile.

chrisj2:


I am actually in more or less the same situation. I am also so busy with work to fully immerse myself in Nja circles or activities but I am fine and comfortable without a wife but will like some children...

I also intend to go to Nja for a long break; not specifically to look for a spouse but to get back into the Nja groove and integrate with the culture a bit more and then see what happens. I am not religious and do not do much tradition - even when I was in Nigeria, I was not into all that Loudness, Owambe and Toasting and general waywardness.

Good luck bros!

look! man! you gonna have to get out of your comfort zone and take some risks, get out more, time waits for no one, don't be surprised that before you know it you ve become old, what about we that are married to English women? we are still doing okay. and oh! i am one of those wayward, partying and getting drunk kinda guy as i said i am are still doing well regardless

metallisc:


oya! dem don dey show face one by one!

Bros,its not what you are pondering o

He didn't say its rubbish, he only said it doesn't give him time to socialize. And 45,000 pounds a year is sh1t

gypsey:
what?! walthamstow you say? i was born in higham park walthamstow. but wait o! so you think a £45000 a year train driving job is Rubbish! eh?

EkoErrands:


Pls if the girls there didn't cheat on you kuku marry them...and endure their luggage.the ones here will cheat on you and still give you luggage to carry. All of them except those that will not bash me for saying this secret of theirs are olosho.

I'm inside one 5yr relationship and It appears it has been an olosho relationship all along.

lmao

Silkmoth33:


He didn't say its rubbish, he only said it doesn't give him time to socialize. And 45,000 pounds a year is sh1t

£45000 is good enough for me o! as i am on JSA at the moment

gypsey:
i wonder o! it boggles the mind! are nigerian girls really this bad?

D question u need to ask is, "Hope it's not worse than this?"

telemapreye1:
And nigeria guys are useless,gold digging males

An olosho spotted. Why do you oloshos hate being g called olosho? I tire for una.

this guy format makes sense is like i will apply the same format on my facebook wall... i might be lucky to see my future wife.

Silkmoth33:


D question u need to ask is, "Hope it's not worse than this?"

what?! *falls off garlic tree* you have got to be kidding!

HungerBAD:


Abi na UK people go Kidnap Nigerians.

The Owu wey dey beat them there no be here.

Owu? For where?

duni04:

Your problem is that u think all the advise the guys have given u here is "hilarious" or "comic". You have no idea what you're walking into. Nigerian women are just for yanshing, absolutely nothing else! If you want to catch enough trips while on vacation, that's what Nigerian girls are for. Don't come here to look for wife! Oga pls don't!

Chisos!!!!!.....

hopeforcharles:

these days it's so hard find a good girl don't know what went wrong

I totally agree with you. These days it's so hard to find a good guy don't know what went wrong.. Maybe we should probably meet *one of these days* to Reminiscence.

gypsey:
i wonder o! it boggles the mind! are nigerian girls really this bad?

The problem is that they no longer can differentiate between good and bad. Moral decadence at its peak. The

purpledandelion:


Who's this loser? You'll eat a girl out and pay her afterwards? Wtf

it's even disgusting eating it let alone pay afterwards bleh! ! nigerian girls really are as horrible as every one on here has described.

[quote author=metallisc post=49916423][/quote]

dubbiskelly:


Owu? For where?

don't mind him, he lives in nigeria and sees every nigerians bank details in the UK.

Avalon316:


The problem is that they no longer can differentiate between good and bad. Moral decadence at its peak. The

this doesn't sound encouraging here is me thinking of getting meself a pleasant and gentle nigerian woman

gypsey:
i wonder o! it boggles the mind! are nigerian girls really this bad?

They are very very cheap...as cheap as N1500 or a bottle of Lacasera in some cases. Na the "church" and "Night vigil" ones even bad pass. Those are the people OP is coming to do hollywood romance for in naija. I pity his pound sterling

Me too

See how NL guys badmouth naija gals as if say na foreign guys come here to spoil dem.from page 1-10,it is 3badt mehn....

Op, don't listen to all these losers saying all Nija babes are oloshos..then how come marriage ceremony is happening every Saturday...?
Gay guys are the ones marrying abi??
Op follow your mind.

gypsey:
look! man! you gonna have to get out of your comfort zone and take some risks, get out more, time waits for no one, don't be surprised that before you know it you ve become old, what about we that are married to English women? we are still doing okay. and oh! i am one of those wayward, partying and getting drunk kinda guy as i said i am are still doing well regardless

I hear you! When you know yourself and what you limitations are - then you know what you can and cannot do! You can try and get out of your comfort zone just to get a relationship but will it work for you in the long run or you will just be chasing your tail.

Like I said, I am comfortable with the situation and I am not like you - and that is not likely going to change with me being in the UK and probably will not even change much with being in Nigeria. However, there are more opportunities to still be within one's comfort zone in Nja and still find good prospects.

But I hear you! I do need to get out more - knackered chasing ££££. Also, I am not desperate!!

* BTW, I am not putting down Nja ladies or women; I have sisters and They have done well in their relationships (touch wood). However, the relationships have all started from Nigeria - just saying...

Piercedclit1:
You don dey come back so you wan recruit free totos wey you go hammer with marriage talks.
Please look around you in that your uk, so many Nigerian girls abound

ibx1976:
My good people I am in a bit of a situation here and would like to hear from the community. I have lived the last few years in the UK and can say I am in a reasonably "settled" place in my life except for one thing: I don't have a wife and I am getting old!.

For the last few years, going by people's advice I thought it was best to cultivate a relationship here with someone here in the UK, learn about them and settle.

It has not worked out for me. Maybe its my luck, it has not quite worked with me with the ladies over here. I always end up with someone diametrically opposite to my goals and aspirations. The idea of marrying an Oyibo is even worse - things just did not work out in that direction either.

To compound the problem, I my job does not allow me much of a social life. I just cant make it happen without help.

On a friend's advice, I have been invited to come back home to naija and see how things can work out. I have therefore taken a months leave and am headed home for the next 1 month. Our plan is to visit a few good families and places to see if anything can materialise from that.

My people any advice on this? If you were in my shoes, how will you conduct this affair. What will you look out for. What will you avoid.

I'm waiting 4 u .

Look no more.

Fresia01:
I'm here honey..if u need me

Loooooooool!!!
Oga please run from this Abuja o.....
May God help you.

chrisj2:

I hear you! When you know yourself and what you limitations are - then you know what you can and cannot do! You can try and get out of your comfort zone just to get a relationship but will it work for you in the long run or you will just be chasing your tail.

Like I said, I am comfortable with the situation and I am not like you - and that is not likely going to change with me being in the UK and probably will not even change much with being in Nigeria. However, there are more opportunities to still be within one's comfort zone in Nja and still find good prospects.

But I hear you! I do need to get out more - knackered chasing ££££. Also, I am not desperate!!

* BTW, I am not putting down Nja ladies or women; I have sisters and They have done well in their relationships (touch wood). However, the relationships have all started from Nigeria - just saying...

@chrisj2 I totally agree with you.

This is part of the problem. Every body wants to tell you to go out more. Go out of your comfort zone. What they dont remember is that people are different. When you pretend to be who you are not in order to meet a lady on a different gear. Eventually when you mellow and become you again, that is when palaver starts.
Like I said. Been there, done that.

why r u guys discouraging him nah.what is wrong with coming home to find a wife? Just inbox me. Lets talk ;why r u guys discouraging him nah.what is wrong with coming home to find a wife? Just inbox me. Lets talk