u should have given her benefit of d doubt. u would have gone back to hear her out....u were too quick to judge.

Kenshinmunac:
*sigh* searching and searching for a girlfriend, all to no avail. Young cool fine guy, but very lonely, no girlfriend. I don't think at this point with all this rejection that I will ever get married in life.

I have searching for a gf, met some girls who turned out to be nasty gold diggers, I didn't wanna waste my time on them cause I'm not a flirt, I'm not looking for a short term relationship so having "fun" with all these girls seemed like a waste of time to me as Sex is not my problem, love is.

So I met this girl few days back, we got talking, I fell for her instantly, she looked calm and very honest, she is not all these girls who do kk in chat, she is caring and very simple, hard to come by., we flowed really well chatting and I was very happy I found someone as I quickly asked her out and she said "let's see how it goes"

I said okay, so today being Sunday, normal chilling day, I called her, very eager to see her beautiful face once more, we got talking and she said I should come to her side.

So I said okay by six,

Six reach I entered road straight to her side, 30 mins drive, when I got close I dialled her number twice she didn't pick I thought maybe she was taking her bath or something was patient and kept on going, so when I got there by 7pm, I called and called but she didn't pick up the call and she was expecting me o!

Na so I begin call her, Even send whatsapp message and direct message all to no avail. I got so maddddd and pissed off, I almost cried because I don't know why I'm being treated like this by ladies. Head to toe I complete, face I fine, fashion sense Is great, but yet, my handsomeness and the growing cash I get can't even get me the slightest fly talk less about a lady

*sigh*

By 5 mins past 8 she called me, by then I was already going home, and she began to plead, this where error words.

"please I'm sorry, my elder brother took my phone to share WiFi, I didn't know he would go far"

I asked "didn't you tell him you were expecting someone"?"

She replied" i did na but he did not listen, I can't just come and stand on the road and be waiting for you, please don't be angry"

In my heart I said Chai! What kind of excuse is this?? This girl just told me indirectly that I'm not important.

So painful.

I see guys with their girl very happy preparing for Christmas, me i have none. All I do is admire beautiful couples and wish It could be......

Unfortunately the sad reality greets me in my face.

I begin to lose my self confidence gradually because of rejection.

Smh, all I feel right now is self pity, all I can do is lament.

I don't know if I just dislike women right now self.

Beey:
My dear, what you need to do right now is completely get your mind off marriage and serious girl bla bla bla.Because the moment you attach yourself do strongly to that idea, you don't realize it but you begin to look and sound desperate.When you are desperate, you'll take any rubbish that's thrown your way.These people smell desperation very quickly and they'll be treating you like you are just a thing, not even a person.Some are opportunists who will be after you for money and other things.You'll just be in a parasitic relationship because they'll be there to milk you dry.So put on your big boy pants, get yourself busy.Hit that gym and look good, take an extra class and build your academics, work overtime and make some extra cash.Whatever it takes for you not to wallow in self-pity, do just that.You'll realize that you were probably dating someone whose goals are very different from yours.You are seeing marriage, they are in it for fun.You cannot force love.Improve yourself and trust me at a time when you don't even expect it, true love will come your way!

You have indeed spoken maturely. I like the way you dish it out.

butanep:



Hmmmmm... I can smell your formula from a distance.


You are just giving the guy tips... Cool anyway because it works perfectly.

I will like to know your true identity?

Why is my true identity important?

Do we know each other

Kenshinmunac:
*sigh* searching and searching for a girlfriend, all to no avail. Young cool fine guy, but very lonely, no girlfriend. I don't think at this point with all this rejection that I will ever get married in life.

I have searching for a gf, met some girls who turned out to be nasty gold diggers, I didn't wanna waste my time on them cause I'm not a flirt, I'm not looking for a short term relationship so having "fun" with all these girls seemed like a waste of time to me as Sex is not my problem, love is.

So I met this girl few days back, we got talking, I fell for her instantly, she looked calm and very honest, she is not all these girls who do kk in chat, she is caring and very simple, hard to come by., we flowed really well chatting and I was very happy I found someone as I quickly asked her out and she said "let's see how it goes"

I said okay, so today being Sunday, normal chilling day, I called her, very eager to see her beautiful face once more, we got talking and she said I should come to her side.

So I said okay by six,

Six reach I entered road straight to her side, 30 mins drive, when I got close I dialled her number twice she didn't pick I thought maybe she was taking her bath or something was patient and kept on going, so when I got there by 7pm, I called and called but she didn't pick up the call and she was expecting me o!

