sauceEEP:
I stopped trusting women since I found out a very big secret my financee concealed from me for 6 years...

Yorubest:
Good morning family

I can't sleep and cried all night

I've been married for 3yrs with a son

Before getting married I dated my husband for less than a year and everything was fine.

I don't want to bore you with the details but before getting married, my husband and I agreed to be honest and tell each other everything. I told him about my previous affairs and he didn't have problem with it but I couldn't tell him about the one with my present GM because I still work with him.

Somehow, he got to find out through one his friends who knows my boss. It's not as if he was told the details but he came from a meeting last Friday asking so many questions. It was about my boss and I had to confess to him.

Although what I had with my boss was a fling, he felt I was too cheap as he never asked me out but told me meet him in his house when his wife was away and I did and it happened. Just twice.

My husband keeps saying he doesn't trust me anymore. He's stopped touching me and he rarely talks to me and raises his voice now

He has a good job that pays well and his salary dwarfs mine but I love the job and my career.

What can I do to win him back? I'm confused. Help. No insults please

royalroy

smark61:


Pls make me understand, did u sleep with ur boss b4 u met ur husband or it happened when u where in a relationship with ur husband

Charly68:
A man rock your ass twice & you tagged it just a fling I think something is wrong somewhere if this story is true. .

Dyt:
Everyone saying quit job


Yes
She has admitted her mistakes
She's pleading
Still pleading
Dunno why it's hard for men to forgive sha
Not like she's still with him sef
Hian
Very selfish set of humans

dominique:
How exactly did your boss threaten your marriage? He never contacted your husband neither is he still asking you out. You are the cause of your own problems. You told him about your past affairs but conveniently left out the one with your married boss whom you still see everyday. Your husband has every reason not to trust you, I don't even think quitting your job will gain back his trust. I'd advise you to still hold on to the job while you seek for another, recession and inflation dey, jobs are hard to find, your man man may not support you if you're out of work. Don't make things worse for yourself by being unemployed. You have your work cut out for you in gaining his trust back.

trendyprettygir:

Its best if people don't bring their marital problems here, as half the advise you would get are from unmarried folks, who have no idea that marriage is not so easy, but requires a lot of work.

To be honest, i am seeing this from two angles. Most times we say to ourselves lets be honest and share all our secrets. However most people hide some and tell the easiest secrets. I won't be surprised if your husband also hid some other things too, which you too might still not know and might never know.

There are some secrets you should NEVER share, as human beings have their flaws and might never forgive or forget,even if you both agreed to forgive it and start afresh. They might try bringing this up even when there are disagreements. However since you kept this as a secret, i think you should have corrected this long ago by looking for another job when you had the chance, if you did, you would have been saved from this stress and even if he found out, he would hold nothing against you.

I suggest you try talking to your husband, If he is still unreasonable, then you might have to resign immediately (Whether you have a job yet or not).

avril9:
Girls when you tell them not all that glitter is gold they just won't believe u, flings, relationships here and there can't you just be single till the right guy comes. You knew he was married still u went ahead and slept wit him,in your mind u didnt think it will come bk and hunt u. Its best you resign, give your husband time he will come around though at first he might not be so free with u, but if he has a big heart things will go bk to normal or even get better. The thing is aside the present situation he feels ashamed cos his friend and so many other people kn about you escapades,men hate such situations.

Dyt:
Everyone saying quit job


Yes
She has admitted her mistakes
She's pleading
Still pleading
Dunno why it's hard for men to forgive sha
Not like she's still with him sef
Hian
Very selfish set of humans

Yorubest:
Good morning family

I can't sleep and cried all night

I've been married for 3yrs with a son

Before getting married I dated my husband for less than a year and everything was fine.



royalroy

Acidosis:

OP is in love with her boss; and at the same time in love with her husband's salary..


We are talking trust issues, and you had to chip in how fat your husband's salary is? ahahaha


You don't deserve marriage oo, hian!


I blame your husband though, if he had dated you and watched you closely for at least 2 years, he would have known you so well.