Na so I begin call her, Even send whatsapp message and direct message all to no avail. I got so maddddd and pissed off, I almost cried because I don't know why I'm being treated like this by ladies. Head to toe I complete, face I fine, fashion sense Is great, but yet, my handsomeness and the growing cash I get can't even get me the slightest fly talk less about a lady

*sigh*

By 5 mins past 8 she called me, by then I was already going home, and she began to plead, this where error words.

"please I'm sorry, my elder brother took my phone to share WiFi, I didn't know he would go far"

I asked "didn't you tell him you were expecting someone"?"

She replied" i did na but he did not listen, I can't just come and stand on the road and be waiting for you, please don't be angry"

In my heart I said Chai! What kind of excuse is this?? This girl just told me indirectly that I'm not important.

So painful.

I see guys with their girl very happy preparing for Christmas, me i have none. All I do is admire beautiful couples and wish It could be......

Unfortunately the sad reality greets me in my face.

I begin to lose my self confidence gradually because of rejection.

Smh, all I feel right now is self pity, all I can do is lament.

I don't know if I just dislike women right now self.

sometimes what is holding someone back is in the head (mindset).... n aside that Che na pidgin u dey speak ni Abi English? if m a lady ur post have definitely made me loose interest.... now my work more on yourself.... can't start listing all u need to work on buh Dem plenty oooo.... WAIT OH! u fell in love at first sight? my view of your post.... bro Uve been getting it wrong full time

Alsini6:
ur own beta mine stole my phone

Alsini6:
ur own beta mine stole my phone

lol

Omotaday:
Are you serious about this?

There's only one way to find out.

Kenshinmunac:



Lol the gossips have arrived.

For your mind you important... FO my mention!

Sandydayziz:
Buh wah if she was telling d truth?

Miss you got perfect tits

Alsini6:
ur own beta mine stole my phone

LadyAimy:
For your mind you important... FO my mention!

Irony.
Atleast I'm better than your jealous ass.

Get a life and stop hating on people far better than you are. Gossip behind my back when I'm ahead of you, so you Bleep off.

Softbamboo:


Why is my true identity important?

Do we know each other

I don't think we know each other.


I am just want to know you because you spoke with high sense of maturity.

CSTR13:
We have all been there.
Girls show me shege for university then because of how geeky i was. I wooed a few, i was turned down many times, sometimes even humiliated.
The one that even pitied me to date me almost destroyed me with her blatant cheating.
Fast forward, to the day of graduation after getting awards upon awards as best graduating student, the ladies already hitting 26 by then be looking to get my number ,to nail down as a future life partner. But as a smart dude, i dodged them all.
Many of them still email and call till today( i still don't know where they got my number) , but nah, I ain't giving them my time.
I roll with high class broods in the private sector of the oil industry that would eat them all for dinner.

very good!
Op this is how it is done.
Learn!!!

Kenshinmunac:
*sigh* searching and searching for a girlfriend, all to no avail. Young cool fine guy, but very lonely, no girlfriend. I don't think at this point with all this rejection that I will ever get married in life.

I have searching for a gf, met some girls who turned out to be nasty gold diggers, I didn't wanna waste my time on them cause I'm not a flirt, I'm not looking for a short term relationship so having "fun" with all these girls seemed like a waste of time to me as Sex is not my problem, love is.

So I met this girl few days back, we got talking, I fell for her instantly, she looked calm and very honest, she is not all these girls who do kk in chat, she is caring and very simple, hard to come by., we flowed really well chatting and I was very happy I found someone as I quickly asked her out and she said "let's see how it goes"

I said okay, so today being Sunday, normal chilling day, I called her, very eager to see her beautiful face once more, we got talking and she said I should come to her side.

So I said okay by six,

Six reach I entered road straight to her side, 30 mins drive, when I got close I dialled her number twice she didn't pick I thought maybe she was taking her bath or something was patient and kept on going, so when I got there by 7pm, I called and called but she didn't pick up the call and she was expecting me o!

Na so I begin call her, Even send whatsapp message and direct message all to no avail. I got so maddddd and pissed off, I almost cried because I don't know why I'm being treated like this by ladies. Head to toe I complete, face I fine, fashion sense Is great, but yet, my handsomeness and the growing cash I get can't even get me the slightest fly talk less about a lady

*sigh*

By 5 mins past 8 she called me, by then I was already going home, and she began to plead, this where error words.

"please I'm sorry, my elder brother took my phone to share WiFi, I didn't know he would go far"

I asked "didn't you tell him you were expecting someone"?"

She replied" i did na but he did not listen, I can't just come and stand on the road and be waiting for you, please don't be angry"

In my heart I said Chai! What kind of excuse is this?? This girl just told me indirectly that I'm not important.

So painful.

I see guys with their girl very happy preparing for Christmas, me i have none. All I do is admire beautiful couples and wish It could be......

Unfortunately the sad reality greets me in my face.

I begin to lose my self confidence gradually because of rejection.

Smh, all I feel right now is self pity, all I can do is lament.

I don't know if I just dislike women right now self.

sorry but I think I have to be critical here...

U be real mumu.


you are still asking a girl out in 2016? you are still asking for a yes or no anwere from a girl in 2015, when you can start behaving like a boyfriend from the start....lol..

you are the problem...not the girls.

you need to start believing in yourself and your abilities.

You don't even respect yourself...or value your time! tell me how would girls value u?

you called her many times, even whatsapped her, just because she wasn't answering?

bro,...one 2 calls are enough. you need to start putting a price on yourself before girls can value you, and put a price on you.

there are millions of girls in Nigeria. True success comes when you start believing in your abilities and the theorem of abundancy- getting/ dating lots of girls.

Don't let any body deceive you. there was no point listening to her excuses. nxt time, just tell her u are at home already. delete her fucking number after the call. Girls can't value you if u can't value urself. bettter girls are out there, y waste your time on a girl that doesn't even value or respects yourtime?

pls...dont ever fall or ask a girl out again. just act/behave like a boyfriend...From the beginning... thats the trick bro...it won't ever fail u.

Peace..

sorry if my worse are harse..you deserve it.

Kenshinmunac:


Guy Abeg free me.

Is okay

Kenshinmunac:
*sigh* searching and searching for a girlfriend, all to no avail. Young cool fine guy, but very lonely, no girlfriend. I don't think at this point with all this rejection that I will ever get married in life.

I have searching for a gf, met some girls who turned out to be nasty gold diggers, I didn't wanna waste my time on them cause I'm not a flirt, I'm not looking for a short term relationship so having "fun" with all these girls seemed like a waste of time to me as Sex is not my problem, love is.

So I met this girl few days back, we got talking, I fell for her instantly, she looked calm and very honest, she is not all these girls who do kk in chat, she is caring and very simple, hard to come by., we flowed really well chatting and I was very happy I found someone as I quickly asked her out and she said "let's see how it goes"

I said okay, so today being Sunday, normal chilling day, I called her, very eager to see her beautiful face once more, we got talking and she said I should come to her side.

So I said okay by six,

Six reach I entered road straight to her side, 30 mins drive, when I got close I dialled her number twice she didn't pick I thought maybe she was taking her bath or something was patient and kept on going, so when I got there by 7pm, I called and called but she didn't pick up the call and she was expecting me o!

Na so I begin call her, Even send whatsapp message and direct message all to no avail. I got so maddddd and pissed off, I almost cried because I don't know why I'm being treated like this by ladies. Head to toe I complete, face I fine, fashion sense Is great, but yet, my handsomeness and the growing cash I get can't even get me the slightest fly talk less about a lady

*sigh*

By 5 mins past 8 she called me, by then I was already going home, and she began to plead, this where error words.

"please I'm sorry, my elder brother took my phone to share WiFi, I didn't know he would go far"

I asked "didn't you tell him you were expecting someone"?"

She replied" i did na but he did not listen, I can't just come and stand on the road and be waiting for you, please don't be angry"

In my heart I said Chai! What kind of excuse is this?? This girl just told me indirectly that I'm not important.

So painful.

I see guys with their girl very happy preparing for Christmas, me i have none. All I do is admire beautiful couples and wish It could be......

Unfortunately the sad reality greets me in my face.

I begin to lose my self confidence gradually because of rejection.

Smh, all I feel right now is self pity, all I can do is lament.

I don't know if I just dislike women right now self.

You are too sensitive... God bless

Kenshinmunac:


Irony.
Atleast I'm better than your jealous ass.

Get a life and stop hating on people far better than you are. Gossip behind my back when I'm ahead of you, so you Bleep off.

Proud in a silly way.. With all humility ,. I'm far better than your lonely, rejected ass. Who knows if you are a cripple forming whole online.