You claimed you earn peanuts and you love your job ahahahaha, take away your boss' dick..and you will realize how much you hate that useless job of yours

Yorubest:
Good morning family

I can't sleep and cried all night

I've been married for 3yrs with a son

Before getting married I dated my husband for less than a year and everything was fine.

I don't want to bore you with the details but before getting married, my husband and I agreed to be honest and tell each other everything. I told him about my previous affairs and he didn't have problem with it but I couldn't tell him about the one with my present GM because I still work with him. Can you imagine, your mumu husband danced and danced on your wedding day not knowing that he's ending up with a condemned puna. Na wa for you o. After you don do hookups tire with strange men. Your redemption is at the convent.

Somehow, he got to find out through one his friends who knows my boss. It's not as if he was told the details but he came from a meeting last Friday asking so many questions. It was about my boss and I had to confess to him.

Although what I had with my boss was a fling, he felt I was too cheap as he never asked me out but told me meet him in his house when his wife was away and I did and it happened. Just twice.

My husband keeps saying he doesn't trust me anymore. He's stopped touching me and he rarely talks to me and raises his voice now

He has a good job that pays well and his salary dwarfs mine but I love the job and my career.

What can I do to win him back? I'm confused. Help. No insults please

royalroy

space007:
that's not just a fling, I strongly believe it will happen again

Morounofolu:


There are more she is still hiding from him. She can not be faithful, believe me....

900warriorz:
we're not selfish! You girls push us to our worst! I just got heartbroken by my fiancée of 2 years plus! I caught her severally with several guys romancing, she even went to another's house and had sex with him and I still forgave her though the trust is no more there! Do you know what I went through within that short period? She was in our room with a man and I was watching from a neighbours window while they were right on the bed romancing! I confronted her and she asked what my business was with her life. A girl I want to marry! She later apologised and I forgave her! That night, I couldn't sleep. I left home 3:30am and jogged 2km away from home....my mind was messed up! Some men that kill their spouse on this same issue, I DON'T BLAME THEM! I've been there and I know how it feels to be heartbroken by someone you truly love.... For my fiancée, though we reconciled coz I love her too much to let her go but you know what I'm gonna do? Dump her ass when she thinks we're still gonna get married after about 12 men.

avril9:
Girls when you tell them not all that glitter is gold they just won't believe u, flings, relationships here and there can't you just be single till the right guy comes. You knew he was married still u went ahead and slept wit him,in your mind u didnt think it will come bk and hunt u. Its best you resign, give your husband time he will come around though at first he might not be so free with u, but if he has a big heart things will go bk to normal or even get better. The thing is aside the present situation he feels ashamed cos his friend and so many other people kn about you escapades,men hate such situations.

KevinDein:

Yeah, very bad and selfish man, the husband that is. I mean all the lady did was sleep with a MARRIED MAN, TWICE. that shouldn't be a big deal TBH. Dude was supposed to just look the other way and carry on with life as if nothing ever happened.
You are a brilliant human being for looking at it from that angle.

Yorubest:
Good morning family

I can't sleep and cried all night

I've been married for 3yrs with a son

Before getting married I dated my husband for less than a year and everything was fine.

I don't want to bore you with the details but before getting married, my husband and I agreed to be honest and tell each other everything. I told him about my previous affairs and he didn't have problem with it but I couldn't tell him about the one with my present GM because I still work with him.

Somehow, he got to find out through one his friends who knows my boss. It's not as if he was told the details but he came from a meeting last Friday asking so many questions. It was about my boss and I had to confess to him.

Although what I had with my boss was a fling, he felt I was too cheap as he never asked me out but told me meet him in his house when his wife was away and I did and it happened. Just twice.

My husband keeps saying he doesn't trust me anymore. He's stopped touching me and he rarely talks to me and raises his voice now

He has a good job that pays well and his salary dwarfs mine but I love the job and my career.

What can I do to win him back? I'm confused. Help. No insults please

royalroy