My guy I know what your problem is and I will help out.....the only solution is to be a player ,tell girls wat they wanna hear ,f*ck them hard mess with ha head often ...I swear. U go see wonders I can't start telling you how many of my girls I told to leave me alone but yet she'll beg to stay....truth is never b emotional attach to a girl ..thank me later

So many good and bad comments tho.. @Kenshinmunac, in my own opinion u were too quick to decide maybe because of ur previous experiences.. U shud av given her the benefit of the doubt because she mit be saying the truth.. And the fact dt she called to apologize shud mean somtin.. Gv her a second chance.. Call her again and check out her response.. And bros, u cant just fall for a babe within days na (no be televista na).. To me u can like som1 instantly but not love instantly.. U av to let the love grow btw u two.. Again, gv her anoda chance

Kenshinmunac:
*sigh* searching and searching for a girlfriend, all to no avail. Young cool fine guy, but very lonely, no girlfriend. I don't think at this point with all this rejection that I will ever get married in life.

I have searching for a gf, met some girls who turned out to be nasty gold diggers, I didn't wanna waste my time on them cause I'm not a flirt, I'm not looking for a short term relationship so having "fun" with all these girls seemed like a waste of time to me as Sex is not my problem, love is.

So I met this girl few days back, we got talking, I fell for her instantly, she looked calm and very honest, she is not all these girls who do kk in chat, she is caring and very simple, hard to come by., we flowed really well chatting and I was very happy I found someone as I quickly asked her out and she said "let's see how it goes"

I said okay, so today being Sunday, normal chilling day, I called her, very eager to see her beautiful face once more, we got talking and she said I should come to her side.

So I said okay by six,

Six reach I entered road straight to her side, 30 mins drive, when I got close I dialled her number twice she didn't pick I thought maybe she was taking her bath or something was patient and kept on going, so when I got there by 7pm, I called and called but she didn't pick up the call and she was expecting me o!

Na so I begin call her, Even send whatsapp message and direct message all to no avail. I got so maddddd and pissed off, I almost cried because I don't know why I'm being treated like this by ladies. Head to toe I complete, face I fine, fashion sense Is great, but yet, my handsomeness and the growing cash I get can't even get me the slightest fly talk less about a lady

*sigh*

By 5 mins past 8 she called me, by then I was already going home, and she began to plead, this where error words.

"please I'm sorry, my elder brother took my phone to share WiFi, I didn't know he would go far"

I asked "didn't you tell him you were expecting someone"?"

She replied" i did na but he did not listen, I can't just come and stand on the road and be waiting for you, please don't be angry"

In my heart I said Chai! What kind of excuse is this?? This girl just told me indirectly that I'm not important.

So painful.

I see guys with their girl very happy preparing for Christmas, me i have none. All I do is admire beautiful couples and wish It could be......

Unfortunately the sad reality greets me in my face.

I begin to lose my self confidence gradually because of rejection.

Smh, all I feel right now is self pity, all I can do is lament.

I don't know if I just dislike women right now self.

Guy make I no lie give you. You are very lucky no to have a girlfriend. I get everything, fine black face, tall, Cash , girls dey toast me sef but the more they come, the more trouble dey come. I don tire for their wahala and I don discharge all of them, one wan die on top matter say I must marry am.

My mistake be say I show am where I dey live, and she no dey live far from there. She come dey give me close marking. Which kain life sef?

Now I dey miss life without girlfriend wahala. Even Bob marley talk am. No woman no cry.

Abeg you wey no get girlfriend (Disturbance), na Igbaladun you dey o. we don taste plenty and see say fine girls and wahala be like....

butanep:



I don't think we know each other.


I am just want to know you because you spoke with high sense of maturity.

Oh... Hmmm I can't share my real name with you but thank you for the compliment

Softbamboo:


Oh... Hmmm I can't share my real name with you but thank you for the compliment

So what happens if you do?

Are you scared... My lady calm down. I know i'm a stranger but all your friends now were once strangers.

I need even more than your name

butanep:



So what happens if you do?

Are you scared... My lady calm down. I know i'm a stranger but all your friends now were once strangers.

I need even more than your name

What else do you wanna know...

sirfee:
Are you serious?

i swear down

DaySpringer:
I have seen your post and your problem is complex and most of it is internal... Yet you are trying to find a solution externally.

Seems you weren't shown a lot of love early in life and till now you still seek that person that will come and make you their center of attention and make you feel that love that you think you are lacking..
Even if you get a girlfriend, she has to always show you a lot of attention if not you will doubt her love. This also means that you will be very clingy. You know the irony of all this? The same need for attention and clinginess you will display will make ruin that relationship.

This neediness also shows in your behaviours sub-consciously and girls pick up on it which accounts for the reason for most of your rejection.

Did i forget to add Low Self-Esteem?



Here you're not even talking like a man who knows his worth as a man, so the rejection you receive from girls means that you won't get married? That means you will fall for the first girl that seems to really want to marry you because she is the first girl that didn't reject you or rather one of the very rare ones who didn't.

OP
There are many principles and coded knowledge that apply and are true in this our world of dating and in the world of relationships at large.


Like i mentioned early you found a girl that seemed like she was the one for you and instantly you fell for her.. and then asked her out, you weren't sure she was fully attracted to you, you let your neediness shine through and you wanted to possess her instead of being patient and waiting till she was totally hooked to you.


Again your neediness and need for attention shininig through, almost every guy has gone through this with a girl before and the mark of maturity is when the guy is able to take things coolly, acknowledging that almost every girl does this; infact the mark of a well collected player is being able to spin it and make the girl feel like she missed out on something exciting, list all the things she missed and make her want to make it up to you next time she sees you. Other guys would use this opportunity to make the girl more into them but you're here whining like a baby.
Look at your victim mentality, "Being treated by ladies"


The girl called you and apologised to you and you're still here, whining, Some girls don't even bother. She deemed you important enough to apologize to you and yet your low self esteem didn't let you see that. You still had the victim and crybaby mentality. No girl's actions is supposed to determine, your worth, the fact that the girl did not do the necessary things in order to make sure she could see you, means she is uncoordinated, the problem is with her not you.



And Right here is the greatest expression of Low self esteem. Bro, those things might attract a girl but those things won't keep a girl, Infact those things are not the most important things to have when it comes to getting girls, I am sure you have heard of Ugly guys getting and banging the hottest babes, that's your proof there.

There are guys with what you have that don't need to talk much to get a girl.




Do you know that all relationships have their own problems?

Do you know that not all relationships that look happy on the outside actually are?

Do you know that almost all relationships eventually end?

If you cannot be happy with yourself when you're single, how can you be happy with a girl in a relationship? you will burden her with all your emotional needs (leading to you becoming insecure and clingy) and no human is meant to carry the emotional burdens of another, eventually they will break or leave and guess what? You'll be right back where you started.


So Bro what is the solution for you?
1. You need to learn to Love yourself.

2. Do research on Low Self-esteem and all it's manifestations and work on getting rid of it.
Self-Esteem does not come from what is on the outside or what you have but what is on the inside and that's why it is called "SELF-esteem"

3. Find things to do that make you happy, have hobbies. Learn to be able to enjoy yourself by yourself or with your guys and that will naturally draw girls to you.

4. Learn something, boosting your skills boosts your confidence and if you already have an amazing range of skills write them down and be proud of them and work to improve them.

Now get yourself out of that Self Pity shit, Girls are too flaky and unreliable for you to base your happiness on having them!

Cheers mate.

Guy!!! You are the real most valuable person
What a powerful sense of analysis u have there!
Am short of words... you do this for free?? You need to be a consultant abeg!
Cheers man!

Bro jst zero ur mind from it, and build on ur self essterm. " at tyms we gat 2 b steady n liv wht we like d most even our dreams" n u wil see dem coming 4u

Softbamboo:


What else do you wanna know...

I just want to know you holistically...


I want to unravel the true lady behind the screen... I just feel you will be interesting as a friend.


Don't tell me you don't feel like knowing this crazy dude.

And here I am looking for a good guys,someone else is using theirs to play ping pong

And here I am looking for a good guy,someone else is using theirs to play ping pong

butanep:


You have indeed spoken maturely. I like the way you dish it out.

Thanks

butanep:



I just want to know you holistically...


I want to unravel the true lady behind the screen... I just feel you will be interesting as a friend.


Don't tell me you don't feel like knowing this crazy dude.

Lol... Ok I won't tell you.

I'm in SA... Our friendship wouldn't work

JimiOgunlola:


Guy make I no lie give you. You are very lucky no to have a girlfriend. I get everything, fine black face, tall, Cash , girls dey toast me sef but the more they come, the more trouble dey come. I don tire for their and I don discharge all of them, one wan die on top matter say I must marry am. My mistake be say I show am where I dey live, and she no dey live far from there. She come dey give me close marking. Which kain life sef?

Now I dey miss life without girlfriend wahala. Even Bob marley talk am. No woman no cry. Abeg you wey no get girlfriend (Disturbance), na Igbaladun you dey o. we don taste plenty and see say fine girls and wahala be like....

Lol I greet you Baba, thanks.

Shygirl1989:
And here I am looking for a good guys,someone else is using theirs to play ping pong

But u r naughty by nature Naa,how do we know u r not a ping pong babe too??